Full of Regret

  • miss h
  • 2 years ago

I just had implants placed three days ago and all my initial worries/hesitations seem to be weighing me down now.  My girlfriends expressed how great implants are and how much I would love them, and I am not.   I am worried they are too big and just not me.  Is this normal after surgery or have I made a terrible mistake?

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I just had my BA one week ago, and I also feel like I made a terrible mistake. Is one week too soon to know? The odd thing is that beforehand I didn't have hesitations. I'm going through a divorce, so maybe it was a bad time to make such an important decision. Starting day 4 postop, I became so depressed. It's not even that I don't like how they look. I think they look pretty good for 1 week postop. I do hate how they feel - like hard foreign objects stuck inside my body. I hate that I spent my spring break bedridden instead of spending it with my 6 year old autistic child, and now I'm spending the rest of it so depressed. I let my son miss school today and forced myself to take him to the park to feed the ducks. He had a good time, and I tried, but when I came home, I slumped right back into bed. He also likes to snuggle really close, but we can't do that right now because I fear he'll injure me. I find myself bursting into tears randomly. I'm so grateful I have one more week off work because I couldn't imagine functioning if I had to go back this week. There are several important things I have to take care of this week, but I just can't bring myself to do them, and normally I'm a get it done type of person. I can relate to No Implants - I feel like I was happier with myself before and don't know what I was thinking. I feel like before I looked more at the good aspects of BA than the bad, and I don't want to pay for the upkeep with my time, with my money, with my son's mommy time, with the stress of worrying about MRIs, leakage, etc. The soonest I could get time to get them out would probably be 3 months from now anyway. Should I say anything to my plastic surgeon yet? I'm afraid of how he'll react. He'll probably definitely say it's too early to know.
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Hey girl. How are you doing today??? Still feeling overwhelmed with regret? Have you gotten outside at all?
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Hi. I still regret it, but I've stopped crying about it. They still feel strange. I still wish I'd never done it. Now, it's just a matter of when to fix it. Implants are not lifetime devices. I could wait until they need to be taken out due to complications, rupture, etc. and just not replace them, but if I start getting anxiety about possible health repercussions, I'd want to take them out sooner. Or, I could take them out within the year. Sooner might be better than later because it's cheaper, and there is a greater chance my breasts will be like they were before. I figure since I can't get them out now anyway, I'll see how I feel in a few months.
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I've had mine 7 months and I still regret it! Don't worry about removing them this second, right now you need to focus on getting bAck to your normal routine and recovery. Do you have a close friend to talk to? You are right, implants can come out any time! I've seen tons of pictures were women look fabulous after removal. It's all about having a good positive attitude :) You need to do what is right for YOU and only YOU!
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Thanks! I am wondering how to avoid a capsulectomy? Is there a rule of thumb - like take them out within 6 months, a year, etc. and don't need one? That's one of my take them out sooner rather than later concerns in addition to the way they will look the longer I wait.
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Please update how you are all recovering after having them removed! Thank you!!!
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are you happy with your results? and how did you feel. I feel the same , I have my implants 8 weeks ago, and the doctor says i need to wait at least 6 months to remove. I feel sad and anxious. but I am scared how I am going to look (doctor says like a 80 years old woman). Please help!
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What did your breasts look like after having them removed so quickly? Did they go back to looking like they did before or have the changed?
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I am just like you, I had implant 8 weeks ago and I feel I am not myself, I cry , and can not sleep. My doctor suggest to antidepressants for 4 months. He said I can not removed implants, I need to wait at least 6 months. He said: " You must be happy, after 6 months". I really dont want , I feel I have something inside me all the day. He said; "If you remove your implants , you will look very bad". My size implants 365cc. subglandular, 8 weeks. How are you now? How do you feel? How do you look? Are you happy?.
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I know exactly what you going through right now...I had implant two weeks ago (5-1-2012) and I had it remoed this past Friday (5-18-2012). Those two weeks that I had the implant..I was going through a lots of emotional breakdown, regret with my decision, I was not myself, I thought having bigger boobs will make me feels better but instead I was miserable!! I missed cuddle and playing with my 3 and 4 years old boys...they love laying on my chest but I was not able to do that for those two weeks w/implants...if you feel that you have regret with your decision, you probably want to have it removed soon so you can get back to old self again... I am so glad that I made the decision to have it removed only after two weeks of implant. Today is my second day of recovery from explant and I'm looking forward to fast recovery so I can go back to my mornal activity b4 the implant. I need some advise from ppl that just have the implant removed, what's going on while trying to recover...what are some of the outcome from it!! Anything that will help me I will be appreciated..
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I am going through the same thing. I got my implants on 7-23-12 and on 8-6-12 I will have them removed. I just don't feel like myself and I feel as though I can't hug or lay down with my daughter as well. I constantly feel exhausted and after my surgery had trouble peeing so I had to go to the emergency room to have a catheter inserted for 4 days. This was my deciding factor in getting rid of these things. I just don't think the risk are worth it anymore. I knew more surgery would be needed eventually with implants, but I didn't care about that I just wanted them. Now I realize I was more happy with myself before. I have learned a very expensive lesson. I am hoping that they will look the way they were before the implants, and that these things didn't stretch them that bad. I would love to here how you did after you had them removed. Wish me luck!!!
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Feel the same way,they are just to big.Sad the doctor didnt listen!!! Hope things will change....
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First off, I hope you decided on surgery because YOU wanted bigger breasts, not your friends, not anybody but you alone. I had my initial surgery when I was 20 years old and I really wanted them but it turned out too big and I pretty much spent the next 10 years hiding. What i experienced is not common but what you are experiencing is. It's ok to feel regrets right now but it's not ok if it doesnt go away. Hang in there.
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miss h

are these your first implants? if they are, give them time as you need to get used to having them. i'm having mine out in a weeks time after having them for 12 years. i know that at first it will be a massive shock to the system as i am so used to having them now. i think its very normal to be uncertain at first as you have to get your head around the fact you have boobs.

this is a breast implant removal forum, perhaps you could also post this on a implant site for supposrt from ladies who have just had them put in.
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