Good Bye Boobs Has happened.- United Kingdom
Hi all, I have had big boobs since i was 13/14...
Hi all,
I have had big boobs since i was 13/14 years of age.
I am 5 ft 7 inches, a size 12 (UK) hips and body but a size 20 around my boobs.
So i have an extra 10-12 inches around my chest (44-46 inches) whereas my body/ribs are 34 inches... I look big in tops which cover all my top half, and i am small as your eye moves down my body to my feet. People think i am big all over.
Men stare which i hate, and 'speak' to my chest which I hate even more!
I have carried them for decades and my wish was to have a BR. My ex was very unsupportive and said 'you don't need one' despite being a Dr, but since I got divorced 6 years ago, and having met my wonderful current partner of 4 years, my partner has supported my wish to have this done. Its a breath of fresh air!!
In summary i have wanted a BR since i was 20.
I am now 48, and if i can say so, i am not too bad for my age.
Its my boobs which 'spoil' any clothing i would like to wear so i don't look at dresses, colourful tops or anything with buttons or fitted. When I try in clothing, my sisters and friends all say the same thing; " you look great...except for your boobs, which spoil the dress" (or top or whatever I try on.).
So this year, In Jan, I made my new years resolutions. My 1st being to have a BR.
So i started my research and found out a woman at work (same department) was having it done on 6th Jan! So she has been a 'mentor' for me. She came into work after her BR at 2 weeks post op and she looked great. Gone was the pained expression from years of shoulder, neck and upper back pain, virtually gone were the ridges from her bra straps, but most of all gone were her big boobs and she can wear any tops she chooses!!
She was a HH and is now a small 'C'. That was it for me! So i went to the same PS in the same hospital and had my 1st consultation in March.
I had a full medical and my reasons for wanting the BR and what they would do etc.
I had a 2nd assessment in April where an in-depth discussion followed and I was told I would need a 'free nipple graft'. I was also told I would be approx a full 'C' / 'D' cup but as my PS doesn't like to say how I will end up (as cup sizes vary amongst bra manufacturers) he will see when he operates.
I have asked to be on the smaller side if he ever feels he 'needs to take more off' or even them up or whatever! I fully trust him as he is very experienced, kind and has a wonderful manner. I feel I am in very safe hands.
I have posted on RealSelf since March/April and I have had great support from other women in the same or a similar situation as me.
As I have had 2 C-sections in the past, I have read on here how the post op 'pain' from a BR is nothing like as bad which reassures me alot.
I am excited but scared, as I am the world's worst patient! (LOL!!) and I have a real fear of general anaesthesia, (GA) and pain.... but GA more than anything.
Since deciding to go ahead, and having paid the fee (I am a private patient), and I had my bloods taken and ECG (EKG in the US) done, I was ready to go for 30th June 2012.
My operation was postponed until end of July due to my PS having some issues (personal /illness issues) with his family.
So I am back in the 'pre-op club' again!!
I have my 'Kimmers list' items (thank you Kim!) all ready for my post op recovery, and magazines, 'V' pillows, support Bra's and vitamins etc, to hand.
I am finding my neck, shoulders and upper back are aching more than usual but it may be psychological in part as I am being impatient to be rid of my boobs.
I am now looking at dresses, nice small tops in bright colours, and clothing I would normally dismiss due to not being able to wear it. Part of me feels sad that I didn't look into this before now, so if you are contemplating a BR and you are younger than me, go for it and please don't waste any more life as I feel I have done, in respect to wearing nice things and small delicate bra's and being pain free.
I had a brochure for 'big boobed women' come through my door. I ripped it up!! I don't need it any more. From the end of July, I will recover and be looking at and buying nice things and for once I will be in proportion!
I know I will have no feeling to my nipples and my nipples will not protrude or move (as the nerves will be permanently severed) but they will be nice to look at and it is worth the lack of nipple sensation for being free of sore and painful muscles to my neck, back and shoulders.
I will lose the stinging and sore strap marks to my shoulders too.Life will be improved for me as I will never have heavy boobs to carry around in hot weather with all that brings and anyone reading this will know what I mean!!
I will continue posting the rest of my story, in the hope it will being comfort to anyone reading it who is contemplating a breast reduction. When I am post op, I will publish my photos before and after the procedure.
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Hi all, getting nearer to a new date. Its booked...
Its booked for end of July as long as nothing else happens! I'll have to sort my periods out (in terms of time) as i have found out i'll have to have the Heparin and surgical stockings (uggh!) and floatron boots... as my PS follows strict anti-DVT criteria.
(A DVT means a deep vein thrombosis which as a blood clot which forms in the leg and can travel to the lungs causing a PE or pulmonary embolism in rare cases).
Anyone reading this please try not to get 'hung up' on this.
So he hospital I am in follows this practice but i am going to ask if I can not have the Heparin (an anticoagulant) as it stings and my blood clots on the 'slower side' of the normal range if that makes sense.
So I have approx 3 or 4 weeks to go and the countdown is on again.
I have my list of items which is called the 'Kimmers list' (see Kimmers post on the forum) of vital items needed for the BR op.
I've also bought magazines and books to read post op and i've organised time off work.
I'm still 'boob obsessed' (in a nice and non perverted way may I add!! LOL!!) as my life is on hold in terms of clothing, nice bras, strapless dresses.... anyone reading this with big boobs will totally understand where I am coming from.
Since having the cancellation, (or should I say postponement) my boobs have become something I really do not like carrying around with me! My shoulders really ache, and my neck is really sore and it's now hurting me like never before. I think in part it's that I now notice how these feel whereas before, I didn't think about them- in fact I know i didn't think about them.
Before deciding on a BR i lived my life just 'dismissing' clothing and now i can't read enough magazines or watch fashion programmes on TV! On the internet i am looking at dresses and i realise (sadly) how much life i have wasted having big boobs. They have robbed me of so much. But not for much longer!!!
So anyone reading who has their BR postponed for whatever reason it hurts as you have built up your mind to accept it, but you will be stronger for it and any fears (like mine about GA's) will dissolve because you will want it so much!!
So until i am nearer the actual date i'll use the forum for now.
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How does it feel to have a sundress on??!! Bet its amazzzzzing!! :)
I cant wait either. Even if its -10 outside in mid-winter- i will be wearing a strapless number!
Life is on hold until its done as i am really , really fed-up with these boobs now. They are annoying the hell out of me and the strap pain is much worse and more noticeable now.
I am so pleased you are happy! love Debs xx
It does feel amazing! But I've just worn it around the house. It still feels too weird to go out in public with it. I guess I've still got the mind of a girl with enormous breasts! Just think you will be sashaying to all of the Christmas parties in slinky little numbers. Yeah, I think you will find yourself drug underneath more than one mistletoe!
Do you know when you surgery will be?
Deb, I think you are right. Once you have that date and know the surgery is happening the pain just becomes so much more noticable. It is like your mind kind of blocks out a lot of the pain because you don't really give consideration to the breast reduction. But once it becomes a reality for you, I think you really take notice of the full impact pain has on your life...of course I think it is also your brain's way of saying, "See this is what you will put up with for the rest of your life if you chicken out now!"
PS sec has been lovely and said it will be no later then 4th aug but it will be before then. He does general plastic surgery but it depends on the time available as we all know Br's take hours... but postponement has sharpened my focus and made me more impatient. I feel right now that when it comes to the anaesthesia part, i am going to just shut my eyes and jump in the water (so to speak...) x x
Thank you for understanding and supporting me through this. It means alot-it really does x x
Make sure you let us know as soon as you have a date firmed up so we can countdown with you.
Thinking of you.
Lovely to 'hear' from you!! Thank you so much for your support. Light at the end of the tunnel and yes you are both right! The soreness and aching is really getting to me and a constant reminder of why I want these to go. Sorry to ask you again but when is your op date babes?
What I am amazed at though is my big fear, the dreaded 'GA' has diminished in severity!!
I am still nervous but since the date has been changed, I want this so much, I just want to 'jump in the cold water' so to speak and get through it.
I know I will walk to theatre with severe 'butterflies' in my stomach... however; I have resigned my mind to just 'going with it' as to live any longer with the discomfort is a big No No!!
I also haven't bought any upper body clothing since Christmas including bras! I will start looking like a tramp if I don't have these boobs reduced! So for me life is on hold as I am desperate to wear dresses, nice bras and tops instead of baggy black tops while I try and convince my self I am 'hiding' my 34 GG/H boobies. I was fooling no one, least of all myself! Arrrggghh!!! (Rant over!! )
Thank you piggles for the countdown and if i can do anything for you and anyone reading this in terms of support, let me know. Lots of love and thanks again
Debs xxxx
There may be butterflies on that glorious morning, but they are going to be big beautiful pink butterflies that are going to take you to your new figure!
Make sure to let us know the SECOND you have your date! Hopefully you'll hear sooner rather than later.
Well here is part 2. Had my BR date posted to me-...
Had my BR date posted to me- its on Wednesday 29th August 2012 and i have my pre-op on 20th August. I need bloods etc doing again as the last set of bloods is now obsolete! (I don't have any chronic conditions such as diabetes or anything its just policy for the hospital to do this).
So after feeling really low following the postponement, I am now rarin' to go!!! In fact, I have found since this happened I want it so much that my fears have (almost) gone and my wish to have normal boobs is a massive priority, in fact, I feel life is on hold ;in terms of clothing and wearing nice dresses for the events I go to and things I want to do in life like swim, run and dance...
So i am all set and once the pre-op is done next monday, that's it! I have some PJ's to buy (with buttons up the front!! whoo hoo!!) and cami tops for post op and loungewear in top sizes which are normal. I will buy a size 14 top just to try and the rest i can get on line when i am post op. But to even THINK of a size 14 top?? I am normally to fit these boobs a 20/22 when my hips are a 12 (uk sizes which i think are 18? top in US and a hips size 10?).
So is countdown time and when i am in the pre-op room i will take pictures and post them all on here. I can write for England so every detail will be on here of the whole experience!
Good luck to anyone reading this now or in the future- don't let your fears put you off a lifetime of health- free from pain and shoulder discomfort.
I will update again when i am in pre-op as i am taking the laptop to hospital with me! x x
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The official countdown begins!!!!!
cant wait! What would I do without all you wonderful women? Love ya all and thank you for your support. x x
Wow just the weeked and it is your pre-op day. So happy for you and glad that your day is just singe digits away! Especially happy for you with all the waiting you have had. Will keep good thoughts going your way and look forward to following your progress.
Thanks for posting your review, Deb! Guess what? For the first time in at least 25 years I have bought a sundress! I plan to wear it to church on Sunday...I'm so excited :-)