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Looking for a Bosom Buddy, More Like Buddies in the Miami Area! - Richmond, VA

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Good day, like many other stories begin, "I found...

virgingirl
Good day, like many other stories begin, "I found this site looking for support"

Yes, me too.
I have held in any emotion about my breast surgery from the late 90's to my shame, pain and misery I have carried up to this day. When I did the breast augmentation, I told one friend. Mostly because the Dr. requested photos. Other than that I was on a forum, similar to this, but ironically it was where you had cheerleaders telling you to go for it! And now, I do need, women who can support me in my decision to remove them.

I was in a terrible space when I made the decision to have my surgery. My bf at the time was a cheater. He also would constantly make comments about other women's breasts, and had no problem staring at them, any chance he could. I also found out he had an addiction to [RS bleep]. My self esteem hit a record low, I hated my lopsided small droopy breasts. I began looking at how much sexier women looked (or so I thought) with fuller breasts. So I began obsessing....took me maybe a year to save enough money and also to choose a Dr. The rest I will not really share, as yup, got Em in. Way larger than I wanted. Never, felt comfortable with them, and up to this day, hate being in anything showy, since they are just "fake boobs" to me. Yes, I cringe when someone hugs me, get uncomfortable when someone talks about "fake ones" even tho they are not referring to mine. So, in the last 10 plus years, I have worked out hard, ran marathons, did an ironman, kept pushing thinking that would make me feel better about my body?! Never worked.

And today, I finally released my tears and my story with my friend. You know when you cry so hard you think a lung might burst?. Or a breast might fall out!! ???? if only it was that easy. It felt so good. We, in our years of friendship, never talked about it. And now, she 100% supports my decision to get them out. So I am now doing my homework. I live in the carribean, so want to probably head to somewhere close to, but not opposed to going somewhere besides Miami. The airfare and distance would be manageable.

I am looking for an experienced Dr. In removals. Would prefer local, as I had a tough time with the anesthesia the first time. Tho I healed very quickly and had zero scarring. I do not have all the details, as my original Dr. after a week has not responded, so I am sorry to not provide more info. I was a small lopsided b cup and really wanted them more even with a little fullness. You will see from photos the are like 2 rubber balls on my chest. I recall him going thru my aereola, and think he actually made that smaller too as one nipple was larger than the other.

Ladies, your stories prompted me to finally stop my silence and pain and depression and shard it here and with a friend. If possible I would like to fly up around Thanksgiving for my first consultantion, and then work my way financially and mentally to getting them removed, next September. My friend said she would come with me. That is a true friend.

If you would openly or privately share your Dr. Recommendations in your area, I am hoping I could do at least 3. I am not interested in having smaller ones put it. I am on the team of get these out of me, I am accepting of my droopy little ones, an seriously want to wear a bikini on the beach again!! I wear clothes more to try and hide them, than I do trying to show them off. I miss wearing tank tops, and little dresses that I did pre big boobs. I made the mistake of doing them out of shame. And the best thing is the same guy who was my bf, I finally defriended just recently. He wanted his kids to meet me, but not tell them my name...since he did not want his wife to find out. Yup, he was a true [RS bleep]. Ashamed of me then...and still now. I told him, he was no longer accepted into my life. Not a friend. Done. And that felt great! So now to get these implants out will be another move forward. Thank you for all your wonderful stories and I hope to have my "after" story to share also. virgingirl

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October 12, 2015
I don't have any recommendations, only a thank you for sharing your story so honestly. I am planning to get implants next week and want to make sure that I'm going into it the 'blinders off' (not only reading cheerleaders' accounts). I respect and admire your decision to remove them, and appreciate you making me think very critically about this important decision. Good luck!!
October 13, 2015
Goingfornatural, I only wish I had real more stories, against implants, or people who like me, regretted their implants. So I admire you even venturing into this side. I would say this..."know you are doing it for you" nobody else. Keep in mind the future, I am now 56, and NEVER even thought about what I would look like with implants at this age. I hate having 2 hard lumps. Also make sure you know WHAT you want! I wanted to fill up a b cut, not even have my surgery noticible to others... That did not happen. Don't listen to everyone who says nobody regrets going a little bigger. I feel my Dr. Went larger than I wanted, but then again I probably showed him photos of boobs similar to what I got! I just wasn't ready for them. I finally received a reply from my original Dr. Way more $$ than I expected. I am still going to wait for Dr recommendation for a Dr. That really specializes in explants. Not all Drs. do, and honestly feel a female Dr. may be a better match for me.

Thanks for commenting and I hope your surgery goes well and you get exactly what you want!
October 15, 2015
Thank you very much for your reply, and BEST OF LUCK!!! May we all find inner contentment regardless of having hard lumps, soft lumps, of lack thereof :)
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October 13, 2015
October 15, 2015
Good luck finding a doctor! I went to four consultations and the fourth was my final. One thing that might be a deciding factor is that it looks like you have CC at least on the left (I believe that's your left). So finding a doc who does en bloc might be a consideration.

I have also hidden my BA from almost everyone. That in itself adds to the feeling of shame!
October 16, 2015
This may not be geographically doable, but I can't say enough good things about Dr. Feng, in Ohio. She's kind, compassionate, a brilliant surgeon and one of the most experienced in en bloc explantation. She did mine about 10 months ago. I had silicone implants for almost 35 years. Both were ruptured, and I had everything removed. I don't think anyone could've done a better job. She's very committed to her patients and to getting the best possible outcome.

Best of luck to you and congrats on taking such a big step forward to improving your health and well being!
October 17, 2015
Hmm I am not opposed to flying anywhere at this point. But I am solo, so that is part of my decision, on being close enough to an airport etc. What does en bloc mean again? Thank you, for replying ..this is the 2nd story about Dr. Feng and I will read yours now!!
October 19, 2015
En bloc means that the implants are removed with the capsules (scar tissue that forms around the implants) all in one piece. The surgery involves dissecting the capsules from the pocket that was formed when then implants were placed. You can Google "en bloc implant removal" and find more information. Does that help?
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October 17, 2015
Thank you for sharing your story . I'll be following your journey and trying to support
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October 17, 2015
Sorry posted before I was finished typing ....
You along this beautiful eye opening adventure . Learning to love our natural selfs again . Best wishes .
:-) xoxo
UPDATED FROM virgingirl

How can you handle this long distance?

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Ok, has anyone been able to A. Get a consultation, B. Make a positive choice to remove implants C. Get them removed within a day or two. I am trying to see if I can get a Skype consultation with a Dr. Instead of taking two trips. If that can't happen, do you think the above is a possibility? And how long is the average wait for removal surgery? I understand it will differ from Dr, to Dr. But is a month out a possibility? Thanksgiving is my hopeful date. Thank you ladies, and still open to Dr. Referrals hopefully near Miami or Orlando or Ft. Lauderdale. Just can't be too far from an airport. Thank you! So much inspiration here!

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October 19, 2015
I think it's s possibility if you can get a Skype consult. My explant was 2 weeks from the consult date. Good luck!
October 19, 2015
I haven't done long-distance, but one idea might be to look at explanation reviews of popular doctors such as Dr Kolb, Dr Feng, Dr Melmed, and Dr Pousti, all of whom have a lot of out-of-town patients.
November 1, 2015
Hi vgirl, I had a couple of phone consultations with doctors that were some distance from me. They had me send them photos to their email too so I'm sure if you explain your situation they would be more than happy to help you with your request. I actually just made one trip to the doctor that I chose to do my surgery and he was more than happy to accommodate. I found him on here, sent him an email and a lady from his office emailed me back to set up a phone consult with him. We had several phone consultations, set the date for surgery, drove in the day before, had surgery the following morning, had my post op 2 days after then drove back home. I also needed/wanted everything done in one trip so that's what I did. Very doable:) They mailed me my prescriptions before hand and had my pre op over the phone and went over everything again beforehand surgery. As you know I had simple explant, in office, under local and I'm doing great! I would look for some doctors on here in the area you want, read their reviews, look at their photos, look at their qualifications etc... Then email the ones you are interested in. Explain your situation and your desires then go from there. You can email them through this website. I would talk to at least 4 or 5 doctors before you decide and more if you need to. My friend supermom mentioned a certain dr in Atlanta:) She was actually one of the ones I emailed on here but they weren't my cup of tea (so to speak:)) I just didn't click with the lady that called me...she wasn't very warm, the doctor does very extensive explant procedure resulting in excessively high fees and in my case I didn't need or want this. I wanted simple explant, in office, under local so she didn't really fit my needs. But everyone has different needs/wants. You'll know who the right one is for you:) I hope this helped? xoxo
UPDATED FROM virgingirl

Gratitude and goodbye.

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Ha, just wrote a long story about taking a run, to be grateful for my breasts, my implants, you ladies, the Drs. and my own journey. It disappeared. But here hopefully is my before photos from... 1999, omg. I need to get ready to be back in the itty bitty [RS bleep] club!

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October 19, 2015
So you are moving forward with explant? Did you find a PS?
October 19, 2015
I called Dr. Fiala, but found out they do NOT do local, and I am not wanting to do anesthesia. Sent photos to Dr. Pozner in hopes to get a phone consultation. Also going to call Dr. Rotatori next. I get a little anxiety even doing this!
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October 20, 2015
Try to be strong with every new step in your journey. Convert the anxiety into positive energy. You are making the right decision and with Real Self... you are not alone. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
October 20, 2015
Call Dr JOHN Chois.. He's doing my explant this Friday under local. I've known him for years and he's wonderful!!!
He's in Orlando!
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October 21, 2015
Nice! Good luck! My explant is next Thursday! Wish it were tomorrow! ❤️
October 20, 2015
I only hope I'll look this good in a few months. I'm in tomorrow morning for explanation. Nervous but glad to get it done. Left side has issues and painful but I don't like the anyway. Want my small frame back. Saw doc last Tuesday for consult and in 8 days later for explanation so it can be relatively quick. In Canada though so you won't want to come this far☺just phone and ask a few how quickly they can do. If certified p.s. u should be fine. Good luck. I'll post as soon as can after surgery tomorrow. Wish me luck