10 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Got Botox

5 Mar 2014 at 9:00am

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I’ve been getting Botox injections regularly for the past 4 years.  To my surprise, there’s been a lot more trial and error in finding the right doctor, paying the right prices and knowing what to look for and ask for.
My first experience was 4 years ago when I turned 40.   I went to a widely known (and expensive) doctor who gave me just a touch between my brows on my forehead (the area known as the “11s”).   Within a week I looked fantastic.  My eyebrows were lifted ever so slightly and I looked natural, rested and a lot less bitchy.
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5 months later, after my first injection began to wear off, I began to think more was better.  A stylist I was working with recommended a plastic surgeon that reportedly did excellent Botox (along with Kate Hudson’s new nose).  Armed with a false sense of security in the hands of celebrity plastic surgeon, I went one step further and had my crows’ feet and more of my forehead injected to get an even stronger brow lift.
Hmmm.  The results were a little harsher than I wanted, but I still liked my glamorous lifted new look.  Botox was creating a new normal for me.
6 months later, my first Botox party (more on that later). Despite the doctor’s excellent credentials, I had too much Pinot Grigio and didn’t tell him about my earlier Botox injections, so wound up with more than I needed.  My eyebrows were now so high and arched it looked like they were going to fly off my forehead.
My hairdresser whispered the name of yet another famous doctor (also with a skin care line), but when I learned he treated Madonna, I cancelled my appointment.
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So I went back my original doctor who must have had a bad day.  I told him to repeat what he did the very first time.  He suggested more, I said yes wanting to trust and believe.  A week later, my eyebrows were unnaturally arched and disturbingly uneven.
I looked like the sinister love child of Dr. Spock and Dr. Evil ... 

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Botox will assist in getting rid of a "tired" or unhappy look. As with any cosmetic procedure, it's smart to do your research. While word of mouth is great like you mention, results will vary from patient to patient.
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Great posting. What advice would you give to someone new to the botox arena? How do you select the best for your needs based on all the available marketing efforts by so many?
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Great post. It isn't that tough for people to become accustomed to "The new normal" Sometimes that's how people in certain circles all seem to look alike. Prospective Botox patients might want to ask about the policy on crows feet. In some cases, these lines can make people look older and unhappy. Often, they are part of one's smile. One major goal of Botox is to make people look happier and less cross. Thank you for the informative post
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I like to look better, but I don't want everyone in the office to notice, nor am I trying to pass for 20. So, when I go, I ask for the minimum. My old doc used to do my crow's feet with only 8 units total & I loved the look. However, when I moved to Toronto, all the nurses want to start with 20 units. What the heck? I don't want to look plastic, just better. They're really resentful when I tell them I don't want or need that many units.
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Good for you for knowing what you want and sticking with it! Do you find that such a low dose wears off pretty quick?

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It lasts the same length of time as any other dose - just allows for more natural movement while also keeping large wrinkles at bay.
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How could Botox ever raise your eyebrows beyond their natural position? It sounds like this woman has never had Botox and is just making stuff up.
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Actually nonmonster, the over arched brows, or being "Spocked" is a somewhat common thing to hear about.

Here is some information on it:

Eyebrows Raised Too High with Botox

Botox Caused One Brow to Raise Higher Than the Other. What Can I Do?(photo)

How Does a Practitioner Correct That Awful "Spock" Look After Botox?

Weird Eyebrow Arch After Botox

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Wow...OK. But it's not the Botox causing the arch, it's the muscle that hasn't been adequately Botoxed.
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I'm guessing you mean in relation to the other areas that have been botoxed?

Here is Dr. Shelton's response to the Q&A referenced above, which seems to provide a good explanation:

"If too much of the middle lower forehead is treated without treating the outer eyebrow, the side of the forehead compensates by lifting more than usual. Correction of this is by treating the side of the forehead, not right over the eye as this might lower the eyebrow."

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it can and it does...last treatment and being my third time ,I am afraid to do it again for that reason and want to get rid of my wrinkles, but very afraid to do so
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Its amazing what a trial and error experience it is, isn't it?! Before you start, you just kind of think there is one set way - then when its adjusting your face you realize what an art and skill it truly is.

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