My biggest concern is the girls will react to my not being able to play with them for a few weeks and pick them up for longer.
Thanks for all of our support!
Better pics of tummy pre-op
3 days away...I'm numb about?
I should add my mom in starting chemo this morning for stage 4 bile duct cancer that has matastisised. This all happen so fast...she is not showing any symptoms of being sick, they found out through a non related nose bleed. Strange and unsettling right?
I think I may be nuts for going through with the surgery still with this going on but, I couldn't bring myself to cancel. In a way I feel like the consuming nature of my surgery will be jut what I need to help me help my mom. I can get very intense about things and I usually do better with big things if I have too much going on.
Example: while I was planning my destination wedding I was production managing a film in LA and dealing with two young horses of mine that needed extensive medical treatment. It was a lot at once but, having to focus on all 3 kept me really calm.
Give me strength xo
Is there any weight loss after the surgery?
I can't breath, I'm so worried
I had my hair done today. Simple cut and color to cover the gray. My hair dresser said that she doesn't know very many clients as young as me with so much gray and that I must "worry a lot ". She wasn't wrong.
Has anyone panicked the night before?
8 hours in :)
My breasts feel like an elephant is sitting on them!!
I see a little blood coming through the garmet way above the incision line???
I can't wait to see my ps tomorrow and sneak a peek.
Day 2 feels like a week :)
I was able to get a quick look and am thrilled!! The scar is really low and not to far on the hips and he ended up choosing the 260cc high profile implants, which seem perfect.
I haven't had a bowel movement yet and I am starting to feel really bloated and uncomfortable. I'm waiting for my mother in law to bring senokot and prune juice. Also, this binder is really itchy! I'm also really hunched over but I know that's normal.
Still I'm so so happy so far. I'm going back home to my hubby and girls tomorrow. I wanted to wait until the pain pump was out before I went home because it quite cumbersome to move around with.
Until then, just resting and healing :)
My ps said no shower until next Thursday!!
How ladies, do you recommend I wash my hair when I can barely straighten out?
I had to take my pain pump out at 2;30am because it was leaking from the tube and as a result was empty much sooner than expected (awesome, right!). I slept more than the last 2 nights and overall and moving better so I'm happy and ready to head home.
I'll miss being with my mom though...it's been really nice doing the mother daughter thing and I know she's sad I'll be gone today. She's doing really well do far next round of chemo is tomorrow and this whole last week she has been okay. Tired but not sick so we are grateful for that!!
I'm going to keep taking my supplements, drink tons of water, eat super low sodium/high protein foods and heal! Thanks for all the support! I can't imagine doing this without all of the rs women out there.
Damage after bowel movement?
All good :)
One note: my drain is suddenly having very little output so I will call my doctor tomorrow about that.
Mommy Makeovers with toddlers
I'm so grateful for them and my incredibly sweet and supportive husband. I can't imagine doing such a big wonderful life changing thing without the love and support of my family and the real self community.
No more drain!!
I got a good look at everything and am thrilled. I think I got too confident after my appointment and did too much walking around the house picking up toys, preparing dinner because now I feel so swollen and exhausted. Looking forward to a long rest tonight :)
I know it's only a week so I don't expect to be doing running already, but I am looking forward to doing more daily routines without being hunched over and worried about swelling up :) last whine- my breasts!! Oh my...having that feeling of being engorged when I was breast feeding is awesome- NOT.
Still - so so so happy I did this, I would dance if I could!
My first shower
AND....my shower was awesome!! My friend told me today after I showered that yesterday she had to keep a few steps away from me lol!
My boobs ache while I'm moving around and my stomach doesn't hurt it just feels swollen and big. I'd love to hear what everyone else was up to at this stage.
Heal baby heal!!
My breast look great! Really like them:)
Please say a little prayer for my girls. They are both fighting fevers that keep jumping to 104. We are all pretty tired and bummed we are missing Thanksgiving with the rest of the family.
Though I can't help feeling how much we have to say thank you for this year.
My mom is undergoing chemo for bile duct cancer, and I'm thankful that she is handling the treatment well and has even been able to work a little, which she loves. My father in law just got diagnosed lung cancer, but I'm thankful that it can be removed in one surgery.
I'm thankful that I have a husband who has not left my side since my surgery and even more so since the the girls got sick two days ago, even though he really has so much work to do. I'm thankful for my closest friends that check on me everyday, literally. Lastly, I'm Thankful that my surgery went smoothly, my recovery is better than expected and I have this forum of amazing women from all walks of life to share this life changing experience with.
I hope everyone has a happy and low sodium thanksgiving!
No more garmet?
Another thing: when I'm sitting I still see some wrinkling above my belly button as if the skin was just so stretched that is has not elasticity. Does anyone see that on themselves ?
Love my PS Dr. Stevens!
What a relief!!
Movin and groovin!
It's been a long week...both my girls were knocked down hard with 104 fevers for 4 days and coughs. Everyone is better now but my poor sweet husband looks like a zombie.
I hope he takes a few days to himself to relax a bit. He's been working so hard taking care of me, the kids, the dogs and the house.
I'm now back full time with kiddos, whew! I'm tired. I've been squatting, bending and sitting at their little table and I'm ready to pass out. I've also started wearing this garmet made by Victoria's Secret called the embracer. Love it!! I think I've had way less swelling since wearing it. I still sleep with my binder and I go without anything for a few hours a day also.
Oh yes, the oozing has stopped but now I think there may be a stitch poking out the the old belly button scar, though I'm not bothered by it.
I'd love to hear if anyone else is moving around this much and how it's feeing.
Oh yeah I forgot!! I had my usual glass(es) of wine last night :) so nice. Now if I can just get running again thing will feel normal :)
I will post pics later.
4 week ps visit
I've been in such a funk so I haven't written. I was really down about all the swelling and the little wrinkle still above my bb when I bend over. I saw my ps today and he tried to be sensitive but in a few words said give the swelling time (which I know) and that my skin lost so much elasticity with age and the pregnancy that the wrinkle couldnt be helped. Wtf!! Am I being unreasonable? I saw the laser rep after to discuss treatment of the area and she said I have to wait another 2 months before making any decisions.
On the good note- I'm cleared for excersize and riding my horses again!!! He said I may be too uncomfortable but that I won't hurt the incision or MR. "Listen to my body" :) and no heavy lifting. I'm mostly a runner/cardio junkie/ equestrian, so I'm good to go. Thank goodness! Because anymore of this woes me shit eating/no excersize crap and I'd need a whole other surgery!
Thank you for being supportive over this last month. If anyone has had any issue with the wrinkly skin please reach out.
Happy healing ladies!!
I've two days now of an easy 5mph jog. Yesterday I went 2 miles with the dogs then this morning was able to go 3 miles but had to walk when I hit small inclines. My swelling has gone down since yesterday which I'm attributing to the excersize. It really strange to be so weak but I know it will come back fast.
I'm not using the binder or spanx at all now.
The swelling from a few days ago was because of all the salty food. I wonder if I will always swell in my stomach now after sushi or chips and guacamole??
Back to life :)
I know this would not have been doable without the amazing support of the real self community, thank you!!
Lots of swelling now
The swelling is something I'll have to be patient with and the failed muscle repair I will have to get over but the wrinkling is really not something I'm okay with. Doc said that there was so much collagen and skin elasticity loss during the pregnancy that it's not something he could fix with the tummy tuck (would have been nice to know that beforehand ). He said that I can try thermage laser $2500!
I'm trying to channel "fitandflat's" positive take on this surgery and that we didn't do this to be supermodels and we are perfect in our imperfect bodies.
Just wish I wasn't as uncomfortable with my stomach now as I was pre-surgery.
My doctor is wonderful! I've been so impressed with him so far. Every call or email I've made he has gotten right back to. Dr. Stevens made sure that I knew exactly what to expect with the outcome of my procedure and he's was patient with me while I vacillated between implant sizes and whether or not I wanted to do the TT, with absolutely no pressure at all. In the end, I asked him to choose the size of the implants and I couldn't be happier. The TT scar placement and my new belly button are perfection as far as I'm concerned. On thanksgiving day I emailed him with a concern and he responded within 5 minutes! Lastly, his staff are friendly and professional and his practice is easily accessible and private (which is really nice when going in for those first couple follow-up visits). I feel lucky to have found him among the hundreds of choices to filter through.