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The Breast Question - Buffalo, IL
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I'm really looking for true insight here. Not...
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I'm really looking for true insight here. Not just: having a BA will change your life, or everything is perfect after you have boobs.
I want to know how you see yourself now that you've gone through with it, what was the best part, the worst part, why you're happy you did it....
It all started in middle school. I was small vs other girls I thought looked like high schoolers. We are all so impressionable at that age. (I've talked about this with my therapist!....I think everybody should at some point or another.) well, I accepted my fate. My older sister had tiny breasts too so I knew that was it. I decided to focus my energy on being good at school. I told myself: don't get down you're good at other things, you're just not beautiful like those other girls. That sounds wakeful now that I type it. Ugh. I'm a pretty confident person until it comes to boobs.
In the bedroom I rarely let my husband touch them let alone look at them. I've been trying to get over this for ten years. It bothers both of us. I wonder if this could change without me getting a BA?
Sooo my questions are:
1-Can I muster up the courage to get the breasts that a BA can give me? (Yes)
2-Will I have regrets after I have a BA?
3-Do they ever really feel like mine?
4-Will I have better sex without being so self conscious about how i look?
5-How long will they last without needing revision?
I want to know how you see yourself now that you've gone through with it, what was the best part, the worst part, why you're happy you did it....
It all started in middle school. I was small vs other girls I thought looked like high schoolers. We are all so impressionable at that age. (I've talked about this with my therapist!....I think everybody should at some point or another.) well, I accepted my fate. My older sister had tiny breasts too so I knew that was it. I decided to focus my energy on being good at school. I told myself: don't get down you're good at other things, you're just not beautiful like those other girls. That sounds wakeful now that I type it. Ugh. I'm a pretty confident person until it comes to boobs.
In the bedroom I rarely let my husband touch them let alone look at them. I've been trying to get over this for ten years. It bothers both of us. I wonder if this could change without me getting a BA?
Sooo my questions are:
1-Can I muster up the courage to get the breasts that a BA can give me? (Yes)
2-Will I have regrets after I have a BA?
3-Do they ever really feel like mine?
4-Will I have better sex without being so self conscious about how i look?
5-How long will they last without needing revision?
UPDATED FROM Precious22
17 days pre
Consulting PS with my questions
Information is a powerful thing. My heart tells me I'd love to have breasts, my spirit fears the unknown, my mind says do the research. I've scheduled an appointment to discuss my questions. Hopefully I'll be in a better place to make a wise decision.
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December 3, 2013
Hi there Precious22!! I hope you find what you are looking for to answer your questions. You are off to a good start being here methinks. Lots of luck.
December 3, 2013
I went through a similar search. I say give your self plenty of time ( a couple of months or more) to do research, think, pray, talk, go to consultations, etc. I'm glad I went through with it myself.
December 3, 2013
Yes, it's been in my mind for almost 3 years now. And reading about it, searching for several months now. I'm the person, though, that procrastinates. I've got to make a decision!
December 3, 2013
I had implants in 2000. My experience growing up was much the same as yours. Feeling less than feminine and feeling 'why not just take care of it?'
flash forward 13 years. I've had these pretty nice looking boobs for awhile now, but I've come to dislike them. They aren't 'me'. I realize it's complicated... since our femininity is very much tied to these things. In this time, I took up ballet... and really started to appreciate how beautiful a smaller breasted woman can be. I'd always been a runner, but never knew what it would be like to continue with larger breasts (not fun). Maybe after having them for awhile, I realized how much I didn't need them and how much I really liked being smaller. Wish I knew then what I knew now. I wouldn't have done it. I'm considering an explant now.
Mostly what I learned is to appreciate what my body can do. It's a tough sell, I know. Worst case scenario... go ahead and have them for awhile then remove them when you get tired of them, like I am. I'm lucky though... I had no capsular contraction and my skin is in good shape. I'll probably be a bit deflated and flat, but I've seen pics of other ladies here and I'm optimistic my girls will spring back pretty well. Albeit, not as cute as they were before I did this.
December 3, 2013
Thank you for your candor. Funny that I've been thinking of worst case scenario and it seems worth it at times. Just knowing how I'd feel with breasts. It IS a hard sell because you've experienced the elation and the disappointment and I think most of us small boobied girls just want to know. And a lot of people like my friend look great. She also got them in her mid thirties.
December 3, 2013
Btw, it takes a lot of courage to did what you did! Congratulations on being true to yourself....good luck healing
December 3, 2013
My best advice then, is not to get the implant surgery done until you save enough for both the implant AND the explant/revision down the road. Just take that extra 5-10K and put it in a safe place so that you always know it can be managed later on if complications arise or you just get tired of it. That way you aren't stuck. With the prevalence of implants these days, almost everyone can tell they aren't natural just based on the size of your body and the size of the implant. It's like, we're all pre-packaged now. I'm looking forward to looking unique again... and not like everyone else. Sorry. I've changed a lot in my thinking since 2000.
UPDATED FROM Precious22
16 days pre
My stats
I'm 5'0", 105lb, 35 yrs old.
Married for a decade and four kids.
Always been small. Breasts never filled an A cup.
I've wanted a B cup since high school.
I'm going back and forth about the procedure but last night I thought I should do it and take a chance on living a little. I'm not in high school so I know it has to be a calculated and responsible risk. I have little people to take care of ....and one big person ;) and me!
Married for a decade and four kids.
Always been small. Breasts never filled an A cup.
I've wanted a B cup since high school.
I'm going back and forth about the procedure but last night I thought I should do it and take a chance on living a little. I'm not in high school so I know it has to be a calculated and responsible risk. I have little people to take care of ....and one big person ;) and me!
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December 3, 2013
I wish this website had been around ten years ago when I had my BA done and like rays1 says, I wish I knew then what I know now because I would have never had mine done.
I had my BA ten years ago and am desperately waiting for an explant because they've ruptured and the silicone is spreading and causing my lymph nodes to become enlarged!
They never really feel like your own & I hated people knowing I'd had mine done.
I went from never filling an A cup to just filling a D cup but have spent the last ten years waking up at night worrying that I've ruptured them by laying on them! they always feel cold & I always had pain in one of them. I personally don't think it's worth it and I pondered having it done, weighing up the pros and cons for ten years before deciding to just go for it!
December 3, 2013
Do you have a date for removal? That's too bad. So sorry you had complications. I've heard that they feel cold and some people don't feel like they Are theirs. Going to a d is pretty ambitious. I'm staying small. If I go for it I'll stay in the b cup category. I don't want big ones.
December 7, 2013
I'm still waiting for a date for my removal :-( I had my pre-op assessment on Tues and was told it could still be another 4-6 weeks yet! My breasts hurt, my swollen lymph nodes hurt and I can't sleep properly. The surgeon told me he was going to give me b cups as I said I didn't want to go big, I just wanted to fit in my clothes properly. I'm 5'7" tall and I only weigh around 118 pounds, I tried 32 C bras which fitted but they would stretch and get too big around my ribs making them uncomfortable and when I put a few pounds on I was able to wear 34 B bras, so the implants probably are B cup size. I have next to no breast tissue so whether I put weight on or not, my actual breast stays the same size and they don't actually look bigger than a B/C. In fact, I've had loads of people say...."You've had a boob job? What did you have before...Nothing?! Because they're not exactly big!" and to be honest, I've felt almost as self concious about my implants as I was about being flat chested :-(
I hope you choose the right decision for you but I think you look great in your pictures, it doesn't look like your breasts are saggy or wrinkly but small and perky, which is nice and I wish mine were like that! I know that's probably not what you want to hear though.
December 7, 2013
Forgot to say.... I'm pretty sure my implants were 250cc, I can't find my papers but I remember reading the size not long ago.
December 8, 2013
That's the size I was considering. Putting it on hold now. Good luck to you too with the silicone issue.
December 8, 2013
So are you going to put saline implants Or undecided yet? Thanks for the compliment. My husband says that and I say reallY? I guess I'm going to appreciate myself more
December 8, 2013
I'm glad you're putting it on hold and are going to try to appreciate yourself more :-) I'm not having any more put in at all but I don't think I would have the option to have saline one's with my surgeon anyway. My husband says he will love me even without any breasts at all so hopefully I won't feel too bad about myself after they're out. I'm am scared in case I look deformed though or if the surgeon damages my nipples at all because the ruptures are so bad.
December 3, 2013
Hi Precious! I am 34 a mother of 4. I have wanted to have my breasts done my entire life, and it was always something I thought about, never something I thought would actually happen. 2 years ago, my husband gave me the go ahead (financially) and I was off on my research. I had a surgery date scheduled and everything. Life happened and I had to spend my BA $ on something else, so had to cancel. Fast forward to July of this year, and I have saved the money again. (I didn't ever want to finance them). I was disappointed the entire two years, although I had resolved myself to the idea that my BA was probably not going to happen. Oh well, I made it this long right? My husband, knowing me as well as he does, and loving me as much as he does, he insisted that I go have it done with the money we had saved. He said "What is life worth if you cannot see your dreams and desires realized." I had major guilt when it came to actually spending the money, and that would be my only regret thus far, if you could even call it a regret. The way I look at it, most people spend what I did on a 10 day vacation and all they have left are souveniers, pictures and memories. I have something that will be with me for a long time, will boost my confidence, my husband will enjoy them, and I will have them for many years! We have started a fund already for revision if necessary, or a re-do when needed. I don't think these implants will change me, but I do feel like they will improve on what was already here. I am convinced my sex life will improve, I know my husband has already enjoyed them! The courage for you will come and go; I wanted to cancel two days before my procedure, but that is normal. This is a very personal decision, one only you really know the answer to! Good Luck and I look forward to following your progress!
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