POSTED UNDER Breast Reduction Reviews
45 Scheduled but Haven't Told Hubby Yet!! Help with Convincing.. - Nebraska, NE
UPDATED FROM MayMobley
2 days pre
Chickened out, canceled and now regret it.
MayMobleyNovember 2, 2016
$4,900
I was scheduled for Nov 4. Had pre-op, spent an hour with PS, got scripts. At the end he decided I would need a blood thinner since I have an IUD. I said that was a deal breaker. Now based on my research and discussion with OB, the Mirena does not increase risk of DVT/PE. So, now I am hoping to get a cancellation spot in next couple of weeks. But, being on a wait list and getting a call will not give me much planning time. We shall see. Still so scared. But I could have been done in 3 days! I even gave in and decided to search for the worlds best bra instead. 20 bras later, lots of orders and trips to UPS to return. Epic fail. At least I found a nice shoulder/neck heating pad. ????
ORIGINAL POST
I can't believe I just scheduled my BR. But slots...
MayMobleyAugust 4, 2016
I can't believe I just scheduled my BR. But slots fill up fast and I have an odd work schedule. I took a date in early Nov. I wanted later but they are already filled. I have only mentioned my research to the hubster once, 3 months ago and he seemed shocked and looked at me like I was crazy/stupid. Of course he loves the sag bags. I have told him over the years how I hate big boobs but have never actually complained about my back and neck. Plus I just hate how they look. I
have spent last 3 months in deep research. I also have Rheumatoid Arthritis. Take Methotrexate and Enbrel but I am in full remission. So I have had to do extra research and work with Rheumy. I am 5'7, 148 lbs. 34/36 dd/ddd sometimes G at Sonoma. I am smooshy and long. Righty considerably longer than lefty. I am afraid hubby will be unsupportive. Insurance has approved and even if not, I will pay myself. But I need him to drive and possibly transport kids to sports practice and just generally taking care of me for a few days. Any suggestions on what/how to tell him. Convince him it is not purely vain? Of course I do want to look younger and skinnier. But that is just another benefit. Then of course there are the risks. My biggest concern is losing a nipple or having them deformed and then he finds them ugly. For me, I have always hated them so just doesn't seem like I care about scars. Any help with how you told your men would be great. Thanks!!
have spent last 3 months in deep research. I also have Rheumatoid Arthritis. Take Methotrexate and Enbrel but I am in full remission. So I have had to do extra research and work with Rheumy. I am 5'7, 148 lbs. 34/36 dd/ddd sometimes G at Sonoma. I am smooshy and long. Righty considerably longer than lefty. I am afraid hubby will be unsupportive. Insurance has approved and even if not, I will pay myself. But I need him to drive and possibly transport kids to sports practice and just generally taking care of me for a few days. Any suggestions on what/how to tell him. Convince him it is not purely vain? Of course I do want to look younger and skinnier. But that is just another benefit. Then of course there are the risks. My biggest concern is losing a nipple or having them deformed and then he finds them ugly. For me, I have always hated them so just doesn't seem like I care about scars. Any help with how you told your men would be great. Thanks!!
Replies (3)
August 8, 2016
Thank you for joining us in the community. Telling the hubby can be a bit of a challenge, I get that! Just sit down with him and explain how much you hurt, and how terrible you feel about the appearance. Very nicely explain that this is about you and not anyone else. I remember getting that look like I had 3 heads and 4 eyes, LOL. I simply said that this was something I needed to do for myself and that I really needed his support and help during recovery.
Seriously though they come around when they see how blissfully happy you are after surgery. Educate yourself, plan fr recovery and keep the positive thoughts coming. It's one of the best things I have ever done for myself. That feeling of sitting without a bra on, and nothing hanging in my lap is over the moon wonderful. My scars healed beautifully and I could not be any happier.
Go ahead and take a look in my Notebooks and you will see my lists and guides from my own experience.
August 31, 2016
I have long spoken with my husband about my body discomfort physically and mentally. As I age, it has become more apparent the disfigurement having large breast is causing me. I have more prominent kyphosis than I did when I was younger. I am continually seeking out massage appointments, taking ibuprofen and asking him to massage my shoulders. The grooves are unsightly and if I wear a tank top, the straps settle into them.
Though my husband supports my decision, he dislikes the amount of surgery required. He loves my body the way and weight it is. Gotta love a man that loves squish, amen. It is not vanity to want to be comfortable in ones own body. In fact, I get emotional explaining what it is like to be me with my chest size.
The deformity or unsightly part does not apply here as I don't let the ladies free....ever. These bulging beauties are kept harnessed at all times to try and limit the amount of strain on my back and neck.
Though my husband supports my decision, he dislikes the amount of surgery required. He loves my body the way and weight it is. Gotta love a man that loves squish, amen. It is not vanity to want to be comfortable in ones own body. In fact, I get emotional explaining what it is like to be me with my chest size.
The deformity or unsightly part does not apply here as I don't let the ladies free....ever. These bulging beauties are kept harnessed at all times to try and limit the amount of strain on my back and neck.
September 20, 2016
Congrats on getting approved for your surgery! Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I have known for years that a reduction was in my future. Due to an ankle injury last year, 2 surgeries and lots of physical therapy, I knew if I was going to have a chance at affording a reduction, it would be this year, since I was already into my insurance deductible. I brought it up to my husband at the beginning of the year and of course he wasn't thrilled because he loved the girls too, but he knew I needed it done. So, like you, I started my research, made 5 consults and picked my surgeon. After some hiccups, I was approved and I had my surgery August 8th. The first week is the hardest and if you can have someone stay with you, I totally recommend that. So, if that will be your husband, you might want to have the conversation soon, especially if he needs to request time off. You will not be able to drive, well you could, but I would hold off for the first week for sure. I didn't drive for the first time until almost 3 weeks post-op and that was only to an appointment. Some ladies will say they are driving within a few days, but it's not you that you need to worry about, it's the other drivers. You do not want to go through this surgery and then end up in an accident and the air bag goes off and, well I'm sure you can picture what your new girls would look like. Why risk that, if you don't need too? So, yes, you will definitely need your husband to take the kids to practice. As far as my hubby went, he came around and actually is getting more and more comfortable everyday with the new girls. He knows I'm happier, so that in return, should make him happy to see me happy and that should go for any husband! I think it really set in for him when I put one of my old bras on over my new girls and what a difference there was! He had the biggest frown! But just yesterday out of no where, he came up and started to squeeze them together and he'll massage them too. Lol They are smaller, but they are up and perky, so they come around. Most men look at us like we're crazy, but they don't understand what it's like and never will. Not sure if this will help, but depending on how hard it is to find a bra, I was a 30GG, once reduced, you can get a bra anywhere! My bras for the last 15+ years have been $60-80+ and I bought a 5-pack of sports bras for $35 for my reduction. $7 per bra! The bathing suit options will be endless, the new clothes you can wear! You will be so much happier and lighter, so I would hope that would make your husband happier too! I don't know how you start the conversation, but you really need to do it soon. Maybe over a nice dinner and a glass of wine! Lol I wish you the best and would love to hear how it goes!
Replies (1)