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I am 38 and married. I have 3 kids; a 10 year old...

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I am 38 and married. I have 3 kids; a 10 year old and twins that are 6. I was 4 ft around 2 weeks prior to giving birth to my twins and I am only 5 foot tall. So, my belly was huge. 6 years later and my belly still shows it. I tried working out with a trainer and nothing worked. I finally had enough and decided I'm going to bite the bullet and get a Tummy Tuck. My normal physician even asked me if I thought about getting a tummy tuck and my answer to him was "every day". There isn't a day that I don't think about it.



I am nervous, I have tons of thoughts going through my head. I'm excited, but also feeling many things like: I'm being selfish, I could use this money for my kids education, what if I die, how is this going to affect my work, and so on...



Looking to find others who are feeling the same things that I am. I'm not telling many others that I'm doing this. So I don't have anyone I can talk to about this that can relate to my feelings and the many thoughts that are running through my head. I am a planner and think every detail through, so I'm sure I will have lots of questions in the forum.Updated on 24 Oct 2011:Well, it's getting closer to the big day. 55 days to go. Made my payment for the PS, I just need to pay the OR in a month. This was scary, it made it so real, like it's really going to happen. Hoping nothing big happens and I wish I would have had the money saved back for that emergency. Not feeling like I'm getting much support from my parents, so that has been bothering me too. However, my friends and husband seem to be supportive. I've started my list of things to start purchasing and getting ready. I'm feeling really excited, but right now wondering if I'm doing the right thing. I think the money thing is the scariest part. I'm just hoping I'm not kicking myself later and having my husband mad at me or we are wishing that we had the money for something else. Sigh... I know this is part of the emotional process that most people go through, but I'm just praying, I'm doing the right thing.Updated on 3 Nov 2011:Well, I started a cycling class this week. I thought running and P90X were hard. Wow, cycling sure gives you a workout. I'm trying to get my metabolism up for the surgery so hopefully, I will bounce back quicker.



I started buying some of my surgery items: A wedge, bromelain (spelling?), arnica cream, spirometer (just want to be safe) and make sure I do my deep breathing to prevent pnemonia (spelling?). I also have my prescriptions from the PS. I just need to get them filled. I have also bought some after surgery comfy clothes and have started my list of items to pack, have setup for when I get home, etc. There are 45 more days until my surgery. I'm getting excited because time seems to be going by pretty fast. I'm sure with the holiday's it's really going to go by quickly especially with all of the running around with the kids, holiday parties, etc. Not real nervous yet.



My biggest battle has been trying to figure out what to tell people for why I won't be able to help out at church for Christmas Eve service, and Christmas. I run the soundboard and computer and I need to find a backup for a couple of weeks. They usually make a big deal and pray for anyone having surgery. I don't mind the prayers at all, but I just want it to be low key. I don't want people to know I'm having surgery and I can't lie if they ask. So, that has been the biggest issue so far. Most likely I will tell them I'm having surgery and I really don't want to discuss what it's for. And that I don't want anyone to know about it. They (preacher and wife) on their own, but I don't want people at church to know about it. It's hard keeping this from people, especially people I care about.Updated on 6 Nov 2011:42 days to go and I just had my first weird TT surgery dream last night. I showed up at the outpatient surgery completely unprepared and the PS was upset with me because I didn't have everything ready. I'm glad it was just a dream. Who knows what other ones I will have between now and the surgery. LOL



I can't believe how fast time is moving right now. Of course, with my job and my kids activities, that helps take up all of my time. Getting anxious.Updated on 26 Nov 2011:I can't believe I only have 3 more weeks and it will be the big TT day! I have wanted this for so many years and just never got up the nerve. Feeling like I have tons to get prepared for and so little time, especially with Christmas, New Years, and birthdays (all 3 of my kids in Jan) coming up. I have started working on my lists and have started crossing some items off, but seem to keep adding more to the list. :) Anyway, I'm starting to get very excited!Updated on 6 Dec 2011:12 more days until my TT with MR. I've gotten most of my Christmas shopping completed and wrapped. I've already gotten my bags packed for the 2 night stay at the hotel. At times it seems like time is flying by and other times, time can't go fast enough. I still can't believe I'm doing this. I'm soooo excited. I keep thinking about what I will be able to wear this summer. I won't have to worry about my belly buldging out through my shirts and swimsuits. I'm so ready for the TT day to come. However, I'm still a little worried about something bad happening. I've been praying a lot, so I'm hoping God blesses me with a good TT surgery and that my recovery will be good. I also have been praying for all of you too. I'm so glad for this site.Updated on 13 Dec 2011:Only a few more days and the big day is here. I'm waking up all through the night. I'm even dreaming that I've had the surgery. I'm doing crazy things like climbing mountains (the day of the surgery). The best part was looking down and I was laughing, because I was so happy with the results. I hope that I have the same response in real life.



I'm trying to get everything ready. I've got my recovery area all ready, my bags packed for the surgery and hotel, and lists all done. Christmas shopping is done and presents are wrapped, as well as all 3 of my kids birthdays. All are in early January.



Overall, I think I am ready. I've been struggling with whether or not I should be doing this, but I think I've finally accepted that it's okay and I'm excited. So, it's all good.Updated on 20 Dec 2011:Surgery Day 12/19 - the experience couldn't have gone any better. The staff at the Surgery Center, PS nurse, and PS was awesome. I was very nervous, but I was so happy that I woke up and was on the other side. I had the TAP Block so, my pain level was very low. I went home that day and slept pretty much the entire 1 hour ride home. The rest of the day was pretty blurry. I slept for an hour or so, woke up, and went back to sleep, woke up, etc..



1st Day PO - 12/20. This morning the TAP Block started to wear off, so now I am feeling some burning and a little bit of pain. When I take my percocet, the pain is level is good. However, when they start to wear off, the burning sensation comes back. I've got a lot of gas, so I'm trying to walk, drink plenty of liquids, taking stool softners, and taking my vitamins to hopefully allow me to go #2 and get over this gassy/bloating feeling.



Overall, I'm feeling better than what I expected. At this point I am very glad I had a TT. I still don't know what I look like under the binder and won't know until Friday. I have one drainage tube in. I'm not sure if the drain will come out Friday or not. I'm still draining between 20ml to 10ml every 6 hours. So, that will have to go down in order for it to come out by Friday. I'm taking this one day at a time.



BTW, I would recommend a lift recliner. It has been a Godsend and I'm very glad I have it, it is making getting up and down so much easier.Updated on 22 Dec 2011:3rd day PO 12/22 - I had some nausea this morning due to forgetting to eat with my percocet. I was able to get it under control before throwing up. I still have not gone to the bathroom #2 yet. I'm feeling really gassy. I called the PS and they said to get some senokot, collace, and ducolax. After I did the docolax, I was able to go, but it's still not naturally happening. Overall, today has been the worst, but nothing like what I thought it would be. So, that is good.





4th day PO 12/23. I feel really good today. My incision feels sore, but the pain in my abdomen is almost gone. However, my back is killing me. I've been trying to put my back up against a wall to straighten it out. It feels good when I do that, but as soon as I have to start walking it starts back up again. I've been using a heating pad on and off so that is helping. I have my first PO appointment tomorrow at 11:00am. I'm looking forward to that to see what everything looks like. I'm a little nervous, but excited. I'm not sure if my drain will come out. I'm still draining about 10 ml every 6 hours. I think it has be less than 30ml for an entire day. It would be awesome if it did come out tomorrow, then I could get a shower on 12/24. I'll keep you posted.. Have a good day everyone!

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September 14, 2011
Hey there, I havent had a tummy tuck yet either but have my first consultation scheduled for October 4th. What you mentioned about feeling selfish-I completely understand what you mean. I have 2 little kiddos myself, they don't lack anything, but I could save the money and take them to Disneyland, pay off student loans, home improvements, the list goes on.... I'm honestly not sure how I will reconcile these feelings if I proceed with surgery. On the other hand, my belly is like a mushy sack of potatoes, so that sucks as well! So your surgery is already scheduled? How many surgeons did you see before you chose?
September 14, 2011
Wow! You sound so much like me. I'm 38 and have the same feelings of financial apprehension/guilt you are describing. I also have twins. I have a set that are 18 and a set that are 13. I plan and think everything through too. I've talked and joked about a tummy tuck for years. I sounds like now is the time for both of us.

I'm having a consultation with a second surgeon today and hope to have the surgery around Thanksgiving. My husband is very supportive but like you, I don't really have anyone to talk to about it.
How did you choose a surgeon?
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September 16, 2011
Two sets of twins is amazing...bless you. I have a 3 year old and an almost 2 year old and they are enought of a handful! Thaniksgiving is right around the corner, as fast as the holidays come and go, you are gonna be having surgery in no time!

I decided to see this surgeon because I have seen some of his patients in my own line of work and like their results (however, none of the patients were cosmetic surgeries). I also like the answers he posted to questions here on Realself. I have looked at all of the pictures on the websites of local surgeons, but I sortof take those pictures with a grain of salt. I mean, who would advertise terrible disaster patients? In the end, I think you just have to go with your gut. I have been looking for peoples blogs or just anything that gives ratings and opinions on local surgeons, but there just isnt much that I can find.
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September 15, 2011

Guilt and nervousness is a part of this journey, I'm sorry to say. All moms have it. You're putting yourself first for once and it feels strange. You sound like a great candidate for this, though, and removing a lot of fat from your belly can have some positive health upshots as well.

Please keep us posted on your progress as the big day nears!

September 16, 2011
I actually saw a surgeon about 3 years ago, but decided not to do it. I started looking about 2 months ago. I got online and started researching surgeons. I looked over review after review from past patients of each surgeon. If I found any negative reviews, they were not considered. I found a website from one of the surgeons who had all good reviews. On there was a spot to ask the surgeon a question. I was suprised that on a weekend, he responded to the message within 2 hours. I am impressed by promptness, professionalism and the reviews I read. I decided to call and get an appointment. The overall feel of the entire process was awesome. All of the staff was awesome. They financial lady just had a TT and she went on and on about how it was the best thing she ever did. Plus she answered a lot of my questions about the procedure and recovery. So, I decided to schedule the appointment for Dec 19. My husband and kids will be home for two weeks during that time, so I won't have to worry about running the kids anywhere, plus everyone at work will think I'm just taking the holidays off and not know I'm having the surgery.

Jackieliz, it's funny how you mentioned how your stomach is a mushy sack of potatoes. Mine is exactly the same.

Minitx, 2 sets of twins!!! OM goodness. Wow. I guess the first set would get you ready for the next set. Hats off to you.

Angiemcc, thanks for the words of encouragement.

I started running this week to try and get fit to help speed up the recovery, plus get me at my best weight before the surgery. Is anyone else doing this or have done this? When I had my c-sections I had a rough time (in pain), so I'm trying to make this a better experience.
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September 16, 2011
LMM3, I am also hitting the gym hard right now. Doing cardio daily and circuit training. This is partly due to wanting the best surgical result and partly to embarassment about being naked in front of anyone, medical professionals included. So you have a mushy sack of potatoes too? We can be the mushy potato gang then. I have been trying to work up the guts (pun intended) to post a belly pic but I just can't. So many years of trying to hide it, displaying it feels terrifying!
September 16, 2011
Having 2 sets of twins has definitely made my life an adventure, I'll take all the blessings I can get! Thanks ladies!

I saw 2 more surgeons since I last posted and I think I found him today. LMM3, like you I looked at alot of ratings. Today when I left my appointment, every thing seemed to fall into place. I felt a little like Goldie Locks, everything was just right. Somehow, a lot of the apprehension was replaced by excitement. The surgeon was really able to help me visualize the possible results and answered all of my questions. I wish I could have it done sooner than Thanksgiving . Darn work.
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6 days PO - My tt pain is not bad at all. Right...

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6 days PO - My tt pain is not bad at all. Right now it's back pain. If I try and get up to do anything, my back is killing me. I'm also having problems going #2. I've have tried so many different things. I'm hoping the collace starts kicking in and I can get this bloated feeling over with! I'm hoping to get the drain out early next week. It's not bothering me too much, but I just want to get a shower!!!

I'm feeling down today. It's Christmas Eve and we usually go out for breakfast with the family. This year we couldn't because of the TT. I'm really wishing I could go to the Christmas Eve service tonight, but can't go to that either. So, the family will be going without me. :( I would love to go, but I don't want to get sick, plus nobody knows I had the TT. They would want to know why I am bent over. So, overall I'm feeling okay, but just feeling down, because I want to be normal again.



I haven't posted any PO pics because I'm afraid to look. I don't want to see my incision. It makes me nervous for some reason. Maybe next week when my drain comes out. Sorry. Right now, I feel very insecure without my cg, so I'm not taking it off.

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December 25, 2011
Hi LMM3. I was supposed to have a TT on the 20th of December but cancelled due to various reasons. Try not to let things get you down. I knew it would be hard for you on christmas day but this is only one christmas day out of many more to come. Next christmas you will have a gorgeous flat tummy and be full of energy and you will be able to fully enjoy all the festivities. Your recovery will eventually be over. Just relax, take it easy and enjoy not having to do so much this christmas. Merry xmas and best wishes for 2012.
December 25, 2011
Thank you.
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8 Days PO - I got my drain removed today. I was...

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8 Days PO - I got my drain removed today. I was expecting it to hurt and I didn't even feel it. I'm feeling really good. My pain is only in my back when I try to get up and move around. I'm also lying down somewhat straight and am no longer relying on the lift recliner. I just got my first shower today after the TT. It was nice feeling clean, but without the binder I don't feel like I have much core control. So, I move very carefully. Overall, the shower wasn't as enjoyable as I was hoping.

My tummy is flat. I just started looking at it and don't feel so scared of it. My belly button is an inny. I've never had an inny bb before. So, I'll have to get used to that. My belly skin is a little wrinkly, but the ps said it would get better as I start to straighten out. The skin is a little gathered in a few places. I was expecting something like that due to how stretched out I was with the twins. I'm just happy because it's flat. We'll see how it looks as the weeks go on. I'll try and post some pics in the next few days.

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