Best Ways to "Hide" the Surgery from Co-Workers?

  • MinCO
  • Colorado
  • 2 years ago

I know it sounds silly but I would rather not explain this surgery to others at work.  I am just really embarassed about it??? I have hidden them well and people have always said, "you don't look that big".  My husband will know of course and my parents are coming to town to help.  I will return to work on the 8th day after surgery.  I am a teacher so I am not having to take any additional time off.  My return to work is the same as the other teachers.    (Unless there are unforseen complications...)  Since I have had ongoing neck/back problems, I am thinking of using that as an excuse to be moving a little more slowly, not hugging everyone, not feeling well, etc.  I have always worn shirts that hide "the girls" anyway so I think that the sportsbra (uni-boob) look won't be an issue.  Thoughts?  Ideas?  Thanks!

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People may not even notice. I guess us busty ladies feel so self conscious we think that all people see is our boobs, but as you have said, people don't think you look that large. People may see a difference in you but they'll probably assume you've just lost weight. Start out wearing clothes that don't make you look that different to before, coats and loose fitting clothes, even scarves that cover the bust. I don't know what season it is where you live, but hopefully it's cool enough to wear that kind of thing. Each day, make small changes and over time, no-one will have noticed. Another great idea I have seen suggested is a drastic hair cut/colour. It draws attention to your face and away from your breasts. Lastly, it's no-one's business what you do with your body. If anyone comments directly on the size of your breasts (and yes, there are rude, tactless people out there as I'm sure you're familiar with) tell them politely but firmly that it's none of their business. Or even better, play dumb and brush it off. It's no-one's business and you have every right to keep that information to yourself. Good luck!
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I have having my breast implants in mid Oct. I've opted not to tell anyone at work except for my manager and my daughters and my boyfriend. Ill be back to work 4 days after surgery and my biggest fear is I'm in sales an will be on my feet a lot. Does anyone know if this will affect my recovery? Or have any input? I'm very active person so and usually mange pain well so I am hoping this will not be an issue. My only mager thing I've ever done was give birth to my 3 girls naturally and besides that I've never had any other medical or procedures done.
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Go from long hair to really short hair! :) That's what my friends & co-workers noticed, even those that knew about the surgery. The most important thing is being comfortable with yourself and your choices. That will make it easier for you. My 16-year old also gave great "comfort" advice when she stated it's no different from getting your teeth or heart fixed: even if people see that part of you (like braces on teeth) it's your body to be proud of and take care of, because it's yours for life.
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Thank you for your comments. I had my surgery last July and have only shared it with people who matter to me. I continue to feel great about my decision and I am more than happy with the result. Several people commented on my weight loss which also happened around the time of my surgery, but otherwise, no-one has mentioned it.
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I told exactly one person where I work. Most of the people who work there are big gossips, so I didn't want them all pointing and laughing. I basically told my boss (a man) and anyone who asked, that I was having some surgery to correct back problems. This is true, so that's good enough. No one needs to know everything unless you are personally close. I don't think anyones medical issues are anyone else's business. My best friend also knows, but other than those two people, the only ones that know are my immediate family. This is a personla decision, but based mostly on the maturity level of those you work with. I'm not sure how I'll cover a surgical bra for a month, but I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. It could always be explained as a brace for my back.
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Bella, from my experience having had the surgery early July of this year, the surgical bra was really not a problem. If I remember correctly, I did not wear the surgical bras the hospital had given me for that long. I was able to wear various other supportive bras, and learned which ones were comfortable from reading the sharings from blogs on this helpful site. I wish you only the best with your surgery and recovery. I am still overjoyed with my results.
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I hope I can say the same. I wasn't worried about the surgical bra until I read someone's post about having to wear turtlenecks to hide the surgical bra. (?) My surgeon has said I need to wear it 24/7 for four weeks. If it's not something that will show when I wear a regular shirt or blouse, then I'm not worried. I am just worried now that I won't be small enough! LOL
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I must be an oddball. I told people that I work with and on certain projects. Of course, I was going to a doctors' office before br consultations. I was doing further exploration on a supposedly positive result for breast cancer after a mammogram. It runs on my mom's side and started at my age. My general doctor sent me as a precaution. Luckily, I do not have breast cancer. But I have dense breasts and it is hard to do self check. The decision to reduce was easier to make after the cancer scare.
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Good news concerning breast cancer results. I too had the same issue with dense breasts and I was so grateful after the results from BR showed no cancer. The testing with BR is much more in depth than mammo's or biopsies could ever be. As for sharing with others about BR, my thoughts are the same as I think about most things in life; meaning, if everyone's responses were the same that would definitely be Odd. Take care.
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My co-workers know, but i work at a bank and I was joking that when I do return after my procedure, the question will be did you do something different to your hair or I did not know your eyes were so blue....LOL
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I am the only female in an office full of 30 men. I had the same fears. I decided not to tell anyone and oddly enough, no-one noticed. People know somehting is different but they cant really pinpoint it. I mostly got asked if i had lost weight. Good luck to you.
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As my plastic surgeon said, everyone will notice but nobody will say anything! You will look like you've lost weight because your waist line will be more visible. Just don't say anything. The flip side is, if one of girls on my job had not told me about her surgery i would have still been miserable today because i did not know about the surgery let alone that my insurance paid for it. I had a $15 co-pay...Best decision i have ever made....
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I hope that's the case! A couple of my coworkers tend to be rather nosy and ask way-too-personal questions. It's mostly because they are comfortable sharing all the details of their medical issues but I am just not that kind of personality. But if they do ask I am going to point out that it's a little inappropriate to be asking questions about your coworkers boobs...cuz it is.
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Hi e34th. I alsways feel you should trust how you feel and go with it. I hope you are doing well after your surgery and are happy with the results. I am now just past 3mos and I continue to feel so grateful and happy that I had the surgery. I wish you all the very best in your recovery.
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I am glad I am not the only one who feels this way. I just like to keep my professional life and my private life totally separate. I have less than a week until my surgery and I am definitely stressing about what I am going to do when I get back to work. Now that you are back to work do you have any advice?
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I honestly would try to focus on what makes you feel comfortable and try not to stress about what other people think or feel. I am almost 3mos post opt now, and I am more than thrilled with the results and how much better I feel and look. The only positive comments I have received since the surgery have been around my weight loss (I also lost around 10/15pounds). I find people are generally less interested in me that my own sensitivity believes. I also felt the same as you and did not feel comfortable sharing this experience with my colleagues. I feel that is my choice and I am glad that I honored my feelings and gut instincts. Try not to stress about this, I am sure things will work out fine for you and take good care of yourself in all areas. Good Luck!!!
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Chipmunk - Good for you in doing what makes you comfortable.. Sounds like things are going well - Good Luck and enjoy your new look!!!
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I'm not hiding it at all at work. I work in a doctor's office and we all know we have been working on weight loss together (40lbs down and I don't care who knows that either)! To me this is just another step, I will feel so much better when my body matches who I am on the inside :)
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Today was my first day at work after the surgery 5 weeks ago. I didn't tell anyone at my job b/c I just don't deal with them like that. Its like Junior High all over again there, so I don't talk about my personal life, surgery or not.

Anyway, none of the women there said a word. If they did notice anything, they didn't mention it. The one guy who works there def noticed. He gave me a hug, and said I lost weight and I actually watched his eyes wander towards my boobs(as usual).

Then he told me I looked great, was glad I was back, but that I need to gain weight. Uhh thanks?
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It's a personal decision - to tell people about your surgery. I personally don't care who knows. It's going to be obvious when I come back to work three weeks later and I'm a B cup (God willing), where as I'm a DD cup now. It's just not that personal to me. But I can definitely see why others would feel uncomfortable about sharing this information. Just do what makes you the most comfortable. Good luck with your surgery! :)
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MinCo - I was thinking about and you wondering how you are doing. Hopefully, everything went well with your surgery and you are feeling well and pleased with your decision.
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I have no regrets about the surgery AT ALL. I have been back at work for two days now and haven't told anyone. I have a pinched nerve in my neck so I am moving slow, not lifting, etc. I'm still in the surgical bra (vest) so I have to wear things that go high on my neck. I didn't have many items like that because I always thought it made my boobs look bigger. Who knows? At my first Happy Hour with co-workers, I may share my story...ha! Thanks for asking!
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So glad to hear you are doing well and happy with your new boobs. Aren't they amazing!!! Every day I am grateful that I had the courage to follow through and get the BR. Whatever you decide make sure it something You want to do for You - any other reason will be for doing it for the wrong reasons! Good Luck with your recovery. Enjoy the New You!
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Hi All,
I too do not feel I have to hide my op! I work in a hospital and all my colleagues know why I want this doing. The men (we are not politically correct which is nice!) think 'its a shame' (joking) and everyone is supportive and understanding.
I find if you hide something it makes people intrigued! It could lead to finding an explanation which can lead to panic as you have to remember what you have said and to whom. For me I found it best to just say it like it is and forget it.
People tend to be preoccupied with their own issues, so yours will perhaps inspire a cursory thought and nothing more. Try not to be too focussed on what others think. Many people will be happy for you- that's what i have found, nothing but support and understanding from family,friends, and colleagues.
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Everyone I work with knew about my journey and surgery. I was scheduled to go back to work on the Monday 2 weeks post op, and I decided to go in the Friday before for 'show n tell' to get it out of the way. It was actually quite funny to watch these women's eyes TRY not to look at my boobs and keep eye contact! lol I got them all in a group, opened up my zip hoodie (tshirt underneath) and said 'all right, take a look and get it over with. You know you want to, I would!' lol. Never had a group of women stare at my boobs before and tell me how amazing they look! I still catch people sneaking a peek. When I do, I stick 'em out even further and make it obvious. It's all good! :)
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