10 Years Later... Finally Realizing my Goal... - Gastonia, NC

For the past 10 years I've been contemplating BA....

For the past 10 years I've been contemplating BA. The time is finally right and I have a supportive husband who is behind me on this... At first he was very hesitant as he is happy with the way I am, but after going to the consultation with me and having many discussions as to why this is important to me he is on board. The biggest issue I'm facing is his "go big or go home" attitude... I want to do this to improve my appearance but I don't want them too big. I'd like to add more fullness but still maintain a natural look.

I've had two consultations, both PS within the same practice. Good reviews for both, one more experienced than the other... however, it was the sense of ease and peace of mind that made me chose between the two. Also, I had heard from friends that one particularly prefers bigger breasts and I wanted to steer clear of biases.

My biggest fear and concern is the incision. A lot of the photos are from recent surgeries and it's hard to gauge what it'll look like down the road. I'm latina and we have the tendency of having thicker scars. I was hoping to have a transaxillary incision but my PS stated those tend to be thick as well. Probably going to go through the nipple. I would like some feedback from the ladies who have gone through BAs and hear about their incision and healing.

I have selected Sientra HP Textured Round, my PS and I discussed between 325-375cc and will decide during my pre-op visit. My husband would like 415cc, but I just feel that based on my frame this is simply too big, my PS agrees. I'm 5'5'', 125lbs (hoping to lose 5lbs before the surgery).

My biggest issue is talking about it with my family. My mother is highly critical and I'm afraid of what her opinion will be. My parents are facing financial hardships and in a way I feel guilty undergoing elective plastic surgery knowing they are struggling. I for one think there will never be a perfect time, my goal is to work overtime this summer so I may have it completely paid for. The practice I'm going through is having a special and the pricing is manageable. I'm practically saving $1,000 by choosing to do this procedure now.

I look forward to sharing my journey with you...

Let the countdown begin:

48days, 12hours, 8minutes and 12 seconds

415cc

Trying on some different sizes at the PS office. This is 415cc, the size my husband would like. I'm thinking 375. My PS recommends 325-375cc.

Upset husband

So I had uploaded a few photos of myself trying on different sizers, my husband got very upset about it and I took them down. No nudity or any personal information was included, anyone else have this type of issues? On a better note, I wanted to share this website I found that might help visualize the size of your breasts… http://www.reshapr.com. It can sort of give an idea but the picture doesn't always turn out so great. I tried it with a bra on and it worked better. Hope this helps some of you ladies…
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May I suggest allowing the PS to make a size decision at the time of surgery? He/she actually has a vested interest in choosing the size that fits your body most appropriately. You, as a well satisfied patient who does not have the "stripper" look and appears with proportionate fullness, is the best advertisement his practice can get.
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I have slightly broad shoulders and chest. I'm thinking you have a narrow chest that's y you're going with hp?
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indeed!
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Same height and weight. Got sientra 380 mod smooth round. (Their moderate is like moderate plus)
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you like them? how do you feel about the size? what type of incision?
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Sorry just seeing this. I love them. Got crease incision
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I will be one week post op tomorrow. Will these HUGE things really ever go down in size ? Starting to get a tad nervous.... I made it Clear that I only wanted what I had to have some fullness and firmness ... Yikes.... Any thoughts anyone?
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Hmmmm....your in a tough spot. Above all you have to listen to your ps on sizing. They can tell from experience how much your chest can handle. And taking a couple wish boob pictures allows them to see what your goal is shape and size wise. Although I have been every size from 32a to 36d with my skin, chest wall, etc taken into consideration all I could could get was 280-380cc cohesive gel ( gummy). Went under a 34A and now with the. 350cc that fit me perfect I am around 34d/dd! So you don't have to hit the 400cc's to "go big" ;) I can see a husband maybe having issues with you posting pics if he doesn't understand what this site is. It is meant to help all of us who are considering/scheduled/recovering from augmentation of some sort. A nice supporting family full of information. If he sees it as more of a porn hub it could upset him. I have only been with one man in my life and he was supportive of me posting and prior even embarrassingly read and helped me figure out what we both wanted from this surgery. Our decision natural looking full breasts in the safest manner possible ;) As for $ well it is expensive but as they say "you get what you pay for" surgery is not something to get a bargain on. There are usually financing possibilities, cash prices, etc. ask and see what is available to you and decide of the time is right. And know even though not common there is always the chance of more expenses if something goes wrong. Never what we want to hear but I have an incision that isn't quite healing right and just had to go for an extra visit and get more meds. Meds alone have cost over $125! Best wishes to you! Be safe and confident in your decisions:)
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Sounds to me like your husband has issues with insecurity that need to be addressed...maybe scared because of your pending new hotness....
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Lol, just reading the "go big or go home" comment....those were the exact words out of my husbands mouth & I still did what I wanted...I did my own research on sizes & even up to the last minute he was in my ear about doing 425cc....glad I chose a bigger size then I originally planned on (375)...400cc perfect, thus far anyway!
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I'm so happy you found the perfect size! Keep me posted on the recovery! Talk about compromise!
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Oh and im prettt close to you in stats I had a 34a before my surgery 5'2 117lbs and I wanted a full c so my dr ended up placing 440cc and its sentra silicone. I picked out 375 but once we got in my dr decided 375 wasnt gonna give me the look I want I have pics on my page if itll give you An idea. I was scared of being huge but im in love with my size.
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I know how you feel about parents. Im 30 and didnt wanna tell my dad. My mom slipped amd told him. The day after my surgery he came and saw me and asked why I didn't wanna tell him and I said bc hed worry and came be very critical some times. But he was surprisingly very supportive and has been checking up on me to see how im doing. Hope the same can come from your family. Also you said you have surgery on 28 and back to work on 31 rt? I had mine on the 3rd of april and went to work on 6th felt fine and I have a desk job. The day after my surgery my husband and I had nothing to do until my dr appointment so we went to the mall and I walked around for 2 hrs and felt fine. I know everyone handles things diff but maybe this will give some in site on the surgery! Good luck!
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It is kind of strange to me to have any urge whatsoever to talk to either of my parents about my breast size. That totally creeps me out. I know some people want to share everything with theirs for some reason, but I have never figured out why.... I don't want my parents, especially my Dad, thinking about my boobies and wanting to be sexier and who is looking at them and what it leads to...lol! And I don't want to think about their body issues, either....yeck....
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Hahah this is true. And I didnt think that not every relationship with parents is like mine lol 3 days post op my sister and sis in law drug me into my sis in law bedroom and said lets see them!
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MariF, first and foremost, you are doing this for yourself. It is a shame you cannot confide in your parents. I understand feeling guilty about the money. That seems to be a common thing with women. We do and give for everyone else. When we do actually take for ourselves, we feel guilty. Don't. You deserve happiness just as everyone does and if this makes you happy, go for it and don't let negative feelings rain on your parade. Second, follow the guidance of your PS. Big is great if your body can handle it and the sizers do look wonderful on you. But those are not the implants. If your doctor advises against that big, don't do it. You might regret it. I will tell you this...I decided about 3 weeks ago and scheduled my surgery, it's May 9th. I have gone back and forth over size. It's the one common worry for all of us. Too big...too small? What do I do? Welcome to boobie size guild. Congratulations on your decision.
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Everyone has financial hardships...My husband gave this to me as a 40th Birthday gift, and still even after having them dome, I can think of a million other bills I could have paid instead...It was real hard spending all this $ on myself & I was petrified to tell my over- opinionated mother....she only had negative things to say about it & my husband said just do it, you deserve it...bills will always be there...now that I'm done, best decision of my life...be happy because life is too short not to be ;)
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Amen to THAT! Once you've made the decision, choose to be your OWN biggest supporter bc you're worth it!
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Go for the 415cc's....I am 134 lbs...5'6 & 34A....just had mine done on 4/10...honestly I started out wanting to just be perfectly proportioned... I wanted 375cc & my husband wanted 425cc...so, I chose 400cc's silicone gel & I love them!!! But, I think in my head like every other women, I could have just gone a little bigger...I thought, no way my frame is too small, but each size larger is only 2Tbs. Bigger( like a shot glass size) just from reading all these stories it's the same end note, should have gone bigger!!!
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Interesting ... I just had my surgery on 4/10 as well. I'm 5'6" and weigh about 125-130lbs. I got 400cc's and feel like they are HUGE. Just HUGE. I'm so hoping their size will Definitely decrease soon. I'm thinking- "did ingo too big!???"
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I suppose it all comes down to the look you are going for. From the sizers what I have noticed is that from a front view they can look large but from a side view not too much. I also did the 3D imaging at my doctors office and didn't see much of a difference from 375-400cc... they actually didn't appear that large at all, until he showed me the laying down view. It's all about perception, I think its shocking if you've never had large breasts. I'm a runner and I love yoga... I know that if I go too big it may interfere with those activities I love and I would hate that...
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If you are a grown woman and wife and mother, your parents or whomever else, will just have to accept it and move on. Or, you don't even have to discuss it with them. You don't need their approval...you are an independent grown woman. I never even told my parents...there was no reason to get them all stirred up. None of their business, really....
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I too like the 415 sizers on you. I feel they won't be too big, but you have to go with what you want, and go by what PS says will be best. I can't wait to see your results :)
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If you feel that your mother will be critical about it, then don't even talk to her about it. Just keep it between you and your husband. It is sad that they are having financial difficulties but you don't owe them the money that you have set aside for surgery. When you bring children here, you cause them to need to be cared for. A lot of people just don't get that and expect us to be under our parent's thumb our whole lives.
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It's a hard decision and it saddens me to have to secretive about it, its a lose lose situation no matter which choice I make. I suppose there'll never really be a perfect time but I think there are windows of opportunity and you have to take advantage of those. Another thing I hadn't thought about is discussing it with my 11 years old daughter. I don't want her to become self conscious about her body specially since she's just now starting to develop. Lots of things to take into account, thank you for reading my story and for the support :)
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