Tt,bbl want it done, can't wait !!!!! - Duluth, GA

Hello rs peeps I am 30 years old and single mother of two girls.
I have always been more on the chubby side, before I had my first daughter (now 6) I was around 160-170 after delivery I weight around 200 I was just devastated I hated the way I felt and of course looked. I started to eat clean, not have anything after 5pm and only drink water i had lost a bunch very fast when I started working out I had already some loose skin but nothing to horrible. It got better over time and my lowest weight was 135 lbs life was good I loved the new me. After about 3 years I stopped working and just by sitting at home I had gained weight again. Started being depressed and weight went up a little more and than I found I was pregnant at around 180lbs. Well after delivering my second daughter (now 7months) I was up to 230lbs. Very frustrating. Now I am againI on a very strict diet and I work out 4 x a week. When I can't get to the gym I walk. But I am always active. I am now at around 198 lbs. I had two csections and my tummy is now officially shot. I have that disgusting apron. Not only that but I also have some thunder thighs, with some cellulite, terrible love handles the huge back rolls and my arms yack nasty. I don't wear shorts I do t show my arms. I just really don't enjoy life like this. I have been non stop on this site and YouTube just reading up on tummy tucks. I am just so terrified about the pain. My first csection was so so. It was. It was very painful but not as terrible as the second one. I stayed at the hospital for 5 days each time. And if I could have stayed longer I would have. I would pop them pain meds like no other. I have no tolerance for pain at all. I am just a huge cry baby.
3 days ago I had an appointment with a plastic surgeon. Regarding my stomach thighs arms back and eyelids. (On top of all the things I would want to change on my body I have really bad eyelids too.) I was hoping to hear from him that I wouldn't need a tt that a lipo would do, or if a tt was needed that no muscles would be touched. Well he immediately pointed out the tummy and said he could fix that with a tt but muscle repair is needed. He was very honest. I went to see Dr. Song in Duluth Georgia. We spoke about lipo around my inner, putter thighs my love handles and as much as he could get out of the back rolls without having to flip me over. He also advised me that I just have to have an realistic idea and I wouldn't walk out of his office with size 2 legs. He was very professional and made sure we were on the same page. My eyelids he doesn't want to touch, I asked him twice and he said he wouldn't do it that I am too young. He quoted me $6328 he went down 15% on his charge due to my mother also getting a bunch of work and we were referred by a friend. I set a date that day but once I came back home and really started to think about it I started to hesitate. I need to see another ps or 2 or 3. I don't want to just go with the first one. Also what bothers me is that there is no hospital stay involved. I wanted to be flipped over so that he can get more fat out of the back rolls and maybe do a bbl but he doesn't want to do that at once. I just can't afford to have it all done separately. I have a very demanding 7 month old baby and my mother is really the only that would watch her but she works and she is already taking half of her vacation for her stuff. Also I don't want to be put to sleep again etc etc etc. I don't know maybe I am being just to demanding and I need to come back down a bit lol. At this point I just want everything under the sun done. I am still not a 100% sure if I could mentally and pain wise really handle the tt. Or am I just being a baby? Everytime I pull y shirt up and she that belly I am like oh yeah I need it done ASAP. But than I sit down and watch ppl talk about this on YouTube and the pain and than I am scared again. I also hate the way the belly button looks afterward. I am afraid of having a nasty scar. Even though my csection scar is very nice. Very flat thin just very well healed. I have also been looking at doctors in Dominican Republic since the prices here in Georgia are just very high for all what I want done. I am no stranger to DR. My husband is from santo Domingo and I lived there off and on over the years. But again he would watch my kids if I would to fly over there......aaaaa just frustrating....any advice? Any guidance? Any suggestions? Know of a relative "cheaper" ps here in the atl. I heard a lot about dr.j but his prices are to high for me and his work is not as impressive. I would appreciate any type of help or advice.