Full of Regret

  • miss h
  • 2 years ago

I just had implants placed three days ago and all my initial worries/hesitations seem to be weighing me down now.  My girlfriends expressed how great implants are and how much I would love them, and I am not.   I am worried they are too big and just not me.  Is this normal after surgery or have I made a terrible mistake?

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I have had breast implants over the muscle 5 days ago I'm so in happy and cry all the time as I hate them so much and carnt Beleive I just did this to my body I don't no what to do.
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HELP!! I'm freaking out! I got an arm lift ,saline implants along with a breast lift (around the nipple) on May 1st. I really just wanted an arm lift and breast lift since I lost about 50 lbs. The PS said implants would really make me look great. I regretted them immediately! They are HUGE for my body (360cc) and I'm barely 5"2. Recovery has been a nightmare with the arm lift, I couldn't do anything, I have 2 kids and a husband and I feel like I'm so selfish and stupid to have done this. I wasted all this money and I just want them OUT!! My PS went on vacation, (and I have a seroma in my arm), he told me he never did an explant without putting in another implant in. I cry all the time, I have to wait until he gets back which is on the 30th and he's going to try to fit me in. I'm worried about going under anesthesia again (he won't do it local) and I'm worried that my boobs are going to look puckered and deformed (especially since he said he's never done this before). I just want to crawl into a hole. i feel so stupid and useless.
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Sweetie! Please, don't panic. I know I know...easy for me to say. But guess what? I've been where you are now. Would you like to talk with me?
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yes, if you have the time, can you please tell me how you handled everything?
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Thank you so much, I've been such a burden on my husband, I don't want to burden you with all this stuff that I did to myself.
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You are not a burden to anyone! I remember feeling the same way, I felt bad for putting my husband through the emotional roller coaster of my implants. Afterall it was my decision. But please know you are not alone. And this is a time in your life when you need your husbands unconditional love and support. I felt no one understood me. I felt hoity for spending so much money. I felt guilty not being able to pick up my small children. My husband struggled to be there the way I needed him. His solution was to get them out and that caused me more anxiety and panic. Remember why you chose the surgery in the first place...it's not an easy decision. But it's over. So now you need to work on your recovery, both emotionally and physically. For me, I had one friend who really got me through it. She would check in on me through out the day, she would encourage me to get out in the day. Make plans. Plan a child's birthday party, order things online if I couldn't go out shopping and carry the heavy bags, order friends or families birthday presents for the next month or 2, just to keep your mind on life! (And not the regret).
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*guilty not hoity ;)
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Thank you. I didn't tell ANYONE except my husband, so I'm hiding from everyone, I haven't called anyone, I'm just so humiliated. Plus, I have a very bad back on top of everything, and it's even more outlandish that I did this to put more strain on my already rickety back. I'm glad you had a friend to help you. My poor husband can only do so much. But when I showed him my new boobs, his eyes lit up like a kid at a candy shop, and I thought "well maybe I'll just get smaller implants put in". I feel like he gave me the money to do this in a weird way I feel like I owe him a nice set of boobs, and who knows what I'll get after surgery. I also got an arm lift, and they aren't looking the best, they look drapey and the scars make me look like Frankenstein. I tried the scar reduction sheets and I think I'm allergic to the silicone, which might explain why I feel like my boobs are on fire and they feel all itchy. I'm a mess, and there is nothing I can do about it except wait for my surgery date. Here I am a pathetic, whining. crybaby. How bad was the pain after surgery? You went local. or general?
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I had general anasthesia, the emotional pain was harder than the physical! For about 6 weeks I wanted them out. I even told the surgeon I wanted my implants removed. I gave it time, and it's been almost 2 years and they are still in. I'm happy I did not remove them, I would have put myself through surgery again so soon, and to have to revisit them emotional pains of surgery was not worth it. I'm 115lbs, 5'6" and I got 360ccs, so appropriate size for my frame. Most friends are surprised when I say I have implants. Other times when I'm wearing a push up bra they look huge! I have 2 small children so I didn't want huge boobs, just enough to boost my confidence.
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That's great that u like them, I bet they look great on u! What happened to change your mind from wanting them out?
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I just got my implants 5 days ago and am also regretting them. I feel like they are to big. I'm sad, depressed, can't eat. I'm upset with myself for not specking up and making it more clear with what I was looking for. I soooo wish they looked smaller! I have mixed feeling because I've been ready a lot of info that it takes weeks for the swelling to go down. I'm hopping they become more comfortable and they start to look smaller. Otherwise I'm going to be walking around the next ten years wearing baggy cloths to hide them. Also upset because I'm now really concerned about working out and I play soccer. Can't imagine playing anything right now!
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I can sympathize :(, thats how I felt about mine afterwards, that was 9 years ago. They still bother me to this day which is what brings me to this site on considering removal. I hope you feel differently as time goes by, unlike myself, sorry :(
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I just had my BA one week ago, and I also feel like I made a terrible mistake. Is one week too soon to know? The odd thing is that beforehand I didn't have hesitations. I'm going through a divorce, so maybe it was a bad time to make such an important decision. Starting day 4 postop, I became so depressed. It's not even that I don't like how they look. I think they look pretty good for 1 week postop. I do hate how they feel - like hard foreign objects stuck inside my body. I hate that I spent my spring break bedridden instead of spending it with my 6 year old autistic child, and now I'm spending the rest of it so depressed. I let my son miss school today and forced myself to take him to the park to feed the ducks. He had a good time, and I tried, but when I came home, I slumped right back into bed. He also likes to snuggle really close, but we can't do that right now because I fear he'll injure me. I find myself bursting into tears randomly. I'm so grateful I have one more week off work because I couldn't imagine functioning if I had to go back this week. There are several important things I have to take care of this week, but I just can't bring myself to do them, and normally I'm a get it done type of person. I can relate to No Implants - I feel like I was happier with myself before and don't know what I was thinking. I feel like before I looked more at the good aspects of BA than the bad, and I don't want to pay for the upkeep with my time, with my money, with my son's mommy time, with the stress of worrying about MRIs, leakage, etc. The soonest I could get time to get them out would probably be 3 months from now anyway. Should I say anything to my plastic surgeon yet? I'm afraid of how he'll react. He'll probably definitely say it's too early to know.
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Hey girl. How are you doing today??? Still feeling overwhelmed with regret? Have you gotten outside at all?
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Hi. I still regret it, but I've stopped crying about it. They still feel strange. I still wish I'd never done it. Now, it's just a matter of when to fix it. Implants are not lifetime devices. I could wait until they need to be taken out due to complications, rupture, etc. and just not replace them, but if I start getting anxiety about possible health repercussions, I'd want to take them out sooner. Or, I could take them out within the year. Sooner might be better than later because it's cheaper, and there is a greater chance my breasts will be like they were before. I figure since I can't get them out now anyway, I'll see how I feel in a few months.
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I've had mine 7 months and I still regret it! Don't worry about removing them this second, right now you need to focus on getting bAck to your normal routine and recovery. Do you have a close friend to talk to? You are right, implants can come out any time! I've seen tons of pictures were women look fabulous after removal. It's all about having a good positive attitude :) You need to do what is right for YOU and only YOU!
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Thanks! I am wondering how to avoid a capsulectomy? Is there a rule of thumb - like take them out within 6 months, a year, etc. and don't need one? That's one of my take them out sooner rather than later concerns in addition to the way they will look the longer I wait.
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Please update how you are all recovering after having them removed! Thank you!!!
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are you happy with your results? and how did you feel. I feel the same , I have my implants 8 weeks ago, and the doctor says i need to wait at least 6 months to remove. I feel sad and anxious. but I am scared how I am going to look (doctor says like a 80 years old woman). Please help!
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What did your breasts look like after having them removed so quickly? Did they go back to looking like they did before or have the changed?
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I am just like you, I had implant 8 weeks ago and I feel I am not myself, I cry , and can not sleep. My doctor suggest to antidepressants for 4 months. He said I can not removed implants, I need to wait at least 6 months. He said: " You must be happy, after 6 months". I really dont want , I feel I have something inside me all the day. He said; "If you remove your implants , you will look very bad". My size implants 365cc. subglandular, 8 weeks. How are you now? How do you feel? How do you look? Are you happy?.
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I know exactly what you going through right now...I had implant two weeks ago (5-1-2012) and I had it remoed this past Friday (5-18-2012). Those two weeks that I had the implant..I was going through a lots of emotional breakdown, regret with my decision, I was not myself, I thought having bigger boobs will make me feels better but instead I was miserable!! I missed cuddle and playing with my 3 and 4 years old boys...they love laying on my chest but I was not able to do that for those two weeks w/implants...if you feel that you have regret with your decision, you probably want to have it removed soon so you can get back to old self again... I am so glad that I made the decision to have it removed only after two weeks of implant. Today is my second day of recovery from explant and I'm looking forward to fast recovery so I can go back to my mornal activity b4 the implant. I need some advise from ppl that just have the implant removed, what's going on while trying to recover...what are some of the outcome from it!! Anything that will help me I will be appreciated..
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I am going through the same thing. I got my implants on 7-23-12 and on 8-6-12 I will have them removed. I just don't feel like myself and I feel as though I can't hug or lay down with my daughter as well. I constantly feel exhausted and after my surgery had trouble peeing so I had to go to the emergency room to have a catheter inserted for 4 days. This was my deciding factor in getting rid of these things. I just don't think the risk are worth it anymore. I knew more surgery would be needed eventually with implants, but I didn't care about that I just wanted them. Now I realize I was more happy with myself before. I have learned a very expensive lesson. I am hoping that they will look the way they were before the implants, and that these things didn't stretch them that bad. I would love to here how you did after you had them removed. Wish me luck!!!
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Feel the same way,they are just to big.Sad the doctor didnt listen!!! Hope things will change....
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First off, I hope you decided on surgery because YOU wanted bigger breasts, not your friends, not anybody but you alone. I had my initial surgery when I was 20 years old and I really wanted them but it turned out too big and I pretty much spent the next 10 years hiding. What i experienced is not common but what you are experiencing is. It's ok to feel regrets right now but it's not ok if it doesnt go away. Hang in there.
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