7 Months Post Detailed Update
- updated 7 months ago
I am a 39 yo mother of 5 kids, each over 9lbs, uh...
- 25 May 2012
- 5 months pre
I am a 39 yo mother of 5 kids, each over 9lbs, uh huh!! They are now 17,16,13,8, & 5. So that pretty much explains why my bod looks like it was hit by wrecking balls. That plus my battle of the bulge over the past 20 years. I gained 30, 45, 60, 60, and 55 each pregnancy and only lost the weight once for a little while. I think I was 220 at my highest. I'm 5'8 and average build. Last fall I was topping out at 197 and I decided enough was enough. I knew i needed to make serious changes but did not have the inner strength to carry it out on my own. Pretty much pick any day on the calendar from the past 10 years...that was the day i was really gonna do it this time!! Fail!!
So instead of repeating that failing pattern i found a great trainer and have since lost over 45 lbs yay!!!! Body fat has gone from 45% to 24%, yay again!!! I'm still working on another 10 lbs and hope to maintain 20% body fat +/- and stay under 145 as a rule. I actually RAN my first ever 5k last saturday! And i hate running. Gone from size 16 to 10. I cannot believe I am in mediums! My waist is a whole size larger than the rest so i either have a huge muffin top ora super saggy booty. To have pants fit right everywhere has been a fantasy for 17 years!
The weightloss is great and I'm really proud ive done/am doing this. BUT! My gut sits on my lap, lays next to me in bed, spills over the top of my jeans, and like another mom on here said, hangs off the front of me like a big scrotum! Lol! I've known since wrecking ball #1 that I would eventually get a tummy tuck. looking at all the before and after pics makes me want new boobies though. I would love to have sex with my awesome hubby and not cover the gut or have my pancakes slide off the sides of my chest...*sigh*.
Too self conscious. I'm not a vain person and am pretty low maintenance, so I feel weird about this, but I also feel like " why the heck not do everything I can to be confident, hot, sexy body wise?" for myself and for hot hubby. I'm already secure and confident and would love to have the monkey on my tummy literally removed! Hubby loves me the way I am and he means it but he also supports any decision I make in this area. He wants me to have all the confidence I need so we can really experience a passionate life in every way. I hold back in the nakey department.
I decided I'm going to use this to completely...
- 1 Jun 2012
- 4 months pre
Call me silly but how do I upload photos from an...
- 1 Jun 2012
- 4 months pre
K, hubby and I had our first consult this week....
- 30 Jun 2012
- 4 months pre
Anyway, the good news is that I won't need a lift at all and I have a lot of good breast tissue despite nursing my 5 wrecking balls. He recommended saline over the muscle. His tummy tuck and breast aug pics are amazing. He is very focused and perfectionist. Belly buttons are beautiful. Super clinical, not all warm and fuzzy. I don't care about that side as much as I do about how excellent his work is. After asking him about all the things I've read here about doing silicone under as the most preferred way he still recommended saline over. My goal for boobies is to restore fullness, I have a good shape to my girls but they are not as full anymore.
Any advise??? Anyone have saline over and been happy/unhappy, rippling etc??? Most reviews on this site are doing silicone under so I'm conflicted.
So I like that he is in town and easily accessible, work is fabulous, but I'm going to Utah to meet with a couple of highly recommended and well reviewed ps's soon. Apparently going to anyone else in Boise is a mistake, so Utah is my next closest option.
Any Utah mommy makeovers out there? I will gladly take any recommendations!
All of you are looking beautiful, I can't wait to be on the flat side with you!
I'm still grueling about whether or not to do it...
- 24 Jul 2012
- 3 months pre
So after reading everyone's stories I'm left with 2 questions:
1). For those of you who traveled, who did you're after care, stitches &'drain removal, checkups etc.?
( I'm very reluctant to have anyone here do that for me. I live in a small community and everyone knows each other and word spreads fast, plus I'm friends with our family dr and don't want him to know either).
2). Did anyone do a MM and then do lipo later?
If this seems to work out well I think I could get away with staying in town for my MM. Advice my fellow MMers?
I'm having a consult in Utah Friday! This ps was...
- 15 Aug 2012
- 2 months pre
After this I'm pretty sure I'll have made a decision and will hopefully have this MM on the calendar and official.
*****Is anyone else's realself feed looking weird? Either everyone has stopped posting at once, or the website managers changed settings. I keep seeing the same old posts when I look around on here. Where are you all???*****
So, we went to Utah and met the doc there. He has...
- 26 Aug 2012
- 2 months pre
So, after we got home and discussed, it felt better to stay here in town. I'm going to trust my gut and stay here. Plus, get this, the Utah doc is a COSMETIC surgeon, NOT A board certified plastic surgeon! The Boise ps IS. So I called the next day and the patient scheduler is OUT OF TOWN! Dangit! So I'm waiting til this coming week to book. I'm going nuts!
I'm still working out and eating a consistently clean diet and my body is still changing. Weight is starting to drop a little more, more tone, definition. I thought I was where I would stay, but guess it was a plateau. As soon as I get my date I wil update again! I'm so ready to get on that operating table TODAY!
Happy tummies and boobies ladies! You all look so great, thanks for your stories! Can't wait to join you all!
Oh wow, its official! Did any of you have a...
- 29 Aug 2012
- 2 months pre
Made rice sizers last night. Wore a set to cook and serve breakfast to kids this morning. No one noticed! It was funny cuz last night, i was modeling a bunch of shirts with the different sizers, then i snuck the sizers out and said to hubby, "what about these?".
He looked over, squinting, and said after a beat, "those arent even worth getting, what the heck size are those?". I started LOL and shouted, "thats ME!". He died! I was great!
Also, my friend who had my PS do her reconstruction after another doc in town did a horrible BA, showed me her boobies today! They look very natural and are quite beautiful. Made me feel good about my choice.
My current stats are
40 y.o. (had a bday)
breastfed 5 huge babies, for a total of 5 years of my life. Not consecutive.
Had first mammogram ever, SQUISH! So last...
- 14 Sep 2012
- 26 days pre
So last night I read a bunch of the "explant" stories in the implant removal section of realself. I recommend not doing that if you are a flip-flopper like me. I asked hubby what he thought of me for wanting to do it and he gave really great answers. I think I have my head wrapped around this the right way now.
I put a countdown app on my iPhone, it's so fun to check it occasionally and see how soon this is going down!
Thanks for all your stories and all the details, it's very supportive to have this site!
Hey you post op gals, do you think it's feasible...
- 26 Sep 2012
- 14 days pre
I got a call from the medical imaging office that...
- 27 Sep 2012
- 13 days pre
Just had my pre op! He told me that the final BA...
- 1 Oct 2012
- 9 days pre
What do you advise my fellow boobie fluffers?
So I Had a follow-up mammogram and the results...
- 5 Oct 2012
- 5 days pre
The funny part is that the day after my surgery my kids are out of school for the rest of that week, and it's very very busy for those two days off. We have parent teacher conferences for five children! +3 dentist appointments, tons of activities and birthday parties for them, and more! But, I will be in bed so dear husband gets to handle all of that LOL!
4 days & 18 hours to go!!!! Oh yes, I'm putting up all new pics, I've lost 10 more lbs, down to 144!
24 hours from now I'll be home from my MM! I think...
- 9 Oct 2012
- 1 day pre
Im so doped up right now but I'm posting anyway....
- 10 Oct 2012
- Day of treatment
I'm totally loopy and tired from norco &valium, my new bestest fwiends!
Dr griffiths and staff were great, LOVED the anesthesiologist.
Peace out homegirls!
So I'm still loopy, but thought I'd update again...
- 12 Oct 2012
- 2 days post
Sleep is calling, sweet dreams and. Happy recovering my dear MM friends!
I got 339 silicone under the muscle btw. They...
- 12 Oct 2012
- 2 days post
Check out me pics. We just changed my dressings,...
- 13 Oct 2012
- 3 days post
My diastasis repair is tender if I overdo it(so i...
- 15 Oct 2012
- 5 days post
Any advice ladies? :(
Ok so a couple different topics to cover. Both are...
- 17 Oct 2012
- 7 days post
First I had my 2nd post op yesterday. I'm not a big baby. But I cried twice. He showed my hubby how to "massage" (torture) my implants 4 x a day. I lay down flat, he "gently" uses both hands to maneuver the implant from the bottom of my breast up into my neck, oops I meant collarbone, to keep the pocket open. Once it's at the collarbone, hold for 10 long, arduous, torturous, excruciating seconds, then ease it back down. Repeat on the other side. Do 4x a day. Did I mention that it hurts and that it has to be 4xa day? As he does it I'm making "the pain face", writhing, and crying out. Big fat :(!!! I'm a seriously tough chick by anyone's standards! LADIES, just be aware of what may be required. I totally understand that doing everything he says will give me the BEST results so I'll do it. This will keep the pocket open, decrease future problems, and give me what I want. As I cried on his table right after this little teaching session he said, "beauty can be painful". He's right. If I knew it would hurt like this, I would have seriously reconsidered the BA. Honest truth. Maybe it's because I have extra dense tissue. He said he would teach me how to do all the massages in a couple of visits, can't wait for that!
So the tummy is healing up very nicely. No more dressings on the incision, just keep wearing the cg. I do have to keep my drains at least another week. So here's the drain lesson.
Some ps's look for quantity, some look for color.
All the capillaries and lymphatic system are severed between your skin flap and abdominal wall during a TT. those systems need to regenerate and reconnect during the healing process, and the sooner the better. The more you move, twist, bend, reach, and the less you rest, the longer you prevent healing. (swell hell) for those without drains now. This causes all those new capilaries that are trying to form and connect to sever and bleed, causing red, cranberry colored drainage. This is bad. Ive read some of your posts wondering why your once nearly clear drainage becomes red once you increase your activity. This is why. The more immobile, the less abdominal usage, the more robot like you are ( not twisting etc), the quicker you heal, the less you swell etc. Your drainage will appear more like apple juice, this is good, this is what you want. This means doing VERY LITTLE! Means everything is healing quickly and effectively for the best possible outcome. So I have to keep my drains in because I've been overdoing it ( even though I'm seriously on my butt all day!) k, I admit it wiped the counters and super lightly damp moped but that's really all I did. Guess what my output is? Less than 10 cc's every 12 hours! But my color is wrong. So today and from now on, I am officially parked for real, even though I thought I already was. So that was cry # 2. I was a bad patient, I wanted to be the perfect patient and didn't pass inspection, plus I wanted the freakin drains out. But at least I shed the tears in the car. I have since pulled up my big girl panties. I think those emo days of recovery have been about now.
Cranberry drainage, bad! apple juice drainage, good!
All ps' are different and require different levels of discipline for recovery!
So far I still love that I've taken this journey, yes it's different and harder than I thought, but it's a learning time for sure! I will love my tummy, and once these ridiculous implants quit causing torture sessions, I will love them too. I love that even though my ps is emotionally removed (I don't know how one could do what he does and not be, he is reknown for and specializes in children's craniofacial deformities and issues), he is a true perfectionist, knows exactly what to do and does it. Im glad he doesn't take shortcuts.
I responded to another post with my first memories...
- 20 Oct 2012
- 10 days post
My first memory was waking up barely, hubby handi g me flowers and the ps saying"she won't be aware of those for awhile" and kinda back handing them immediately away. Lol! Read my description of him on my review. Then very foggy and groggy waking up to ps showing hubby how to strip my drains. I thought I was conversing with them and commenting on it but I just asked my hub what he remembered and he said I was grunting and groaning, head rolling around, not one coherent word!! Haha!! My mind was talking, not my mouth! I don't remember any pain at all, a little discomfort. Whatever they did gave me amnesia about anything painful. Hubby said I was backseat driving him the whole way home, don't remember that! At home the first several days were mildly uncomfortable but easily controlled by painpump and meds. Since then the most pain has come from sewn up abs and the implants, my incision has never hurt. On a 1-10 scale probably worst was a 5?
K, so my first several times peeing we're strange. It would come out in small tinkles at a time cuz my bladder needed to wake up I guess. I planned to just stay there til I knew I was empty, tinkling tiny bits at a time.
Last several days after I get settled in and relax, I get this tingling sensation that races around my waist back and hips going one way then the other all around in a circle like a belt. Can't feel it at all on the front though. Nerves regenerating? It feels tickly and soft like a small electric current.
I can feel the internal sutures under my skin! They start at the sternum and go all the way down to the pubic bone! Those are waking up, meaning I can feel the skin now, before it was the inside I could feel.
Titty torture continues and is like a 7,8 on pain scale only during, 4 x a day.
Latest development that is most annoying is INSOMNIA!!! I've had it all week! No naps, maybe 3 hours of sleep a night. Last night I googled at 4am and its a common side effect of coming off norco/ hydrocodone. Really hope it ends soon!!! Anyone else have this? Drank sleep tea and took melatonin. Tea worked.
I went to target today and rode the electic cart. It was good to get out! Now I'm going to attempt a nap. All is well, boobs still high, incision looks better daily, still scabby, I've only had one extra strength Tylenol in the last 4 days. Drain output is 10 ml in 24 hours.
Got my drains out today!! Hooray! It was just like...
- 23 Oct 2012
- 13 days post
So my husband tells dr griffiths that my left implant isn't going as high as it used to during titty torture. Dr griffiths pushes down on it and moves the implant up, gives it an extra little 'push' where it stops, and pop! Pop! My pectoral pocket rips back open! I guess it was trying to heal back together, hence the need for titty torture. Did it hurt? Yes, but I didn't cry this time! Felt like a muscle tearing, because that's what it was, and at the end of the day now, it's tender but not awful. We will continue "aggressive massage" for the next 2 weeks and then he will teach me new massages that hubby won't have to inflict upon me.
I love my binder. Without it I feel like a bowl of rapidly melting jelly. I would actually like to stiffen it up somehow, foam, a board, idk. I do not see myself parting with it any time soon.
My most discomfort now is my intense back soreness. Does anyone have a suggestion on how to relieve it? I do not want to take norco for it and extra strength Tylenol does very little for it. I'm trying a heating pad, it feels nice but I need other options. Any ideas ladies?
Happy healing, and best wishes to you upcoming skinny mamas!
Had an appt Yesterday for a precautionary seroma...
- 30 Oct 2012
- 20 days post
My tummy Is still healing well and my scabs have fallen off. My scar is looking good, I am experiencing some swelling by evening time but it is not unbearable. Time is my friend at this point.
My back pain is gone also which is wonderful! I would say at this time my greatest discomfort comes in finding a sleep position that works. I can't sleep on my side for another two weeks, flat on my back only works for a little while, and propping myself up with pillows still seems to be the most comfortable. I need to change positions often though which is a pain in the hiney! I start feeling little twinges and sharp pains, and odd sensations that cause me to have to shift around a lot. Sleeping flat on my back for a couple of nights has really helped me to be able to stand up straighter during the day though from the muscle repair.
Dr. said I can start walking now for fitness, he said work my way up to 2 miles and see how I feel, I'm excited to do that! It's really hard to have to hold myself back all the time even though I know I'm still healing.
Looking back over the past three weeks, the first week seems like a dream from where I am now. So hang in there ladies you can make it!
5 weeks post op. Things are going great still. I...
- 15 Nov 2012
- 1 month post
I am beginning to feel a tad flabby and really want to keep my tone Ive worked so hard for and take this old body to the next level and really lean down. Not looking to lose weight, Im down to 142 now and am happy with my size, just replace more fat with muscle. My trainer told me I would need 2 months of training for every month I take off. I have absolutely NO butt, so my main goal will be to build what I can down there.
When I twist or lift things I have no pain and only minor discomfort occassionally. Im still being careful though per PS instructions. I think my belly button is teeny tiny. Im going to ask my PS about using an earplug or marble to shape it.
Tomorrow I take bras in to have my PS approve the right kind of shape he wants me to use. I think my breasts look huge at times. They are not swollen at all anymore and I have really been enjoying them ;)
At 7 weeks, Im back to life as usual. My surgery...
- 29 Nov 2012
- 1 month post
Exercise: Ive been cleared to resume all exercise and all normal activities, but I must avoid all pectoral exercises permanently or risk the BA. Abs, I can resume all regular ab work in another 3 months while the muscle repair continues to heal, but for now I can do pilates, yoga, isometric type ab work that doesnt require repetitive flexing and contracting. Running feels wrong in the ab area but building back up to it will help that. My cardio endurance is surprisingly good, I thought it would be dismal. My muscle endurance has definitely taken a hit though. It will return though as I resume everything.
Breast update: I was cleared to ditch the strap!! Lefty has been behaving better and is dropping. Righty is almost in place. Dr. G. approved some bras I brought in and told me I could start wearing them full time once my implants have both dropped all the way. Until then I need to remain bra-less. Tanks with the built-in soft bra are ok though. I could wear a bra temporarily if necessary but instructed to take off asap. He wants me to wear under wire with a molded cup (which I prefer and always wore anyway), with no lift or pushup features. Sports bras must have a cup. No compression bras at all, ever. I went to Macys and was sized at a 34DD or a 36D. Im actually going back today to return unapproved bras and get re-sized cuz the D's I bought feel too big in the cup and they make me look way too big when Im dressed. If the size is right, its a look and feel that I will have to get used to. My scars have softened up and are no longer lumpy or palpable. I will post an update pic. They are still very visible and pink, to touch, they are almost undetectable they have healed so well. I am really enjoying how they are looking and feeling. My implants cause no more pain or discomfort. I have all sensation. I am to maintain them daily by pressing down my my nipple and pulling down and pressing toward my ribcage. This causes the implant to move upward toward my collarbone which will keep that pocket open. Its painless. I guess all the titty torture paid off!
TT update: I dont need to wear my velcro abdominal binder anymore. I stopped wearing it 2 weeks ago and havent missed it like I thought I would. He approved the cupid walmart waist cincher if I feel like I need it. I still have swelling of course, but its minimal. The scar is healing well still. He said the double muffin look on the hips is from the scar shrinking and pulling in as it heals and will not look like that for long. I was getting nervous about that so Im glad to know its temporary. That double muffin effect has already lessened since my last visit. He said I dont need to put anything on it unless it makes me feel better, but he recommends getting the TT silicone scar strips if I start to get too itchy. I may order them, but they are pricey. I am using Palmers Scar Therapy oil twice a day, it does make me feel better to use it and is very moisturizing to the surrounding skin. My belly button is looking better as time passes. As my swelling improves, its relaxing and looking good. I havent used a marble or ear plug but I may try it if I think its still too small after another month or 2.
I dont know if I already posted this, but one very cool benefit from the TT is that it gave my "hoo-ha" a lift. Im so happy about that! Its not that pretty cuz all my deep horrible stretch mark scars are now flattened out and on full display (I'll try and post a pic that isnt too personal), but it makes all the sensations in the nether region readily available, for the first time in decades! Before, there was so much loose skin that it took serious maneuvering and gymnastics and positioning to get anything going. Hooray! Not only is my body image confidence back, but the sensations are easier than ever to achieve! Hooray!!!
Over thanksgiving week(6 wks post op) we went to CA, and to Disneyland. I went on all the rides and only felt like one ride was a little too jerky. I did swell more than usual by the end of the day, and it lasted into the next day, but other than that, I was fine. No extra fatigue or pain etc.
I do get very tired at night. Night physically, but just dead tired. Its deeper than pre surgery so I will assess and see if it improves given time and healing.
Ive recently been through a mental phase of overly criticizing my body, wishing Id had lipo of the flanks, noticing how pathetic my butt is and how flat as a board and uncurvy I am on my backside, etc etc. What Ive realized is that lipo isnt the answer for me. My skin is stretched out and flaccid. Im leaner than Ive ever been and healthier than ever. Im super happy with that and I can either nitpick my body or embrace and enjoy its remaining imperfections. I can build a better booty. Now that my tummy and breasts are perfect after being so hung up on how ugly they were for 20 years, I refuse to let that body bashing tendency switch to another area. I feel very blessed to have had this surgery and will continue life with gratitude and health, in spite of my other physical flaws. I will not get hung up on that negativity again, life is too short.
I dont need to see my PS until next October for my one year follow up unless something comes up or I feel the need.
Life is busy around here and its hard to find private time to update, comment, and post pics, but Id like to keep updating every couple weeks and make it to the year mark. I really appreciate the gals who have done that to let us all see the full story of what this surgery is about. Ill update photos soon and put together a few progression pics. Im watching you all even though I may not be commenting much. Blessings, happy healing, and congrats to all us Mommy Makeover Sisters! Mwah!!!
This will be short, I'm on my phone. Things have...
- 6 May 2013
- 7 months post
Ill post updated pics soon. Probably use them as before/after of my little lean down challenge. Hope you are all healing nicely and enjoying your journey!!!
If you want perfection and the absolute best results for you, go to him. If you want charisma, charm, salesmanship, go somewhere else. Griffiths is a perfectionist is all senses of the word. You will never have a long wait, he will always take time with you, bring your questions, and if you have questions after your procedure,day or night, he gives you his personal cell # and is quick to reply personally. His work is hands down the best I've seen, in person, pictures, etc.