Tummy Tuck: Stories

Thank You!!!! I really enjoyed reading your comment. :))
Everyday I love my new tummy more and more, sometimes a few times a day I would watch my stomach in the mirror and it's like a dream come true to have a nice flat stomach that you've always wanted your whole life.
I plan on getting a nice tattoo over my scar in the future, excited about that. My husband asked me on Sunday did you weigh yourself? I said no he said you should and see how much youve lost, I think he thinks I look thinner....well I know I dont look five months pregnant anymore. I will post pics soon....TAKE CARE AND GOD BLESS!!!! :))

I am so glad that your husband came around for you...:). It is so important to have the support of our loved ones and significant others. We kind of want their approval but at the same time even if we do not receive it, it is important to us to feel good about ourselves regardless of others opinions. I told my boyfriend and my parents and they were both fine with it. My mom of course was worried but she doesn't see me but every few years so she hasn't seen the weight flucuations I have gone through. I have told her and now she understands why I did this. She even sent me some money to hire someone to stay with me if I couldn't get anyone to help out. She is so sweet...:). Always looking out for me.

My boyfriend told me before surgery that he loved me just the way I was but didn't have a problem with me wanting to improve myself and gain more confidence. He loves the new me even more...lol. He took care and is still taking care of me throught the whole healing process. I wouldn't want it any other way. However, I did make some promises to him that when I lost the weight and felt more confident about my body there would be some new things I would try, like wearing lingerie...lol. Now he is holding me to it...lmao. He is right, I have nothing to be ashamed of now so why not???? Time to make a trip to either fredricks of hollywood or victorias secret...:).

Are you going to be able to post any before and after photos of your transformation? Would really like to see your new tummy...:) Good luck and GOd bless girlie! Take care...

Girl, you did the right thing doing this for yourself! Sometimes when men don't understand something or have control over it they will lash out. You are right that he should want his wife to look good and maybe that is the problem. He is worried that you are going to have start beating guys off with a stick. He is worried and jealous. At the same time, you shouldn't have to put up with such childish behavior. I know because I was married to a man who watch porn, create porn sites, viewed other porn sites, and drank beer all day long while I worked my butt off. I was miserable. So were my kids. So I finally left and I am able to live my life the way I want to and do things for myself for a change. And now I walk with my head held high and big smile on my face...

You should never feel guilty for wanting to improve yourself and maybe he will come around once he sees how happy you are with the new you. who knows, maybe it will be like starting over for the two of you when he comes around...:). I wish you luck and congratulations on the new you!

My husband thought I was doing it for him (boobs and TT). He told me he thinks I'm beautiful as is and don't need any surgery.

I said "What makes you think this has anything to do with YOU?" :)

Men don't get that this isn't about them. It's about reclaiming yourself, or reinventing yourself the way you always wanted to be. They don't get that those stretch marks and blobby bits are always on our minds, every time we can't button a pair of pants or scowl at our reflections in another awful swimsuit!

He's come around (I'm sure it helped that we have separate finances, I'm footing the bill, and he'll get to play with the results), and will be taking 2 weeks off to take care of me and the kids after my surgery. I feel very lucky.

I hope you are in love with your new waistline...I can't wait to be in love with my new body (5/31!!)

good for you for being strong and going through with it. I'm so happy for you. I wish you a speedy recovery and would love to see the postop pics. All the best !

I love the honesty on this site and the support the ladies give. My husband was NOT supportive of my tt(march 2nd) at first, it took months to get him to even respond to me when I would bring it up. Finally he talked to a friend of mine who told him its not about him and to stop being so selfish. It actually worked and he has been on board ever since. No marriage is perfect,and men certainly could use a manual on how to treat women,lol, but us ladies on here understand what your going through. Some guys think that once you feel better about your body, it wont be long before you find someone else. This might be causing him to shut down and be unsupportive. Totally silly of course,but we are talking about men here. So glad you went for it anyway!!

I enjoy reading your updates! I know how you feel. I am 3 weeks Post op and hate the feeling of standing up straight, feels like I am going to rip open! I also hate the feeling of hunching over like an old lady, its really taking a toll on my body. My husband, yes a porn watcher and drinker too;) Empower your self silently! I do everyday, nothing makes you feel better than looking good, as a fellow woman I understand. Just take it all with a grain of salt and smile and be beautiful everday:o)Sometimes Men get worried about their wives looking "too good" Godbless!

Hi!!! I am 32 years.....Yes soooo many wife that have support from their husband but I am not one of them....we have been together 15 years now.....I sometimes feel sorry for myself going through this alone but Thank God my mom and aunt are supportive and been there for me and helping me tru this. Take care!!!

Virgo, tell him the truth. We don't care what men think. We want other women to look at us in envy and ask, how old are you??? lol My husband has been very supportive. Sorry yours hasn't.

TT Done,
Girl
YOu have the best support around you, your auntie and most of all your children they will always support you in everything you do..seat back, relax spent quality time with them..Don't do too much..

I'm one day post op Ftt/flank lp and first night was not bad. went to my ps this morning and they were very pleased with my results and my standing position. I drink plenty of Kangen water/and I do walk every 4 hours with meds..lol.Do the best you can do..we do not need to be stressed in a time like this..keep a dairy of positive things and you will feel better..like think about the up coming summer/shopping HAHA!!

Look at it this way, if he's speechless now, wait until he sees the results! He is probably intimidated that you will look great, gain confidence and dump him...

Girl don't worry about not having support from your husband you have the support from all your surgery sisters here on real self. I'm glad you are doing well. Each day gets better with time. Don't try to do too much in one day really take this time to relax and heal that is whats best for your body!

Good luck to you!!!!