What were your husbands / boyfriends first comments on your new breasts ?

  • Raboobsel
  • Germany, Berlin
  • 1 year ago

Hi Ladies, i still have some time to wait until my surgery in january, but i already wondered about your experiences with your husbands or boyfriends. I know this is not a topic everybody likes to talk about, but i really do think alot about it. I guess ever women that is going to get a reduction fears a bit, about what the better half has to say about them? Sure we do that for ourselves but sure we still want to be sexy for our hubbys/Bfs. So what did they say seeing them - the first time -and seeing them healed Was it funny? Was it shocking? Was it nice? I promise i will tell what mine said =)

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My husband didn't really want me to have a BR, which is one of the main reasons I backed out 3 years ago. I haven't shown them to him without the bra on yet. I worry about the bruising and his reaction. Having said that, the first day post op, he said my profile looked very nice and that I looked thinner. He has always been very supportive but I know how much he loved my preop breasts. I just reminded him, they were not 34H when you married me, they steadily got bigger. I gain weight in my top half. He is happy I am out of pain. I told him NOW he can finally shop for a bra for me at Victoria Secret and NOW I may even feel comfortable in a real bathing suit instead of t-shirt and shorts. I think those are motivating him. I think by day 10 I may feel comfortable enough to show him, but not sure yet.
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nothing is more attractive than body confidence. my husband has been very supportive and is not a squeamish man, he saw them before i did when the dressings came off. he always wanted me to be more comfortable with nudity than i was and now i am walking around naked all the time despite knowing i need to lose a little weight! So try the hey look at me, aren't they fantastic approach rather than being anxious or apologetic!!!!!
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Yep, i told my future hub too that bra shopping might be not such a pain in the ass anymore :) We haven't been intimate since the surgery because i didn't want to have sex in a unsexy compression bra. Now that i can change into something else i might plan something nice for him, haha :) I love my new boobs, i think he does too. Yesterday he said he very much likes my new cleavage! And yes it looks different! I do like the look of some perky boobs cleavage more than some squished together boobs. I feel so much more confident in my body and now that my incisions are almost closed i feel almost normal again. My hubby saw my breasts from day one and he can't see blood! He said he was very surprised that there was almost no blood and it looked much better than he thought. Well "Better" is really no word, look at my breasts and how nasty my haematomas looked but it was obviously ok for him.
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Thank you. I hope to gain more confidence every day.
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Thanks. I'm still nervous about showing off the new girls until they look less angry.
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Ok i promised to update when i had my surgery, so here we go: The hubby was really surprised and a bit shocked at the same time when he had the first glimpse of them. I was really bruised but he said they have a beautiful shape. The time when he really stated that it was a really big difference was, when i was standing naked before him and wanted to have a shower. He already said he likes my new cleavage too and as went down from 36 DDD to now ( guesstimated ! ) 36 C he still finds them big enough. As i have been too careful to get intimate i can't tell you how this will be :D
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My husband came with me to get the dressing off after 7 days. He saw them before I did. after a few minutes he was looking a bit shell shocked so I asked if they were what he was expecting. he said "better". he thinks they are lovely and having tried to persuade me to be comfortable walking around naked in the past, he is now probably getting fed up with me flashing my new boobs at him! he is also in charge of giving me a second opinion on the changing texture and amount of swelling! I can't really claim he is hating all this, ha ha!
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:D hehe this so cool
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I'm all over the place today. My husband doesn't care as long as I have some. His comment was, whatever you want. I've heard a lot of guys over the years say they like the size to be able to hold in their hand--I guess that depends on what size hands they have lol!
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Hey brave lady, all too common to have a wobble. Maybe he just worries about not saying the right thing, guys are like that.
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Had my surgery oct 10 and everything is going fine.. My hubby said that my new breast are perfect but he also loved them before my surgery..
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My husband's first response to my first post op reveal was a ....."puppy dog blank stare". He missed the girls at first. But, now he's coming around with encouragement from his lovely wife of course! ;-)
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:D so great!
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I'm just 3 weeks post op now! My husband was very surprised the first time we took the surgical bra off (day 1 post-op)because I had some bleeding from my incision. He was freaking out so much about it all he was panicky. He didn't even really see the new boobies just the bit of blood that was on the gauze! Lol I mentioned my concerns to him about how they looked and his reaction. He was very sweet & said they looked great! I could tell he was worried because mine were very badly bruised (took Arnica home remedy for swelling and bruising to help). The next day he was at the store for me and sent me this text: "I loved your old boobs and I'm gonna love your new boobs just the same if not more!" Please be encouraged. You will feel better and that will make things go well for him too!
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Wow it sounds he is very sweet and caring :) My BF just can't see blood too. I showed him pictures from here with 1day after surgery, because I wanted to prepare him. I also looked for a really bruised one. He wasn't able to look at this very long but when I showed him some really great before and after pictures he was looking at every picture very quietly. I think he fears it could be that the outcome is not as good as these results and he really loved my big boobs ( I never understood why though). His main concern is that they come out too small. But the concerns he has, I have too. So a bit of insecurity stays. I do trust my doctor who showed me a few pictures. My main concern are that the nipple placement will be correct but I think he really knows what he does. He is not just a certified plastic surgeon but also a professor and the chef of a hospital. He is a perfectionist and he already told me it could be that he needs 5-6 hours for the operation because he wants it perfect. What I found very interesting was that he said he is not one of those surgeons who has another doctor in the op and simultaneously operates both breast! ( please ladies, make sure your PS does everything himself ) I didn't even think something like that could be possible but obviously it is. He also told me that he does the operation in an upright position! I never heard about placement of the patient except the laying flat version. But he said, and that seems very reasonable, he couldn't see what he is doing if I lay flat and he would get the best results. I can't wait! :)
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Jansuntamed, I could send you my 1st post op pic that has terrible bruising (looked like I was hit with a baseball bat) and show you how I look now after 3 weeks of healing and ice packs, Celebrex daily and rest. Just let me know and I don't mind.
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I haven't had my surgery yet, but my hubby isn't liking this at all. He says he will support me but he's not happy about it. So now I'm worried if he'll like the new boobies at all.
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I think we should be selfish in this case.. It is our body and we have to live with it and love it. If you aren't loving them but he does then where is the "fun" on your side? I really do love my future hubby but if he wouldn't support me or love me less afterword well then he doesn't deserve me. Because thats what I would do for him too if he needed something to be happy. Every woman on this board keeps saying that she never regretted the decision.
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My husband said he does not care about my breast. He said and I quote "I didn't marry you for my breast, I married you for your butt and if you get a butt reduction we might have a problem" lol. Seriously, my husband was concerned about the pain I was in before my reduction and wanted me to do whatever was needed to feel better. He actually loves my new boobies and the idea of being able to buy me nice things to sleep in, something he has not been able to do in the past because I walked about in his t-shirt because nothing else looked good.
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Thank you so much for your reply. It was funny what your husband said :D I am still a bit concerned if my future hubby will love my new bookies too but he loved me with what I had and I think it can't get a lot worse ( in my opinion) only better. As you said, I am hoping that buying nice things that I could never wear before will be something he will enjoy too. :)
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Oh and the first thing my future hubby said was "where are you going to get the money for this"? The second thoughts had to do with things he maybe couldn't do with smaller breasts ;) but i think everything will be fine ;)
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My husband said the same thing about me not getting a butt reduction! Although he did first fall for my breasts...then 5 years of nursing and he became a butt-guy. :) He's very on-board for this, tomorrow is the big day!
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Wow Good luck to you then! I hope everything will be as you ( and your hubby =) expect it =)
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