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First Consultation !! Not as I planned. I need to loose weight first

Hi everyone, I am 31 and a mother of 3...

Hi everyone, I am 31 and a mother of 3 (12,6,3)(all C-sections)and married. When I met my husband 10 years ago, I was 115. After the last two I am currently weighing 180 at 4'11. I dont look like 180 most people assume 150-160. However, I am so unhappy with my stomach. I have the muffin top with pants on, and a stomach that sticks out like im pregnant with dresses. I think I look smaller in black dresses if I encourage myself to wear it due to the insecurity.

I am beyound insecure regarding my stomach. I usually wear bigger tops or sweaters to make my stomach look smaller. I am constantly putting my purse, or what ever is in my hand in front of my stomach when I am talking to people. When I sit down I am covering my stomach by folding my arms.

I have decided within the last month, that I want a tummy tuck. I spoke with my doc and she is going to start the process of clearing me medically within the next week. I am hoping to consult with different PS's and have a scheduled surgery as soon as Feb. ** Do you guys think that is a realistic time frame?** My husband think I am nuts and wonders if I can live with the scar....I said to him " ARE YOU ASKING IF I CAN LIVE WITH A SCARE OR CONTINUE TO LIVE WITH THREE ROLLS OF STOMACH?) SCAR IT IS!!! I told him. Overall he supports me and understands that this is for me and not for him or anyone else. When I get dressed I am always saying how an outfit could look so much better on me if I didnt have the stomach.

I am lookig for a PS in the Chicago area (I have found plenty on-line) but I am wondering if anyone had surgery with an Chicago PS and can give some realistic feedback besides the pics I view on all these PS's websites... or can tell me what are some of the main points I want to consider when consulting.

My primary doctor recommended 3 PS...and I decided...

My primary doctor recommended 3 PS...and I decided that I will go ahead and make an appointment for consultation. What are some of the major or most important things I should ask during my consultation? I really want to make sure I cover everything.

Well, I am glad to know that my family members...

Well, I am glad to know that my family members support my decision. Stangely, last week my husband decided to question the fact that I want to have a TT, and thought that I should be able to go to the gym and work the fat off...and BOOM!! BAM!! FLAT TUMMY!!! Needless to say, this conversation resulted in a slight arugement, because he was making me feel guilty for wanting to have a TT, and a failure for not getting the fat off in the gym. So after an hour of pleading my case and letting him know its not that easy,(and plus he wasn't going to get me to change my mind) we agreed to disagree, and I decided that he should come to all Consultations with me and ask any questions that he may have in his mind. So I called a couple of PS offices to schedule a CS, and one office (well the person that makes the appointments) told me that I should get down to 115-120 pounds first. What! I knew right then this is not the PS office for me. Lady if I could just drop to 115 then I probably wouldnt need your services.. PLUS!!! I dont want to be 115 pounds. So the next office I called, they were very friendly, the last office had me a little insecure about my pre-surgery weight, and I asked if they requirred for me to be a certain weight at my height before even seeing me, and the lady assured me that this is the reason for the CS, and the PS makes that decision not the people that answer the phone, as every individual is different. So OK !! lets set an appointment date. 1/7/12 it is !!! Im excited and for some reason nervous. I probably will just pass out on my sugery date from nerves! LOL!! I want to know what the PS thinks!! Got my SHORT list of questions,(for some reason I think my list should be a page long). I have been trying to find more questions on this site, because I want to make sure I cover all the important stuff.

I also forgot to add, that since I want my surgery...

I also forgot to add, that since I want my surgery to be late Feb or early March, I dediced to attempt a diet challange one more time. I ordered and Elliptical and going to change my eating habits for the next two months. No crash dieting, just more excerise and less of the fatty foods. My goal is to loose 10 pounds at the least(more would be good)but at minimum 10 pounds before sugery, that will bring me to 170. So I am sure or at least hope surgery will take some pounds away. I will be comfertable at 160 (with no hanging stomach) when its all said and done. Wish me luck ladies!!

Well, my first Consultation didnt go as I planned....

Well, my first Consultation didnt go as I planned. I spent the entire morning going over the questions that I wanted to ask. I had a 10:30 appointment, the office was small but the assistants were nice. After completing paper work, I met the doctor, whom basically looked at my stomach, and suggested that I had a lot of internal fat. ;( Well thats how he described it) I would be at risk and I would get better results with less weight on my tummy. "OK! HE HAD MY ATTENTION AT THE WORD RISK!!!!!" So at that point I decided to leave my questions in my purse and really think this TT idea through.
I had already decieded on my own that I wanted to loose 10 pounds before the procedure, but I had no idea that I would be the one getting turned down. Plus, I dont want to ever be at Risk, I want to be the best canidate for surgery. But anyway, I can appreciate a doctor thats not all about the money, and can sit and really talk to a potential patient about health and dieting. So at the end, I thought he was great, and decided to cancel any other appointments, because that would look like I was searching for a YES! AND NOT A NO!. I can honestly say he had gotten me spooked about the whole thing for a minute. However, I am going to attempt to loose 20 pounds and not 10, so that would bring me to 4'11 -160P and then seek a second opinion. So far so good, I am down 4 pounds within 9 days. I have changed by eating habits, cut the fried foods and soda from my diet, overdose on water LOL!! and joined the gym. I hope to be TT ready by late March/April. Wish me luck.
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Good Luck! We share the same measurements and I understand your frustration but the doctor here in Houston said I only need to lose 15lbs. I think a lot of times they conservative doctors will recommend that. I would suggest finding a doctor in the south. Seriously the thickness is banging out here.
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I understand the disappointment on hearing "lose more". My 1st consultation told me that too....so I switched, lol. I am planning on schedualing 3 months out so lose some weight first. I'm 5'2 190. I'm new on here too, so lets journey together :)Oh, and some drs will do it even if you weigh more than they want. You just need to accept that if you lose weight, your tummy will deflate and you will need or want a revision.....
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Mommyto5, I am so glad to hear that you understand my pain!!! What all did your 1st PS tell you? I felt like a whale when I left my 1st Consultation, I never knew that "I" would be the one that get turned down. From all the TT sites and TT youtube video's, I had never knew that it was possible to get turned down!! was in shock!! On your next consultation, were you told to loose weight again? I was thinking of a second consult, but I decided to wait. Girl yes!!! Lets journey together. I hope I can have my TT done by April. Are you also trying to loose weight?
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You are making a good decision with losing a few lbs before the surgery. The last thing you want is a flat tummy and all the internal fat to not be gone and you still have a "big stomach" or not as flat. Hit the treadmill and that will help take some of the weight off that you looking to lose.... Good luck and plan to follow your journey :)
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Hi Peaches32. I knew deep down inside that I needed to loose some weight, but honestly I was expecting the TT to do most of the work. I really thought they could suck all the fat out, and BAM !!! FLAT TUMMY. I guess not. So I definitly dont want to spend thousands of dollars to still have a big stomach. I have been getting on the treadmill 4 times a week for 45min, so wish me luck, I am on week 2.
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I'm glad the ps spoke to you and didn't just schedule you for surgery. Which ps did you go to for the consult? When I try to drop a few pounds, I keep a food journal and it really helps me keep track of the stuff I eat. I'm such a horrible eater.
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LadyTaz, I went to a PS in Naperville. A food journal is a good idea, I am thinking of trying weight watchers. Any more good sugestions on loosing some weight, please feel free to share! LOL!! Im so determined to have this TT this year, I am up for trying anything that will help me loose some pounds.
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You will do great in a cardio class! I had two c-sections. I take a kickboxing class and it keeps the weight off and keeps me very toned. Don't wont big muscles looks scary on a women to me! LOL Good luck....your new look will be awesome!
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Yeah, it's amazing how many people assume that if you work your butt off in the gym, the fat rolls will vanish. If your stomach muscles are stretched, as mine were, no amount of exercise is going to fix that. My niece thought she would try and take the easy way to a flat tummy. She had 2 kids and didn't try to lose the weight. She assumed her muscles were jacked up and went on a consult with my ps. My ps told her that her muscles are fine and to exercise. He refused to do the surgery. I'm saying all this just to say.... some people are lucky to have kids and it don't do anything to their stomach muscles. Other folks... like me.... worked my butt off in the gym but it didn't do anything for my jacked up stomach area because my muscles were jacked up. Good luck on your consultations. Please keep us posted.
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Hi mops1, My husband is a gym junkie, he will even go in a snow storm. I just dont know why he think that I can go into a gym and get the results he have. He is basically muscle building and looked great and cut within a few months. I on the other hand is the one that carried the kids and had 3 c-sections. He has to understand that me and him will get different results in the gym.
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You are on the right track.  Just healthy eating and exercise.  No need to go crazy:)  Baby steps and one day at a time and you will get there.  

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Hi Kimmers25. I cant wait until my Elliptical arrives! I hope I dont go crazy, since a set this deadline of loosing 10 pounds.
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You will do just fine!  Your hubby sounds just like mine!!  Mine goes to the gym 7 days a week...crazy man.

And that's right we carried the babies so our bodies have been war struck:)  All the crunches in the world would not get rid of our skin and muffin tops.  

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The scar rules the rolls! ANYDAY! He might get on board. My husband was the same way and now he is ultra supportive. He tried to reassure me that he loves me the way I am but, ultimately he had to realize that this surgery was not for him,but for me!!!!
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Hi mops1, My husband is a gym junkie, he will even go in a snow storm. I just dont know why he think that I can go into a gym and get the results he have. He is basically muscle building and looked great and cut within a few months. I on the other hand is the one that carried the kids and had 3 c-sections. He has to understand that me and him will get different results in the gym.
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:( well you will definitely be able to find a great support system through this website! I already feel a connection to so many people bc we are basically going through the same experience. Maybe with time he will be more open to the idea...hang in there!!!
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I'm with you, when you have a large stomach you think everyone's looking at your stomach. I would choose the scar and more confidence any day. Good luck with the consultations, take your time.
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Hey glad to hear ull b a Feb TT'er. Me too. Feb 2 7:30am. I'm soooo Excited!
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