Getting Really Nervous About my Procedure - Greenville, SC

I had my first consultation 11/13/2012. My...

I had my first consultation 11/13/2012. My procedure is this Friday, March 29, 2013. I am freaking out. My biggest fear is not waking up after the procedure or being in a lot of pain. I've wanted to do this for more than 10 years after my last child was born. I am 42 and a mother of 4. My oldest is 23 and is a mother herself. My other children are 16, 11 and 10. My last child (a boy) was born at 11lb and 3 oz. My tummy was never the same after that. I had a C-section with the last two children. I'm looking forward to having a flat tummy (I never had a totally flat tummy even before I had kids) so I am eager to see what I look like with a flat tummy however, I'm nervous and am not sure if I'm doing the right thing.

I have some pictures but can't seem to upload them :-(

I have some pictures but can't seem to upload them :-(
your in good hands there with Dr. McFadden. He did my Breast Aug last July and im telling you they look GREAT! Im planning on having a TT also, but not there because they are really expensive for a TT..
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Oh honey, relax. You've got the absolute BEST p/s anywhere! The Angel known as Dr. McFadden did my tummy tuck on Jan 18,2013 and believe me I couldn't be happier than I am. I, too, was worried before my surgery, but truly when I woke up from surgery I had very little pain. I took pain meds on schedule for three days afterward and didn't need anymore after that. The best advice I can give you is first of all relax and trust the good doctor. He knows what he's doing and really is the Greatest P/S EVER!!! Get yourself some stool softeners to take after surgery, cook some meals ahead of time and freeze them to heat up for the next few days, get some comfortable clothes sweat pants, etc, large "granny panties" or a lanyard to wear to hook your drains to. I had my surgery on a Thursday and took the next week off from work I really could have gone back to work on Tuesday or Wednesday. I REALLY didn't suffer much pain at all! I believe that is due to Dr. McFadden's tremendous skill as a surgeon. Relax, you couldn't have a finer surgeon than you do.He really is an Angel of Mercy! Good luck, let us know how you are afterwards!
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So I have surgery in the morning and I am...

So I have surgery in the morning and I am incredibly nervous. My son keeps asking if I'm going to be OK after the surgery. I reassured him I would. Husband and I already got into an argument. I am totally stressed. I just want this over and done with.
Keaton1970 I hope all is well with you, you should be finished and resting at home by now. I'm sure you'll wake up soon and discover that you have joined us here on the flat side. Post when you can!
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Hoping you're on the flat side now (4:25pm in MD) and wishing you a speedy, yet healthy recovery. I go on April 19.
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Im scheduled for tomorrow at 10am.. Im not nervous.. I believe that God will watch over us despite the outcome.. I will keep u in my prayer
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I'm day 2 post op. First day was horrible!! It...

I'm day 2 post op. First day was horrible!! It hurt solo bad and I couldn't get comfy enough to sleep. I kept screaming about the pain. I guess I don't do pain very well at all. Now I'm just sore all over. I had a shower yesterday...that was an interesting experience. My husband helped me take a shower....next time I'm sitting down when I do it. Went to see Dr. Yesterday. He said I looked good. I was able to see my tummy for the first time. All I can say is wow!!!! I'm really going to like my tummy once the swelling subsides. I will post pics maybe later today.
I'm in Greenville too! Such a small world. My surgery was 3/26 and I'm post op day 5. Happy healing!!
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You did it! Speedy recovery, it's not an easy one but so worth it in the end. I ended up using Benadryl to get to sleep the first week. Looking forward to the "after" photos!
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Post op day 3...still very sore. Don't need a...

Post op day 3...still very sore. Don't need a whole lot of pain meds but the pain seems to be worse at night. Don't understand why that is but I'm hoping that this will get better as time goes on. I've also encountered a new problem and that is my appetite has come back and I'm starving but when I go to eat if I eat a large amount my tummy hurts and I feel like I'm about to explode. Oh well. Guess I have to take it easy with food.
I dropped 10% of my body weight the first month from feeling full or ill if i ate more than a few bites. At six weeks out, my appetite is much better and I am no longer losing weight. The amount I eat is still less than before though. Small snack sized meals are your best bet, and keep it light. You will enjoy food again, eventually!
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Great news keaton1970! Glad to hear you are doing well.I found the same thing with my appetite! But I suppose due to the tightened skin I couldn't eat nearly as much as before. That's a GOOD thing! The night time pain will also decrease, do you have a wedge pillow sleep system? Sleeping in a recliner seems to work as well. Anyway, glad you're doing well and welcome to the flat side!!! Did Dr. MdFadden do a great job or what!??
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I am sooooo over this....now I'm starting to cough...

I am sooooo over this....now I'm starting to cough because of the weather and the post nasal drip. This is the worst thing. I am really starting to regret this....when will I feel better????
i had my tt done MARCH 29TH. OMG!! the healing process is rough. I hope it gets better.
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It has been 1 week since my TT. I am slowly...

It has been 1 week since my TT. I am slowly getting better day by day but the first few days was total hell. I went to the plastic surgeon today....didn't get my drains out yet...but will probably get them out next week. I've been putting neosporin on my incision and where the lipo was done too. I looked in the mirror and I actually have hips! I really will try to post pics soon. Hopefully this weekend.

I am PO day 10..I feel much better than I did a...

I am PO day 10..I feel much better than I did a week ago. The most annoying thing to me now is these drains. They get in the way of everything and sometimes they leak and it feels like I'm peeing on myself. Disgusting!!! I'm supposed to get them out on Friday, April 12. Looking foward to it. I also get my binder then too. The dr. office told me a lot of people like wearing it and the patient feels much better because it gives support. Sounds good to me. My family has helped out a lot this past week especially my 15-year-old daughter. She was an angel. I am so thankful I had her to help me out. I still can't do much around the house. It's all I can do to get something to eat and drink and shower much less laundry or even pick up my wet towels off the floor but I am getting stronger every day and soon I will be able to stand up straight and walk around in my clothes that I haven't worn in a long time because of my fat tummy....until next time happy healing everyone...and to everyone who is reading this who hasn't gone through with it yet, the first week is really rough but it will get better.

I am now po day 12 and one drain is still draining...

I am now po day 12 and one drain is still draining at least 25-50 cc of liquid a day. Dr told me that in order for the drains to be removed they have to have less than 25 CCS in a 24 hour period. I am supposed to go to the Dr tomorrow to have them look at them. I was having some issues with the drains with weird color in one of my drains. I have wild mood swings now one minute I'm happy, next I'm crying, then I'm hating everything on my body. I feel like I'm pregnant sometimes with the mood swings. I soooo want to get back to feeling somewhat normal. This is hard. Everyone has gone back to school and work so I am by myself during the day. Stuff isn't being done...like dishes and laundry...my house is a mess...and to top it all off my kids need me to play taxi for them. I wish I felt better. It's hard and I know everyone is telling me to take it easy and I had major surgery (of course husband says major surgery is like open heart surgery or something not a tummy tuck) and to give it time but I'm a mom and have responsibilities and really need to feel better so I can do them. I sometimes feel like I will never be the same.
Silly husbands! Mine says that my surgery"was not that bad" lol. Ummm the dr cut me almost in half!! My scar on the back is only about 8" away from each other. Tell your husband they cut you in half and see if he thinks that's major surgery. I hope you are doing well and I can't believe they don't have you in a binder or compression garment or something to hold everything in place? I thought the reason we wore them was to help with our backs while our stomach muscles are out of commission?
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congrats on your surgery. It only gets better from here. The journey is long but remember to take pictures because you might not be able to see the difference but now going back looking at mine from 1 week PO to now almost a year PO big difference. PS told me that your stomach and Belly button will change over a year. my Belly button is a lot different now than it was. looking forward to following your journey!
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This is major, whether your husband realizes it or not. It clearly falls under "in sickness and in health" too. If the house is a mess and the kids need something, it is his responsibility to take care of it. You need to recover. My husband struggled with that too. But 2 months later, he agrees that it was worth it for him too. I am back to my old pre-baby self now, confident, more fun and sexy. More likely, you have been neglecting yourself because of all those other responsibilities for much too long. That is what made me feel down while I was not able to function. What I realized later is that taking care of myself IS taking care of my family. They need you at your best and will survive just fine until you get back there. If you are feeling moody then have some moods! You are entitled to them. Just because you are recovering from surgery does not mean you are wrong! Think of your moods as natural, you just don't feel up to maintaining your normal filter. When I got my drains out, I felt a lot more normal in spite of the other discomforts. Hang in there, we are all cheering for you!!
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Went to dr. today. The left drain is gone but the...

Went to dr. today. The left drain is gone but the right one is still there. Should get that one out on Monday, 4-15. Don't know what the deal was with the drain having greenish black stuff in it a few days ago. Nurse said I looked fine. It was so funny when she pulled the left drain out. I didn't know what to expect and I heard so many horror stories on here about the drains coming out that it hurt or burned that I started to cry before she took the drain out. Then I started laughing. Didn't know that I barely could feel that she did it. LOL They probably think I'm nuts down there now. I just didn't know what to expect. Glad that's over and here's hoping that I will get the right one taken out on Monday. They are such a pain!
Your after tummy looks amazing. I'm really hoping for those kind of results!
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Thank you! I hope u get the results you want too.
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OK so today I'm pro day 17. After the day I had...

OK so today I'm pro day 17. After the day I had yesterday I am trying to relax. Husband is of no use and thinks the kids should be able to take care of themselves. The house is a mess and I can't do anything about it. Best I can do is take care of myself. I posted on the March TT forum about argument husband and I had. He says he wants a divorce and is see in a lawyer on Monday. I just don't have it in me anymore to fight with him. If he does leave I guess it's for the best but really no need to do this while I'm trying to recover from this surgery. I'm emotional enough without the added be of the person I'm married to. Anyway I'm hoping I get my right drain out tomorrow so that I can start wearing my binder, however it is still draining over 25 CCS in a 24 hour period so it's doubtful. I hate having the drain since I can't wear my binder until the drain is out. I keep going back and forth about whether this was a mistake or not. I sometimes don't know why I did this. It's not going to get me a job, certainly not going to do anything to improve my relationship with husband, so why did I do this? Just so I could look better in a bikini? Big deal. Is this really worth the time and aggravation not to mention the emotional investment? I still have my doubts but all I can do us move forward because what's done is done. Although I will say I will never have anything else done ever again.
im so sorry you are going through all this right now. my husband and i separated a few months before my surgery and ended up getting back together right before my surgery. he did help me out with the kids fir about a week then i was on my own at home with our 2 year old while he was working. do yiu have family that can help? if it wasn't for mine i would not have been able to do it. if he is acting like that he is just being insecure. my husband still throws it up to me that i did it to get attention from other men which is not true. we are having problems again now to. but please don't let it get you down. its not worth it. it is hard enough to go through. but once you get further out you'll be so happy. the rollercoaster doesnt stop right away i still have moments i look at myself and think i wasted my money and hate the way i look but then i go look at those before pics and think no i didnt!
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Hi I know you are going through an emotional roller coaster right now and I know you have got to be a strong person to be able to function everyday. I just wanted to let you know that I went through similar situation last year when I had my breast aug. My husband and I ended up seperating over my surgery as well. He said that it was a waste of money and I should just accept how I looked. However, I told him that I wanted to feel different about my self image and nothing he said could change my mind. Before I had the surgery I never took my bra off in front of him. I felt so insecure and embarrassed about my breast. He said that I was changing and he didn't like who I was becoming. We separated for six months. During the time that I was healing I was out of work for a month, because i am a hairstylist and couldn't manage to hold my arms up for very long without severe pain. During the time we were separated I started noticing that my ideas of my self started improving. I no longer felt insecure and just the fact that I didn't have to wear a padded bra was something I was so happy about. I did change but in a good way. I have more self esteem than I did before and although it costed me a marriage for a while. My husband was not able to process my own feelings about myself because he didn't think they were of importance. Six months later we started seeing each other again and with time he has come to understand how I felt about myself. We live in a very judgmental society and feel the constant pressure as women to look and be a certain way. We have been conditioned to make ourselves beautiful and acceptable. It is what we are taught from infancy, it is in the media and everywhere we look. My darling you did what was right to make you a better person. Even if it doesn't help you get a job directly, indirectly it can help your overall self esteem, mood, as well as your strength in difficulties. The problem lies with the same insecurity that led you to have your TT. Yet, it lies in your husband, why is it he is so angry? Certainly not because he has to take care of things at home till you are healed. No, its the fear that you will change. I think you are a beautiful person and strong enough that you post for everyone to read your struggles weather they be personal, emotional, or physical. You have the strength that I find commendable. I plan on having a TT as well now and my husband is once again starting to voice his disdain on the thought. Keep strong, keep fighting.
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I'm so sorry that you are going through so much, all of that on top of major surgery. If your husband could treat you this badly right now you are probably better off without him in your life anyway! Good riddance to bad rubbish! I know right now this seem bleak, but they, and you, will get better This surgery was not a mistake, in six months or do you will be so happy with your flat tummy, wait and see. Please take care of ourself and let us know how you are.
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OK finally got my right drain out....yay!!!! In my...

OK finally got my right drain out....yay!!!! In my binder now. This thing is a pain in the butt to put on. Good heavens!!!! I think I need someone to help me in this thing. Geez!
Wow, I am so sorry you are having a lousy week! Your husband has absolutely dreadful timing. I'm staggered. Hopefully, once you have fully recovered you will be glad you did this. If you are going to be single, perhaps its best that you got this done now so you can at least feel self confident as a single mum.
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I know you are so glad to have that pesky drain out finally!! (I kind of miss wearing my binder, it somehow made me feel secure???)Anyway take care of yourself, be good to yourself you deserve to after all the crap you've been through. Post often and let us know how you are doing.
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PO day 19.....I'm depressed and I am swelled up...

PO day 19.....I'm depressed and I am swelled up and wearing this binder-the binder is too tight around my legs. Don't like the way that feels. This is a real roller coaster. Don't know if husband went to see a lawyer yet. I didn't ask him and am trying to stay out of his way. I am wondering where he thinks I'm going to go. I can't go anywhere right now. I will probably find out later if he did see a lawyer if he leaves. Anyway, I've been trying to do more stuff around the house since I have no help. I did a few loads of laundry and did the dishes. Will see if I pay for it later. This binder does help with support I will say that much. I still have trouble sleeping at night and to top it off I have to go pick up my daughter from her job tonight. That's two nights in a row...that might be why I have trouble sleeping...I have to stay up to go get her from work. I think my boys take after their father....they think mommy should do everything for them. I don't have the strength to "parent" right now and my little one has a project due in a week or so I have to help him with. Hope I'm able to go pick up some supplies he needs this weekend. Hopefully I will be feeling much better this weekend (I will be 3 weeks PO). Keeping my fingers crossed.
Keep your head up, it gets easier... Promise! Always seems like we have to go through crappy days to get to the good days, but the good days will take over soon! :) You look terrific!
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I'm almost 3 weeks PO and I am still wondering why...

I'm almost 3 weeks PO and I am still wondering why in the world I did this. I know I can't go back and undo it but this is ridiculous. I think I need to talk to someone professional because the depression is not getting any better and if it wasn't for my kids I wouldn't be here. I don't want to leave my kids but I can't live like this either. Everyday is a struggle. I know this isn't due to just the surgery but it is factored in there. Everyone keeps telling me it gets better but at this point I don't see it and I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. If anyone is reading this and you are 1) unemployed long-term, 2) in a bad marriage and 3) really depressed before having surgery I would definitely advise to get counseling before going through this because it just gets you more depressed and feeling kind of helpless. I made a mistake in thinking that this would give me more self-confidence and make me feel better. In my case, it doesn't. It just makes me feel worse. I know most of the women on here would say that it was the best thing they ever did for themselves so maybe I'm just the odd one out or something I don't know. I am still not feeling good at all....it's hard to sleep. I can sleep for a couple hours here and there in a recliner but that's about it. I am wearing my binder but I am still sore and now my back hurts probably from sleeping in the recliner. I haven't gotten any fluid build up in my tummy; which I think is the most positive thing that I can see out of this whole thing. I am very self-concious about the scar. I can't stand to look at it. At this point I don't know what's worse-the fat and saggy skin that I had before or the nasty looking scar I have. (Like I said maybe I'm just weird or something because most of the women on here are happy with the results). I have been able to eat a little more than I did before. I go back and forth about food. Sometimes I try to eat very careful and not eat junk and then other days that's all I eat. If I'm to lose any weight I would definitely have to have help with that too. I don't know what to eat or how much or anything. Then other days when I'm eating junk I say "screw it" I really don't care about how I look at this point and why should I bother. I'm just really confused right now about a lot of things.....Anyway, enough about all that...Having drains out is nice that's one other thing that is a bonus. Just wish I felt better.

Oh, one other observation that I had for those...

Oh, one other observation that I had for those reading that haven't gone through the surgery yet....PLEASE!! (and this is extremely important), have someone that is dependable and supportive with you; whether it's your mother, husband, boyfriend,girlfriend, sister, brother, etc. It is 100% harder to go through this stuff when you have someone not supportive and yelling at you and trying to start arguments. with you all the time as you are trying to recover. I know most of you ladies are married and sometimes it's hard to predict what the husband is going to do or how he is going to react but again, it's very important to have someone supportive with you when you are going through this. Take it from me and doing this by yourself is very difficult.
"I wouldn't be here" sounds like you feel pretty hopeless at times. Please reach out for some help, the professional kind. Your PS or primary care doc can get you connected or if you prefer, a call to your local chapter of NAMI (national alliance of the mentally ill) could get you some names and contact info of professionals in your area. You need someone to support you, don't wait. You don't have to be alone in this.
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Today I am 3 weeks PO. I am swollen and I have...

Today I am 3 weeks PO. I am swollen and I have this bulge on my left side. Not sure if it's fat or swelling. I hope it's not fat. I don't want to go through anymore procedures on my tummy. I don't think I can handle it. I am posting pics. If anyone has any insight on this please let me know.
Hi... I would say that this is so hard even with all the support possible so I can't even imagine how you must feel. I will say that my 3 week mark was when I felt the most depressed and struggled the most but by 4 weeks I felt a lot better and I am now at 7 weeks and feel much better, my energy is low but much better. this recovery is so much harder then I thought and it sounds like you can relate. Hang in there, I does get better and it seems to be after that 3 week mark. Take a deep breath and take it one minute at a time if you have to... Talk to all of the girlies on here, that was this is for, to help each other get through this :)
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Hey Keaton - I'm not a doctor, and I don't play one on tv. That said, are you still wearing your CG? Mine leaves funny bumps and lumps on my body that I do not love. Even if it is something like a seroma, your doctor can easily aspirate (withdraw fluid using a needle) in his office. I had a hematoma aspirated two days ago. Not a big deal. Call your PS. You'll feel better. Honest.
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I am 3 weeks and 4 days post op. I am still very...

I am 3 weeks and 4 days post op. I am still very depressed. All of these ladies on here that have husbands that can't wait to enjoy their new bodies and I'm the total opposite. Mine could care less. I still don't understand why I did this...like I said before it's not doing anything for my self esteem. Anyway, I went to the dentist today...it was OK. I couldn't lay flat all the way so they let me have some pillows. I really like my dentist...he was very nice about the whole thing. I am still swollen a little. Not too bad. I still can not wear heels or stand up straight and I'm stiff and sore.
Will be praying for you :) . Hopefully you will be feeling stronger soon, I am post op 1 week, and I can relate to the feeling of "why the hell did Truly hope things will go the way you want and need them to :) God Bless
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Keaton1970, sorry you are still dealing with depression on top of every bad thing else that is happening. If its any consolation I had depression, too. It, like everything else eventually resolves itself. My husband couldn't care less about my results either. He hasn't commented good or bad, he just doesn't care at all, so you are not alone in that. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you to help you get through all of this crap you've been dealt as of late. Just keep moving forward and remember it gets better, a day will come when you are no longer in pain or have to hunch over. You will not regret having had this done, keep your head up and remember you've got friends here on this board. Good Luck!!!:)
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I hope you FEEL better emotionally SOON...its sad that your hubby is not supportive which maybe the reason for the divorce...but, you can't be DOWN cause being POSITIVE helps with HEALING...you gotta THINK and SPEAK positive even when you don't feel IT...like the bible states "speak things that be not as though they were" (my version)...so whenever you feel hurt, sad, negative, etc...speak to yourself and say "I am GLAD" "I am HAPPY" "I am HEALED"...hope I helped a lil :-)
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Ok so I'm almost 4 weeks post of. I can see that...

Ok so I'm almost 4 weeks post of. I can see that my tt looks different every time I look at it. My scar doesn't look too bad. Swelling is still there but it's not as bad as I thought it would be. The problem I have now is my tummy feels so tight and sore sometimes. I still can't stand or walk straight up. I just wonder if that will go away anytime soon. I also posted on the March 2013 tt forum to see if anyone else thinks they will be bikini ready by summer. I hope I am but I have no clue. As far as depression I have my good days and bad days. Sometimes I'm so depressed and other days it's not so bad. The mood swings are what really irritates me and everyone around me apparently. They are not fun to go through. Anyway, had a bit of drama today...the freezer that's part of the refrigerator broke down and so I had to take all that stuff out and clean the freezer. To make matters worse, I wanted to put some stuff in a cooler with ice but the cooler was on a shelf in the garage near the ceiling. Managed to get it down but I was really surprised I didn't fall and hurt myself. Well, I'm glad I didn't but still...it was scary to do stuff. I think I have more strength than I think and I'm so scared of doing stuff to hurt myself or to over exert myself. I'm a big worry wart when it comes to stuff like that. Have to go now....but will update this probably tomorrow when I reach 4 weeks post op.

Ok so I'm almost 4 weeks post of. I can see that...

Ok so I'm almost 4 weeks post of. I can see that my tt looks different every time I look at it. My scar doesn't look too bad. Swelling is still there but it's not as bad as I thought it would be. The problem I have now is my tummy feels so tight and sore sometimes. I still can't stand or walk straight up. I just wonder if that will go away anytime soon. I also posted on the March 2013 tt forum to see if anyone else thinks they will be bikini ready by summer. I hope I am but I have no clue. As far as depression I have my good days and bad days. Sometimes I'm so depressed and other days it's not so bad. The mood swings are what really irritates me and everyone around me apparently. They are not fun to go through. Anyway, had a bit of drama today...the freezer that's part of the refrigerator broke down and so I had to take all that stuff out and clean the freezer. To make matters worse, I wanted to put some stuff in a cooler with ice but the cooler was on a shelf in the garage near the ceiling. Managed to get it down but I was really surprised I didn't fall and hurt myself. Well, I'm glad I didn't but still...it was scary to do stuff. I think I have more strength than I think and I'm so scared of doing stuff to hurt myself or to over exert myself. I'm a big worry wart when it comes to stuff like that. Have to go now....but will update this probably tomorrow when I reach 4 weeks post op.

Ok so I'm almost 4 weeks post of. I can see that...

Ok so I'm almost 4 weeks post of. I can see that my tt looks different every time I look at it. My scar doesn't look too bad. Swelling is still there but it's not as bad as I thought it would be. The problem I have now is my tummy feels so tight and sore sometimes. I still can't stand or walk straight up. I just wonder if that will go away anytime soon. I also posted on the March 2013 tt forum to see if anyone else thinks they will be bikini ready by summer. I hope I am but I have no clue. As far as depression I have my good days and bad days. Sometimes I'm so depressed and other days it's not so bad. The mood swings are what really irritates me and everyone around me apparently. They are not fun to go through. Anyway, had a bit of drama today...the freezer that's part of the refrigerator broke down and so I had to take all that stuff out and clean the freezer. To make matters worse, I wanted to put some stuff in a cooler with ice but the cooler was on a shelf in the garage near the ceiling. Managed to get it down but I was really surprised I didn't fall and hurt myself. Well, I'm glad I didn't but still...it was scary to do stuff. I think I have more strength than I think and I'm so scared of doing stuff to hurt myself or to over exert myself. I'm a big worry wart when it comes to stuff like that. Have to go now....but will update this probably tomorrow when I reach 4 weeks post op.

Sorry about the multiple postings from yesterday.....

Sorry about the multiple postings from yesterday....don't know what happened...I usually post on my phone but used the computer yesterday to make an update and it really messed it up....anyway....I'm officially 4 weeks post op today (yay!), I still can't stand up all the way straight but I'm almost there, I don't have a lot of swelling but I do have some....I am hoping that the swelling goes away by summer so I can wear a swimsuit :-) I really am wanting to do that since I haven't looked really good in soooo long. My tummy is still numb but I do notice that in some areas it's getting feeling back very slowly. I am finally able to sleep in the bed on my sides but haven't gotten brave enough to try on my stomach, even though I can lay on pillows on my stomach and I feel fine. I will keep the recliner in the room for a little longer in case I need it but I am sooo ready to sleep in my bed. Still have bouts of depression but it's slowly getting a little better as time goes on...I think another problem is my cycle is all messed up; haven't had my period for at least a month (last time was in March right before my surgery) so that might be part of the reason why my emotional state is out of whack. We'll see. I'm slowly getting more energy to do more around the house, laundry, cleaning, dishes, etc. Freezer went out yesterday so I have to defrost it and clean it out this weekend but I'm getting all the kids to help out. I don't think I can take on that task all by myself. I am able to cook now and have made several meals and so my kids are back to expecting mama to make dinner and such. I still get them to make things for themselves occasionally when mama is tired and doesn't feel like cooking. They have been pretty good about that so far. I'm wondering if any of my clothes fit but haven't gotten the nerve to try anything on...I have a lot of skirts and pants that I am curious to know if they are going to fit or if I'm going to have to get new clothes....I'm going to wait though...I think in the summer once I hit 3 months post op then I'll try stuff on and see....I'm hoping I lose some more weight between now and then. My daughter and granddaughter are supposed to visit next month and I'm hoping that I can pick my granddaughter up when she visits...we shall see...my other daughter is going to have a birthday next month as well and I'm hoping I have the strength and energy to plan her party and make her cake...if not I guess we'll have to go with plan B and maybe get my oldest daughter to help out. My oldest daughter told me that she might be pregnant....LOL I don't mean to laugh I mean I love my grandkids but these young girls have no idea what it's like to have a bunch of kids and their tummies get all messed up like ours and then the only way to get rid of this is a tt. You would think they would learn but alas, they don't. I kept explaining this to my daughter, but she's bound and determined to have more kids (she's hard-headed just like her mama). It's just funny....Anyway, I have a dr. appointment on Monday at 11:30. I will give an update then and I will post some pics this weekend of what I look like at 4 weeks post op. Happy Healing everyone!

I updated this with some pics of me in some old...

I updated this with some pics of me in some old dresses that I hated to wear because my tummy stuck out. I know I said I wouldn't do it but these dresses are stretchy and not fitted so I thought I would just see what I look like....as you can see I still have some swelling (I didn't have my binder on) but it looks soooo much better than before.....can't wait to see what I look like without the swelling and when I lose some more weight.

The pics I just added are 4 weeks post op

The pics I just added are 4 weeks post op
Oh wow!!! love those dresses and you look hot!!!
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YAY!! Keaton1970 you are awesome!!! Keep up the good work and post often to let us know how you are doing.
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Keaton, you are doing great!!!! looking forward to seeing your updates... I really dislike when freezers are on the brink such a pain....I only had 2 babies but they sure did a number on my body...but hey I am only 5'1" and short waist-ed...poor babies had no where to go...My niece had 3 c sections...now she is looking at a tummy tuck in the future..take care and have a wonderful weekend
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So I just need to vent....tonight started out OK...

So I just need to vent....tonight started out OK was going to have dinner with husband...got all dressed up and put on heels even! On the way to the restaurant I could tell he was in one of his moods. We got there and it was a 45 minute wait until they could seat us so he went to see if there was any room at the bar and there wasn't so he came back and I asked him what was he wanting to do because he gets irritable when he's hungry. He snapped at me to just "give it a rest" so I said I wanted to go home because I wasn't going to be talked to that way. On the way out there were some teens that were going to the prom. They stopped me and asked if I would take a pic of them, I said that I was sorry that I couldn't and that I had to go. Husband then started fussing at me that I was "rude" and "mean" to the girl....I didn't think I was but then we get in the car and he starts telling me that I'm "going to be worse off than he is" and that he's leaving...he got somewhere else to live...yadda yadda yadda....and so we stopped at the light and he started in on me once again so I got out of the car and he motioned like he wanted to hit me and I told him if he did I would call the cops and have him arrested. Well little did I know there were a couple of cops sitting across the street and they saw the whole thing. I started walking across the street all the while he is yelling at me out the window telling me to get back in the car....he almost hit the cop car so they pulled him over...all the while still yelling at me. Long story short he wasn't arrested. The cops did come over to talk to me. I said I was fine. Needless to say I've had a crappy night and now I'm very depressed. I really don't need this whenI just had surgery and really not sure if iI did the right thing or not. Had to get the babysitter to come and pick me up to take me home. I'm not happy with this at all. Couldn't he wait to do this? I mean really?????
Keaton, how are you today?
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keaton. I just sat and read your whole story. I'm so sorry you are going thru such horrible things. The TT alone is a rollarcoaster ride, then all this on top of it, my heart breaks for you and your kids. your husband sounds like a real jerk, I will tell you it does get better with the TT, Im 46 dpo and just now starting to feel good every day, and still have swelling when I over do, I hope you in the end you love the way you look. women are stronger than we think we are, praying you find strength and hope in your life. in the end your husband will regret what an ass he has been, but you hold your head, be proud you did something for yourself!
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Sounds like you took the high road tt sister... And I totally understand why you didn't take the picture, you probably thought you would get him even more frustrated. You're gonna be ok... Prayers to you and for your day today!
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Went to the dr. today. Everything looks good and...

Went to the dr. today. Everything looks good and I'm healing as expected. Still have swelling but that should subside at some point. Still have to wear the binder for another few weeks but then I'm not required to wear it. I think I need a vacation...wish I could go somewhere....anyway, drama is still the same at home. Still depressed and at this point, not really worried about what I look like or don't look like. That's the least of my issues right now.
I am SORRY to say this but HE'S DOING what YOU ALLOW HIM TO DO...I WISH a MAN would treat me like that without me PUNCHING him in the FACE...I would be a SNITCHES BUSTING RECOVERY ITCH...DO you have ANYWHERE to GO...cause he is LYING saying he got someone to go...HE WOULD HAVE BEEN GONE!!! he's no MAN and you don't NEED HIM...esp when YOUre going thru recovery...SEEK HELP!!!
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I wish I could go to Hawaii
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I have never been there... I have a whole list of places... Pretty much anyplace with a beach or mountains ...
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OK....I just have to address something...I am not...

OK....I just have to address something...I am not on here telling about my home life for advice...I just want to vent sometimes. I know exactly what I'm married to and I also know the situation I'm in....it's very complicated. I think I'm just not going to say anymore about what's going on while I'm trying to recover. I am safe in my own home there is no physical threat. My husband does not drink or do any drugs he is just naturally like he is. I am fine and know my options as limited as they are. I appreciate all the kind words and support from you ladies. Thanks!
So do I keaton1970!!! Things will get better just keep the faith and hold on to those who are dear to you.Good Luck!!!
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Officially 5 weeks post op today...Still swollen...

Officially 5 weeks post op today...Still swollen and I can finally sleep on my sides and stomach comfortably without having any pain or discomfort. The problem that I now have and don't know how long this will last is depression. I don't think this is going away anytime soon. Just a thought to those that are reading this and contemplating this surgery.....it's great to look good but it's another to be happy within yourself. Your physical appearance is important and it does have something to do with your self-image and self-esteem but it does not fix everything. It doesn't fix your marriage, it doesn't give you a job, it doesn't give you self-esteem. I believe that self-esteem and how you feel about yourself over all comes from within and not from the outside. That's just me...and just my two cents. I struggle with this a lot. For some reason I thought that having a tt would make a world of difference into how I thought about myself. It didn't and does not. Don't get me wrong though, it's great to look good and very nice to fit in clothes and bikinis that you couldn't before but it doesn't solve all your problems. Just wanted everyone reading this that hasn't gone through this to be realistic. If you want the surgery...have the surgery just don't think it's going to be anything magical or that it's going to fix anything other than physical...because it doesn't. Also, please be aware that you will go through periods of depression and self-doubt quite a bit especially if other things in your life aren't going so well. I would also encourage everyone to have a good support system in place...that helps a lot too and is very important for recovery. When you don't have that it makes it twice as hard to go through this. I hope that this helps. Again, I'm not discouraging anyone from having this surgery. Looking a certain way is a good thing but don't think it will solve all of your problems.
Thank you for your honest posts! So much good stuff you wrote in your last entry and so true!
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I can highly recommend therapy to help you thru this time. You need to go for you!!! I guarantee if you go and do whats needed you will be glad you did.
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Added three pictures to my profile. I'm 5 weeks...

Added three pictures to my profile. I'm 5 weeks and 1 day post op. As you can see I'm still swollen but I have curves finally. I have been trying on some of my clothes that I didn't like to wear before and I'm amazed at how my tummy looks in them. I'm glad that I don't look bad in them anymore. I am looking forward to seeing how I look in the coming months. I would still like to lose about 25 lbs.
Keaton1970 you look marvelous!!! I hope you get to lose those 25 lbs. Me...on the other hand...I'm up 5 lbs since surgery! No change in my diet, haven't stopped exercising so what gives??? I keep telling myself that it's just swelling, ( at least I hope that's all it is) Anyway. keep doing what you are doing cause you look so good!
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Hi Keaton...you are looking fantastic...I also would love to lose 25 pounds...even tho we look hot now...keep up the good work...
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I am officially 6 weeks post op today... I still...

I am officially 6 weeks post op today... I still have swelling and I don't think I lost any weight. My clothes do fit better though. My tummy still feels very tight and I have "pins and needles" in my tummy area from the nerves coming back. That feels really weird. I am posting pics of me in my bikini (I couldn't resist). My scar is low enough that you can't see it in my bikini. What's so great is my tummy is flat!!
you look great!
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Thank you
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Keaton you look great in that bikini... Really marvelous!!!
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7 weeks and 3 days post op

I went to the Dr today. They said I was healing nicely and everything looked good. I asked about the lump on my hip. She said it might be a hematoma and that I should massage it. The nurse also said she wanted to see me in 6 weeks and they would determine whether or not I will need more lipo on that part or if the PS will need to fix the scar(?). Not really happy with that news but not much I can do. I guess it's just how it is.
Keaton you look great !!! Hope you don't have to have more lipo
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Not happy at all!

Went for my 3 month check up at the cosmetic surgeon. After examining me they told me I would have to have a revision(?). There's a slight lump on my left hip, right above my incision. I was told I had to come back August 5th for the doctor to look at it and that I would probably need a revision by having more lipo and fixing the scar. Anyone else had this? What is the point of cosmetic surgery if you have to go through this again? This is ridiculous. Needless to say, I am NOT happy at all. I understand it looks 100% better than it was but still....I am not looking forward to more pain and crap from someone having to cut me open. FML! Also, still battling my depression. Mistakenly thought that my tummy tuck would improve my relationship..it hasn't. Husband still ignores me. I am jealous of all you ladies out there that say that your husbands can't keep their hands off of you. Please don't get annoyed at your significant other. I would give all I had to have that. Look at it as it's really nice to have someone who is so into you and finds you so attractive. It's a gift. It really is. Good luck to all you ladies (and guys) who are going under the knife soon.
Keaton you still look great remember that... I think the revision is not as bad as initial surgery or I hope anyways .. Have go gets crossed things get better for you
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Looking great. I read your whole story. I hope you are doing better and that you are happy with your results !!
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whether the hubby sees it or not you look good! you're wearing that blue dress well. you have to know in your heart if things are solvable between him and you. It takes great inner strength to handle the truth in any relationship. you've already got the strength because you were able to go through with this surgery. You're strong and you look good, just keep propelling forward
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Had my four month check up today

Went to the dr. today. There's a lump on my left hip that I wanted him to look at. After examining me he told me that I have a curvature of the spine and that my hips are uneven. Basically that I have multiple sclerosis (spelling??) and that is part of the issue. Then my weight is another issue. I weigh 161 and am 5'3. He told me basically that if I worked on my posture and lost weight then the lump wouldn't be so pronounced. I don't like the way I look now. I feel that I wasted $8,000 on a procedure that didn't fix my problem. I try to lose weight and not eat as much but I guess I just can't. With the age I'm at it's very hard to lose weight. My husband kept telling me that after my surgery that he would get me a gym membership. First it was May 1, then it was 1st of July, then August 1st and still nothing. I have given up. I know he's just not going to make good on his promise. I guess I'm not surprised....he does that a lot. I guess my whole thing with this is....if you are planning on having this surgery (and I think I've said this before with my other posts) please do not think it solves all your problems. You really have to have realistic expectations and it might make you look a little better than what you were but you are still you. This is not a quick fix and it doesn't necessarily gives you self-confidence and make you feel any better about yourself for any length of time. Maybe it's me and I'm just not happy with myself or something. Just another one of those things to point out. I think a lot of people read the reviews on here and are like so pumped into thinking this is going to solve their self-image problems but a lot of it has to do with what's inside of you. If you are not happy with yourself right now then you probably aren't going to be happy with yourself after the surgery either. Sure, you might have some periods where you think you look good or whatever but basically this is not a quick fix. I think that's a big myth. I'm wondering if I knew all of this before if I would have still gone through the surgery. I will never know....

pics of me 4 months post op

Last post should say 4 months post op not 5

The pictures I posted are four months post op NOT 5

Need to correct something

I meant to say that the dr. said I had scoliosis...NOT multiple sclerosis....
Keaton1970 you are a beautiful woman, lump or no lump! You are so much more than what people see of you. No one, not your husband, not the doctor nor anyone else can take away who you are inside. What you choose to let people see of you is your choice. You are a very beautiful woman, period. Don't let this one problem set you back. If it's something you are unhappy about, then change it. But don't let this problem define who you are, you are so much more than that!
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6 months post op..still not happy with my body

Ok so I hit 6 months yesterday and I am still not happy with the way I look. I don't know what I was thinking but maybe I have unrealistic expectations?? I don't know. I have a flat tummy now but I have a lot of fat on my flanks and it looks weird. The surgeon told me that I would probably need more lip on my flanks if I couldn't lose it by diet and exercise. I still weigh 161 and can't lose any weight to save my life. I did finally get a gym membership though but it doesn't seem to be doing anything. I guess I'm not doing it right or maybe I'm too old to lose weight. I don't know. For those of you that are just reading this and haven't read my whole review....here's my advice in a nutshell. Please (and this is extremely important) have realistic expectations about how you are going to look. If you think you're going to look all skinny and a model it doesn't work that way. Make sure that you have all the information before you have the surgery, ask the doctor what he/she thinks is going to be the end result and if you are going to need additional work to get to where you want to be and how much the total cost is going to end up being for that. Please have a good support system and make sure you have help. It's hard to do this when you don't have a good support system and/or no help. If you do all of these things then you are more than likely going to be happy with your results and be overall happier with yourself as well. I wish all of you well and hope that all of you get the results you want. Good luck!
I just read your entire review and I have to say I am so sorry! I am a therapist and I must say, you are very self aware, and that is the first step in working through or forward from your issues! I agree that plastic surgery will not fix all hour problems! I think maybe you thought it would! I remember being married and thinking that way. Sadly I'm a widow and I did this for me! I don't have anyone wanting me yet, lol! But I know how you feel. Marriage is rough and perhaps maybe the timing hair wasn't the best for what you were going through! It appears you have other issues to work through! Surgery just became one more thing, rather than a positive distraction! I think you look great, whether you need or want the revision or not! I think it's more important, as you've mentioned, to be happy with yourself! That way, when you see yourself differently on the inside then that reflect on the outside too! More than any plastic surgery can do! If you can afford to see a therapist, I would recommend it. Especially if you don't have a strong support system! It will help to empower you in more ways than just self esteem! (At least that's what I hope to do for my clients) I will say, life is short, and it's best to live in the now! Not worry too much about the what if's. We cannot change the choices we've made, nor can we know how they will affect the future! We do however have today and today only! I'm sorry to hear about your marital issues! Much of these things are out of our control! Stay strong! Sending positivity and love and strength you way!
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