What did you tell them?

  • Nicks Mom
  • San Francisco
  • 3 years ago

Hello, I am planning a TT and Breast reduction June 1. Really don't want anyone to know. What did you tell them? I am getting a insurance covered breast lift so would it be wrong to say I am having a medical necessary procedure? I am throwing in the TT because I don't want to go under twice.

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Ok so question AND thank you all for your posts. I needed this... HOW DID you hide the bulbs???
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Thank you Country Gal. You are right. You know how us women are...go go go. Luckily, I have a wonderful husband who takes good care of me and is doing everything when I get home.
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Rest a lot, whenever you can. If you overdo, it will take a lot longer.
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Oh, my, you are a busy chick! :)
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Only my family knows. I went back to work 3 days after my surgery as I had already taken off 2 weeks about 2 months ago for a hysterectomy. Fortunately, I only sit at a desk all day so it isn't much different than sitting on my couch. The most difficult part has been hiding the "bulbs" in my clothes so that no one sees them. I don't want work to know.
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I told my family and friends...IDC if they know or not. I do not currently have a job, but if I didI would tell them that I am having a serious surgery, and I need to take 2-3 weeks off...and leave it at that.
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New York, I understand why your saying this about the stares but I hate that you want to stuff your garment so no one looks at you and might be able to tell you had some "work"!! I say go in and hold your head up high with your flatter stomach and who cares If they talk.... My momma always said if there talking about me then they re leaving someone else alone!! SCREW THEM!!!!
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Amen to that! You and Linda really help me see the other side. I appreciate that. Afterall, that's one if the reasons we are on this site. I will not stuff my pants and I will not answer questions. Problem solved...
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Yay Joyce!
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And looking hot is the best revenge!! No matter how you did it! Be proud! We all went through this & we all understand how you feel.
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Oh yeah, Linda you ROCK!
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Well after two days in the office and obvious attention being paid to my improved stomach,despite my blouses being outside and wearing a sweater, I have decided to stuff my garment slightly for the rest of the week at least. Today I was certain that everyone is talking about the fact that they think I had a TT even though they are not saying it to me. I do realize that I may just be paranoid also, but too many comments about my appearance are being made and the obvious stare to make me believe that the talk on the street is...."she had PS"
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I don't mean to be insensitive, I really don't. I am just having the most difficult time wrapping my head around why you care if they are whispering behind your back that you may have had a tt. Trust me, if these are the type of women whose opinion of you is causing you to "stuff" your binder so you look bigger, they were talking about some other aspect of you prior to this surgery. Possibly they whispered, "She needs a tummy tuck". My point is, co-workers are co-workers. Sometimes we are fortunate enough to call them friends but most times not. Work is not a popularity contest nor is it an extension of high school. Shake your head real hard and forget about worrying what they think. It doesn't matter. Your self worth is not defined by what others think or don't think of you. It's all about how YOU feel. And you are a NY'er! My mom was born and raised in Brooklyn. Trust me, she didn't give two hoots about what someone else said about her. Enjoy what you did for yourself. Or spend the rest of your life worrying that someone might know you had plastic surgery. The choice is yours. I say enjoy yourself and don't worry. Just my opinion.
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I can certainly understand your logic, and its not so much that I care that they talk about me. I know they did before, talked about each other yada yada. I don't give a flying f**k what they think about me. I just don't want to tell them because I want it to be private. once they know it opens up more questions and dialog which at that point I'll have to answer. we have a pretty good rapport. throughout the office, better than most. I just do.t want it to be anyone's business. Therefore of I star attention away it may go away. nothing more, nothing less..
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I understand your point NY. Just don't pad your already bulky binder. Just be who you are. If they are going to talk, you confirmed what I already thought, they are going to talk regardless of whether you walk in with a snow suit on or completely naked. Don't be ashamed of what you had done. Ever. It's your body, your choice and your right to enjoy it by golly by gosh. To hell with them. You don't have to tell them anything. Let them wonder. You're right in that it's none of their business. I just hate to see someone who has gone through a degree of hell that noone who hasn't had this done will ever understand, and feel the need to hide it. That's all I was trying to convey.
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LOL, Linda....PRICELESS!!!
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Tell your mother in law how much sex you are her son are going to have now that you feel better about yourself. That should shut her up.
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I LOVE IT!!!!!!
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LOL Thank you Linda I'll have to try that. She has some sort of damn talent to calling at just the wrong time ALOT and since it's been 28 years it's getting kind of scary how good she is at it.
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Good for you!!! My mother in law is the one that's gonna tick me off because she has too many opinions that she won't keep to herself already. I've got to get past this pressure somehow.
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I went back to work yesterday and they are none the wiser. It helps that ny hasnt caught up to the season yet so i had on bulky clothes. im not telling anyone inclding my mother. They all think i spend too much money as it is like its any of their business.
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Some people seriously need a life...I think they wish they would have a flat tummy lol =)
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Well I hope everyone had a wonderful Easter. I have been all over the site here (I'm on the Shorties blog here) I had Easter dinner here at my house and I was extremely close to sharing with my sister in law and I had this urge to tell my daughter. I didn't tell anyone though :( For you gals having a breast reduction and or TT it won't be much to say that you lost 20 lbs round abouts because when I did my breasts were the very first to go and my tummy skin wasn't going anywhere but down. Another reason I haven't said anything is because I am afraid something will happen and it won't go through.
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I didn't want to ask my hubby to lie, so I just told him to tell anyone who asked, that I was not feeling well. If it came to a situation where he had to say that I'd had surgery, he just said it was 'women stuff'.

That's not a lie, and he was comfortable with it.
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Amen to you Barbie! lol
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