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November 17th of 2016 I explanted.
Writing from a good space in hopes to answer any ?'s of those preparing.

And to be as honest as possible. Do I miss my implants? Yes and no. Yes as I knew they gave me in my mind, a sexier look. At that is just about all I have to say about that!! No, because I was always self conscious. How many people thought they were fake. I never (ever) felt comfortable in a swim suit. The older I got, the more they became fake, hard, no movement. Had lots more confusion in my life, not blaming the implants really, but they were just too much of my head chatter.

I now get lots of " you're so small" comments. It bothers me a bit as I know they are not just referring to my breasts, but my overall size. Note to people just as it is rude and painful to tell someone they are "so large" the same goes to the opposite. In reference I feel like a undeveloped teenager. I still do not fill up an A cup. But really I feel like I have breasts. I know that may be difficult to comprehend as I really Don't! But...they are real. The tiniest handful. They move, sag, and yes still have sensation.

Are there times I regret my decision? No. But I do (rarely) think of getting tiny implants to fill up an a cup. I know I will not, but I am just saying I think of it.

It helped me so much in finding myself. I visited my ex who never ever mentioned my breasts. Truthfully I believed he thought they were real and always made me feel sensual. We began talking and he very casually and kindly said " so you decided to go natural". I balled my eyes out and yet had a meaningful conversation with him. He told me he always loved me for who I was inside, and still felt that way. It really helped me accept myself even easier. He is a special person, and I was grateful for him being open to my honesty also.

I continue to try and move forward. Finding my spiritual self, if that sounds a bit weird, it is even for me. Being kinder, and slowing down . Letting go of more stuff I don't need. Not trying to be always the better version of myself, but being ok with this version, right now.

Any ladies considering explanting, for me it has been a gift, a big lesson in judging others too. Whether you have huge implants, or tiny nothings, we are all still beautiful and the same inside, with feelings, pains, fears, joy and a lot to share if you look past our breast size.

Goodness to all.

Hi ladies, tried to do an exact one month update, but you know...holidays came right in and swept away my time. But surgery was Nov. 22nd, and today is January 9th?

I feel pretty well. My runs are quicker, lighter and I am happy I chose to explant. For me, I have to be careful to not read or look at the breast implant forum! Honestly, although I am much happier to be myself, my breasts, no fake implants...I still feel like I wish I just had enough breast tissue to fill a bra. Even an A cup. I look very boyish, and I like that I can wear tiny tops etc. now without embarrassment, but still have a bit of boob envy. Given the choice tho, I am glad I did what I did and am taking this year to work more on the inner me, with acceptance.

Here are my photos. I healed super fast. It didn't make sense to wear compression bras etc. because there really was nothing to compress. My right one is so small, it is funny wearing and A cup, and it is empty. The left one is ok.

Since I am 56, I am ok with the sag, because it is what I should look like.

I have not been in a relationship for a long time, and do have anxiety and fear about being naked, and or touched again. But....I know...to not judge myself or anyone else by their breasts, their bodies. It is just the packaging for my heart, which is healthy, my spirit which is adventurous and my soul that is caring. So I am trying to be confident and happy where I am.

After explanting, I severed a relationship with a friend who drained me and never gave back, and my ex, who continued to mentally attack me, but tries to keep me connected to him. I decided neither of them brought me joy, so I let go.

To those who are debating about explanting, it is a great step to being yourself, moving forward, finding joy without counting on bigger boobs to attract who or what you think you want.

I am not anti implants per se, obviously because I chose that years ago, I am just pro, natural.

Happy 2016 all. Thank you to all who I connected with, and this forum for being super helpful and a great place for support.

Good morning! I hit my 3 week post op and thought I would do a quick update. I went for my first run yesterday. OMG. It was amazing! Mostly because it was like training with weights on you for years, and then eliminating them and running! I was lighter, quick turn over, breathing easy and hit the hills. I could feel "boob jiggle" which was opposite of headlights that did not bounce! So as far as my fitness, I am back do doing my yoga, running, doing fitness DVDs etc. I can feel my upper strength is very low as I use to be able yo knock out push ups, and now I do them on my knees, trying to build my scrawny arms back up.

Got my one lil stitch out yesterday from my friend who is a nurse, she said they were not as saggy as she thought they would be...so that was....nice?

At work, usually wearing a jog bra with a padded bra over, just to try and look like I still have boobs.

Oh funny as I saw my ex for the first time yesterday. His first comment was.. "Oh you look skinny." It was inappropriate to me, as it is the same as saying just the opposite but....we only interacted for a few minutes, because I really was uncomfortable to have him look me over. Lucky I was in town with a pretty padded bra, but I was wearing a neck top. He texted me after, and said I looked good, which I think he realized his comment made me unhappy.

Funny how quickly we forget how are plants felt. I looked at my first photo I posted. I cannot believe how much boob I have! Had, I mean. Yes I am very small now. Yes I have some work to do, before I can be comfortable completely how I look.

But it is a great place to be. A lesson to accept others for who we are inside. Not the capsules of our bodies. Not judging anyone on their body types. Time to be healthy, have more fun, adventure and inviting good people in my life.

Love to you all who share their stories, stay strong, keep a positive attitude, accept the ups and down and...

Carry on....

Here is my photo today.