WOW! One year anniversary!

Hello! I am a 45 year old mom of two. Both born by cesarean. The second baby was 10lbs and my belly couldnt handle it. Pre baby years I had flat abs because I enjoy exercise. And i still exercise alot but it is clear an abdominalplasty is the only thing that is going to help my abs. I have been wrestling with the thought of surgery for years. Saying to myself "stop being so vain" or "its not that bad.". But every day I hate what I see when I am in the shower, gettting dressed, sitting.... I am tired of tucking in my belly before I sit or tucking in my shirt at the gym or anywhere else that if I bent over somebody might see what is actually under there. I have a consultation appointment with a PS that was recommended to me by a friend who has gone to her a couple of times. She is affiliated with MGH which is where I wanted to go. I am going to try to keep this from a lot of people I know because I dont want to hear any negative comments about how skinny I already am, or that I am crazy or something. If they find out after than it will be done already and I wont have been discouraged. My husband didnt even flinch when I told him I was doing this and that is a big deal! Honestly the only thing I am worried about is the recovery and if the boys will be able to handle laundry and keeping up the other things around the house.