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What did you tell them?

By Nicks Mom on 18 Feb 2011

Hello, I am planning a TT and Breast reduction June 1. Really don't want anyone to know. What did you tell them? I am getting a insurance covered breast lift so would it be wrong to say I am having a medical necessary procedure? I am throwing in the TT because I don't want to go under twice.

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momma79 21 Feb 2011
I am not telling anyone, only my husband knows. I will let them know afterwards.

I feel that no one needs to know, this is my personal decision and I dont want anyone else's opinion, that normally leads to double thinking your decision.

I guess it also depends on the kinds of relationships that you have with the people in your life.
Nicks Mom 21 Feb 2011
I will need to tell work something since I am going to be off for 2 weeks. I'm just looking for a way to say it without really saying it.
Just another MOM 20 Mar 2011
A HERNIA!!! It's abdominal surgery, isn't it? Although it is no ones business. (you can also say the doctor did quite a bit of muscle repair along w/ fixing hernia.) So when you do go back to work if you are experiencing trouble walking or standing/sitting for any period of time this explanation should cover it.
mixter 29 Mar 2011
I just dropped the hint to a coworker that I'm having pain around my belly button and I feel a lump inside. She said it's probably a hernia. :o)
Nicks Mom 29 Mar 2011
Nice! I am going to have to try that one. I work in a male dominated feild and i don't want to say it's "female" issues. that would just give them something to talk about...Girls can't take it. if they only new how much we can take.
england4642 22 Feb 2011
Hi there. I was the same as you, and realy didn'nt want to tell everyone about my procedure. I saved 2 weeks of my holiday entitlement from work, and had my surgery on the first day of that time. So 2 weeks passed before anyone knew at work, when i had to take some sick leave. Anyone that asked awkward questions, i just told i'd had some muscle repair, and a hysterectomy scar revision, which in effect is realy not far from the truth. I find that if you just say 'its a girlie op', people take the hint!. Good luck to you. x
MyTime 9 May 2011
Thats goood...it is the truth but it sounds so different for all the people that do not understand PSurg, the general public lol I'm going to use this thanks!
momma79 22 Feb 2011
You can always say that you're undergoing surgery and that its private.. I've done this in the past and my employer did not have an issue.. You have a right to privacy and they cant really question you on what type of surgery it is.. Just Surgery...

Hope this helps..
majatummy 23 Feb 2011
Well, here's another thought. I told vey few before, my husband, my grown daughters and my best friend only. Since my surgery I have been very honest...to closest friends I've said a TT, casual friends I've said elective surgery and if they ask told them TT.
Most lady friends are just so darn appreciative about my honesty, because it turns out that they all dream of some kind of plastic surgery, and it is such a hush hush embarrassing subject...seems like talking honestly brings it out of the closet. PLUS I don't want to make anyone feel bad because I look so good. They'll know it was the result of surgery, and they could do it too if they wanted it badly enough.
Dreamarie 23 Feb 2011
Have had the same experience as you. Said TT to my close friends and then just said I am having surgery to "fix some things that happened after having kids." That could me numerous things, so I figure that is pretty much the truth.
3/24/11 23 Feb 2011
i am telling them female surgery along witht he kids. but i havent told the kids anything.. they are young and will tell them after surgery that mommy had a owie.. but ill be ok and i need them tohelp daddy.. I havent told inlaws yet, but ill prolly tell them when it gets closer. ill tell mom in law and let her do what ever with dad. My dad passed away so he already knows..{smiles} and my mom isnt around anymore. and friends i have told one gf. and i will tell the rest after its all done.
Gracey 24 Feb 2011
Only my husband and my kids knew about my surgery. I did it during Christmas, so I was able to cover it well, with that additional time off. I just told people I did not feel well for the next few weeks. There was a lot of sickness going around, so no one thought it was strange. I have heard that some people tell folks, when they return to work, that their back is hurting (and it will be). It is likely that you will be wearing a compression garment -that is sort of like a back brace.
Country Gal 24 Feb 2011
I only told 2 of my sisters, because one of them actually mentioned it, and that was what prompted ME to look into it and go ahead.

I told hubby and one friend. I asked hubs not to tell anyone, and the friend, I only told because we do our volunteer work together, and I had to let her know I'd be away for quite a while. I asked her not to tell, and I don't think she will.

I don't think it's my in-laws business, nor anyone else's.
3/24/11 26 Feb 2011
no its not inlaws business. but ihave to tell them something when i dont show up to sunday dinner. so thats why i am telling everyone female surgery.. and they know i am losing weight so i dont think anyone will question the different look.
Linda50 28 Mar 2011
I told EVERYONE! lol.
Barbie892 29 Mar 2011
Linda, you are so cool! I told everyone too!!
BikiniDreaming 4 Apr 2011
Linda, I laughed out loud at your comment.

I started off saying this is a complete secret (just hubby) but have now told about 8 people - including our driver at work... which led to me find out his wife was having hers done 2 weeks after me, and we are now a support for each other. I will probably tell everyone afterwards :)
Linda50 4 Apr 2011
Dreaming, I am just an open person. So, if anyone would ask what type of surgery I had, because I was walking like a hunchback, I would tell them! Then I would follow it up with, don't feel too sorry for me, I chose to do this to myself! haha I also gave the link to this site to those that asked for pictures. Again, I think it has to do with the fact I had a face lift 8 years ago and had to be open about that. I mean, how do you hide your head?? lol
mom_me 30 Mar 2011
I WANT TO TELL EVERYONE! LOL but I'm waiting to make sure I can get it done first so I don't look foolish. This is one of my biggest problems mostly because I don't judge anyone, I am happy for others when great things happen for them. I want to tell my close girls and my kids but I resist daily. If you have the TT and a breast reduction just say you lost weight (which is true) and God knows the breasts are the first to go!! So the balance is perfect for that reason. If they have to know about surgery it's repairing torn muscles which is basically true too. :) Good luck with all of it girls!
Gracey 31 Mar 2011
Hey ladies! It is my nature to tell everyone everything. Through doing just that over and over my experiences have taught me to say nothing. One girl where I used to work had BA, and 5 years later men at work were still staring at her boobs. She ended up quiting her job. I have found that I don't like people asking me personal questions and then sharing that info, so sadly felt the need to keep it quiet. If everyone were mature (like us ; ) it wouldn't be a problem for me. Lol!
mom_me 31 Mar 2011
I agree Gracey alot of people can't be mature about this kind of thing. When I say I want to tell everyone that's only really family and a couple close girfriends. I have to tell you ladies this though. I have been padding up!! Those tops that have the faux boobs or padding in them. I wear a padded bra and then one of those and yes I have tucked a sock in there at times too. I figure maybe some people will just not notice that big of a difference then lol. How sad is that?
BikiniDreaming 4 Apr 2011
Ha! I've been walking around with my tummy held in as tight as possible, or wearing my spanx pants.. practice for how I will look very very soon.
mom_me 4 Apr 2011
I was trying that and still had to use my hands to pull it in. lol but I did that in the mirror today with my bra all stuffed up. It's hard to fathom that that could be for real. It keeps me on that exercising though so I am in shape to have this done.
majatummy 1 Apr 2011
That's not sad, that's hilarious!! Clever girl!
youngmomof4 1 Apr 2011
I've been telling everyone (except my in laws lol) I could care less what people think or say. It's my body, my money. 9 times out of 10 people will just say something because they're jealous they can't get it done themselves. Everyone has been really supportive. I haven't had any negative comments, and I'm waitin for the day I get one... Because I'll tell them just what they can do with them. ;-)

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