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Smas Facelift with Fat Transfer Age 44
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I planed this sugery long ahead as I am a working...
RunnerearlJune 22, 2016
WORTH IT$33,750
I planed this sugery long ahead as I am a working mother I have s lots of organizing to do I will even quit my job as I won t get enough time off to heal Right now I am worried about so many things: how things will turn out , how my daughter is going to cope with my new me ( she is only 8) how long the healing will take, if I do the biggest mistake in my life but I am so focussed on the sagging of my face, if I will find another job and many other things.. I will not post the name of my surgeon as I don t want to hear negative comments about him I will be travelling around half of the world to get this surgery I am not rich so I will have to worry if I do not get a job after my recovery period I have been on this site for two years and am very impressed of this community I do hope to get some support and look forward to share my experience with you Almost forgot: I willbr going through this all alone My husband and I will get divorced soon I will be travelling alone and heal alone This sounds awful but I really want to do this.
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June 26, 2016
It's understandable you have concerns, but at the same time - I'm so excited for you! While it is sad that you & your husband are parting ways, it seems you are ready to step into a new life with a refreshed face! I hope everything goes smoothly & your recovery is comfortable.
Please do keep us posted - I, for one, would love to follow your journey! All the very best of wishes to you!
Please do keep us posted - I, for one, would love to follow your journey! All the very best of wishes to you!
August 3, 2016
Thank you! Yes I am excited but have many other worries right now My future ex husband is very supportive and this helps a lot We have been together for 23years! Is is totally against this surgery but supports me because he knows how important this is to me He really should receive the best-ex-husband reward.
June 30, 2016
Good luck on your journey. Please keep us updated.
July 24, 2016
Wow .. I am in a very similar situation and about to have a similar operation ... Take care and definitely post updates ... You know it already but just remember the swelling is going to be the biggest 'mind battle' .. Hang in there .. And this site is all about sharing and being supportive ...All will go well .. T
August 3, 2016
Thank you. When is your surgery scheduled? And yes.. The swelling will be the biggest issue I once had considerate seelling from a Sculptra injection and I looked strange for four weeks! This time it will take even longer.. Probably several months! Are you also having fat transfer or facelift only?
August 3, 2016
Just a mini lift no fat transfer .. The incision will go around ear (Targus) and then a couple of centremetres behind ear .. I'm scheduled for mid October .. Did you have drains ???
August 3, 2016
I will be having drains Are you afraid of drains? I think drains help a lot getting fluid out of the wounds thus foster the healing process But healing will take ages anyway :-)
August 3, 2016
Thank you .. Yes I'm meant to have drains but only for 3 days or so .. I'll look like a freak ... We'll be healing around the same time .. My surgery is October ..a little before you. We can feel sorry for ourselves together LOL
August 3, 2016
Thank you!! Wow! How are you doing? Which procedures did you have? Did you tell your daughter you had a facelift? I live in a country where it is still uncommen to do a facelift and people would be shocked if they new I had one at age 44! Out of this reason no one will ever think I had one :-) I still have not told my daughter yet! I have no idea what to tell her. My son knows:he is 17 and mostly concerned about how much it will cost -i have not told him. I will be abroad for 4 weeks! So this is another concern! Which procedures did you have? Fat transfer along with fl?
And yes: there will be an emotional rollercoaster ! I already suffer from depression and I just went through a bad one last month - never had such a terrible one.. Are you already back at work? Have you been an emotionally stable person before the surgery?
One friend knows about it and she is very supportive Sure this helps
Let me know how things are going! All the best!!
And yes: there will be an emotional rollercoaster ! I already suffer from depression and I just went through a bad one last month - never had such a terrible one.. Are you already back at work? Have you been an emotionally stable person before the surgery?
One friend knows about it and she is very supportive Sure this helps
Let me know how things are going! All the best!!
August 3, 2016
This comment was supposed to be linked to TaylorMonk's comment! Sorry about the confusion!
UPDATED FROM Runnerearl
3 months pre
2.5 months before
RunnerearlAugust 11, 2016
Time flies.. Only 2.5 months to go The planing for this surgery started about three years ago I have been carefully searching for an excellent facial plastic surgeon Another plastic surgeon who is well known for his expertise in his field has referred me to him As I knew that healing will take several months I had to plan a sabbatical leave - i actually quit work and have to be looking for a new job after my healing period. I took some pictures of my face - at angles which are not very flattering - to remind me why I am doing this. I have thought about this procedure over and over again and asked myself why my looks are so important to me. I am far from being amused looking at my reflection and I stoped buying clothes two years ago as I didn t like my face anymore and buying clothes didn t seem to be worth it with such a face.
For me it's all about what does really matter in life. If i could choose between a beautiful face and a great job opportunity I would choose the face. It is not rational nor intelligent to think this way it also seems somehow primitive but it is the way i feel. Job success does not feel as good as a younger face - this is odd but exactly how I feel! How come that we are all educated but still somehow focused on our looks? Somehow I think inspite the progress of womens liberation there is no way to overcome biology? I am very curious what you wonderful realself community think about this.
For me it's all about what does really matter in life. If i could choose between a beautiful face and a great job opportunity I would choose the face. It is not rational nor intelligent to think this way it also seems somehow primitive but it is the way i feel. Job success does not feel as good as a younger face - this is odd but exactly how I feel! How come that we are all educated but still somehow focused on our looks? Somehow I think inspite the progress of womens liberation there is no way to overcome biology? I am very curious what you wonderful realself community think about this.
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August 11, 2016
I actually agree with you 100% LOL .. I have the same thoughts too .. My surgery is booked early October ... I am nervous and excited all in one. I'm having the procedure for 'me'. What's wrong in wanting to look a little younger ?'it's not that I plan to change who I am per se. Your logic sounds perfectly fine to me, but you are speaking to the converted :) Keep us posted.
August 12, 2016
hope you are doing well how exciting nothing wrong with want you everybody on the sight is wanting to look younger lol what's wrong with that why not
August 13, 2016
You must have Venus somewhere on your main planets:) Beauty is one of my main drivers too. I am 3.5 weeks after my FL, I did it for me, but also for my job, as esthetics really do matter, and I am in a creative field, and you will feel sooo good , single and refreshed , ready for new chapter, I don't have a husband either(any longer lol) but had two wonderful girlfriends that help out after the surgery, Good luck:)
November 13, 2016
I think you've done a good analysis of why this procedure is so important to you. I think you will be delighted that you did this.
UPDATED FROM Runnerearl
2 days post
One day before surgery
RunnerearlNovember 3, 2016
Right now I am just terrified. I started planing this surgery two years ago and while surgery is now approaching it just feels so unreal. I am staying in an airbnb apartement and will have a private nurse looking after me the first days. But she won' t be here 24 hours just a couple of hours each day.
Besides being terrified I am so ready for it as I cannot look at my face any longer. I am only 44 years but most people think I am older. Even in my early thirties people always thought I am in my forties .
Tomorrow evening I will look like an alien . Even knowing that I am very scared seeing myself like that.
Being all by myself is not optimal but as I come from another country having my surgery in the US there were nit many other possibilities. My husband takes care of my kids while I am here.
So everything is unfamiliar here and that doesn t make it easier. Hope everything goes smooth.
Besides being terrified I am so ready for it as I cannot look at my face any longer. I am only 44 years but most people think I am older. Even in my early thirties people always thought I am in my forties .
Tomorrow evening I will look like an alien . Even knowing that I am very scared seeing myself like that.
Being all by myself is not optimal but as I come from another country having my surgery in the US there were nit many other possibilities. My husband takes care of my kids while I am here.
So everything is unfamiliar here and that doesn t make it easier. Hope everything goes smooth.
Thank you so much for starting your story! You sound determined. Here's a list of pre- and post-op facelift tips for you. Please keep us updated on this process. :)
I recently had similar work done but I haven't posted as I'm very introverted/private ( I am on day 19) I feel for you as I am also quite young and have a young daughter, 10 and I am divorced but in a relationship.
My advise for you is to be prepared for the recovery (not pain there is none) but the emotional journey (especially as you are already going through a lot). The naval gazing for the first two weeks, stuck at home drove me insane. Finally I went back to my family home (day 12). My boyfriend and daughter are supportive but they only see the external stuff healing not the internal (psychological). The both say it looks better FYI.
Your future will be great with your beautiful new look and of course you'll get a new job with the new confidence you'll have.
Maybe enroll a trusted friend to talk to so you have some support during the healing.
Oh and I've taken two flights since the surgery so don't worry about travel. You just need a high collar, scalf and a hat.
Good luck - I wish you a great result :) xx