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21, 5'4" 44 M. Nevada County CA
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So im 21 years old, and ive known since I was 14...
isaura016May 8, 2014
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So im 21 years old, and ive known since I was 14 that something needed to be done. I told doctors from 15-20 years old that my back hurt, that my boobs had sores. That my skin couldnt keep up with how fast I was growing. I cracked and bled for months. I went from a B to a DD in one summer. The only person that believed me and tried to help was my dad, a single father who had no idea what else to do. Until I finally found someone to listen.
By then I was almost 21, and my hands and arms are going numb. No visible bone damage, some days I cant get out of bed, I cant survive without muscle relaxers and a heating pad....huh. I wonder why. I didnt gain weight until I was 16, when the pain got too much and I was a J cup. I stopped running. I walked. My hypothyroidism kicked in from dads side of the family. Add in the birth control shot and I exploded to 312 lbs. I've been trying so gard to lose weight. Ive gotten down to 289 lbs, with the help of thyroid medicine and a change in birth control. Ive stuck here for six months, all the time while doctors are trying to tell me that my back problems are stemmed from my fat.
So I switched drs. She went to do my female exam, to do the breast check abd she could hardly feel around. She asked what size I was and asked tentatively if I had considered reduction.
I started crying. I told her that was all I had ever wanted. So here I am, the night before my first consultation with a plastic surgeon. I know shes going to tell me to lose weight. Im going tovtell her I cannot until I lose the boobs. I want to be a DDD again. I cant wait to not have to buy shirts that are three sizes too big. I cant wait to not have to spend $45-80 on a single bra. I cant wait to not have numb hands and I cant wait to be able to go to work abd not have to lean on the counter, the wall or sit down every few minutes because my back hurts. I cant wait. I need this soooo bad. I hope my medical can cover it. Or at least 80% of it. Ill happily pay off the last couple thousand if it means less pain, less time in bed. More ability to exercise without having to stop because they slammed against you and knocked the wind out of you, or they jump and hurt. Please. Please, let it come before the end of the year. I dont want to be put on disability before I even turn 25. I dobt want to be at risk durning pregnancy later in life.because of my back being deteriorated because if boobs. Because thats how its going.
Oh gods, I hope she can help.
Id love any advice anyone has for me. Any tips or help.
By then I was almost 21, and my hands and arms are going numb. No visible bone damage, some days I cant get out of bed, I cant survive without muscle relaxers and a heating pad....huh. I wonder why. I didnt gain weight until I was 16, when the pain got too much and I was a J cup. I stopped running. I walked. My hypothyroidism kicked in from dads side of the family. Add in the birth control shot and I exploded to 312 lbs. I've been trying so gard to lose weight. Ive gotten down to 289 lbs, with the help of thyroid medicine and a change in birth control. Ive stuck here for six months, all the time while doctors are trying to tell me that my back problems are stemmed from my fat.
So I switched drs. She went to do my female exam, to do the breast check abd she could hardly feel around. She asked what size I was and asked tentatively if I had considered reduction.
I started crying. I told her that was all I had ever wanted. So here I am, the night before my first consultation with a plastic surgeon. I know shes going to tell me to lose weight. Im going tovtell her I cannot until I lose the boobs. I want to be a DDD again. I cant wait to not have to buy shirts that are three sizes too big. I cant wait to not have to spend $45-80 on a single bra. I cant wait to not have numb hands and I cant wait to be able to go to work abd not have to lean on the counter, the wall or sit down every few minutes because my back hurts. I cant wait. I need this soooo bad. I hope my medical can cover it. Or at least 80% of it. Ill happily pay off the last couple thousand if it means less pain, less time in bed. More ability to exercise without having to stop because they slammed against you and knocked the wind out of you, or they jump and hurt. Please. Please, let it come before the end of the year. I dont want to be put on disability before I even turn 25. I dobt want to be at risk durning pregnancy later in life.because of my back being deteriorated because if boobs. Because thats how its going.
Oh gods, I hope she can help.
Id love any advice anyone has for me. Any tips or help.
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UPDATED FROM isaura016
3 months pre
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isaura016May 8, 2014
So I went and saw Dr Skiles today. She was great! We talked for a while, about my concerns, my fears, what would happen, how it would go, what may happen.
She told me what I feared most. I would most likely never be able to breastfeed. This sucks. Ive always thought that breastfeeding was the most awesome and natural thing, a deep connection with your child. Its just something ive always taken for granted. And knowing now that I most likely will NEVER be able to hits hard.
But I'm going to do it. I need to. She said shed send out the photos to the insurance company, and I should hear back from her and them within 4-6 weeks.
If its a yes, then I'll have my surgery before summer is over. Its happening so fast.
Also, the idea of not being allowed to go without a bra for six months or more, and being out of work for about 2-4 weeks, thats daunting and im really worried about that.
And to top it off, my other half (hes not really my boyfriend but kind of) hes acting like its sacrilege and freaking out. Im almost at the point if telling him to just back off and go away permanently this time. He doesnt seem to understand just how much pain im in. All he sees is....boobs. Giant fleshy [RS bleep] that "God gave me for a reason".
Its really frustrating for me to try and do this with him causing issues. Im already stressed enough and scared as it is.
Im crossing my fingers and praying that all goes quickly, and smoothly, and without problems.
She told me what I feared most. I would most likely never be able to breastfeed. This sucks. Ive always thought that breastfeeding was the most awesome and natural thing, a deep connection with your child. Its just something ive always taken for granted. And knowing now that I most likely will NEVER be able to hits hard.
But I'm going to do it. I need to. She said shed send out the photos to the insurance company, and I should hear back from her and them within 4-6 weeks.
If its a yes, then I'll have my surgery before summer is over. Its happening so fast.
Also, the idea of not being allowed to go without a bra for six months or more, and being out of work for about 2-4 weeks, thats daunting and im really worried about that.
And to top it off, my other half (hes not really my boyfriend but kind of) hes acting like its sacrilege and freaking out. Im almost at the point if telling him to just back off and go away permanently this time. He doesnt seem to understand just how much pain im in. All he sees is....boobs. Giant fleshy [RS bleep] that "God gave me for a reason".
Its really frustrating for me to try and do this with him causing issues. Im already stressed enough and scared as it is.
Im crossing my fingers and praying that all goes quickly, and smoothly, and without problems.
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May 9, 2014
Thank you for sharing your story. I have blue cross and blue shield and they approved mine. I went in for my consultation on April 2 nd and was approved on April 9th. Not sure who you're with but hopefully you don't have to wait that long. Best wishes!
May 9, 2014
You'll be so glad once you get this done! So sorry you've had to live with so much pain. I didn't realize till a few months ago BR was even an option to relieve my back pain. Glad you are doing it now!
May 9, 2014
If you are 5'4 and 290, you do NEED to lose weight. Not just for surgery but for your life. Radically reduce your caloric intake and exercise any way you can, if you can't stand, lift your arms slowly up and down, if you can stand, walk in place. etc. Small things in the beginning. Move what you can and eat much , much less.
This is not shaming or blaming - you can do it!! Even if they removed 50lbs of breast tissue (which would be an insane amount) you are still at 240lbs which is morbidly obese for your height.
May 9, 2014
What makes you think I haven't been trying? I KNOW im morbidly obese, thank you. Ive changed my entire life around to try and lose weight. Ive gotten on thyroid meds, ive changed my birth control from the shot to the pill, im eating very carefully, more fruits and veggies and less quicky foods I used to eat just because I was tired. I dont drive so I walk an average of 4-6 miles A DAY. My calories for the day are between 1,500 and 1,800.
Please don't lecture me on what I already know and have been talking to my doctors about. I know what im doing.
May 9, 2014
No reason to be so defensive - you asked for tips/help and said you can't exercise before your reduction, which is why I offered my 2 cents, again not critical just a suggestion.
That's it. Good luck.
May 21, 2014
My advice is not to worry about your weight, just worry about being healthy. Multiple studies have shown that it is a sedentary lifestyle and poor diet which cause poor health, people can be fat and healthy. Google Health At Every Size. I'm not saying don't lose weight, just not to focus on that specifically. Good luck :)
June 2, 2014
Focus on one day at a time, baby steps. Walking is fantastic so keep that up. Our bodies can be chemically crazy and it takes time to find the right formula.
It took me a long while to figure myself out. I take Premarin and thyroid meds plus I was in my upper 40's at the time. You can do this so stay focused and positive.
Once I had my breast reduction I was able to exercise more comfortably and felt better about myself. My reduction is what really got me going on my weight loss. It made a big difference in how I felt.
Chin up girl and keep moving forward.
It took me a long while to figure myself out. I take Premarin and thyroid meds plus I was in my upper 40's at the time. You can do this so stay focused and positive.
Once I had my breast reduction I was able to exercise more comfortably and felt better about myself. My reduction is what really got me going on my weight loss. It made a big difference in how I felt.
Chin up girl and keep moving forward.
May 10, 2014
I wish you the best. I know people out there can give advice and mean well, sometimes they don't know the whole story. I'm sorry you may have been hurt. So, the PS sent the approved...that's good. Hope u hear back soon. If you get the reduction it will be a good trade off for not being able to nurse a baby. I was insistent on breast feeding but after a month had to switch to the bottle because my baby wasn't thriving with the amount. When I switched I was startled to realize how much better the bonding was. Without my big boob in the way I could see his little face, look into his eyes, have a free hand to stoke his soft skin....it was wonderful. Before I had to try and hold my breast away from his nose so he could breath while sucking. So that's my story, I was so pro breast feeding, but found there is great joy holding your baby and feeding him..even by bottle:). Hugs to you [RS bleep]
May 10, 2014
Thank you, that madenme feel a lot better, about doing this. I knew it was hard breastfeeding as a bigger boobed woman, but my mom said it was really difficult to maneuver boob and baby and that, with your input really helped me see that it would be just too dangerous and not worth it.
Ill know within 4-6 weeks if my appeal to my medical is accepted and if it is, then I can schedule everything :)
May 10, 2014
That;s good. I'm glad you feel better about it all. Best wishes for your approval :)
UPDATED FROM isaura016
3 months pre
SQUEEEEE!
isaura016May 16, 2014
So I called my insurance company for a transportation log for reimbursement for my family driving me everywhere (CA Health and Wellness is awesome) and I've got that on the way, and I asked them to check on my file to see if my paperwork had come in and it did!!! I should know in 5-8 days if/when my surgery is going to be.
They said itll ve FULLY COVERED and no copays or anything like that, and my mind is blown. I'm nervous and excited and scared and happy all at once.
I should have, by my thinking, a smaller set of boobs by August or September! I cant wait!
They said itll ve FULLY COVERED and no copays or anything like that, and my mind is blown. I'm nervous and excited and scared and happy all at once.
I should have, by my thinking, a smaller set of boobs by August or September! I cant wait!
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