POSTED UNDER Breast Implant Removal Reviews
60 Years Old, Silicone Over, None, Saline Under, Silicone Under, Ready for Nothing
UPDATED FROM jboobies
26 days post
Follow up appointment
$2,000
Had my follow up appointment yesterday and according to the doc, all is good. Well, at one point during the visit, she offered a box of tissues because it was a bit emotional, but basically all is good. I can resume exercise, lifting, etc. no underwire bras and try to not sleep on my stomach yet (argh), but otherwise I can do all that I feel like doing. I guess at this point I would say my only major concern is my sexual relationship with my husband. And we are at a point in our lives where that has changed anyway, but it is more than that. He is in pretty good shape and has always been very sexual. We had a period of separation and are back together now and I believe for the long haul. He says so and seems committed. So, I've been trying to be confident and comfortable in my newly deflated but real self. Well, we have had sex twice now, the second time, yesterday, was during the day and he lost his erection, I can't help but believe it is my fault. He could see me, and it ain't pretty dear friends, not at all. And a big part of attraction is visual, right?? Isn't that why we are all in this situation?? Of course, this is not helping things at all. I've not talked to him about it, but will ultimately do so. If we can't talk about things, what is there? Anyway, another road to cross, another break in my self esteem, and I'm fighting it all the way. Alternatively. I got up this morning and suggested a hike down the hill and back and put on a cami/I don't know what to call it/let myself be me for the hike and didn't care. It is one of the tops I used to wear when I had implants with a liner type shelf bra with no padding or support and I just didn't care! I wore it with my head held high and good posture!! So, onward through the fog... Peace and love.
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D
August 14, 2016
My heart breaks for you jb. My story is similar to yours...I'm 55 soon to explant due to so many complications, right at the time my husband and I are talking of separating. We have had intimacy problems for a while due to conflict and emotional distance. I fear this will only make things worse. I know that I have to be ready for totally flat, as I was flat before. Always hated my body because of it. It's so difficult because the reason we got implants in the first place was because we were sensitive about our appearance. I'm sorry how painful it must be to feel your husband does not find you attractive now. I worry about that so much myself. But I think your husband's reaction it is probably just that you are different, not less, and he will need to get used to that. Also, I think if he is nervous that you are worried about what he thinks, it might psyche him out. Men's erections are so dominated by their state of mind, more than how we look. And sex is about much more than breasts. I think we worry about them way more than men do. Most of the time I think men are turned on by how attracted we are to THEM not the other way around.
In one post on here a woman talked about joking around with her husband about her "itty bitties". I thought, wow humor, I never thought of that. I am telling myself to try to keep it light, to feel that it is not tragic, just one of life's bumps in the road (or lack of bumps, ha ha!)
I hope you can talk to him and that he will reassure you because you deserve love and compassion. If he is truly committed he will be happy that you are healthy and will love you just as you are, you deserve nothing less. Marriage is about loving each for the long haul, come what may. I do know that if my husband thinks less of me or is not attracted to me with implants out, he is not someone I can rely on. We never know what can happen. I know that if his body was altered by injury or sickness I would still be attracted to him. I would not think less of him or love him less. I deserve the same and if I do not get it I will not stay with him. Like you, I will hold my head high and give that sad, insecure young woman I was at 26 a big hug and tell her how special and beautiful she is and move forward.
Big hugs to you and stay strong! XOXO
In one post on here a woman talked about joking around with her husband about her "itty bitties". I thought, wow humor, I never thought of that. I am telling myself to try to keep it light, to feel that it is not tragic, just one of life's bumps in the road (or lack of bumps, ha ha!)
I hope you can talk to him and that he will reassure you because you deserve love and compassion. If he is truly committed he will be happy that you are healthy and will love you just as you are, you deserve nothing less. Marriage is about loving each for the long haul, come what may. I do know that if my husband thinks less of me or is not attracted to me with implants out, he is not someone I can rely on. We never know what can happen. I know that if his body was altered by injury or sickness I would still be attracted to him. I would not think less of him or love him less. I deserve the same and if I do not get it I will not stay with him. Like you, I will hold my head high and give that sad, insecure young woman I was at 26 a big hug and tell her how special and beautiful she is and move forward.
Big hugs to you and stay strong! XOXO
J
August 15, 2016
Awwww, thank you for such wise and kind words. We do have similar stories and now we have to love ourselves for who we are. My husband is being very sweet and supportive and has said he loves me regardless. I just think sometimes things happen beyond our control (the erection thing) and I attributed it to my physical condition because of course, it is my fault, right? I know it isn't, but this was my fear manifesting itself. Anyway, let's get through this and on to being happy and healthy and enjoying this life here and now. I hope, if you truly want it, you can work things out with your husband. If not, I hope you can look inside yourself and find true happiness within. I'm going to send a PM. Love and hugs
4F
August 14, 2016
Aw luvy glad healings going well but sorry to hear of the erectile disfunction... It's normal for men to go through changes themselves and it may not have been your change, yes DEFINATELY talk about it... [RS bleep] You are beautiful and if you'd had a mascectomy from Cancer or something you'd still have the right to be seen as beautiful and attractive! It's his loss and lack if he can't see past your boobs!... Seriously, there is too much emphasis put on the physical appearance for women, not enough dwelling on the heart of a woman, appreciation... So I look forward to your next post and am here if you want to chat, but yes, try he chat with him first and I hope it goes well... Xxxx love and hugs sweetness! [RS bleep]
J
August 15, 2016
Thank you 40 and free... He is being very kind and loving and I couldn't ask more. It is difficult for him too and I just worry that it was seeing me, I don't really know. Maybe not, but that was the new element that may have been the cause. I think for now we should stick to nighttime LOL. and in some ways this may be me projecting my insecurity onto him. My real fear about this was how I would feel sexually, or if I would feel inadequate. Anyway, working on healing every day and hopeful. Thanks again for your support xxxooo
P
August 15, 2016
Hi Jwoobie! I am soo sorry that happened and now you are wondering why it did, which really could be for any number of reasons. I guess the best thing to do it to discuss it, but try not to make a big deal about it. That is always a fragile issue with men. It seems that this journey has a lot of winding roads and uphill mountains we have to climb. I am glad you went on that hike and went proudly au naturel! I have days where I feel strong and confident flat and then days that I just don't. It's tough but we just got to deal with it and in time hopefully things just work themselves out. Keep your chin up and held high. True beauty comes when we feel good about ourselves. I am working on that one myself ;) ((hugs))
J
August 15, 2016
Thank you PSwolfie, it is a journey and there will be more hurdles. I am trying to stay positive and remind myself of what I do have. My husband is sweet and loving, it is my assessments that are hard. But I also know that the visual, mental sometimes results in physical. Anyway, working on it! Xxooo
P
August 15, 2016
Plus you don't even know why it happened yet. We are quick to blame ourselves. My husband has been very supportive and loving and doesn't want me to do anything more (fat transfer) but he can't be thinking they look good either. Hopefully we are married to really good men ( I think we are) and we will just got past this hurdle or adjustment. We are our toughest critic.
J
August 15, 2016
Agreed! I think it will be ok, and I also think it could have been something other than looking at me! But, in the moment, that was my first thought, blaming myself, even though we didn't talk about it at the time. My husband is being very supportive. I haven't mentioned the fat transfer, but I know if he thought it would be hard or painful, he would not want me to do it. On the other hand, if I really want it, he will go along with it and support my decision. I would like for us both ultimately to be happy with what we have. [RS bleep]
B
August 15, 2016
Hi jboobies. Personally I would ditch the support bra and just wear it when you feel the need to. Give them a bit of freedom and fresh air! Wear a tight top/t-shirt in the day and support at night for a day or two. The guidelines are fine but just go with what you think. Any oil or cream on the scars and massaging is fine. I sometimes think we overthink things and want to do the right thing but our bodies heal incredibly well. Best wishes X
J
August 15, 2016
Done! I had two of them and think they both can be done away with! It is so confusing and they tell you different things. I found a note today where I wrote no lifting over 10 lbs for 6 weeks but at my appointment on Friday she said no restrictions, go with what feels comfortable! So, I have stopped with the tight compression sports bra and am going bra less quite a bit, fresh air! And started massage on the scars (she said 3x day and pretty hard for 5 minutes each) and it was up to me if I want to use any scar cream, they probably don't work, so I am using coconut oil. Thanks!!
B
March 27, 2018
I was exactly in your shoes 5 months I explanted. I am 1 week post breast fat transfer with Dr. Bednar. I was reading all the reviews and comments from his patients in hopes of finding those who had the best results learning about what they did or did not do. I wanted to open up about my journey as it is similar to yours. I will be posting before pictures, I was disfigured after my explant procedure and I was very unhappy. I never took my shirt off in front of my husband after the explant. I hope to get my pictures out both end of the week.
UPDATED FROM jboobies
7 days post
One week post
This afternoon marks one week since my explant. I am still really suffering with the allergic reaction to the tape but everything else seems ok. Of course. I'm tired of sleeping on my back and tired of the tight sports bra... Haven't taken any additional photos because of the terrible rash all along the scars and up the outsides of my breasts, it looks just awful and still itches quite a bit but is definitely better. This is day 4 of the prednisone. Once I finish the dose pack, if the redness and raised rash isn't significantly better, I will contact the doctors office and see what they think. I have started some online bra shopping and wonder if anyone really flat chested has found a padded bra with no under wires that they really like. I'm all about comfort and would like to have a little bit of shape... Anyway, thoughts going out to all you ladies going through this process and especially to you who are considering making the decision. Stay strong [RS bleep]
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G
July 26, 2016
I just read your posts. They are so heartfelt! Stay strong and brave! Your story is such an inspiration. You are such a beautiful person and will get through this process, and at the end, be happier and healthier than ever before!
Warm regards!
Warm regards!
J
July 27, 2016
Ohhhh, thanks so much! It is definitely a journey and so many women are in the same boat with self esteem and image. Everyone here on the reviews has a very personal and heartfelt story. Thanks for sharing you yours and offering support!
M
July 27, 2016
I order bras for my daughter from this site. https://www.lulalu.com/products/dahlia-microfiber-wireless-bra They have wireless and other types of bras for really petite breasts. It was a challenge to find bras for her because she had delayed adolescence and there was nothing for a bra to hold onto. All the regular padded bras would gape or try to push up when there was nothing to push up. These bras gave her the padding and the fit she needed.
J
C
July 28, 2016
I really loved the tiger self portrait from your earlier post. I searched the image online and saved it to my photo roll on my phone to look at when I need to.
I explant in less than two weeks and I just want to thank you and all of the women here who have shared their stories. Xoxo
I explant in less than two weeks and I just want to thank you and all of the women here who have shared their stories. Xoxo
J
July 28, 2016
Good luck on your explant! I feel that everyone on here is a wonderful source of inspiration and courage. Take good care of yourself and keep us posted on your journey!
Y
July 29, 2016
Hi jwboobies,
Just read your review and as I'm sitting here in my hospital bed recovering from explant this morning- how I empathize with you and just wanted to say you are an inspiration.
I will follow your progress with interest and I wish you all the very best.
From one flattie to another. Lots of love xxxx
J
July 29, 2016
Hi yoyo5'. Congratulations on getting through the first part of the healing process! I see that you have a review and started reading.. Sounds a bit of a similar story. We are all here for each other and together we can ask all the hard questions and even the silly ones. One thing, I've had some skin issues for a long time. I was never sure if it was related to the implants but suspect some correlation. Hopefully with them out, you will find that your rash improves!! Good luck over the next days and keep us posted on your progress. I am sitting here this morning still in some discomfort... Just a bit nagging discomfort which is mostly related to the allergic reaction. That was really awful and I am eager to go back to the doc but not scheduled for another 2 weeks for a follow up. As for being flatties, indeed. You are so petite but I think you will look great once you have healed!! Good thoughts and energy being sent your way as you heal. [RS bleep]
Y
July 29, 2016
Thank you JW ( I'm going to call you JW for short ha ha) oh I'm so sorry you're in discomfort. It must get you down- bless you.
Could you not speak to his secretary and ask if they can bring your appointment forward if you're worried?
I'm due to have Prof F in here soon so will update. Lots of hugs xx
J
July 29, 2016
yes, you can omit the bobbies (literally) from my name LOL! They were supposed to be searching for an earlier appointment, but so far nothing. I know you are curious to find out how the surgery went and get an update on what to expect. By the way, you're said yes are in hospital... Are you expected to stay in hospital for a bit? i Hope you r recovery is swift and remember to look at your new self with love and kindness and gratitude :). I'll be looking for gory update [RS bleep]
J
July 29, 2016
Argh, I'll be looking "for YOUR update", I can't believe it autocorrected with the word gory how awful :/
A
July 30, 2016
Oh no! That autocorrect made me lol, though. I'm sure she understands that it was a mistake. :)
M
July 29, 2016
Thank you for sharing your story-
I'm a few days out from surgery. I have history being allergic to tape- it's a hit or miss reaction for me- I'm more worried about the medications making Sjogerns more unbearable.. A whole body dryness those not experiencing can't understand. I hope after ex plant I get some relieve. Thank you for sharing! I'd rather feel better any day over having any breast.
I'm a few days out from surgery. I have history being allergic to tape- it's a hit or miss reaction for me- I'm more worried about the medications making Sjogerns more unbearable.. A whole body dryness those not experiencing can't understand. I hope after ex plant I get some relieve. Thank you for sharing! I'd rather feel better any day over having any breast.
J
July 29, 2016
Hi MollyToo! So, interesting... I hadn't thought about the body dryness being related. Put that all up to age and hormones (or lack thereof) but now that you say that, it has been years and years that I've had a problem with being dry. I'll look into that a bit more. Can't say I've noticed any immediate change since removal, but it hasn't even been two weeks since the explant. I've started worrying more about the fact that again one was ruptured and wondering if the surgeon got all the silicone out, she said she did, but it was done under local anesthetic. Once she got in and saw the rupture, there was no rethinking the procedure,,, remove the implants, that is it. Anyway, I digress. Let me just throw out an option. Tell the surgeon to put a piece of whatever surgical adhesive tape they use on the inside of your arm a few days prior to surgery. If you're allergic, you will have a reaction in time to change and use something different. Trust me, it is bad enough having the surgery and the stitches and swelling and bruising. An itch me to the bone allergy with whelps and blisters on top of the incisions and all around your breasts is absolute misery. It was additional trauma I did not need. Never again! Anyway, I'll go read your story now, if you've written already, and know that we are all here together, women strong, ready to face yet another hurdle with all our strength and passion! Xxxooo
UPDATED FROM jboobies
6 days post
This is how we should all feel!!
Have you ever watched children and animals and noticed they have no sense of self like we do as adults? I know it is part of the human process to become so self aware but why are we focused on self awareness in our physical outward body when what we really should do is be completely concerned with self awareness of our internal, intellectual, spiritual selves!! Love this little cartoon and think it says a lot! Be proud of who you are!
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P
July 25, 2016
I commend you for your strength and courage. Due to societal and cultural "pressure/expectations," I think many of us take inventory of ourselves and believe we are lacking in some aspect -especially when we feel we do not meet an idealized norm. That can feel very disheartening and depressing. I understand. I too had a similar story of disliking my very small breasts when young (now, 62). I have been explanted with fat transferred- twice! While I am quite happy with my results, I afterwards found myself looking critically at other parts of my body. What could I "improve" next? Yes, of course -an aspect of my face! When will it end? Enough already. I am working on practicing more self-acceptance - that I am "perfect in my imperfections." There is no substitute for having good health and a wonderful spirit. You ARE beautiful, as am I, and everyone else who has ever struggled with these feelings.
Blessings on your journey.
Blessings on your journey.
J
July 27, 2016
Thank you for your perspective and honesty. I think about the fat transfer option, too but truly would love to accept myself as I am. I haven't let my husband see me yet, but he definitely sees how flat chested I am in this sports bra... Anyway. It is all tied up in our sexuality and images of how women are supposed to look and then also nurturing. However, I had no trouble breastfeeding, so I feel it is more about how secure we are in our personal relationships, etc. argh. I am not sure I've seen your review but will go look. I'm always amazed at each persons perspective and personal story and journey. Hugs!
M
July 27, 2016
I love this! I am getting ex-plant surgery too after having implants for 20 years. I made the decision after following the posts of the ladies on here. I hope you are doing well. Our breasts don't define us. And we shouldn't let other people use our breasts to define us. I implanted because of the influence of an emotionally abusive husband. (he was eventually physically abusive.) I looked at my implants as a shield against that kind of abuse. I suspect many of us followed this path because of expectations put on us by others. That husband is long gone and I no longer have time for anyone who cannot look at me with any thing other than kindness and acceptance. We need to do the same for ourselves.
J
July 27, 2016
Wow! Good for you and I'm very happy that you're got your resort out of an abusive relationship!! I hope we will all be great as we continue on this journey of self acceptance, self love. After all, if we don't love ourselves, why should anyone else love us?? When is your surgery? Keep us posted so we can be there to offer support and encouragement. There are definitely ups and downs but the overall emotion is one of acceptance and relief!! Hugs!
M
July 27, 2016
Thanks! I have a consult tomorrow and will get a surgery date then. I already saw him once and he thought I should have pretty good results. But there is no guarantee so in order to go forward I've had to prepare myself if I don't like how it looks. Practice acceptance. I'm so glad you are feeling it. I wish you health and wellness.
J
July 27, 2016
Thank you! I fear it may be easier for me to accept how I look than for others, but it is what it is. Today I was out and about and I had to keep telling myself to stand up straight and not hunch to cover my concave chest! Of course, every woman I see has large breasts and cleavage and all... Oh well!! Good luck tomorrow!!
Please try to Keep open mind through your hurt feelings. Just a thought- men can also loose erections from being upset. Perhaps seeing you having been harmed, is upsetting. Men can't control erections. Their brain does, stress, age , health over worked ect... I'd suggest Communicate outside of the bedroom over tea / coffee. In none sexual area. Is he a kind loving husband? Not to answer to me but for yourself. If not then don't accept ever feeling you are less than the 100% woman you are. Also give him benitfit of doubt as you work it out. Hey it's only my two cents. Big big hugs! Sorry your hurt but proud you went out hiking as the beautiful woman you are.