Anyone have a spouse completely against you having cosmetic surgery?

Hi KAMG
My husband was upset #1 because he was afraid of me not making it through surgery #2 Did't think I needed it (said I looked fine to him too, which of course is sweet but it is about how we feel about ourselves) and #3 was mad that I was spending the money. He is fine now, it really was mainly something bad happening to me, and I'm still here! :)

My husband was totally against my T.T. surgery for the same 3 reasons. I drove myself to my PS for surgery and my 17 year old drove me home that evening. He was less than attentive partly due to fear, drains and bruising on my eyelids from eye surgery. I was a mess. Anyway we got thru it rather I got thru it and now 15 weeks later when I'm naked I will catch him staring and smiling! It' all good now and he has congratulated me more than once on the success of my surgery. I tell him it only gets better with time. He's good with it now.

My husband was not a fan of my having my TT. he is all about the vidusl and he thinks the scar is going to be disgusting. I'm not sure if he will ever see me naked again. He started out saying he wouldn't help or be supportive at all of this decision.

Once he realized that i was still going through with this because it was important to ME, he decided he would be supportive of me because he loves me, even if he didn't agree with the decision. he came with me to my pre - op visit, and came with me to the surgery (he did keep telling me i could back out right till they knocked me out...lol)
He has been good with helping around the house and carrying things for me - he did all that stuff before the surgery anyway.


Time will tell how he deals with the scar - hopefully it will heal nicely and he will get over with it - right now (2.5 weeks post op) I'm not really worried about him looking at me naked, I'm just trying not to be in pain.

Initially my husband was not a big fan of my having a TT, but he supported me. However, after the surgery, he became worse. He didn't realize (neither did I actually) what a big surgery it was and what the recovery would be like. He was infuriated that I would put myself thru that for vanity sake. I'm at 3 weeks now and getting around fine, but it's definitely put a strain on my marriage. He was absolutely no help or comfort at all. If it weren't for my best friend taking care of me, I don't know what I would have done. He still hasn't looked at it, and I don't think he will for a very long time. Hopefully your husband is more like those listed above.

My husband is very supportive in thought, not sure how supportive he is in action though. Now that the ball is rolling he is stalling and that is KILLING me. Talk about being frustrated. I am a little worried about the recovery and his help, he likes to call himself "super dad" however, he lightly helps with things around the house, if I ask he does, but that is not the same as doing not when asked... He also likes to say that I am tough, well yeah that maybe, but that also does not mean I am not going to need help. I have 4 kids and going to have to take it easy for a long time, just not convinced he is prepared to deal with all that. AACCCKK and now I am rambling, can you tell I am still indecisive also?
Good luck to you, I hope all works out!!
~Julie

Ok so ladies here we are... this is the latest, back in November I had 2 consults, one was ready to do surgery on Dec. 7. my husband and I had it out, he flat out told me NO, well I could do it but he was NOT paying for it, I am a stay at home mom, since 2003, no needless to say I don't have any of MY OWN $$. I got VERY depressed, went to the dr... it was more than him saying NO, I am on the east coast, and get the winter blues, so it was just all adding up. He called me from work one day late late dec. and asked me what the hell was wrong with me? I, ironcially was in the shower, and standing there naked started telling him how disturbing it is to see the skin sag...etc... he said FINE, I am not promising anything but go get 3 equal consults for him to compare... so I just had my 4th really and we have yet to discuss what we are going to do, I am nervous about bringing it up again... BUT at least he is "hearing" me now.
As for recovery I had a c-section with my last, so I have a pretty good idea of what is going to happen, although dif dr say it is better/worse... depends on who you are.. the pain doesn't scare me, and he already said he is not taking off of work, I would have to have a ride to/from and someone else to help out... however I know he loves me and would be OK, probably not helpful as he doesn't do much around the house as is... so I will just have things in order before hand, and the dishes can wait, or if he gets tired of it he can do them :P or he will have the kids do them. haha!
I wish all of you luck and hope that our husbands realize it is for US, I know mine is scared and insecure that I am going to leave, because those are the horror stories HE hears. I love my husband, I am done having kids and would just like to feel good in that little black dress, and that bikini :) Praying that I make the right decision, because now I am wondering if it is all going to be worth it or am I REALLY ok the way I am>???