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Its strange looking good. Do you ever feel so ugly even though you look good?

  • RealSelfUser000
  • New York, NY
  • 1 year ago

Growing up ugly certainly defines you and makes you the way you are. Just think of middle School. Thats when girl really start to notice that some Are skinnier than others. some Are growing boobs. some are wearing expensive clothes and when they cut their hair, everyone goes out and gets the same hair cut. boys like them. and then there's the other type of girl, the type no boys like even though they're very nice. I think being born pretty makes people mean.  Have you ever wondered if you would change after your surgery? Change on the inside I mean. Become arrogant because we look so good and we worked for it, paid for it, suffered for it. Our beauty is a prize to be won, not something that's handed out to everyone--the ungrateful bunch who are just born pretty through no effort of their own. Guys who previous would ignore my calls/texts/emails because they were attractive and wouldn't give me the time of day or simply wanted to remain casual acquaintances are suddenly interested in me now. It feels strange. I have never had a cute guy interested in me before. I don't know how to handle it. It makes me uncomfortable. What do I do! I was so comfortable in my role as the ugly funny girl whom every guy wants as his friend, but things are different now. Have any of you felt this way?

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maybe your confidence also went up after the surgery and guys are responding to that. Confidence is extremely attractive. :)
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That too!
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The guys are obviously idiots. I never date or treat people different because of their looks. Now post op, I have a straighter nose so what?! If anyone who didn't want to be friends with me before, but wants to be friends now cos my nose is smaller...well such person isn't worth my time. You do realise that we will all get old and look less attractive with age? So, surround yourself with people who see you inner side, not someone who loves you cos your nose looks smaller
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Have you noticed acquaintances or strangers treating you differently? Have people figured out why you look different?
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No. People treat me the same. I'm the same person and I do look a bit different, but the people around me are not my friends for my looks. Choose your friends wisely. If people start treating you differently because of looks or money, stay clear from them.
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M friends must b blind bc they haven't noticed anything !! It's aquantainces who r acting different--women all jealous and men are super-nice now
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I don't know, I was popular amongst men before and told I was pretty ( although I don't think so, I don't think I looked good before or even now, for me to consider myself pretty they have to transport me to another person's body which isn't possible). People have been nasty and jealous to me but mainly because of academic success and few very lucky events in my life. Even if someone was jealous of me because of my looks, I'd never attribute it to that as I don't think I'm good looking. The surgery left me with a straighter nose with non droopy tip, but nevertheless still a Greek nose and a strong nose. I was just looking for a nose which won't dominate my face. Simply that. Having said that, I know what you mean. Before I was looking at people's noses and thinking mine looks so huge and getting self conscious. I used to take ages to prepare, avoid certain haircuts and styles which I deemed would make my nose larger. I always felt the need to compensate for a bad feature. Now, I'm more relaxed and comfortable with being photographed from certain angles. I'm only three weeks post op, so I haven't met everyone around to see what they say.
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I've always wondered this, I don't think I would be ME if I was born pretty(with a small nose). I think I'd be judgemental and not give a single damn about the not so pretty people. I hope I'm not going to change after rhinoplasty because here's a thing, I do it because I'm uncomfortable with my nose,I'd be happier and more confident with a smaller nose, I'd pay attention to other things instead of being anxious that someone's lookin at my big ugly nose. Is it okay to be happy because my nose isn't doing it's job well? I'm able to have my nose done because of functional reasons, I'm only 14(almost 15) so I guess I'm lucky that it broke? ugh i dont even know how to feel or what to expect.
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Yeah I feel like I changed since my surgery. I am no longer feeling envious and threatened by girls who are pretty, even though I bet they are mean and stuck up from being born that way. I feel that I am more appreciative of my looks since I had to work for it (LITERALLY) and save for a whole year.
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I'm glad you feel pretty now, I hope I will too.. xx
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U will...it takes time for your brain to adjust. It's so shocking. Your whole outlook, behavior, and way of looking at others changes. You may find that the adjustment is more comfortable if you change something external and conspicuous such as your clothing style. I bought a few items in a style I don't normally wear--one that's "just not me" to make myself feel different. U will see--pretty girls will no longer look down on you or try to make you feel they you're not "on their level"! Some will be jealous of u!!
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it's incredible how much a different nose can change your life, god I can't wait till it's my turn. thank you for sharing this, it gave me an exciting feeling haha! :)
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It really is. I was the ugliest girl in manhattan a few months ago. My nose looked great this morning but now I'm having bad swelling today with this heat ;(
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