I appreciate your frustration. Let me start by breaking the nomenclature down.
The initial point, is to be clear over what procedures you are referring to when discussing a "Mommy Make-Over", it can be a number of combinations.
The term is generic with respect to what it implies. That is, it refers to a combination of procedures that address improving the physical changes to certain areas of the woman's body that occur after having children. These can be different to each patient.
Some of the issues can be skin laxity, stretch marks, loss of breast volume, as well as, areas of persistent fullness (such as flanks, thighs, etc.) due to the natural weight gain that occurs during pregnancy.
Often, some procedures can be combined (such as a breast augment, with an abdominoplasty) as long as they can be performed together safely for that particular individual.
Some procedures are more involved, and may require an extended recovery period, as well as, have more associated risks. In such cases, we often decide to perform the procedures separately (staged).
Once you identify the areas you want treated -- then look at the before and after images that apply to that particular procedure. Some surgeons place their b/after images on the world wide web, others prefer to be more private with their patients pictures available for viewing in the office at the time of the consultation.
Also some offices offer past patient contact information so you can have a detailed discussion with someone who has experienced what you are considering. Personally I think this is also very useful, often the personal story can be very helpful.
As far as choosing your surgeon, I think it is a combination of pictures, personality, and how well your questions are addressed.
I hope this helped, and best wishes.