My stretch marks are 1" wide and my belly hangs...

My stretch marks are 1" wide and my belly hangs now since my 2 children ages 9 and 7. My son was 9 lbs!
I've always since I hit puberty had that little "ponch" but now... As much as I exercise and eat good... It's not going away!! This is my last resort... I paid $3000 for a laser thing I'll have to look up again and let you know what it was but it didn't work! I've also tried "it works" and that's not cutting it either. So... "Cutting it" is my only option. I am 42 yrs old and single now. Let me tell you I am so self conscious of my tummy it is hard to date!
I'm also experiencing low back hip pain that I think it's because of my belly. Am I right?
Let me know what you think :)


Its going to do wonders for your self confidence. A brand new you! Good luck.
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You'll be thrilled with the results. Just keep up the good habits and you'll be nice and strong during recovery ;))
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I totally agree cutting it is the only option. I hear ya on the big babies! Mine were 9.14, 10.07, and 11.02! You just can't "lose" the skin after that. Not sure about the lower back pain, i never experienced that because of the skin, but could be of luck!
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I looked up what I had done last summer. It was called ultrashape. I had to go once every 2 weeks 6 times and the appt was 2 hours is a body sculpting using ultrasound and radio frequency and supposed to melt away fat deposits as well as tighten and tone. She said I would need 3 more times to see results. So basically I would be spending MORE than a tummy tuck procedure.

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A pic of ultrashape

I see a "slight" difference but not $3000 worth! :(
If I had seen a significant difference I would have continued.


Good Luck
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Your belly looks a lot like mine...will be following your progress to 'imagine' what I may look like someday!
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Nov 21/13

I obsess about my tummy everyday, ill be at the gym and look at everyone's tummy wondering if that flat stomach is just lucky for them or did they have a tummy tuck? I mentioned to a friend I was going to have it done.. She text back saying a tummy tuck. Wow. Just invest in good spanx. Really?? I didn't know how to respond... Mine isn't until May but i want it tmw! I haven't told my parents yet... I think my dad won't approve... My mom won't either but I'm sure she will be there for me. We talked about it the other day. I didn't say that I had actually booked it but said I really wanted it. My mom said it was "vain". I think once I talk to her.. She will be ok :)
Also, I am separated 3 yrs now and am scared to tell my ex. I'll just say I've saved and have the $$. He can't do anything about it. being in the single world now I can't have anyone look at me naked! I need to do this for me. I have confidence in myself. The only thing that holds me back is the "goo". As much as I exercise and eat well, that part hasn't gotten flatter if anything it hangs even more as I lose the fat lol. Yup. Stretched skin :(


Im lucky i have a very supportive partner and mother. My tummy is from children that are not even his lol. I do feel for you. We are all here to lend our support. You deserve to be happy and when you're happy everyone in your life can see and feel it too!
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Go for it the only regret you'll have is that you waited so long I'm 11 weeks out and I'd do it again tomarrow in a heart beat!!! Goodluck xxxx
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If this is something you really want, then the support you'll have to find within! I know how you feel about feeling self conscience about it! I too am single and haven't even wanted to date in fear of how I would feel with my clothes off! I was lucky to have a husband that loved my belly cause I face him three beautiful children, but I'm a widow now! Whole new ball game! The support helps yea, not now that you've found this site, your obsession can be shared by others who also obsess, and also have all of our support! I'm so glad I found this site! It helped me so much during times of questioning, depression, guilt, and now recovery!!
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Dec 5th

So I booked my tummy tuck a month ago and my surgeon is booked until may. That's ok the longer I can save:)

I was reading todays post from fitandflat and she nailed it. She said if you think about your tummy constantly this may be worth going thru. I am ALWAyS thinking of it looking with disgust at it and can never just throw anything on to wear. I'm glad I'm a hairstylist and can throw a cute apron on to hide it.

It's been a month since I booked it and I still need to tell my mom. I am a single mom (have my kids every other week) and will need my mommy to help me 24/7 at least the first week. That's what I've been reading anyway! And probably into second week when I have my kids she will need to do any chauffeuring they need done with their extra circular activities.
She knows I talk about getting it done and a few weeks ago she even said its vain. I don't know how to just tell her. Any advice?? I may just wait until the new year to tell her! I had an opportunity the other day and just couldn't do it!
Well ladies.... Let me know what you think! Thank you so much! At least I'm not getting it done now we (here in Calgary Alberta Canada) have had a huge dump of snow and it's minus 36 degress Celsius!! COLD!


well our moms always think we look good and of course worry about what they make think is an unnecessary surgery, but really it will make you feel better,look better, be healthier, make you feel comfortable to be with a man again at some point, all in all you obviously don't like your belly and I so get it, and thought about mine often also and would pull the skin and think wow if I could just cut this off, it was horrible looking at it all the time, not really sure how to tell your mom, mine was not happy either but I didn't need her help so I didn't tell her until a couple weeks before, best wishes
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I know in the end she will help me but it's just the telling her first part :). I don't want to have guilty feelings when I can't do anything after surgery
I hear you. I feel like I am reading my own story about my tummy (well, minus a few details but ya know what I mean). :) You will be so happy you did it! I look foward to following your journey and I want to punch those laser people and the IT WORKS (stupid people) in the throat. No, when our stomachs look like yours and mine did--NOTHING works besides cutting. Period. End of story. Let's beat the crap out of those suckers for playing on your weakness and taking your money (don't feel bad, I did the SAME thing!!! jackers!!!) My dad did not approve and he was very vocal about it. He is all fine now, but he was really concerned someting could happen and thought it was very selfish. Lucky for him, he didn't have to see it naked everyday so he had no idea where I was coming from. It sucked, and I hated that he was so ANTI- on something I wanted and needed so bad, but ultimatley--it was my choice and I am so glad I followed through. :) Good luck on your journey!
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Hi ladies, have you seen this YouTube video yet? She has a lot of guts to do what she did and I am proud of her! I am still in for a tummy tuck though! Lol! But it's true if we all felt better about our bodies plastic surgeons could go out of business ;)


I sure hope it will look good! it still seems surreal...
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I just looked at your pics...your GOING TO LOOK AWESOME after your tt! You can look at my before pic and see my belly looked 1000 times worse than yours does! and your back will feek so much better, Im excited for you..I don' know if I could have watited so long to have mine done!
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Love it
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Jan 8th/14

I havent posted in awhile as nothing much has changed... I have lost a couple more lbs so thats good :)
As for telling my mom about it.... I have NOT yet. I wish I didnt have to say a word. Just do it. BUT I need the help, but how much help do I need? does she need to stay with me 24/7? and for how many days minimum do I really need help. Yes, I will probably get a walker a toilet riser and a recliner and make sure my pain meds are beside me at all times...
I have my kids 50/50. Surgery is on a monday and 5 days later I will have my kids back for a week again. They will be 8 and 10 by then. The only thing I worry about is it is a long weekend for Canada, they are off friday-monday.... 4 days!! I need to make sure they are doing a few things and not stuck in the house because mommy cant do much. Closer to the time, I will see how many play dates I can set up BUT its the long weekend, lots of people go away!
I also havent told my ex yet. I think i will tell him I need a hernia repaired and muscle repair as well, or maybe say just getting Lypo... a tummy tuck sound so much worse!
I am a hair stylist and have been telling some clients.... I think I need to stop some are happy and some dont really know what to say, they seem all surprised and shit like why are you doing this, and then I feel i have to fumble thru how I feel... I am 42 and single and dont love my body naked or with clothes on.... dating sucks lol
So the question for all that have been thru this, what is the absolute minimum help I need? Can they come over during the day and sleep at their own home?
I know the first 2 days Id want my mom to stay with me for sure!
I am going day by day til the day gets closer.... its too early to plan! I wish it wasnt.

Oh, Ive been dropping hints to my mom.... she keeps saying "you dont need that...." My sister right away squashed it because she knows someone who works in this industry and she only hears bad stories. She is also skinny. she says just exercise and eat right. well.... I am. Maybe not gluten free and dairy free like she is but I dont need to, I am not celiac or have lactose intolerance, I have been tested!(she hasnt been tested she is just eating that way, both my mom and my 6 yr old nephew are celiac though)

Ps Im not in a relationship so I also dont have that person to lean on.. just me, there are a few friends but they all work and have lives, so I can ask... and put it out there!
Wish me luck!
You all look fabulous and cant wait to be on the flat side too!


Oh dear i feel like giving you a hug. Its a shame you have to justify your decision to others...
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Hi! I posted a few weeks ago and only got one response... Plus I private messaged a few ladies and one response .... I also did an update the other day and it didn't post! So frustrating. My ex mother in law also said she posted something and I dont see it... Who do I ask for help on this?
It's getting to be crunch time!!

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Hi there!
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Hi! You look amazballs amyjay! I read through your whole profile last night, thanks for the day to day accounts of how you are doing!
I'm not sure il ask her .. You seem to be the only one to comment these last few posts. (Thank you!) but are you the only one that can see me?? I have been trying to post to people's walls :/ I will ask Kimmer the admin what to do too...
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A little stress gone...

OK, I updated the other day on my phone and it froze and never uploaded! (so frustrating)
Anyhoo, as I mentioned I still haven't told my mom.. the other day she called and said her and dad are going to Bermuda to visit my sister... right when I get my surgery! Being that she has no idea yet, I was happy for her and that sealed the deal that I would ask my ex mother in law to help... she lives in Florida. Within the hour she booked a flight and will be here to help me for 2 weeks! I am happy in that she too has done plastic surgery so she understands more. I don't want my mom to help me especially when I NEED help because of my own doing....
My stomach still looks gross but I thought I'd show a close up of how big my stretch marks are...


Good luck!! I'll be following u on your journey !
  • Reply I said, I will always have your back, but am very proud and happy to be there when you have your surgery 'cause now, "I've got your front as well". I may be your ex-mom-in-law, but I doubt I'll ever feel like an "ex" anything with you. Like I have always said, you will always be the mother of my two beautiful grandchildren and had I been able, and known you even before you had these two great kids, I would still have picked you to be their mother, So proud you are doing this and I cannot wait to see the new and even more confident woman you have become over the past ten years we've known each other. Dr. Perron, I'm sure will ensure you have a great final result. verononna
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I'm glad you will be there for me. Thank you!

Booked my pre op appointment t today!

I was sooo nervous to call them! It's not til 6 weeks prior and when the total amount is due. March 31! It will officially be official (lol) when the full payment is due!


I just had my TT done by him and I am now 9 days post op. Could not be happier!
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Oh yay!! You look so great! Thank for letting me know!! Did you rent a recliner?
I cannot wait to see your results I am still looking for the right surgeon but we are in the same boat. I think about my stomach every waking moment. It's sad. And if you don't experience that feeling you will never get it! Take care and keep posting!!!
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I did it!

I finally told my mom! I have had this booked since November and I finally told her on Sunday!
She is actually good with it. She ended up telling my sister and saying to her that my tummy is a mess and prob should have it done! So if mom is ok then everyone else should be ;)


It's always a good feeling to get your mommy's approval. I'm so happy for you!!
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So true!
Yes I rented a lift chair/ electric recliner and I have lived in it since my procedure

Lift Chair Rental

Well darn it... I called to ask about renting an electric chair to sleep in and they wont know if they have one available til a week before! I like to make sure things are in place! So I guess worse case scenario I have a friend that will let me borrow their regular lazy boy if thats the case!
So question: For those that are sleeping in a lazy boy chair that isnt electric, is it ok to get up out of?


You will need someone to help you push the leg part down so you can get up.
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There is a handle on the side... I bet I can tie something to it so i can pull it to go down without bending over of anything... I will have my mother in law here 24/7. I may need to get a bell to ring so that in the middle of the night she can help! HAHA
The handle will lift the leg part up but not down, unless its a model ive not seen. The bell sounds like a plan tho lol

I feel like a turtles

The time seems to be going sooooooooooo slooooooooow.
8 more weeks! And 2 weeks before pre op appt!
My son turns 8 tomorrow!! We had a huge bday party on the weekend with a magician! So much fun! Tomorrow is just a family dinner out :)


Ok. That would be turtle. It's late and I'm not on top of my spell check!
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Looking forward to our post-op, 2 week (approximately) sleepover. Relax girl! Focus on you and not what "MIGHT" be a problem. I will be there and I WILL MAKE IT WORK for you - you know that beyond a doubt. You need to be positive until you go into the clinic for your TT.....the rest will be just fine when you get home. You can count on that dear daughter-in-law. Now, go party with my Grandson tonight - he will never be 9 again.......Love you!

A shock

So 8 weeks to go. I've told most of my clients so they know I'll be off 2-3 weeks.. I told one of my clients today and she said "so diet and exercise ... Blah blah blah ." As soon as she said the first 2 words I immediately started to get my back up and said "oh I know, barbaric decision isn't it."And things like that ... She wasn't trying to be mean or argumentative. I've been doing her hair for awhile. So I said I have a lot of stretch marks and hanging belly. So as I finished getting her color on I decided to show her pics on my phone of "my belly". She said "you take pics of your stomach?" I go ya I have a blog on this website and everyone shares their experiences. As soon as she saw my pics her eyes went wide and said oh my you have a lot of stretch marks! And eventually said. Oh I can understand why you would do this.. So in the end she was very happy for me. But sometimes it's those immediate reactions I just hate hearing!
8. Weeks. Left.


only 24 more sleeps!! :) Have a great weekend and it'll be here before you know it!
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Eeeek!! You made my heart skip a beat reading that!! I'm so excited!! Happy Easter!
Good luck!! It sucks when people pull the whole "diet and exercise" thing. Ugh. I'm a very fit (6 days a week and day 7 is usual just lighter aerobic activity) person, and eat uber healthy, but really, it doesn't get rid of the skin. Also the fat deposit around the belly button because that fat creeps throughout he separated muscle. (according to the doc, and I will believe him :) ) I can't wait to sleep without a binder on to see if I can actually roll over in bed without having to adjust my belly skin lol Or when you lay on your side and its like a pool of skin?!? I didn't tell my parents or anyone until I had booked the surgery (was an opening a month later so I took it) and when I did tell them, I was clear that I didn't want their opinion, I was just letting them know. Recovery so far has been good, I only slept in the recliner for about 5 nights and then I couldn't handle it anymore. Sleeping fine now, and standing 99% straight until later in the day when I get tired. I had some help, but really only needed it for the first 2 days. My kids are awesome helpers though and I delegated.... so my house is still in fairly decent shape haha. Good luck! Sorry for the long post, just want you to know you are not alone! This place has helped me so much, I have noticed since getting surgery who really cares and who doesn't give a shit. It's hard, because I thought that was only supposed to happen during "bad" events?? Not something happy like finally doing something for yourself?? Oh well, better to find out now than when something "bad" happens, right? Thanks for letting me vent on your wall haha
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I am NOT nervous at all! Im really really excited! There hasn't been much to tell! My pre op appt wasnt much, just a list of does and donts and some prescriptions I had to fill for my narcotic for the first 3 days, anti nausea and a month of antibiotics...
My mother in law arrives on Friday, she will be staying with her kids until sunday when shit will get real MONDAY MORNING!
So, I'll update you as soon as I can on the flat side!!
Thanks for letting me stalk your profiles, Ive learned alot from all of you! Happy Healing to all!


Been thinking about you today...I am sure all went well. Cant wait to c your new FLAT TUMMY!!!!!! So excited for u. I go tomorrow for a follow up I am 12 days post op now and can actually say now " I WOULD DO IT AGAIN N A SECOND" so happy w my progress. I know u will b 2. Get some rest, keep us updated. Happy healing
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just looking through your pre op pics again, and you are going to look awesome... i know what you are going through, take it easy, the next few days will fly by. i can't believe I'm 6 weeks po.
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Thanks everyone!!
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Flat side!!! Finally!!

So I was there at 8am. I got home at 6... Left at 4:50 but the office is downtown and it was rush hour. Normally 20 min! Grrr. Not gonna lie it feels like I had a shit kicking to my belly. Over and over and over again.
I tried to go pee... Nothing yet. I still had numbness in my butt so that's probably why. They do a spinal anesthetic so I'm paralyzed from just under boobs down. My bladder needs to wake up. As I was sitting on the toilet I started to feel light headed. And got hot and clammy. (You know the feeling when you feel like you are talking inside your head?) My mil was trying to get me some food! and I said hurry.. I needed something to eat. Well. No pee. I got to recliner without passing out. Whew! I then ate my porridge :)my mom came came for a visit too :)
So took my Targin at 7:45pm and will be able to again 12 hrs later. It's a slow release narcotic. The nurse gave it to my at 8:30 am but she said I could take an hour earlier if I needed. I needed lol Is it working? I'm not too sure With the lack of peeing ( i am able to "dribble")I'm doing and I have gas.. ( I was able to let go a couple) i feel like my belly is going to blow up!! And that's all that hurts! I give that a 9/10 pain level. Well actually when I get up to walk it's pretty up there too lol
I took two senokot stool softener tonight As the nurse said to now take every night.. Maybe that's what's happening??
I hope day 2 is a little better. I just want some relief..
I'm now tucked in again in my recliner (a definite must) it's electric. And I have a heating pad on my feet! I'm a bit chilly.
Happy healing to you all!

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It's been 12 hrs since I woke from surgery. I just wanted to update now while it's on my mind! I feel so much better! After I tried peeing at 10:30 (a dribble) I got comfy and had a rest (and that what I mean it wasn't a sleep by any means but I closed my eyes and maybe dozed til now! And man I really need to pee!! Getting up (with help of mil of course) was excruciating. My bladder was going to explode! I finally go there and did the longest pee. Aaaaaaaaahhhh!!! Immediate relief! I was able to walk even unassisted the pain lessened sooo much!! I can't begin to tell you how happy I feel! So now to try and sleep :) Gnite sisters!


Sorry you're in so much pain. I had to stop the laxatives and stool softener for a couple days because of the gas pain.
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Thanks for the total honesty regarding your surgery!! I am three weeks today with Dr Perron. My biggest fear is being awake during the procedure. I was a little dismayed at the wait time too but was lucky enough to get a cancellation, which brought my wait time down by two months! So looking forward to watching your progress in the next little while! YES traffic in dt Calgary SUCKS big time. Yesterday was particularly awful for some reason. Rest up & take care xxx
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Yay!! It's done :) So happy for you and can't wait to see the first flat belly pics :)
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Day 2

Today we changed my binder. They want me to "flip" it so that the swelling doesn't get into one spot.. It says smoother. Since we changed it my drain wasn't really draining so we worried that we kinked the cord too much. We talked to the nurse and got it changed around a bit. But still not much drainage. We made an appt to go see her tmw. Normally it would be 3 days after for dressing change but she is off on Thursday! And I have to wait 8 days to get drain out because it's a holiday on monday! (Damn) but actually it doesn't bug me that much.
Today my issue is my bowels now. Feeling bloated and gassy. Hopefully I can poop good tmw :)
I am getting up every hour to walk or pee. It is good to get moving. It's super hard at first because you've been sitting and it feels stiff and more pain to get movig but. You gotta do it. You'll feel better!
My dad came to mow the lawn today and my mom actually saw my inscison site today. I see the worry in her face. But she knows this is gonna be good :)
My mil has been a huge help! She got up every 2 hrs in the night with me to help me get up to the bathroom. She's brought me food and washed down my patio furniture :)
I think she even put away my winter shovel!
I've been lounging more tonight as my stomach is feeling quite bloated. I have kept up On my meds too. Now I just need to take another antibiotic my stool softener and flip my binder! Then settle in for some sleep. I hope :)


U look so tiny!!
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wow! you look fantastic :) I hope you can get a good poo soon, nothing is worse than not pooping :)
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U look awesome!!! So happy to hear u r doing well. Sounds like u have a great supportive family. Keep doing well!
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Day 3

This binder changing is what gets the best of me... I guess I anticipate too much! I can't imagine doing up the binder myself. Because I have to wear this for 6 weeks and my help leaves in 2!
When we changed it I felt a pull in my belly thinking it would subside. But it didn't go so I got my mil to open it up and I had a wrinkle in my tank top! Once that was pulled strait.. So much better! Well, I'm spent today, I did poop :) but I need to eat prunes! I took the last of my narcotic tonight. Tmw I can do ibuprofen and robax platinum. I hope it's enough... I just want to get thru the incision healing part.


Well well look at you!!! You are looking soooo great already. Fantastic results mcstyles!
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Look at that flat belly!!! Looks amazing! Happy healing!
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I can't believe you have pooped already, it took me 5 days too poop... Lol... Looking good
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Day 5

Nothing much is different Except today I must say pain is getting better!

I still hate the binder change.

My drain is minimal and orangy.

I still would rather not have undies or lounge pants on. So much easier to go to the bathroom!!

I finally washed down with a face cloth and got my hair washed in the kitchen sink!!
And I had my original tank top cut off and tossed in the garbage!
Put on a brand new one:)

I'm still hunched walking but I don't know when I'm allowed to stand up. I feel like I could(with binder on!) but the orders were to stay hunched. I will know on Tuesday more about that.

I don't know how people only a day or two later are standing up with out a binder taking all these pics! Lol!! I have not once stood up without my binder. I feel when it's off so out of control. So sensitive and feels like my muscles are gonna fall out lol
Does anyone else feel this way??


How are you doing? Can you believe it was over a week ago?!
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Yes! When I was as far as u I felt like I needed to hold my abs or my guts would fall our. Tomorrow after your drain comes out u will feel like a million bucks!
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I agree w nana, u r early on the road 2 recovery. EVERYONE heals different. Take your time there is not race. I am still recovering and I am 18 days post op. I know I felt the same way, but u have to keep n mind this is a MAJOR surgery don't rush it. Your doing good Mcstyles....
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Day 8 slight necrosis

Well.. I had a feeling this would happen... With my stretch marks being wide above my original belly button. I knew that would be pulled down an sewn to the bottom. When I saw the nurse on day 2 she did mention she was concerned about some bruising she saw.
So today when I went for drain removal she also said she will take the tape off. Thank god!! She ripped it off way faster than what I would have done. And it would have been a lot more painful!
Anyway, here are some pics.
The stretch marks are I'm sure most of you know thinned skin that has little to no blood flow. You need good blood flow to heal the wound.


you are progressing very well! my drains hung on for almost a month! and there was still output. Your necrosis is minimal - I had a bit like that and it healed quite well like an ordinary scab sorta - its them big ones that knock you for a loop (like mine) some of my spots like you show sorta crumbled and got sloughed off in changing and showering etc I let them dry up completely. You look just ducky!!! I too feel weird with out the binder and or a support garment and yah, like your guts are gonna fall out - ugh! creepy kinda. So I just stay bound up and go about my biz! I stayed hunched FOREVER! LOL, in fact its become habit and I have to remind myself to stand up straight its over! It tugs a bit on the sides when I stand straight. So I am leery of wrecking something I feel!!!
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u poor thing that looks soooo sore. still looking awesome!
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ouch! and OMG you are teeny tiny!! As for the standing up without a binder... when I did that to take pics I also felt everything was going to fall out lol so I did it as quick as possible. And to be honest, I sometimes still feel "weird". I've spent most of my life sucking in my gut and still feel I have to. I don't have to anymore, but I guess from 20+ years of doing so my mind is so used to it! So happy you're doing good :) :) :)
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Comparison pic!

It's been 11 days. I still need to walk hunched because of the necrosis. I will update about the more on Tuesday after I see the nurse again.
The pain has subsided a little more today so that's good!
I can't stand too long yet. I working on tues but not for very long. I am a hairstylist in my home so commute is awesome and less stress there. I am going to use my cutting stool too.


OMG. you look awesome!!! Can't wait for my 'flap' to be gone. Take it easy on your first day back....hope the traffic isn't too bad. LOL!!
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Great transformation!
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Wow! So flat, love it
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Necrosis is healing I think...

Well, since tues I have been putting the silver sulfadiazine cream (flamazine) on twice a day. I have to get in the shower and soap it down and even use a facecloth to try and sluff off the dead stuff. I know this is very mild compared to others who have necrosis but I get light headed doing it lol. I pray it gets better soon and not any worse! Thank goodness I have a shower chair to sit on AND a hand held shower head so I can sit and let the water sooth and clean it :)
I've timed it so I flip my binder right after.
I'll still update after this tues as to what the nurse thinks!


Looks like it's getting better. fingers crossed it doesn't ta
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Oops I meant fingers crossed it doesn't take long lol

Back to work!

I can not believe I started work on Tuesday! Granted I am starting back slowly. 3 clients per day. Tues wed and tonight. Have a few cuts to do tomorrow. An up do for a grad on Sunday. Then off til Tuesday!
Everyday get a little better. And speaking of which my necrosis is healing great!
I haven't tried to sleep in my own bed yet. Still in the electric recliner. I'll be trying that this weekend.


I go back MONDAY to work! Mind you I took almost 2 months off. Make sure you get plenty of rest the night before - you will need it! Good luck!!! :)
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Haha Ina! I mean I've ready got 3 days under my belt:)
Looking good
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Ups and downs

So the up parts are: every day gets a bit better :) when i first started work after 2 weeks off I was using a stool to prop a leg up. Sitting down to apply color. And using one hand to rinse.
Now after week 2 I am standing more to color and foil. I'll sit to so the hair cut until I need to stand to layer the top. I can also blow dry shorter hair and with a round brush! Some with looong hair I still pop under the dryer unless they say they will dry it themselves. I say "giver". lol

My necrosis is healing nicely pic posted of week 1-3

The downs:
My incision is starting to spit a few stitches. I've posted pics. My left side was the worst. It first looked like puss was coming out of it and bled a lot. I called the nurse and she told me to come down even though I am going to see her next week. There was a couple more on the right that seemed irritated and she went in with tweezers and pulled up the stitch and snipped it off. OUCH!! She said she was surprised I could feel that!
The thing is, my incision feels like the whole thing is on fire. Very sensitive. My stomach even feels like I have a bad sunburn. The dr said cus I'm fair skinned lots of stretch marks, genetics. Meaning I'll heal a little slower than average and that it's all superficial and to not worry.. Great. Lol.

After my shower tonight I did my usual cleaning and doctoring of my necrosis (and now the little areas that are kinda open now)
I went to put on my binder and the left side hurt sooo bad I could barely do up the second panel!
I just hope it heals fast!
Pic posted.

I had to send my recliner back on Monday. I really miss it! My couch is NOT comfortable. So. I have a client that's letting me borrow his! It's a gravity chair. It's electric AND has all the bells and whistles! Massage, kneads, and vibrates! I sooo need a back massage!
Anyway. Thank you for listening. I needed to vent about my damn genetics :/


Just read ur blog. I hope ur healing issues will soon be behind you! U deserve a sexy flat tummy!
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I havent 'spit' any stitches but inside my necrosis hole I had 3 tight ones that were tender - I took the initiative to snip them and my wound is seemingly grateful and starting to shrink! It was as if those inside stitches were holding up the show! I wonder if you have a kind of allergy to the stitches? You look so tender gurlie! It could also be that you are back to work and your body is reacting? Instead of all your energy directed towards healing you have to share your bodies energy with work! Healing is slowed? More sleep bella, more sleepies for you!
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omg ouch! it really does look painful no wonder you can't put on your binder u poor thing. I hope it heals fast and no more dramas. glad ur starting to find it a bit easier at work. stay positive mcstyles ur still looking great!
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Week 4

Since all the spitting stitches incident from last week things have been good.
I don't hurt as much as last week.
My muscle repair I can't feel unless I cough sneeze or engage my core by accident ;)
The only part I notice is a little tender still is the top. I still can't straighten 100% as it seems to pull there when I do..
I told the nurse today I still sleep wii pillows all propped up. She suggested starting to take pillows away so I'm laying more flat each time. I guess that's my "Physio" so to speak and all while I sleep! Sounds good to me:)
The incision still has a few angry spots but nothing like last week.
Necrosis gets better every day. Although. You can't really see it in the pics but in the middle this morning looked kinda like a blood blister and now it's a tiny hole the bleeds reddish orange a tiny bit.. I think she took a stitch out of it. Not sure. (I wasn't looking!) I'm putting the flamizine on it so hopefully by morning it will look good. I got my 3rd tube of that stuff today. The pharmacist told me it's only good for 7 days once opened. I was wondering as the 2nd tube was about 10 days old and I felt it wasn't working...

I am getting the ken doll look people are talking about! Il post a pic.
My low abs are still hard and numb.
My belly button still oozes. She suggests putting a marble in it to keep it round. There is a flap he says she wants me to keep up.. Pic posted.
Sorry if I'm rambling and sounds all over the place! I'm just trying to get all my thoughts out. I'm definitely not a writer :)

My next scheduled visit is July 2nd unless I need to pop in to get any spitting stitches removed!

Happy healing :)


Glad you are healing. You can really tell a difference in the week to week photos. Can't wait to see new pictures!
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You are looking great!!!
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Hi there, I ended up with the Ken pouch three days after surgery and I had to yell at my sister in the next room to come and see as it was just like Carol the nurse said it would be. Really strange, lol.
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12 weeks Monday!

Hi!!! I know I haven't updated in a looooong time! Once back to work happened life got in the way :( I'm sorry..
Well, the last time I updated I said I was going to go to my 6 week check up. That did not happen. They called me to ask if I could come in earlier as he wanted to go home................................................
The 6 week po appt. in my opinion is an important visit. It's where we now go. Ok now what?
Weening off binder.hows my incision, swelling, where shoulda pain levels be, gym?? Oh. And I had necrosis so how bout that??? Even writing this right now I'm vibrating. The nurse did talk over the phone with me and told me about how to ween and never said anything about gym. Up to 12 weeks I still am not allowed to lift heavy, twist my torso and or use abs.
Ok. Fine.
So fast fwd.
I'm still very swollen. Have fatty deposits sticking out at the ends of incision. (Hips) I'm very tender still all over. Not my inscison per say( that area is just numb) but my muscle repair.
A couple weeks ago I was feeling more swollen to the point I was very uncomfortable and wanted a pin to pop me! Lol. I was going to the bathroom and I looked down a noticed wetness all over. It looked like I had a pin hole opening in my now healed necrosis spot and white stuff wa coming out.
I called nurse and she just not to worry it was probably just a spitting stitch or an ingrown hair.
I'm going on wed for my 12 week post op. He better not decide to go home before he sees me!!
I'll post pics in a min :)


Well hopefully things start changing for the better now! Gosh it just seems like a lot of surgeons don't really give a shit once the surgery is over. It also seems like they seem so laid back about everything also.. Ugh. Anyways.. I hope you can start going to the gym soon!
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The only thing I want to add:
I hope they say it's all swelling (hips) I didn't pay that kind of money to still have to wear spanx!!
I think I look disproportionate. My hips stick out wider than my thighs. Looks odd. Lol


Hey macstyles it has been a long time! I do see what you mean about your hips I'm sure they could fix that. I have the opposite... I have a dent/hollow area at my scar. New ps told me it's because they didn't stitch the layers of tissue under the scar just the top layer of skin. So there is kind of a hole under the scar. He said it would have been easier to fix if there was excess fat or tissue than not enough. He didn't really want to touch it but said if I really had an issue with it then we could look at having fat inserted! that's what I'm trying to get rid of not add more lol
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Hey, Mcstyles I have those same hip things too. I'm hoping they settle down. Don't know if they're "dog ears". ???? Yah at my 6 week appt I got more info from Carol than Dr P. He did tell me I could/should straighten up more and to lie on the floor and stretch my arms over my head to try & help with the straightening out thing. Your necrosis HAS healed very well. Looks awesome! I hear ya about the gym. Thought I would be at it pretty good by now but with my face "thing" I'm back to square one. Patience... Say "hi!" To Carol for me :-)
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Im glad the necrosis is healed! I do kinda see what your saying about the hips sticking out.. Mine isnt flawless either.. Its hard to explain.. Next time i take binder off ill take more pics.. But its like i still have a ridge .. I mean its way better that the big fat tummy I was hauling around.. But it doesn't look "flat" ... What can we do besides vent... Lol
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Need your advice...

Hi! So it is 19 weeks.... nothing in looks has changed so thats why I havent posted a pic.. still have what seems like extra fat at my hips, but also, I swell alot ABOVE the belly button. When I went for my 12 week post op the nurse even whipped out the scale! I mean YES I did gain the 5 lbs they took off but ist it hard when you cant use abs or twist your torso?? Anyway, I am back to the gym but Im still in alot of pain.... I also still have a hard time using my abs like at the gym when I am back on the bench doing chest presses, I cant lean my bar on my belly to get up because it is extremely painful!

When I stretch it hurts, and then when Ive been sitting on my couch and get up I still get hunched as it seems like I am seizing my muscles...

I mentioned this to the surgeon, he didnt seem concerned, he didnt even press on my stomach to see if its seroma or anything. He just looked at it. I am seeing him in november for 6 month check up. I mentioned to him about my hips but he says lets see at 6 months....

Should I be calling and mentioning this pain and upper swelling still? or should I focus on getting a few lbs off again and see whats up then?
Im still going about my business, its not hindering my life BUT I do take pain pills sometimes to ease the pain. One of my rs pals that had hers done same surgeon 5 weeks prior has no pain and is feeling great!
ps, I also have the numbness and tender spots on incision but I know thats to be expected...

Any advice ladies would help!
( I am planning to have manual lypmh drainage done to see if that helps)

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I know its swelling everywhere too as Im wearing the same underwear PRE surgery and I have line digs from underwear... I cant wear cute underwear yet :(


Maybe it's still too early to exercise for you. Esp. if you're still in pain. Losing weight is mostly in your diet. I used to get very swollen above the BB after a meal, but since i lost 15 lbs from going on Isagenix I don't swell up as much. Take it easy and i hope you feel better soon!
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I took 12 weeks off of the gym.... so I should be good to go back! I am doing more cardio and only a few abs then as soon as its too much pain I stop... :)
Mcstyles - just go at your own pace - it's okay! It's not a race, we will all get there!!
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I'm writing this review 12 hours post op lol! I had a great experience with dr Perron and his staff. I only met him last oct for my consult. Then 6 weeks ago meet his nurse Lana to go thru some info and get prescriptions. She was a no bs nurse. She reminded me that this was my choice and that I'm not "sick" I need to suck it up and move around as my as possible. I was taken aback at first by her but meh, she's right! Carol was my nurse today who went thru everything I'll need to know and do for atleast this fist week. She said I'll tell you about exercise in 6 weeks. You don't need to know about that right now! Baby steps! The or nurse was nice and even the anesthesiologist. (Cute too lol) Last but not least. Dr Perron. I went with him because I know a nurse that works with him. She said GO SEE HiM he will tell you the honest truth. He doesn't need your money. He didn't try to up sell me anything. That was nice :) Today he joked around with me while he was marking me up. So he says you want both sides done? I was assuming lypo. LOL Didn't spend any time with me other than that. As for 3 stars for wait time I waited 5 months. Their soonest opening. This was because of the floods in Calgary last year. He was affected. In that the elevator in the building was broken. All in all I am so happy I did this pain and all!!'

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