This is going to be my one and only update on my family and close friend's opinion...because at the end of the day as much as I appreciate them, it doesn't matter what they say. I'm not living for them, this is my decision..my body. I wish I could say everyone approves it, but they don't .. however they ACCEPT that I'm serious in this decision..and I love and respect that.
My mom -
My momma deserves a whole post for everything she put me through up until this point.. Long story short, She made me cry for a week straight because she didn't want me to go through with it. She told me I was being superficial and vain. My mother is curvy, BEAUTIFUL and has confidence even after having 6 kids..when she was my age used to model and wear bikini's left and right..She doesn't wear makeup and doesn't wear extensions, she is a natural babe. However I do love cosmetics, and she doesn't like that I'm the complete opposite (makeup, weave, surgery, etc.) MY siblings think she was acting up because she didn't want me to die on the surgery table (God Forbid) however, I let her know.. I can die crossing the street.. ya know? I am tired of living under her.. she makes me feel bad for wearing things and looking a certain way.. she doesn't understand it isn't easy for me to have two good looking parents and be the "fat ugly child". I have been working on loving myself and I finally do. This surgery is a gift to myself, and I deserve to look great..not just feel great about myself.
Despite the rough beginning, a few days ago she did agree to pay for my new jeans/pants/bottoms (which will help as I go back to school in September). Also, she told me to look into my insurance and see if they can help provide me with anything... massages, discounts etc. I know some people said they got a reduced price for massages because of their insurance, so that's something to look into. She cares lol she's just being a tough cookie about her first born "rebellious" daughter . She goes " I don't approve, but I accept your decision..love you and I will pray for the best"
My awesome father last night agreed to take me to surgery!! :) oh happy day!!! so I have transportation there and someone to bring me back :)
he was more concerned about the price (he has dated women with fake breast before, so cosmetic surgery is nothing new..) so I said I paid 5,000 (LOL hey! I did not lie to my dad, I technically did pay 5000 so far) and he said if its what I want, he supports me. BTW, my parents aren't together.. And to think I expected my father to be the hardest person to tell.. he was so calm and cool about it.
my older brother- he is a dee , eye , see , kay . spell it out. Told my "fat ass to just work out and do squats". As if it's that easy..once again, its more then just a bigger butt.. its a fresh canvas, a new start..a sexy back with no rolls...and even when I was skinny, rolls were still there so he can kiss my flat soon to be fat ass. Can't stand that arrogant assh*ole, his girlfriend is supportive of me and hinted she wants it too.. Lol she is willing to help me during the recovery as well.. I appreciate her so much, even though her boyfriend is ridiculous.
my other siblings- they are my minions during recovery, my baby sister who is 10 knows about my surgery(I'm very honest with her), she will be getting 10 bucks (a million dollars) to help me out with the little things.. my other sisters are 16 and 18 so they can really help me out with my sponge baths, etc. I will pay them because I fear that during recovery the b*tchy side of me will come out and for them to deal with it...they deserve a million dollars.. I'm blessed to have them, lol even though its bribery with money (its still cheaper then a nurse and recovery house)
my best friend J.D. - she admitted she was going to have a nose job a few years back and she is currently saving up for one .. I was shocked, because I don't know anyone personally who has had cosmetic/plastic surgery and she's so close to me.. so she supports me, loves me, and offered to take me there and back even before my dad knew I was having the surgery. thats truly a best friend. i HOPE either her or my one of my sisters come with me to the surgery, along with my dad.
My guy best friend M.D.- he was concerned about the health risk , infections and etc...but he supports me and offered to come down from NJ to NY to help me recover.
My boss - she said she would have done lipo in a heart beat if she wasn't scared of needles lol so she supports, and approves and even helped me talk to my mother about it.
everyone else I've told- pretty much concerned with me getting addicted to surgery, and just my attitude afterwards (conceited, stuck up, etc.) so I let them know, I may come out worse then going in..you never know so I will remain humble and grounded. They are happy for me and excited, and praying for me.
it's been rough with some of the concerns but thankfully they haven't been negative...the concerns come from a good place, and from people who care. I have to mentally prepare myself for the haters..because I know they're coming..
Sometimes i wish I didn't tell so many people before I knew it was set in stone (most of my friends laughed it off thinking I was kidding), but hey! I can't take it back...and hopefully no one has enough balls to ask me in public "HEY! Did you get ass shots or something?" lol