Hopefully just swelling...
- updated 5 months ago
I've been considering having a Mommy makeover ever...
- 19 Mar 2013
- 3 months pre
I've been considering having a Mommy makeover ever since I saw the aftermath of birthing and breastfeeding my first child. I obviously wanted to put it off until I was done having children. Now that my husband has had a vasectomy and I am blessed with 3 gorgeous boys I feel its time to get what I deserve...my body back!
I'm pretty petite, 5'2" and currently 120lbs (my winter coat - hoping to start eating cleaner and exercising to reach a 112lbs goal before surgery). My babies were a good size getting bigger than the next one (7lbs.15oz, 8lbs.10oz and 9lbs.5oz) and since I have a short torso, you can only imagine what shape my abdominal muscles and stomach skin are in from housing such big babies!
I breastfed all my children. The first only to 9 months, the second to 1 year, and my third to 18 months. Due to an inverted nipple on my right breast, all my boys favoured and fed off the left breast only - to the point where only my left breast was producing milk! I joked with my friends about my breastfeeding breasts and labelled them B'sy and D'sy but in reality having breasts that are two different sizes was not funny and very difficult to dress! Now, from all the wear and tear, my left breast sags quite a bit and is even harder to dress and it's like putting soup in a bra!
I did a LOT of research into the surgeries and found trying to find a doctor overwhelming. I am in the Niagara Region and Toronto (which in 1 hour away) has so many highly rated doctors. Getting the time to see them for a consult though was difficult, especially since I couldn't seem to visit them on the same day. I disliked that they also charged a consult fee. I understand the reason for it, but I feel like I could be taken advantage of by receiving a ridiculous quote or be subject to rudeness and unpleasant mannerisms and loose out on my consult fee when I chose not to go with them for those reasons.
The search was tiresome but I started by looking at the before and after photos. I was looking for looks (both breast and tummy) that was after. Their attention to detail was obviously a very big factor in my decision. Once I narrowed it down to half a dozen doctors, I began to look at reviews and ratings from ratemyMDs.com and realself.com. I especially liked realself as I could see posts from doctors answering patient questions and this allowed me to get a feel for their character. Through looking at the high ratings, I added to my list of doctors once I view their before and after photos. One doctor, Dr. William Deluca, stood out to me as he was so highly rated. I visited his website and saw that he catered to out of town patients (I'm 4 hours away) and I happily filled out a contact form introducing myself. To my surprise, I received a personal response 30 mins later at nearly 10:00pm at night!!
As I was extremely impressed with his before and after photos (they all looked so perfect!! Not one single "after" photo made me doubt his attention to detail!) and his diligent reply, I decided to book a phone consult with the good doctor. The secretary I spoke to was very very kind. I have spoken to many and all to often I find them to be a tad rude and pushy, so this was a refreshing change!
I had my phone consult yesterday, March 18, 2013, and he was very soft spoken, and answered many of my questions before I even got to ask them. I did not have many questions so the whole consult was only about 20 minutes. Based on my photos, he recommend silicone (up to 400cc) with under the muscle placement with a Benelli/Donut lift on my left breast. He believes the tummy tuck will be very straightforward and believes I will have a low incision. Everything I kind of already decided on, although I thought I may need a lollipop lift! I really felt he was on the same page as me and that he knows exactly what I'm after. Just to be clear though, I did email some photos of what I would consider "perfect" and ideal for me!
Today, I called his secretary, Karen, and booked my surgery for June 18, 2013. She told me about a package she would mail me and briefly went over what will be included in the package and the next steps. She was very kind and made me feel very comfortable. She also reassured me that if I have any questions at anytime that I can call or email her. She reiterated that a few times so I know she meant it :)
Now I just need to wait exactly 91 days for the new me!
UPDATE: April 2, 2013. It is now 77 days until...
- 2 Apr 2013
- 2 months pre
It is now 77 days until my big day. I'm starting to get really nervous. I feel as though I'm going to be going through all of this (spending money and all the pain) just to be trading one insecurity for another...a huge scar from hip to hip. I'm sure it's just the nerves talking but part of me wonders if I could have "fixed" these tummy issues with an even better diet and more exercise.
Less than 3 weeks til GO TIME!
- 29 May 2013
- 19 days pre
The last couple days has been ALL about my upcoming surgery. Finding hotels, making arrangements for the kids, asking my doctor last minute questions, and frantically looking at everyone mommy makeover video ever recorded on youtube so I have some kind of idea of what exactly I should be expecting.
I trust my doctor will do an amazing job, and am so confident in my choice in him. That fear has long passed. I am not worried about the pain. I've birthed 3 children and I think I have a pretty good pain tolerance. That fear was never an issue. What is running through my mind over and over again...my biggest and only concern, is how quickly will I heal? When will I be functional again? I know I need to take it easy, and believe me, I will to the best of my ability but there are factors making it so difficult to just relax and forget about.
The first thing, is that my doctor is 4 hours away. I choose to travel because I wanted the best and I still stand by my decision but its tough being away from home and having to stay in a hotel. I am sure I will love it...not having to worry about the cleaning getting done or the dishes or wondering what kind of trouble my kids are getting into, but really...there is no place like home and I am wondering when is a good day to make that trip back home. My doctor says I need at least 2 days...the youtube videos I've been seeing make it seems like day 4 or 5 is the best option. But there is always the uncertainty of how well I will heal...and that just plain sucks.
My other big concern is that I run a home daycare....yes...can you imagine?! Clearly I don't have much holiday time and I don't feel right booking weeks off at a time. So I've made the difficult decision to take just 1 week off and semi-return to work with the help of my husband and my mother-in-law the following week. My friend has agreed to help the weeks after that.
The kids I have are amazing but lets face facts...these are kids...some young. There's a lot of lifting! Lifting into highchairs, onto the toilet, into their beds. To have to be dependent on someone virtually all the time for a whole 6 weeks really sucks.
Hoping I can learn to relax and not worry about those things...this is my time and I deserve it. I'm happy that my eldest son will be on summer vacation starting in my third week post op. He will be a great, great help once my husband needs to return to work!
Only two more weeks!
- 3 Jun 2013
- 14 days pre
I added some more photos...reminders as to why I'm subjecting myself to stress and pain.
My nervous/excited ratio is about 50% now ! Lol
Freaking the eff out!
- 7 Jun 2013
- 10 days pre
I'm pretty sure I can taste my heart...I'm THAT nervous/anxious...
- 8 Jun 2013
- 9 days pre
My bag still needs to be packed but I think I have nearly everything I will need. I've never had a c-section but have found comfort in knowing that some people are finding a tummy tuck similar to a c-section - recovery and pain wise.
I still have a pretty long to do list but I feel better about it than I did yesterday. With that being said, I am eagerly awaiting my period to come and really hope it comes soon. I really don't want to have to deal with that during my recovery and the added emotions from my cycle mixed with the emotions I imagine will grow in intensity over the next 10 days is not a good combination.
I think I might start packing now...10 more days....10 MORE DAYS....10....more....days....
Just as I started to calm down....
- 11 Jun 2013
- 6 days pre
I think I have everything I need though. I still need to do some tidying, cleaning and gardening and I DEFINITELY want to to wash my sheets so they are nice and clean when I come home.
I may shoot over to Walmart and buy some more of those zipper shirts too.
We leave in 3 days...I think my husband is nesting!
- 13 Jun 2013
- 4 days pre
- 15 Jun 2013
- 2 days pre
I also cleaned out the garage...I don't know why since I don't plan on hanging out in there, but at least its done! Today I will conquer the house with tidying and putting everything away and tomorrow, I will clean like I have never cleaned before! That brings us to Monday, where we pack up...and LEAVE! Wow...still can't believe this is actually going to happen!
Tomorrow I start my journey!
- 16 Jun 2013
- 1 day pre
I just dropped the kiddos off at the in-laws for the week and now am at home pacing around making sure I have everything. I'm sure I do since I packed it all over a week and have been doing the same thing every day since!
Tomorrow I will do some last minute cleaning and off I go!! I'm hoping to be on the road by 9:00 so I have time to settle in the hotel and then meet my doctor for the first time and finally try on real sizers! They ordered Mod Plus Silicone in a range between 350 and 450 cc so hopefully I'm happy with something in there!
I'm going from "super happy - I want to leave NOW!" to "OMG, this is actually happening, I'm not ready, I need to postpone".
Tomorrow will be a big and exhausting day and since I know I won't sleep at all tomorrow, I should probably go to bed now!
Finally met THE man today!!
- 17 Jun 2013
- 1 day pre
It's time....for the flat side!
- 18 Jun 2013
- Day of treatment
I'll post updates when I can!!
Woohoo! First postop photo and update!!
- 18 Jun 2013
- Day of treatment
After this, they wheeled me down to the main floor while my husband got the van. Getting in was tricky, so was getting out. We headed back to hotel and found my husband had set up the bed with all pillows. Getting it was really hard but I got in and that's where I'm at now!! My husband babying me a lot and really isn't letting me use my arms at all! Even to feed myself! I'm surprise i able to write this review right now!!
I tooky first round of ills and dozed off why my husband went to grab more pillows but I woke up quickly and refreshed. I'm surprised how good j feel right now. I'm just tired. I don't feel like I'm in extreme pain and j ding feel stoned. My husband thinks it will really hit tomorrow. I hope not!!
It's almost time forms to get up and walk for a bit do I'll post some more later!! :)
Spoke too soon...
- 18 Jun 2013
- Day of treatment
Boobs seem fine and don't bother me all that much, but WOWzers on that burning feeling on my tummy scar!!
Good day today!
- 19 Jun 2013
- 1 day post
I made a boom boom!
- 20 Jun 2013
- 2 days post
Up close and personal
- 21 Jun 2013
- 3 days post
10 day postop appointment
- 28 Jun 2013
- 10 days post
I've been on my feet more than I'd like to be and a little wiped out from it. My back it what is hurting the most from being slightly hunched over still. My eldest kids have been fantastic in helping me clean. They moan and groan but get the job done well enough considering that they are 8 and 6.
My hubby was fantastic the first week but is slowly getting frustrated and slacking off more and more. My crazy need to get things done kicks in and tries to make up for the slack... Then I pay for it in the evening! Hoping to be back to normal soon enough so things can get back to routine.
Bruising from drain removal!!
- 28 Jun 2013
- 10 days post
2.5 weeks postop photos
- 5 Jul 2013
- 17 days post
I noticed fluid in my left breast which is visually evident as well. I'm hoping its normal and that my body will reabsorb it but I emailed a photo to my PS just in case.
I'm super impressed with how well the scars are looking this early in the game!
3 week post op
- 9 Jul 2013
- 21 days post
Yes...the swelling sucks. I've taken the "morning" photo and will take the "night" photo tonight. It's crazy how big the difference is. I measured around my waist where my naval is and where the top of my hip bones are. BY the end of the day there is nearly a 2 inch difference! Surprisingly...the swelling isn't driving me nuts...it's these other things are are getting to me:
1. The uneveness of it all.....my right side has calmed down and I have perfect contouring there. My left side on the hand looks like its been jabbed by a little person and I have a welt the size of a golf ball. THIS is the swelling that is driving me nuts. If you look at my post-op photos, it looks like I'm leaning or twisting my body...I'm not. It's a perfectly straight posture. I'm only praying that it is ACTUAL swelling and that the lipo to my flanks did not go horribly wrong. For me...the lipo was the most painful part. I didn't have much extra fat there anyway and on most days, I wished this area was the left alone to fix itself with some lean unseasoned chicken and a some steamed greens sans anything yummy (aka "bad") added.
2. I feel great. REALLY great. I love the way shirts fit me now that I have plump perky ta-tas and its awesome not having to worry about that perky pouch hanging over my bottoms. For the last 3 years my boobs (aka soup) could only be poured into a sports bra because anything else (aka something lacey and sexy) would result in the soup being poured right back out. Yuck. I tried...I tried and tried to find a supportive underwire bra that would fit my saggy soupy mess. Nada. There was just nothing out there. Well... My boobs seemed ginormous (and fake) immediately after surgery and they weren't going anywhere anyway but things have calmed down quite a bit and I've gotten to go ahead to go bra shopping. Finally...I'm getting out of these sports bras! Wrong...I am having one HELL of a time finding something that fits these girls! I've concluded based on my own measurements that I am a 32 D possibly even a 30. These sized don't exist in un-specialized stores and I'm not sure if I want to drop over $100 on a good bra if the girls are still dropping and fluffing. I did managed to find a couple bras in "my size" but to my surprise, my nipples were poking out of the top of the cups. So...I am still braless. I'm going to get professionally fitted at the local bra boutique and hope that yields some positive results without costing me a small fortune that could very well be burned in a couple months if the D&Fing continues. Corssing my fingers!
3. On the subject of shopping...I still hate it, but for different reasons. Before shopping was tedious - always trying to fit tops that I didn't pour out of or that didn't reveal the pouch I always tried to hide. Now, I'm having a hard time finding something that fits my boobs AND my waist or shorts that aren't super low rise thus revealing my scar. All this on top of finding the right size before swell hell kicks in making clothing shopping impossible.
4. I will never, ever, get used to not feeling my stomach. Shaving my legs, bending over to tie my shoes or curling up on the couch will always be a weird, out of body experience until these nerves are repaired which I hope will be very very soon.
5. I healed too well, and I'm an impatient person. I'm only 3 weeks out and I feel amazing. Too amazing actually because I really want to get back to my life. I want to go swimming and horse around with my kiddos. I want to exercise and build all the muscles that have faded away. I really REALLY want to get started on my six pack. I'm having a hard time believing that I'm only at the halfway mark of being normal...so I wrote my doctor. It went something like this:
Hey Dr. D,
I have a couple more questions for you:
Am I able to run (max. 3 miles) at this point? What about some light leg work (i.e. lunges and/or squats)?
I feel that walking isn't doing anything for me and the lack of exercise is making me a pretty miserable person. Not to mention the fact that if I don't start doing something soon, my next post-op appointment may very well become a pre-op appointment for some lipo to my thighs, hips and butt. :)
He wrote back within a minute (yes, he is that awesome) and I got the go ahead to run and exercise without doing any core workouts. Six pack will have to wait but I'm super excited for the rest. I didn't ask about "private/couple workouts" but that is only because we tested the waters on that last week (day 11 postop to be exact) and everything went well...for both of us, with no pain or discomfort. I thought it might be a bit early but a quick search on realself determined it was a "trial and error" adventure. I was sure to warn my husband that initiating anything may result in blue balls and him retreating to the bathroom by himself. He accepted the mission anyway and I'm glad he did.
I think that's all I have to report for now.
- 9 Jul 2013
- 21 days post
6. My incision is low. I'm happy with it but I hate that when I got sewn back together that is raised the pubic area up by at least an inch!
I have been known to go amazon fairly often, as I'm pretty lazy and careless when it comes to body hair but there will be no slacking off anymore thanks to this. At first I was very impressed that my scar was literally just above my pubic hair but then I realized that shit isn't being contained in my low rise and hipster panties like it used to. All my panties are sitting right on the scar which means 1/4 an inch lower is the new starting point of my jungle area....can you imagine if that gets out of control in a bikini?! I'm not ashamed of my scar showing but I am hella nervous about the short and curlies peeking through the TOP when I go to the beach or even wearing a pair of lowrise anything....How could it get raised up so much!!???
Wait...its definitely more like 2 inches....
- 9 Jul 2013
- 21 days post
a photo is worth a thousand words...
- 9 Jul 2013
- 21 days post
I got professionally bra fitted yesterday...
- 11 Jul 2013
- 23 days post
My doctor cleared me to wear underwire since I'm healing really well (and I only have a 2 inch incison on only my right breast). My breasts have settled a lot in the past 3 weeks as well and I kind of hope they stop dropping and fluffying! I really like where they are right now!
I went to get bra fitted thinking I had measured myself perfect at a 30/32 D...well...I made a big mistake and that changed things a lot. I took my band measurement and added the recommended amounts for the band size (which is really Effed up if you ask me). Anyway, I measured 30 around which makes my band a 32. THEN I measured my cup and measured 36 and subtracted that from my BAND measurement, not my actual measurement. (4 inch difference makes me a D). I now know that I should have subtracted it from my actual measurement, like the fitter did, as I am in fact a 32F(DDD) or even a 30F(DDD) according to her.
I'm sure it would have been hilarious to see my reaction. I tried on several insanely priced bras and realized that in the Chantelle brand (which I adored) 30DDD fit perfect. They had some nice styles and a handful of good brands but I was not prepared to pay the $126 price tag though I left, braless...again. I'm going to take my chance on ebay since I found dozens of Chantelle bras in my size for a very small fraction of the price that the boutique was selling them at (like $25 a bra!!). I figured the same brand will unlikely have drastic size variations between the different styles but even if they do, at $25 a bra vs $126, it's worth the risk. The panties too had a hefty price tag of $76 where on ebay I am finding they are about $15.
So I went home and happily scoured ebay. I found tons, much more fun colours than the boutique had and I ended up buying a nice little purple bra and panties to match for the whopping total of $46.97 shipped to my US address (as opposed to the $200+ I would have spent at the boutique). So I'm pretty happy with my savings. I am finding it really hard not to get carried away though. I may go to another bra boutique and see what brands they have and try on a few there to check sizing and sister sizing as there was much more 32DD than 30DDD on ebay.
I have a pretty addictive personality so I'm a little nervous. So far I have 4 pages of watched items consisting of mainly bras. Before children my passion was designer jeans....I have a total of about 30. Then it was jujube diaper bags...then it was goodmama diapers, then I started trying to loose that baby pooch which resulted in workout clothes...hello lululemon. I've been good lately (for the last year) but I can definitely see this new hot bod causing some problems for me!!
- 20 Jul 2013
- 1 month post
Some changes for the tummy region....
- 22 Jul 2013
- 1 month post
My doctor cleared me to return to my regular routine minus core and heavy lifting. I was also cleared to remove my binder. Things were looking good! Then, yesterday morning I woke up a big pot belly...a slightly different shape then my old friend the baby pooch but they must be related since they resemble each other so closely.
Not a happy camper...and freaking out since I devised a list of a bunch of possibilities.
1. My worst fear: I tore some sutures. Since I was cleared to return to life I decided to do some hands and knees gardening and washing of the floors, since neither had been done since my surgery (yuck!). I knew it was not feel super and if I was uncomfortable then I would stop...but it didn't feel bad at all. I was totally fine. I took my time and got the job done. I;ve also been sneezing alot which I know can also tear the sutures....BUT I am hopeful that since I am NOT in pain (just very tender around my belly button)...that this is not my case. So moving on...
2. All that activity caused some swelling...swelling that I haven't really seen and am not used to. Swelling that was also kept to a minimum by my binder, which I was not wearing. I think this is the likely cause.
3. Seroma. Not wearing my binder and also having my drains removed earlier than others (7 and 10 day removal at 15cc for a 24h period X2 days to be safe). My drains WERE ready to come out and I don't think that removing them was premature but I'm wondering if maybe my draining was...could I be developing fluid now? After 4 weeks?
4. My infection is somehow causing this. I didn't mention it before, but I also had a slight infection at the bottom of my belly button. It wasn't anything big so I didn't think it was worth mentioning. I also do not believe this to be the cause but I am throwing out ALL the options.
5. Since I haven't been using my muscles, this is just lax muscles and my stomach hanging out as a result. It has been a month of not using them afterall so I can imagine they are worthless at this point. I can only imagine what my first day of crunches is going to feel like. Ow...I'm already in pain thinking about it.
6. My next vote for likely causes is that I should be getting my period very very VERY shortly...like any day now. This is just bloating caused by that...bloating that just happens to fall in the timeline making me come up with all these other possible causes.
So...time will tell...and so will Doc Deluca when I see him in 2 weeks...assuming this has not resolved itself by then.
I did my research and since this was going to be a lifelong change, I needed to make sure that everything was going to be perfect and to achieve that, I did to find the perfect surgeon. I started out locally, looking within the mega city nearest to me (Toronto - 1 hour away). My search consisted of looking at before and after photos of the work I was wanting done. If there was even a handful of after photos that made me wince, that surgeon was out. I obviously looked at hundreds of websites and the handful that made the cut received emails with inquiries and attempts to book consultations. Most of the responses were fairly quick and the ones that were delayed by a week got crossed off my list. All were responses from secretaries or nurses which is what I was expecting and half of them were automated responses (which I disliked a lot but didn't rule them out because of it). Following this I started with phone calls. In nearly all cases I found the secretaries to be rude, forceful and unhelpful - which obviously crossed them of the list. In the end, I had no one I was considering and had not even made it to the consultation part of the process and had not been in contact with a single surgeon! At this point I felt my standards were too high but then came across a website where people mentioned they were traveling out of state for their surgeon. Since I am so close to the New York border, I thought I would try a few of the surgeons in the Buffalo and Rochester areas (both 1 hour away) before readjusting my standards. Somehow, and I can't even recall how, I made my way to Dr. Deluca's website who was initially outside the zone I was considering traveling (Albany - 4 hours away). I looked at his before and after photos and there was not a single one that I felt showed any flaws, not a SINGLE one! I would have not only been content with having any of the results I saw, but ecstatic! I continued searching his website for more information and discovered that there was an "out of town patients" section. It was like a dream come true. I filled out the out of town patient consultation form and about an hour later at 9:17 p.m. I received a personalized response from Dr. Deluca himself. The very next day I responded back with the measurements and photos that were needed and booked my telephone consultation. The consultation was 30 minutes and consisted of a dozen questions which I previously jotted down. Dr. Deluca was extremely polite, soft spoken and a pleasure to talk to. He answered all my questions without sounding the least bit annoyed (I'm sure some of them had to sound ridiculous!) and made his recommendations with confidence. He even provided me with a quote at the end of the consultation - a number that was much less expensive than what I had been quoted in Canada. Aside from booking the consultation, my correspondence was always with Dr. Deluca up until after the consultation when I decided I needed to have him as my surgeon and booked my surgery with his assistant, Karen. I spoke with Karen was good hour about the whole process and she asked me several times if I had any questions. I didn't at this point and she assured me that I would and that I shouldn't hesitate to contact the office at anytime. Sure enough, within a few weeks before my surgery, I had many questions so I called and sent out my rounds of emails, most of which were responded by Deluca himself, and all within a day. On Monday June 17th I met with Dr. Deluca for the first time and felt extremely confident with my decision in choosing him. He was exactly as I imagined and I felt extremely comfortable with him. When it came time for the big day, I was obviously nervous. I tend to joke around when feeling like this and Dr. Deluca was a blast to joke around with. I recall him coming in to do his drawings and asked me how I slept. I told him I didn't sleep at all and that wasn't important....what was important was how well he slept! He chuckled and assured me he slept just fine. After drawing his lines he left me by telling me not to worry and that I'll do great. I responded by saying "thanks, so will you! Right?!" Again, he chuckled and said he will be doing better than me. It felt as though I blinked and was greeted with my new, less droopy body. I felt great and things could not have gone more perfect. I had my first post-op visit and he examined me with a careful eye to make sure all was going well. He looked like an artist concentrating on a masterpiece! (For the record...I only waited about 5 minutes for both my pre-op and post-op appointment!) Currently I am only a week into recovery but my breast lift has resulted in two perfectly even and perky breasts with the augmentation being the appropriate size I had described. Once the implants settle and the swelling goes down, I am sure I will be the envy of many since I truly believe they are perfect! Perfect slope, size, nice round shape and completely symmetrical...I didn't even think it could be achieved with the sagging I had previously! My tummy tuck has left me with a nice flat tummy and I have little pain and bruising which I attribute to a job well done. My incision is so low that is practically touches my pubic hair line. I am still healing but some of the tape has lifted and I can only find what looks like a hair running across my belly...this is the "scar" I am being blessed with (assuming things continue healing so well!). I have had a couple questions within the last week and to no surprise, Dr. Deluca answered them all very quickly, one within 5 minutes! I am not sure when I will be seeing him again but you can be guaranteed that a great big hug will be given for his amazing job well done! As for the stars below. I truly believe he exceeds the 5 star rating in all areas. He really is THAT amazing. I will be referring anyone who is considering any kind of cosmetic surgery, no matter their location as I attest that he is definitely worth traveling to!