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Had Tuck and Some Lipo May 16th and Still Blue - New York
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I want to know if anyone else had the experience I...
dsc1June 3, 2011
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I want to know if anyone else had the experience I had. I have been so blue since I had my surgery and still have not snapped out of it. I don't feel comfortablle in my own skin or in my body and everything is still so sore. It's hard for me to be a good wife or mother because I just feel down.
I think surgeon did good job and things looking pretty good, but I wasn't prepared for the soreness, the scars, the hormonal feelings.... Also, I struggled for a while to make the decision and to decide which doctor to go with. There seem to be so many techniques and my doctor chose to float my belly button to fix my muscles all the way up and then said he reattached the stalk so it wasn't really moved lower.
I feel like I am the only person who has had this technique and everything just looks odd right now. Also the cutting the cord thing has really bothered me for some reason even though he said he did reattach it. Has anyone out there had any similar experiences or know anything about this. I am working hard every day to get better - wow it's hard!!
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Today is 6/4 and my surgery was 5/16 and i am...
dsc1June 4, 2011
today is 6/4 and my surgery was 5/16 and i am still struggling - i just think i made the wrong choice for me - i looked really good before and was a size 0 and all i had was a tiny pooch and umbilical hernia. i kept listening to people that i was so tiny and should get my belly button and hernia fixed. I thought about the surgery for 3 years before doing it because i was so not sure! again i tell people to really be sure because if you are on the fence you will not be happy at all! it does not make your life better in any way unless you are truly ready for it. i may feel different in a few months because for sure my pooch is gone and my hanging out belly bgutton is gone, but too in and of that itself makes me feel very vain and my children were so worth the pooch. Love yourself inside for who you are and accept yourself fully first and then if you still want the operation go for it then.
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June 4, 2011
I had my mm on may 12th. Yesterday was the first day I can honestly say that I was truly happy I got this done. I was a size 4 before surgery even with my extra skin. So, for me the swelling is the most depressing part. Not being able to fit in my clothes is hard to swallow, even if I have a flat stomach. The swelling is getting better because yesterday I was able to fit in some of my jeans. I looked in the mirror and thought I looked "hot". Up until that point I too was wondering what have I done. Just be patient with yourselves ladies. Your bodies will look better then ever, just give it some time. We all heal at a different rate. Give it a solid six months and then decide how you feel about it. In the mean time celebrate minor hurdles. Keep your heads up! Good luck!!!
June 6, 2011
thanks for the advice - i think time is what it needs and i was trying to rush to get it done before the summer rather than making sure i was truly ready and ready to trust the doctor. I am so used to doing things MY way and trusting my own instincts so to just hand my body over and let the doc decide how to do things was a challenge for me - letting go of control. He also was not the best at explaining things. Sounds like there are only really 2 ways to do a full tummy tuck - cut belly button outside and move the skin or cut stalk underneath and keep old belly button - that is what I had a freaked me out, but seems only those two ways as endoscopy not common. does anyone know how theirs was done? does anyone care or did you question your doc first?
June 15, 2011
u should be happy u didn't get emaciated like I did! wow was not prepared to lose 10 pounds in one week - my face is guant - not sure what he took off of me because cannot gain it back and am eating so much tummy pulling
anyway sorry for negativity, but i've hated this whole thing and would have welcomed a 4th c-section and a new baby instead of this! hope one day too I feel sexy and normal again because right now alien city
anyway sorry for negativity, but i've hated this whole thing and would have welcomed a 4th c-section and a new baby instead of this! hope one day too I feel sexy and normal again because right now alien city
June 7, 2011
hello kelly thanx for the comment i think us as mothers we have that guilty feeeling whenever we do somethng big for ourselfs and take from there time i thing thats why im trying my hardest into doin for my family becuz i just cant sit and around and do nothing but i feel alot better in my clothes i really could stand my fat bulging out when i was even just standing lol but everyones different wit there emotions im sorry that your having a hard time honey i hope it does get better for you soon i heard that some women do go through a period of depression so i hope and pray that u will come out of it soon
much love and huggss ;)
much love and huggss ;)
June 15, 2011
thank you precious and i am happy to hear you are doing well! i didn't love bulge either, but i've forgotten that! it's been tough emotionally and I am working hard on it and hopeful it will pass soon - i have beautiful little girls who need me!
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Had to go on meds t try to deal with the aftermath...
dsc1June 12, 2011
had to go on meds t try to deal with the aftermath of all of this and I have good results! I;m really skinny though and had no room to lose any weight - I had no excess so my face is gaunt and it is hard to eat! my scar is long, my tummy is swollen, i don't feel attractive or sexual and then I am depressed. before surgery I was felling sexy and happy and all was well - ready for my great summer and now I am in the dumps and it cost me 20k! This is outrageous! Doc lipoed some areas to give "balance and I went from 100 pounds to 91 pounds within a few days" just ridiculous what I did to myself and I regret it very much, feel like an alien and afraid I won't get my life back - scary stuff - I feel for anyone else who has suffered through these feelings, but would love to hear your stories and of salvation - how you got through it thanks
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June 19, 2011
Hey kelly....you should post some pics for us nosey tuckers..
June 20, 2011
can u believe i do not have any?! i wish i had taken some before and afters but I can't bring myself to take any yet!
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July 2, 2011
thank you for your kind words - it has been over a month and I am still blue and i just wish it would go away - i have 3 beautiful children to take care of and i feel sad everyday. i thought i would be better by now. think part of me wanted another baby too so feel sad that my body is back like before kids. i hope these feelings go away soon because right now i just regret it.
July 5, 2011
Hey KC1,
You know I have heard that the blues are really normal after a TT. I have dealt with major depression in my life before my TT and I was concerned about this. I have had those same feelings a bit since the TT of oh my goodness but have I dont. Should I have done this, I'm nuts...lol. I can understand if you were thinking of another child. That is hard. I'll be praying for ya and dont be afriad to talk to you doc if you continue to feel really down. Hang in there, it'll get better!!
You know I have heard that the blues are really normal after a TT. I have dealt with major depression in my life before my TT and I was concerned about this. I have had those same feelings a bit since the TT of oh my goodness but have I dont. Should I have done this, I'm nuts...lol. I can understand if you were thinking of another child. That is hard. I'll be praying for ya and dont be afriad to talk to you doc if you continue to feel really down. Hang in there, it'll get better!!
July 5, 2011
how long ago did you have yours? mine only over a month and I just hate everything about it right now - hate how it looks, miss my old body which wasn't even bad etc - i really should have waited so I hope the blues go and I will be satisfied at some point
July 5, 2011
It will be 3 weeks tomorrow. I am still very swollen and bruised. I have heard that it's normal to feel the way you do and it really should pass. I do understand the mourning of not having more kids though. I had to have a hysterectomy at age 29 after having 2 sons. I was pretty young to have one at the time. I'm 36 now. I had too much damage done from my 10 pounder that they had to remove my uterus. I went through that same feeling. Talking to the doc if you feel too down is never a bad idea. I had to do that after my hysterectomy and thats a-ok to do. I really do hope ya feel better soon KC1. Thinking about ya...:-)
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I know for me I am mentally run down from worrying about infections, and a variety of complications that can happen after a major surgery. I also anxious to get back to my life! Be able to move the way I used to. I am sore still also.
i am still struggling
this was such a mistake for me
i lost 10 pounds and am struggling to stay even at 92 right now
oddly it looks good - i just wasn't ready for all these emotions and been hard on my kids i think which bothers me the most
How are you physically feeling? If you are still not feeling very good physically then it will effect you emotionally.
You did what you did and you thought it was for the best. You are going to have to remind yourself that this is just a tiny moment in your life and before you know it you will be back to normal.