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Completely changed my face for the worse
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Rhinoplasty with Frederic Newman
RJM5678May 17, 2024
$13,000
How do you write a “review” about someone who has destroyed your entire life, as if we are rating a bad meal. 7 months before my wedding in 2022, I met with Newman because I had always had a congested feeling in my nose. It did not affect my quality of life except for during exercise, it was not a big deal but I had the money to get it fixed at the time so why not. Initially I set out for just this, and then stupidly had the idea of, well if they are going up there anyway, maybe I’ll have them shave a tiny bit off my very slight convex bridge. Enter Newman. He looked in my nose and said that yes I had a deviated septum (in hindsite after this being my entire life for 2 years, not all deviated septums need to be fixed, and my less than perfect breathing was from my very narrow and beautiful nose). I asked about taking a tiny bit off of my slight hump while he is up there. He said absolutely and that my nose was projected a bit far from my face (I agreed although I didn’t mention that, he did). He said I can bring that closer to your face. I told him how much I loved my nose from the front and I didn’t want ANYTHING to change about it, that even the hump didn’t really bother me but if it can be done so so minimally, I’d do it. He said he’d take 1mm off the bridge (do you know what 1mm is!? Close to nothing, and that was perfect for me) . He said nobody would notice, I may not even notice, he’s “barely” going to touch me. I made it very clear, over and over and over again how terrified I was and that I did NOT want the front of my face to change. Why he wouldn’t turn someone away who is pleading how much they love their nose? I guess the answer to that is $13k. But he made me feel like I was overreacting and and one point even had to say to me “why are you worried about your front when I’m not touching your front”. I felt in that moment that I was overreacting. That comment of his put my mind at ease. What do I know? And he was right, how would what he said he’d do change my face? I still was terrified and nervous, back and forth with Christina about doing this or not. My fears were calmed and I went for it. I even made a joke with Newman saying that if I wake up and nothing was done that fine with me, that’s how LITTLE I wanted him to touch my nose. There was zero miscommunication there. The morning of surgery, the nurse who came in to give me my gown said “YOU are having a rhinoplasty?”. I admit in that moment I had a what am I doing moment, but trusted that this man was going to improve my breathing and barely touch me cosmetically, and my face would be unchanged as promised.
Cast off, looked great! Newman said you don’t have much swelling. I was thrilled. At my 3 week post op I was looking normal (red flag). Newman told me my swelling was pretty much gone and I agreed because I looked great! My nose looked the same only the small hump was gone, and he had brought my nose closer to my face. Zero concerns for 3 months. The dreaded 3-4 month mark comes. My swelling had not been even close to being done and I realize now how idiotic that comment was of him to say. I notice my nostrils are retracting. I am beside myself. This is when I join a rhinoplasty community and learn about this HORRIBLE unpredictable surgery that goes wrong so often. I quickly learn alar retraction is not an easy fix. Let’s rewind to the time I said to Newman, maybe I should wait until after the wedding. He said no do it now, if there were to be any issues we’d have time to fix them with 7 months but if you wait much longer we won’t. He also said by 7 months your swelling will be gone, maybe 5% left, unnoticeable, so do it now. So I was told swelling would be gone by 7 months and then 3 weeks post op I was told it was already just about gone. Fast forward back to 4 months post op, I start panicking and emailing the office about the retraction. I kept getting told it’s swelling and will all settle down. As swelling did continue to go down, I developed a saddlenose, my tip drooping (he did no grafting for support which is very uncommon these days), horribly flaring nostrils and by about 5-6 months post op, I officially had a pinched tip. I went into the office and he said I look better. He left the office for 45 mins after taking pics. My husband and I were actually joking that maybe he was editing the pics. Well, he comes back in showing me grainy pics that did not look as bad as my nose looked. I knew I was fighting a losing battle. Literally everything that could go wrong, was happening. I was DEVASTATED, emailing the office and sending pictures constantly, only to be told its swelling. So much for if anything were to go wrong we can fix it before the wedding”. There is nothing that can be fixed as you can’t have another surgery for at least a year. He had told me my swelling was gone at 3 weeks (obv not even close to being true, all that swelling hid the fact that Newman had severely overrsected my nose). I was begging for filler just to get through my wedding day. Wedding planning turned into a devastating time, I did not want to go through with it looking like that. I was told that filler “is DANGEROUS and only a temporary fix”. I do know that’s true but I was desperate. I went and found someone else to give me filler for $1200. Fast forward to a wedding I had to edit all my pics of, and a wedding video I will NEVER watch. I came back from my honeymoon (spent emailing surgeons for revisions) and had a zoom with Newman. I refused to go in again, I had already been gaslit enough to know this wasn’t ending well. He completely changed my face for the worse. I agreed to a zoom where I was gaslit more. We were coming up on a year and he said well it takes 2 years for swelling to resolve. YOU HACKED TOO MUCH OFF OF MY NOSE WHY ARE WE TALKING ABOUT SWELLING!!! So it went from it’ll be gone by 7 months pre surgery, to it actually IS gone at 3 weeks post surgery, to an excuse of it’ll take a year after the first sign of trouble, to now it’ll take 2 years. I guess he thought my nose would grow back after swelling went down. I said my nose is pinched and look at my horrible nostrils (they were hideous, message me for pics). He said well everyone’s nose pinches and flares when they smile. He thought I looked great. I couldn’t believe it. I did not realize surgeons could not admit to mistakes. He then offered to put Porex in my nose (SILICONE!!! NOBODY DOES THAT ANYMORE!). Not sure where, as he said my nose looked great. I knew I was dealing with incompetence, and obviously I wasn’t going to let him touch me. Christina ended up emailing me saying that Newman is offering me free filler (excuse me?? The dangerous and short term solution filler that I begged for and had to pay $1200 elsewhere??). The excuse this time, it was just too early. Full of it, all of them. When he found out I was researching revisions, he warned me how terrible it would feel to have rib in my nose. Well thanks doc, it’s all because you could not control yourself with your tools. I had a revision 3 months ago. This whole ordeal has cost me over $65k and counting. I am not happy with the way I look, not because my revision surgeon did anything wrong, but because I do not look like myself anymore. Newman hacked up my face when he promised that he was “barely going to touch me”. I flew around the country multiple times and consulted with 14 of the best revision surgeons in the country and also a couple outside of the country. Every one of them said that I was badly overresected. One even said that he fixes Newmans noses a lot. Every one of them told me it was a bad result, but to live with the bad result of I could, that’s how risky revision is. It is horrible. I can’t believe this is my life. I can’t believe my face is gone forever. I can’t believe he did this to me. My life is…this. Depression, panic attacks, disbelief, anger, regret. I feel like victim of stupid plastic surgery, to my face!!! After consulting with so many surgeons who told me I had a very pretty nose and it was a house of cards and never should have been touched, I will never understand why Newman didn’t tell me the same. I guess it was that $13k. Please, do not go to this man. An apology and some help about what had gone wrong would have gone a long way to his patient who was desperate for help and answers.
Message for pics.
I hope this helps, but please reach out if you have any further questions.
Cast off, looked great! Newman said you don’t have much swelling. I was thrilled. At my 3 week post op I was looking normal (red flag). Newman told me my swelling was pretty much gone and I agreed because I looked great! My nose looked the same only the small hump was gone, and he had brought my nose closer to my face. Zero concerns for 3 months. The dreaded 3-4 month mark comes. My swelling had not been even close to being done and I realize now how idiotic that comment was of him to say. I notice my nostrils are retracting. I am beside myself. This is when I join a rhinoplasty community and learn about this HORRIBLE unpredictable surgery that goes wrong so often. I quickly learn alar retraction is not an easy fix. Let’s rewind to the time I said to Newman, maybe I should wait until after the wedding. He said no do it now, if there were to be any issues we’d have time to fix them with 7 months but if you wait much longer we won’t. He also said by 7 months your swelling will be gone, maybe 5% left, unnoticeable, so do it now. So I was told swelling would be gone by 7 months and then 3 weeks post op I was told it was already just about gone. Fast forward back to 4 months post op, I start panicking and emailing the office about the retraction. I kept getting told it’s swelling and will all settle down. As swelling did continue to go down, I developed a saddlenose, my tip drooping (he did no grafting for support which is very uncommon these days), horribly flaring nostrils and by about 5-6 months post op, I officially had a pinched tip. I went into the office and he said I look better. He left the office for 45 mins after taking pics. My husband and I were actually joking that maybe he was editing the pics. Well, he comes back in showing me grainy pics that did not look as bad as my nose looked. I knew I was fighting a losing battle. Literally everything that could go wrong, was happening. I was DEVASTATED, emailing the office and sending pictures constantly, only to be told its swelling. So much for if anything were to go wrong we can fix it before the wedding”. There is nothing that can be fixed as you can’t have another surgery for at least a year. He had told me my swelling was gone at 3 weeks (obv not even close to being true, all that swelling hid the fact that Newman had severely overrsected my nose). I was begging for filler just to get through my wedding day. Wedding planning turned into a devastating time, I did not want to go through with it looking like that. I was told that filler “is DANGEROUS and only a temporary fix”. I do know that’s true but I was desperate. I went and found someone else to give me filler for $1200. Fast forward to a wedding I had to edit all my pics of, and a wedding video I will NEVER watch. I came back from my honeymoon (spent emailing surgeons for revisions) and had a zoom with Newman. I refused to go in again, I had already been gaslit enough to know this wasn’t ending well. He completely changed my face for the worse. I agreed to a zoom where I was gaslit more. We were coming up on a year and he said well it takes 2 years for swelling to resolve. YOU HACKED TOO MUCH OFF OF MY NOSE WHY ARE WE TALKING ABOUT SWELLING!!! So it went from it’ll be gone by 7 months pre surgery, to it actually IS gone at 3 weeks post surgery, to an excuse of it’ll take a year after the first sign of trouble, to now it’ll take 2 years. I guess he thought my nose would grow back after swelling went down. I said my nose is pinched and look at my horrible nostrils (they were hideous, message me for pics). He said well everyone’s nose pinches and flares when they smile. He thought I looked great. I couldn’t believe it. I did not realize surgeons could not admit to mistakes. He then offered to put Porex in my nose (SILICONE!!! NOBODY DOES THAT ANYMORE!). Not sure where, as he said my nose looked great. I knew I was dealing with incompetence, and obviously I wasn’t going to let him touch me. Christina ended up emailing me saying that Newman is offering me free filler (excuse me?? The dangerous and short term solution filler that I begged for and had to pay $1200 elsewhere??). The excuse this time, it was just too early. Full of it, all of them. When he found out I was researching revisions, he warned me how terrible it would feel to have rib in my nose. Well thanks doc, it’s all because you could not control yourself with your tools. I had a revision 3 months ago. This whole ordeal has cost me over $65k and counting. I am not happy with the way I look, not because my revision surgeon did anything wrong, but because I do not look like myself anymore. Newman hacked up my face when he promised that he was “barely going to touch me”. I flew around the country multiple times and consulted with 14 of the best revision surgeons in the country and also a couple outside of the country. Every one of them said that I was badly overresected. One even said that he fixes Newmans noses a lot. Every one of them told me it was a bad result, but to live with the bad result of I could, that’s how risky revision is. It is horrible. I can’t believe this is my life. I can’t believe my face is gone forever. I can’t believe he did this to me. My life is…this. Depression, panic attacks, disbelief, anger, regret. I feel like victim of stupid plastic surgery, to my face!!! After consulting with so many surgeons who told me I had a very pretty nose and it was a house of cards and never should have been touched, I will never understand why Newman didn’t tell me the same. I guess it was that $13k. Please, do not go to this man. An apology and some help about what had gone wrong would have gone a long way to his patient who was desperate for help and answers.
Message for pics.
I hope this helps, but please reach out if you have any further questions.
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