POSTED UNDER Breast Augmentation Reviews
36 Years Old, 3 Kids, Active/Athletic, Desire Natural Look - San Francisco, CA
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I am really feeling anxious, uncertain... Have...
5697anonApril 15, 2014
WORTH IT$8,500
I am really feeling anxious, uncertain... Have cold feet. I have been contemplating a Breast Augmentation for ages. I do not like the way my flat chest looks in most fashions. And I love fashion and clothes!! So tired of wearing a heavy super padded bra that is always falling down. However, I usually am in workout attire and don't mind my small breasts in workout clothes. Personally, I think they are cute when I am naked. But when I am in a swim suit I wish I had a bigger breasts. Ugh. So anyway, I am scheduled for 5/20 after tons of research and talking to lots of surgeons. Going to have small silicone, lower profile, under the muscle... Maybe 275 cc? Not sure on size yet. Going for small C cup. But I am scared I am going to mess up my cute little boobs... Or eventually regret doing it. Don't fix it if it ain't broke? I also worry that my kids, who love love love to cuddle w me won't be able to cuddle with me the same way anymore. And I worry about sleeping. Will I have to worry about them slipping to the side because I am a back sleeper? And what about this silicone toxicity stuff? Is it really no longer a concern w the cohesive gels? And how awful are mammograms going to be now? Thoughts appreciated if anyone reads this.
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UPDATED FROM 5697anon
29 days pre
Probably Going to Cancel
5697anonApril 21, 2014
I am ridiculously disappointed. My husband told me tonight for the first time ever that he does not think I should have the breast augmentation. Up until this point he has been very neutral and supportive. He has said he thinks I look great now but that I should do whatever I want. And despite all my uncertainties, I had a chance to go out w girlfriends on Friday night and the task of selecting an outfit and taping my damn bra to myself and to my shirt reminded me that I really really do want to do this. But then we got in an argument tonight because he thinks I have unrealistic expectations that I will be able to have it done without a lot of people noticing. And that is when he came out with it. That he simply thinks I should not do it. That the risks outweigh the benefits. That i "look good now" and could end up having them messed up sooner or later. So that is that. I have not told many people but of those I have told, virtually no one thinks I should do it. My mom is HIGHLY opposed. My sister is supportive but feels I could be making a mistake. One of my best friends is supportive but not encouraging necessarily. I have two other girlfriends I have told and they both think I should do it but one already had it done and the other wants to. No one else knows. So ultimately having my husband state this opinion puts a whole new perspective on things. I probably shouldn't do it. But I am here in bed crying with disappointment. :(
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April 21, 2014
None of my friends were supportive either when I told them but they came around when they realized how serious I was about wanting biigger boobs. If it's something you really want then you will do it. If you are really concerned about what other peole think then it may not be the right decision for you. I know you are in a hard position :( do what makes you happy & Good Luck!
April 25, 2014
Hi! Thanks for your supportive comment! Thinking I still want to do it... So probably will. :)
April 25, 2014
Good Luck! Whatever makes you happy :):):) have you tried on sizers at the PS yet?
April 26, 2014
Yes, tried on sizers. I am not sure if I had a good bra to try with. They felt huge and saggy to me. I think I needed a tighter bra because I know realistically that under the muscle will flatten the implant and it will not look saggy and floppy like it did with the sizers. I still go back for the official implant selection in another week or so. I will be able to try sizers again.
Anyway, thanks again!! You look great!
April 26, 2014
Take a god supportive sports bra. They still seem a little saggy still but it gives you a better idea :)
UPDATED FROM 5697anon
24 days pre
Still Scheduled! Hernia drama too.
5697anonApril 25, 2014
Well I calmed down and did not cancel. My husband is still supportive of whatever I decide... But his opinion is that I shouldn't. I am definitely dissuaded by the fact that people who love and care about me feel the surgery might not be in my best interest. But at the end of the day I really think it is something I want. So as of now, moving forward. The day is swiftly approaching.
Unfortunately I have the added drama of having to weigh in repair of my umbilical hernia. It returned after abdominoplasty. My original surgeon claims that it is not medically necessary to repair. The surgeon I have selected for BA strongly disagrees because there is a hole in my muscle wall. He was ready to submit it to my insurance but then I found out that he is not in network (I have HMO). Since I carefully selected the BA surgeon, I do not really want to consider someone else... And I don't think it makes sense to have two surgeries an go under anesthesia twice. So I guess I am going to pay for the hernia repair myself. Unless I decide to cancel the Breast Augmentation. Then I would find a doctor in network to repair hernia.
Unfortunately I have the added drama of having to weigh in repair of my umbilical hernia. It returned after abdominoplasty. My original surgeon claims that it is not medically necessary to repair. The surgeon I have selected for BA strongly disagrees because there is a hole in my muscle wall. He was ready to submit it to my insurance but then I found out that he is not in network (I have HMO). Since I carefully selected the BA surgeon, I do not really want to consider someone else... And I don't think it makes sense to have two surgeries an go under anesthesia twice. So I guess I am going to pay for the hernia repair myself. Unless I decide to cancel the Breast Augmentation. Then I would find a doctor in network to repair hernia.
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April 25, 2014
I felt the same way, unsure about doing it. Let me tell you it has a hard decision but one of the best ones, so far. I love my new boobs and feel so much confident about the way I look. I was so tired of always looking so plain and shirts didn't look good, very frustrating having to wear a bra all the time!! trust me its all worth it. talk to your husband and get on the same page, tell him you are doing this for you and really hope he supports your decision, at the end of the day his opinion is the only one that matters, in my opinion.
Best of luck.
April 25, 2014
Hi! I see that you are very active and like to exercise too. Do you feel that the implants have affected you at the gym? Do you do chest presses, etc? Does it bother you? Did you go over or under the muscle? Really appreciate it! You look fab.
April 25, 2014
I am planing to have BA this summer. Sometimes is better not to tell too many people so they do not discurage you. I telling only one person. Rather talked to some people here on this site, they are more suportive. Go for it. Good luck. I am tall and flat chested I know how you feel, I can wait to feel like a woman...
April 25, 2014
Totally agree! I have only told my mom and sister (share everything with them), 2 friends, and my husband. No one is super enthusiastic though. Sigh ;)
April 26, 2014
It must be so hard for you. You need more support from your husband but you can't blame him though, he is probably full of worries. If you deep down in your heart feel that this is something you need to do to feel better about yourself than do it! If I mention to my friends that I will go for BA they think I am crazy, so I stopped talking about it. I will let them know when all is behind me. Best luck to you!
April 25, 2014
I am scheduled for May 21st, so right around the same time as you!! I have also gone back and forth every single day about whether to go through with it or not!! It seems completely normal because so many women on this site experience the same anxiety and doubt!! It's a big decision, so that's understandable. I have not told many people either. My hubby, mom and best friend are supportive. In the end, you are doing this for YOU!
April 25, 2014
The only people who were supportive of me BEFORE surgery were those friends who've had a BA or those friends who work in the medical field. AFTER, everyone is seeing how much I love them and they are happy that I am happy. I went with under-muscle, infra-mammary incision bc those seem to have the lowest risk. The week before my surgery, I went to the department store to buy some zip front bras. I told the sales lady that I was having BA and she said GREAT, I had mine done years back, I love them - the tipping point for her was walking down the isle at her wedding and only focusing on the stuffing in her bra. I can so relate! Only you can understand the hundreds of little ways it will effect you, its a decision you have to make for YOU. I truly hope the hernia gets works out without too much $$$$. Best of luck
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