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15 months later, still happy, but yucky scar - Alabama, AL
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I woke up on my 40th birthday with 3 kids, no...
Junebug2662September 13, 2011
WORTH IT$15,000
I woke up on my 40th birthday with 3 kids, no husband, and a body I didn't want to see. I worry a lot about the risks, considering that I'm a single mom. I also worry about the risks of not liking my outer-self around my kids. I would post photos, but I can't stand to look at myself with this body pasted on top of the real me.
I'm energetic and always on the go, but I look I've been asleep in a recliner for 10 years. Things started sliding downhill after my first pregnancy when I gained and lost 80 lbs. My babies were 10.5 lbs, 9.5 lbs, and 8.5 lbs and all by c-section. I had my 3rd child at age 37 and I could not bounce back to my prepregnancy look. At that point, the c-section "hangover" couldn't be flattened by any commercial garment.
I'm having a tummy tuck, breast augmentation,and flank lipo, in hopes of making the outer me look more like I feel inside. In a world of people that don't like themselves, I'm really glad that I do like the inner me a lot. I just need to take out my contacts when I get near the mirror.
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I'm 7 days away from the carving and fat suckage...
Junebug2662September 14, 2011
I'm 7 days away from the carving and fat suckage (as though there was a time that fat didn't suck). I worry a lot about the results and whether or not this is a waste of time. That's really irrational, because logically I know that it will turn out nicely. On top of that, though, I keep making up gargantuan tasks that I feel compelled to finish before the surgery. This is particularly stupid considering that my wedding is in late November. I'm sure there are a few tasks related to that which should take priority... But, anyway, I have a driving need to steam clean the carpets and redecorate the den in the next 6 days, in addition to reorganizing my room, my 3 kids' rooms and refencing the backyard. This is like prenatal nesting on steroids.
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Oh and I saw my reflection in the window at the...
Junebug2662September 14, 2011
Oh and I saw my reflection in the window at the school open house last night. Ugh. That was rough. If anything good comes out of this, please let it be the end of this roll of flab that serves as a canopy to my c-section scars. Lovely.
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September 14, 2011
Congrats to you! I have a similar situation, only 2 but second kid at 35, they are now huge at almost 2 and four, and I have a 4" split vertically down my abs called diastasis recti and I live in chronic horrible back pain every day. I am so scared to get this done, but before they put plates in my spine, i need my core back, I hurt all over. I am going to feel like a helpless loser listening to others take care of my babies. I am sick today with flu and my mom came down to help and i feel horrible listening to them play and me feeling like this. God mom guilt is horrible. But we deserve our bodies back! IF men had babies, a huge tear in abs 10 inches long due to pregnancy would be covered by insurance?!?!?
September 14, 2011
Yes. Indeed, insurance would cover it for men. It probably pays for mental anguish caused by having couch-grown man-boobs. And I agree. It's important to get your body back. We are not just mothers once we have babies. I suspect that the breakdown of a lot of marriages after childbirth is related to the change in how women feel about themselves when their bodies are so changed. I'm sorry you're down with the flu. It's rotten. But, I am glad your mom came to help with the kids. Sure, they are playing without you, but at least they are playing. And how do you know if you a tear in the ab muscles?
September 14, 2011
Hi there - thanks so much for your response. Talk about mom guilt, I have a terrible case. Makes me sick. Quit my career to be home for a few years (which i spent 10+years building, in Media/PR/Lobbying) to raise them and be there for them and it's the hardest job in the world. I've been living in chronic pain for years. I found out i had the split during 1st pregnancy and during 2nd it got MUCH worse. It's called diastasis recti. I've been to a PT for a year to try to correct, but i look 6-7 months pregnant with size 4/6 arms and legs. It's insane. You can feel the split, right between my ribcage there is just skin, no muscle, and it's like that way all the way down. You can google or self-test for it - if you like try to do a situp w/just head and feel the hole btwn your ribcage and your stomach goes up into almost like a pointed mountain, it is disgusting. I have read that this surgery helped chronic pain patients like me and i am praying much of my back pain is due to this i know, but also disc herniations (like chicken or egg-which came first) It must be hard being a single mom- I feel like one at times- my husband works allllll the time in the city and we fight allllll the time since kids, we now live in the middle of this remote neighborhood with no kids, total identity change! I've lost most of my close friends due to distance (Denmark, San Diego, San Fran, NC) wish we could all be next door.... oh its so hard! When is your surgery???
September 14, 2011
I'm glad that this surgery might help correct the diastasis. I really hope it helps with the pain. I know what you mean about feeling like a single mother when you're married. It was like that for me when I was married. I always had a better paying job than my ex and we never hated each other, so it was an easy divorce. We're friends now, but I was very lonely being married. I felt like I did all the work and he spent all his time watching tv. I wonder now, if my damaged body-image after pregnancy played a part in the demise of our relationship, though. I know I was not a party to be around. It's hard to be good at anything when you feel like you're wearing someone else's not-very-pretty body.
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