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Mommy Makeover advice for a Dancer.

  • ConsideringIt87
  • Durham, NC
  • 1 year ago

I am a 25 year old mother of 2!! My daughter is 5 and my son is 4.  Most of the body damage I experience came from my first pregnancy.  My daughter was a healthy 10lb 8oz, and she grew straight out whereas most women grew wide and out at a more congruent ratio I guess. My stretch marks did not come until I was around 36 weeks but my diastasis came when I was 8 months, and that's where most of my concern is for wanting a surgery.  

I am a dancer, and although I am back to being physically fit, my equilibrium is still off and I am not able to execute moves as effectively because my core muscles are not aligned. In ballet my balance is off and I don't hold positions well, I thought it was because I was reconditioning my body not only after having children, but also after a 3 year hiatus (I've been back at it since September 2010).  However, i have been strengthen my core muscles but they are floating all over the place so it's still just as bad as having weak core muscles.  Not to mention b-girling has been as equally as frustrating because again with dance your core is the most important part of your dancing. Not to mention i can also feel my organs move at any given time, especially when I lay down on my back, I can see them a bit too.  That doesn't seem to be very healthy to me, because I get creeped out and paranoid thinking my organs aren't intact and are floating around inside of me because my core muscles are separate and thus they go unprotected.  

I'm not as upset about the stretch marks, because they're rather light and I've done my own experimenting with pulling the skin back and down and you can barely notice them.  My breast, I've always had a petite bust line, they were once perky and I don't think I need silicone or to be cut open in that area but they sag about 2-4 centimeters than they once did and they hang like sandbags when I bend over, as well as my belly it just bulges out all gross like.  I have always had a pudgy stomach, but this is very uncomfortable, like it lays over the tops of my pants, the extra skin gets caught in zippers, well it used to, I've mastered sucking it in enough to avoid that, as well as getting caught in some DVD/CD cases...I can't slide across the floor smoothly if choreography causes for it because the extra skin produces much more friction.    

My main goal is to realign and add more strength to my core muscles, and get rid of some of the extra skin, some of the fat and perk my breast back up.  Ideally, I want a mini tummy tuck, some liposuction, and breast injections just to get my body back to looking as fit as it is, I don't want to have a brand new body or even go back to my teenage body because it's inevitable for your body to change, especially after carrying and giving birth to two humans. The surgery part isn't scary to me, I've had a c-section with my daughter, however the doctor I had did a spectacular job with my incision.  It's practically invisible, and I often see other photos of post op mommy makeovers and their scars even about 9-12 months after the surgery are still to noticeable and wide for my liking.  If I could I would go back to the doctor who delivered my child via cesarean and have him perform my operation, but do they do that too? Haha!   

So my questions are, for doctors:  What would be a better option for me? a FULL Mommy Makeover.  Full abdominoplasty and breast augmentation, a mini with a full breast aug, or what I prefer: A mini to repair the diastasis with lipo, and small breast injections?  With the breast injections can I use the fat from my lipo from my tummy tuck?    For the women who have had the mommy makeovers:  What were you exact reasons? Health Concerns or body issues, I'll admit while I am more worried about having unprotected organs, I am a bit self-conscious about the way my stomach looks, although I still wear bikinis from time to time, I wear high waist pants much higher than usual out of social altruism.  I am not trying to gross people out, I shouldn't care, but I'd rather not get upset with someone's ignorance and discrimination of what an acceptable stomach is and wanting to be as free with my fashion as I once was.  

I still where tight shirts, but the tube tops, halters and all of that, what I haven't gotten rid of, I where a shirt over it or pull my pants up over the loose skin.   For mom's who are considering it and have't gotten it yet:  What are your concerns about the process.   Thank you so much for those of you who read this and choose to respond, I appreciate it lots, and I am so glad to have found this community, No many other people understand or even care about a mom's body issues.   *I did not proof read, pardon the typos =)*

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Nice to see fellow Salsera on the boards. I am 1 week post op and it's killing me that I can't dance for six weeks. But I do have a Salsa/Bachata cruise in November to look forward to with my new body. Having someone with you the first week 24/7 was a must for me. After one week, I think I could take care of myself if I had to as long as I have microwavable food in the freezer and I didn't have to leave the house for at least another week. Some women are able to do light house work after a week. I'm prettty tired, sore, and uncomfortable to move around very much. My surgery was long, 8 hours, so mine may be a worse case. I'm a big girl. I was 183lbs, now 177lbs and droping because I feel like I eat two bites and stomach is full. It's a lot to go through but I know it will be worth it when I put on that hot Salsa dress and my dance shoes and start dancing like I've lost my mind. The drains are annoying but not that bad. I got one out yesteday and I hope another tomorrow. Happy Dancing!!!!!!
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There are a lot of posts and updates about Mommy Make Over procedures here: http://www.realself.com/forum/september-and-october-mommy-makeovers-check-in
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I had an extensive TT, a breat augmentation and lipo of thighs and flanks. Tomorrow is 2 weeks post op. I'm jamming out to "to no se mannana" on Pandora and trying out some of my single spins. My center of gravity is so much tighter and turns are so much easier now. I'm not trying anything harder so I don't wamt to mess anything up. Ok, now Marc Anthony is serenading me! One last mini Salsa before bed!! buenas noches!!
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aaaahhh. Reading that your center of gravity has improved reinforces my feeling of "needing" this procedure. I thought that the reasons my turns weren't any good was because I just needed to train more but then I thought" you DO suffer from diastasis recti" and figured that was a much better reason for considering it. Thank you for that. I read that you were under for 8hours and I was like 'WHOA, that's a looong time" but now I understand why. Happy salsa-ing. Espero que no te rompas a nada! Buenas noches!
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Me too!!! I thought I just needed to keep practicing or taking more classes. I've been so envious of the girls that could do multiple spins where I would fall out of them after two matter how hard or long i tried. Now I think I stand a better chance of conquering them. I'll try not to break anything!! He also fixed a hernia too. I told the him I would wear him out and I did. He did a lot of work on me and I'm forever grateful. It's not a walk on the park. It was a week plus of pain and it will be a few months of swell hell. But it's worth it for me already. I would do it again if I needed to.
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I apologize for the late reply, I honestly don't know who will be looking after me. I have not date for my surgery, and I haven't had my first consultation yet, I plan to have my first one by the end of the year as part of my birthday present to myself. Then within the next 8 months after that to have one more consultation and my surgery. I thought about asking my mom or my cousin, however they both have very full plates and I don't want to impose on their lives, so I considered looking after myself, while they cared for the children who can be taken to daycare and school while they went about their daily lives. However, reading other people's stories I see that having someone else around is A MUST. So if not my mom, or cousins then I will discuss that with a friend. I really don't want to be in anyone else's home so if someone stopped by for 2 hours or so a day that would suffice for me. I not only feel more comfortable in my own home, but safer, and less of a burden as well. Gaining weight from using medication seems like a legitimate reason to have insurance cover your surgery, it is a from a medical issue. Have you talked to your regular doctor at all about it being something your insurance covers? It wouldn't hurt to ask, you could be able to get it fro much cheaper and sooner than you think. lol...your mom has the tv below t he kitchen? That's a bit of a hassle, walking upstairs to eat, then downstairs. she must eat at the kitchen table like she's suppose to =)
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at least 6 weeks recovery. That's not so bad, did you have a full tummy tuck and breast aug?
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I don't know what happened but the above "late reply" post was intended for you.
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I'm not sure. Mine might be covered by insurance because I gained the weight due to medication. I have to figure out about who will look after me when I am all dopey and recovering. My mom said that she would, but i'm not completely sure that is going to work... she isn't the worlds best caretaker. i have to think about it. plus she said she wouldn't come to my house, i would have to stay at her house, and the tv is on the bottom story and the kitchen is on the top story...

who will be looking after you?
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it's more the embarassment of folds of loose skin showing if my shirt lifts up... i went to a consultation... now i have to figure out if insurance will pay for it... and figure out what i'm going to do about recovery period. i'm not sure what most women do, i guess most women have husbands who look after them, for me i will probably stay with my mom which means moving out of my house for a few weeks... and i'm not sure i want to deal with the stress of living in a strange house while also dealing with post surgery stuff... basically i'm just feeling really stressed right now!!
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I giggle a bit about the shirt lifting an being embarrassed, I too get all panicky when my shirt lifts up and exposes my gut and wrinkly tummy. I wear high waisted pants but that covers enough to give the illusion that my tummy is still svelte. It's nothing like going to the pool alone and wearing a bikini, or even just having it exposed from your clothing betraying you -_- haha!

I'm trying to decide if I want to schedule my consultation soon or at the beginning of the year, I have yet to actually save any money for my operatin (oddly enough) however I'm still deciding if I want a full MM or just a full TT...*sigh* decisions. I figured after my first or second consultation with most if not all of my inquiries answered and secure advice from the surgeon I can get an estimate of the cost for what we concur on and then begin saving...Well actually since I have decided that I will go thru with the procedure I have begun to save pocket change for that purpose, and after the consultation with the doc(s) I will start saving the big bucks.

I'm not sure any insurance covers plastic surgery unless it's like an actual health issue or emergency situation. You may have to contact your insurance company to make sure however. you know, thank you from bringing up life during the recovery period, that really hasn't been on my mind as much as the surgery/healing process...I should probably get to thinking about options for that asap. (yikes!) When are you hoping to have your procedure done?
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when i first started reading your review i thought your core was off AFTER the surgery but now i realize it is due to pregnancy. i hope the surgery helps! (i think they can tighten it up...)

I am also a dancer, I do lots of salsa (amateur level)... I am worried about the recovery process after the surgery but i guess it is true that probably having the surgery will make my body tighter and easier to move? I did not go through pregnancy so i don't have that to deal with, just lots of loose skin from weight loss.
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Oh my! I didn't mean for it to be confusing =s. but hey! another dancer! Salsa, that is fantastic. other than a few footwork moves I have yet to try salsa!

I do understand your worry about the recovery process, that's where I'm thinking is most of the issues would occur if there are any.Not just with hoping for a benign and inconspicuous scar, but also with infection, or not healing evenly. Prolonged swelling...yeah just so much. You say you are looking to rid yourself of loose skin, that shouldn't be much of a problem or cause for much worry, I mean presuming your core muscles are still intact, because you did lose weight naturally, it's the discomfort of having the loose skin and it being "in the way" when dancing especially...idk about you, but mine shifts EEEK! Have you scheduled a consultation yet? How did that go for you?
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I'm so glad you're finding RealSelf useful!

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Welcome to RealSelf! Here's what some doctors have to say about mini vs. full tummy tucks. I have a hunch that they're going to say full TT for you, but I'm no medical professional. You should schedule two or three consultations with board certified plastic surgeons to find out what is possible in your case. That will be the best way to find out what you're dealing with.

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Thank You Angie! The link is a lot of help, I'm getting some very useful insight. This website is a very wonderful community for people considering cosmetic/plastic surgery.
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