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bikinitime and no TT yet.... hopefully last time!

  • holantina
  • Netherlands
  • 3 years ago

Hi ladies, Next monday i'm leaving to my homeland, Cuba (i live in The Netherlands) with my husband an our two beautiful daughters. That means a lot of time spending at the beach (the GORGEOUS tropical beaches of Cuba, it looks like paradise) and of course lots of loooooove from the rest of the Cuban family. I know, i know.... i should be very, very  happy i get the oportunity to go there. To tell you the truth, it becomes more and more expensive to travek by plane, at least over here. And of course am very happy and feel blessed. But.... there is one little thing..... There is the bikini issue. And the "Are you expecting a third child? How nice for you, congrats! thing. I realize people are really happy for you and just want to be nice, so i don't feel so frustrated about these comments. What i don't like is the persons that asume that you are the only one that's "guilty" about the shape of your belly, and that it would get flat if you just ate less and excersised more..... pffffff....... i'm  sorry, but i just hate these comments! There was this nice lady in Spain that would ask me to take better care of myself (my eating etc.)  so that i would look better..... ay, ay.... Have this happened to anyone of you? If yes is the answer, please comment. I need some support here and hope this will be the last time i have to show my donut belly and listen to the comments about it.....  :-(  ......

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Hollantina I'm having my surgery July 12. I will be flowing your results. Yours is coming soon. Post pictures when u get a chance. Good luck to you :)
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Hi nena, Thanks, i will pray for you on July 12.
Yes, i'm planning on making before pictures soon! It's also nice to measure yourself and compare. It's amazing to see how much cm/inches you loose around your waistline and hips once that pooch and saggy skin are gone. It differs from people to people because of body / figure types though. And of course it's better to wait till swelling is gone :-)

Good luck to you too!
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Sound so familiar to me, those comments..... (rolling eyes)
I know for sure my sister in law is going to say my good looking results are purely alone from surgery and not also from me working out and eating healthy. My sister i law has a loooooooong story from hating her body and jo-joing. She can eat up to 8 cookies every time she has a cup of tea (wich she drinks very often) and has no self control when food is around. She is always complaining about her weight, but at the same time she pigs out. But i'm not going to worry about her nasty comments. I told her already that i did not want her to bring the subject (my surgery) into conversation at her birhthday parties and other family and friend's gatherings, just to have some conversation topic. I just won't discuss my reasons with people i barely know.
And yes, you are right: those people giving unfriendly comments are most likely just plain jealous! Do this for yourslef, you deserve it! I hope to see soons your surgery results = you deserve this after all that hard work.
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all too often..my favorite is when a certain person from my in laws 8 year old comments on my belly and i know darn good and well she heard it from her mother! When I excitedly exclaimed last weekend my date is finally scheduled someone I thought would be happy for me informed me i was cheating =\ I really dont know how I am cheating when i work out 5 days a week, run 2 miles 3 days a week and count calorie. Really hurt my feelings to tell you the truth but brushed it off as pure jealousy!
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Hi Holantina. I'm having a tummy tuck in July 12. I understand what you say about the rude comments for having a belly. I'm from Venezuela and I know, trust me I know if i go there, I'm going to hear some people saying ayy que gorda estás, por que te pusiste asi?. Don't listen to them you are going to look great. Good luck with your upcoming surgery :)
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Hi nena6, many thanks for your kind words!
I have heard such comments to, dear. I'm from Cuba , but the landlady from a hous e we rent in Spain used to tell me every time me went there on vacation "chica, cuídate!" suggesting me i had to watch out what i ate and excercise. Little she knew i work out every single day and do my best to "eat clean" . I think people do not undrestand that for some of us, skin and muscles are so overstrechted that excersing and dieting alone is just not enough for the belly to be flat again.
Have you had surgery already or are planning to?
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HOLANTINA: i THINK IT HAS TO DO WITH THE CULTURE... i HAVE FRIENDS WHO ARE FROM ARGENTINA OH MY THERE ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL ALL THE WAY DOWN TO THERE GRANDMAS AND THEY ALL LOOK AT ME LIKE Y TU QUE!mY GRANDMA IS FROM HERE BACKGROUND MEXICO BUT THEY ARENT HARD ON ME THEY BELIVE IN GRUBBING! AS FAR AS MY FRIEND NEVER RUDE OUTSIDERS HAVE ASKED BEFORE IF i WAS PPREGO DAMM THAT HURT! YOU ARE FROM THE NETHERLAND KOO! GURL HAVE A GREAT TIME ON YOUR TRIP AND DONT WORRY ABOUT WHAT THE WORLD HAS TO SAY ABOUT YOU DONT LET THERE WORDS CRUSH YOU!!!FLAUNT IT MA !
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Thanks! Most of family members are very interested and supportive so far (except for my sister in law, which i mentioned there) She keeps on saying it's very scary and talking about the risks etc. I suspect she would like one too, but she is too chicken s**t to go for it lol !!!
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Hi Holantina,

I lived in Utrecth for 4 years when I was in the U.S Air Force. The Netherlands is a beautiful country with wonderful people. Don't let your tummy ruin your trip. Just wear a tankini and enjoy the beach!
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I had a great vacation (this was the second one since this post) in Spain. My tankini kept on rolling up and my slip rolling down :-0 but i kept on reminding myself that that was the LAST time, wuahaahhahahahahhaaaaaa.... :-D
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Hi Angiemcc,

You are right, they do mean well, but how about having some tact?
I have no surgery date yet. My plastic surgeon says it will be around the end of this year or begin next one. The reason is that this plastic surgeon is very very good. Many people want to get a TT by him, since he has many years of experience in this kind of surgery. He only performs TT operations in a hospital in Amsterdam and gets not much operation time a month. That is why he has a large waiting list. But is is really a very good surgeon, i've seen many pictures of his work at a dutch forum. He takes time for his patients to inform them, etc. These are the own pictures of the patients, so no way they are photoshopped or something. The results are amazing, no loopsided but nice shaped, very low scars and natural-looking belly buttons. In short i have a good feeling about this surgeon. I think it will be worth waiting.... But first i have to "survive" this last "up close and personal" exposure of my belly.... pffff....... :-( I hate it that people so easily think that you are just the whole day long pigging out on junk food and sitting on the couch and that the result of it is your odd-looking belly.... but i think that's human nature..... nothing to do about it...
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Noone said rude things about how I looked, but after my tummy tuck, I told an old friend that I had one & she looked at me like I was crazy & said "Well I just work out more when I want to look good". That was so rude! I was so shocked at her comment & decided I would not tell anyone else, unless I was sure they would be supportive.

I am 5'3" & weighed somewhere around 115 lbs before surgery. I exercised so much & ate right. For years I have woken up at 6am to do toning, yoga, pilates, then after dropping kids at school I would walk & run at the track for 1/2 hour, then at least 4 days/week I would rollerblade. I also throw the ball around with my son & take my dog for walks. If I lost any more weight, I would look horrible! It wasn't a "lose weight, eat better" issue. I just had skin & loose muscles that would not go back.

I am glad you found a surgeon that you are comfortable with - it is well worth the wait. I think the winter is the best time to do this surgery. That is my only regret. I did mine in April & I am still healing! Maybe this year you can buy a sexy 1 piece, there are a lot of sexy ones out there! I thought I would never wear one again, but there are some very chic looking ones that I would wear. Good luck & have a great vacation! Keep us posted!
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I tried the Tupler Technique and it got rid of that "look like you are pregnant" look. It did. Ot get rid of the wrinkled saggy skin, but I dropped two jean sizes in two weels and went from an Aeropostale 9 to a 5 because it improved my mummy tummy that much. I am 3 1/2 weeks po and glad I did my tt procedure but Tupler made me feel really good about my body until I had the opportunity to get the procedure done. You can check it out at diastasisrehab.com I bought the belt book and video and it was money well spent. She also has tips on how to recover from abdominal surgery and they are good too.
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Thanks, i have the book already! :-)
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Having surgery in 16 days!!! Vary anxious, and excited at the same time :-)
It's too bad some people do not understand that for some of us, skin and muscles are so overstrechted that excersing and dieting alone is just not enough for the belly to be flat again.
I was schedulled to have TT in april, but my surgeon went to skate, fell and broke his wrist :-o Now i'm schedulled for june 18th :-)
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Oh no. People sometimes mean well but have no tact!

Will you be getting a tummy tuck soon?

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