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Realself is the best of everything an internet site should be. I have read and researched on it nearly effortlessly. I am having a Biltmore Lift, midface and neck lift with eyelift on Sept 11th st Dr. Harley's in Asheville NC
I Read about Lilygirl and renaissance lady on realself and realized how much they helped make the decision. So here is my foray into reviews. I will be adding updates along the road to recovery.
Am leaving my island home on Seabourne air for Puerto Rico and then on to Atlanta and Asheville with my first appointment tomorrow for initial visit.
Wish me luck!
My photos are without makeup btw
Sad eyes soon to be Smiling!
Hello again, arrived yesterday evening in Asheville, Christie from TLC picked me up and took me my hotel - slept like a baby. And this morning up early for Susie the owner of TLC to pick me up brief me on what exactly they do to take care of Dr Harley's patients and drive me to my appointment.
Dr Harley is soft spoken who listens to what I have to say first, answering questions completely and giving me his opinion of what will yield the most natural results. He has no hard sell. Juanita is helpful also and I meet Kelly his nurse. I decide on the Biltmore lift, midface and neck lift under local anesthesia with an upper eye lift and filler injected into my "puppet lines" which recently have turned my face into a frown at rest. Loss of volume from aging and gravity!
Susie gets my rx filled for me and sorts out what my preferences are for my upcoming recovery at the hotel. I am so ready to do this now! It was definitely worth the extra time and flights.
Wish me well I'm off of aspirin and will start taking arnica Montana and adding pineapple and fresh blueberries daily.
Travel pillow check!
One of the items I was told to buy was a travel pillow
This one was the foam microbead squishy with ultimate
Twistability LOL and it was crazy cheerful. Had to get it...
I was asked why today
One of the two persons who know what I am doing -asked me why I was doing a biltmore lift.
I said "Gravity is a powerful force."
Visiting Dr Harley and seeing literally hundreds of "before and after photographs" on his ipad, was amazing. They ALL looked real, simply as if it was a great day, they looked relaxed, happy, beautifully themselves. This was no cookie cutter barbie doll imitation assembly line. This was artistry. I am looking forward to looking the best version of myself.
Ps I wear glasses this is me with my glasses on the other photos were close ups to show the areas affected by gravity
Have arnica Montana tiny little pills to dissolve under my tongue
And pineapple and blueberries in my refrigerator.
Not to mention ice packs and a couple of gel cool eyemasks
Am packed and soooooo ready!
Only 12 days to go!
5 more days
Counting down the days like a child waiting for school to let out for summer and sweet freedom!
Have read and reread reviews and am excited. Packing is problematic though - am going to three states on a month long trip and am trying to sort out how to pack the minimum so I don't strain dragging around airports with suitcases! Which is a no no after facial and eye surgery! Any tips?
One day post op!
I am done and this is 24 hrs later!
side views 2 days out
Slept most of last 2 days and most of today! Some pain around my eyes the first night and some pain in sideburns today. All controllable with oral meds. Again Ice is my friend and TLC inc is a lifesaver Have bee told the two worst days of recovery are probably 3 and 4th day...
Day three photo's
Brace yourself the eyes are spectacularly bruised and remember no make up and I had upper and lowers done. I am Exhausted today, just slept and slept and then would you believe it slept some more. Staying in a hotel with TLC for you, well it has made me feel pampered, taken care of, lots of laughter and they do all of it from picking you up at the airport on. If I am sleeping I hardly know they are here, unless I need their help. I can already tell how much improved my neck is!
Day 4 chin incision
It doesn't show much now, will be nearly invisible when it heals and the stitches are out.
Close ups of eyes
Two photos of eyes
Post upper And lowers
no makeup bruising seems to be getting better!
and my eyebrow pencil and a lipgloss,
though if you look closely the surgistrip tapes still
there between my eyes - glasses cover a a lot!
I went out yesterday
TLC for you is the company that makes it possible for people like myself to fly thousands of miles and sort out everything from lodging to meals and 24 hr care as needed. Susie is the owner and she took me out to lunch and I felt so comfortable. No one stared, and yes I still have tape on my my face and bruises - yet for 6 days out from surgery I am
ecstatic! I feel so lucky to have Dr. Harley at Biltmore Plastic Surgery and TLC. It has been an adventure.
Took about three minutes
One tiny pinch and done
Still have chin tape and on my ears tape on earlobes
A little makeup today
I am a bit tired thought I had lost my passport and was frantic yesterday! Stress is a beast.
Thankfully all is well an passport was located! Photo comparison between day before surgery to now 8 days later
Used cover up on under eye bruises
I stay as low salt diet as possible and only drink water! Hope that It is helping !
Stomach flu is a BAD thing!!!
Am hoping my chin incision will hold, had a bad case of stomach flu and was miserable - that kind of heaving and straining is not recommended 10 days after a facelift!
Could keep nothing down for 12 hours so I am worried I did damage and hopeful I will be fine at the same time. Will call Dr. H in the morning if it doesn't look better.
Here are photos of my eyes makeup free
and my chin which is a bit lumpy right now sadly
Chin scan is fine!
I am relieved that nothing seems to be a problem and I feel better - who knew a stomach fly could cause such panic? LOL
It is just 15 days post biltmore lift and eye lift. I am extremely happy. This is the me I remembered seeing in the mirror before a a year of losing loved ones left me aged and sad in appearance all the time.
I have a list of things I think were extremely helpful if you are considering a Biltmore lift.
TLC either get TLC For You, who are professionals and amazing seriously they spoil you and the food is customized to what you want. OR have someone(s) who will cater to you completely and help you the first 72 hrs. You are paying for a specific result, make sure you get the after care you need for the best possible result!
OK and to buy:
Arnica Montana, the little pills
Arnica Montana, the clear gel for bruises
A cute travel pillow is essential GET TWO! one will get icky from bacitracin and you will want a new one after the first week
I used pillows under the mattress -between the mattress and box springs - as a wedge to keep my head up
I did not ice much, just the first 24 hrs - for some reason the icepacks made me uncomfortable
I bought large Lands End Oxford mens shirts and washed them and used them as nighties the first 4 days. They are soft cotton, roomy, cover you up well and no worries of anything catching on your neck or ears when you change because they button up the front. (I actually bought my shirts on ebay and then laundered them)
Dermablend makeup was well worth the investment for bruise camouflage
I now am using Mederma with sunscreen 30 daytime
and silicone strips for scars at night.
I have no visible scars on my eyelids
and my chin scar is fading daily
the ears are a bit pink but fading also.
Thank you for reading,
Bruises under eyes almost completely gone!
A little lipgloss can do a girl a world of good, the
bruises are continuing to fade.
There is the oddest sensation in my ears, not painful,
just an extra awareness of them. I wear glasses and they
have been mostly numb since the surgery. The nerves must be waking up.
I also have to say the me derma feels SO GOOD on my ears now where the incisions are.
the other ear
Not bad for 58 years old is it?
Scars slipping away
Ok I was never a great beauty - Still I have always felt happy to be me and knew I could be pretty nice with good make up! When gravity starting winning and I had everyone asking me if I was feeling bad it was awful. Now I look happy and my outside reflects how I feel inside. Even the bruises under my eyes are going fast - it is less than a month and a bit of makeup covers them easily!
And my hair covers the fading scars by my ears
These are the latest views.
The biltmore lift and eyelift were money well spent!
Ps the neck lift photo
I have complements on my haircut and losing weight and asked were I bought my makeup since I got back - I was away 3 weeks in all - I did cut my hair and I did lose 10 Pds - that is not why I look better - though I just smile and say thank you! I told my daughters and they were so sweet- I was a little worried and it went well. And if you are considering this
Do it for you
Do it with TLC or help and pamper yourself for once
Yes it is money - spent on YOU
Yes it is vacation time - for YOU
Yes it is a bit awkward and uncomfortable in the short term
And It Is Worth the money the time and the effort
Normal Feeling is back!
My neck and chin have normal feeling again - the numbness was gone when I woke up. No pain just feels like my neck LOL
I kept thinking it might feel slightly numb always - and then it was OK
My eyes have felt fine since about 10 days after! Life is good.
Just worked a 12 hr nightshift in ER
No One Asked me if I was Ok
Or tired - because I didn't lol sad and exhausted! Back at work 28 days post Biltmore Lift
And at the end of the shift A little of my eyebrow pencil survived!
Am tired and my face feels a little tight - was not paying attention and ate some salty popcorn oops!
Still - so glad I did it!
All bruising is gone and my eyes look like they did when I was 30!
Dr Harley is amazing - kjust be careful me deems in you eyes stings! I got some in my left rye last night ouch
Mederma in your eyes will sting
40 days post lift
Halloween is coming and this is a little update
All my concerns over scars and in 40 days My chin scar is nearly Invisable
The ears are faded already
And my eye scars are hidden in the crease of my lids
Reading cemlaws posts about her lovely results and her trip to Italy has me planning a trip next year!
Lilygirls kind comments and beautiful results kept me hoping when it was such a big decision
I am so glad to have read their stories and of course Renaisanceladys too! All gorgeous funny smart women
This is my update
Yes I know I need eyebrow pencil
I just think if you see my face without makeup you have a real idea of
What I look like in person
You can see the result of Dr Harley's work
I have been amazed that Renee Zelwegger got such bad press for being
Beautiful and 45!!!
What she did is working and I am impressed
Aren't you too?
Thank God I don't have that kind of scrutiny
I don't have to tell anyone I don't want too
After all this was just for me LOL
6 weeks Super close up
Biltmore lift done at 58 years old
no makeup except lip gloss
Upper and lower eyelid surgery done
Fillers for my puppet/marionette lines
Can I touch your face?
Seriously? It was a surreal moment a young girl I work with asked me if she could touch my face - I laughed out loud! It feels the same - it is not plastic or hard or weird to the touch - it just was a total surprise to be asked that!
This is me today at work - I need to find my eyebrow pencil - my uneven eyebrow date back to when I was 15 and plucked them until no much was left and they did not ever recover and grow back! I go on Wednesday for my official "after" photos!!!
Almost 3 months after
30 Nov 2014
2 months post
I am so glad I did the biltmore lift and had my eyes done now - the sad eyes and tired looking me is gone!
3 months !!!
Today is a gorgeous December Caribbean day and I am actually willing to be in the Christmas photographs this yeast thanks the biltmore lift! I have dodged the camera for years and this year - well I will be front and center LOL
Merry merry day
26 Dec 2014
3 months post
I have gone with the shortest of haircuts - my hair is thin and I finally am not hiding behind bangs
- it is 3 and a half months since my biltmore lift - and this Christmas I stayed for photographs ! Instead of hiding on the back - I am not taller or thinner and not a supermodel - still I feel pretty for the first time in decades!
5 and a half months later!
22 Feb 2015
5 months post
I am amazed the scars seemed to fade away to nothing - that was my major fear. I didn't want to trade wrinkles and droopy skin for scars and weirdness! Thank God Dr Harley is amazing and I was so fortunate to find him from reading real self Lily Girl - Renaissance lady - and our Italian traveling diva CemLaw who all wrote such great journals of their experiences!
Well here I am showing a current photo - I renovated my condo and nearly lost all my hair from the 4 month ordeal- believe me when I say 'island time man ' can drive you crazy in the Caribbean if you are waiting on a working sink for weeks at time! LOL it is NOT like HGTV where it all works out neatly in an hour...still I went with a super short haircut and kept going now that it's done I'm soooo happy!
a few more photos
22 Feb 2015
5 months post
6 months ago I got on real self and made a decision - I wanted to feel more like myself and less like a tired older woman. Since my
Biltmore lift I have adopted a dog and walk everyday - looking better actually lifted my spirits and encouraged me to reach out to others. I love the results. I am not a beauty queen - still this is the best version of me I could imagine. I am grateful and the money was well spent.
Living in the Caribbean is a guarantee of heavenly views which is why I manage to get past the delays and slowed down tempo of deliveries and construction... These are my views. Thank you everyone for your comments and I hope you have beautiful views ahead!
Chin scar is nearly non existent
22 Feb 2015
5 months post
Strange photo angle I know!
23 Feb 2015
5 months post
I have no makeup on - my eyelids are normally a bit red it is just heredity.
This is May!
14 May 2015
8 months post
Can not believe it has been 8 months
I have sadly been recently attacked by mosquitoes
So please don't think the bites are anything else.
I am completely happy with my results - what do you think? I am 59 this summer.
Please note I'm just hopeless with hair and I'm not great with makeup so this biltmore lift was wonderful for me! Not much upkeep more time in the am and I feel so much happier cause I smile more too
Thanks to Dr Harley,
A year ago I decided to get the Biltmore Lift
21 Jun 2015
9 months post
This is me this morning after a shower, no make up. Feeling awake and alive and oh so grateful.
For this beautiful morning, for this face and for my life. A year ago I was tired, exhausted - it marked a year of grief as I had lost both my parents horribly - I had hit that wall where you feel as if you just are all done with enjoying life. Grief is necessary and cannot be avoided. Coming back to the world, back to life again is a choice though. I looked stuck in my sadness, as indeed I had been for a year. I had not aged overnight, I had aged in days weeks and months of sadness and grief.
The Biltmore Lift was my way back to the happy person inside - the person who giggled at the movies and was hopeful again. Plastic surgery is a gift to yourself and this one gave me so much more than I could have expected. I have learned to forgive myself for not being able to prevent senseless random violence - to realize that life is precious and that means my life is precious too.
It is the beauty in the world we celebrate when we stop and look at a gorgeous view, when we watch the bird buiding a next and when we appreciate the smiles of those around us.
I remember my mother and her constant companion Ruby Red lipstick by Revlon! And on this Father's Day I remember my father saying time and again, I married the most beautiful woman in the world, inside and out!
Today I am buying some Ruby Red Lipstick.
Thank you Dr. Harley and your staff and TLC who helped me find my confidence.
21 Jun 2015
9 months post
the photographs I wrote about above!
22 Jun 2015
9 months post
Don't laugh a friend came over and told me she was so disappointed in the photos I posted recently -so she showed me how to make up properly and this is the result! Mascara lipstick camera!
25 Aug 2015
11 months post
A year later the results are far beyond what I hoped or expected.
One year and here I am
25 Aug 2015
11 months post
So glad I had my eyes done too! I use Latisse for long eyelashes and it makes my eyelids slightly discovered - which I do not find to be a problem
So happy at 59
25 Aug 2015
11 months post
I am a year older and so glad I went to Dr Hardy - eyes done and biltmore lift
It is never an easy decision to spend money on ourselves
And it is not easy to consider and follow through with any surgery
Real self has been helpful every step of the way for me
And I am so glad to have had Renaissance Lady, CemLaw and so many other lovely inside and out Dr Hardy patients on their journeys before me...
I will never star on a Broadway play, or marry George Clooney, and I probably will not weigh what I did in high school. I do look prettier than I ever hoped - I look younger and I feel younger. I have to say that looking sad and depressed can make me even sadder and more depressed.
I am not suddenly famous, everyone I knew thought I had lost weight and just looked happier and better. Several said they were so happy I was getting over my grief. Believe me when I say life is not perfect and I'm far from perfect.
Still these are perfect results for me!
I wish you well on your journey wherever it leads you.
15 months Later
These were the photos Dr Harley took
Before and after
I thought I had posted them !
Here are my version of glamour shots
Lipstick and fancy eyeglass frames!