I wanna be a Suwanee Siren courtesy of Dr Jimerson

Hello lovely ladies of RS. Hope that whatever stage you are in your journey, you are at peace with yourself and that life is going in the direction that you need it to be. I apologize for the lateness of the update. But life has been a little busy at work with mandatory trainings etc. Anyway, what have I gotten myself into of late? Well let me see. Well as I had told you before the love of my life dumped me. Well wouldn't you know, one week later he turns up at my job. Just to take a look at my new body. Its a bit hard to rescue "I hate you" without grovelling and he's not that type of man. But his jaw dropped. I was wearing some close fitting sweat pants. I swear he didn't know what to do with himself. And even though I wanted to say hello, I didnt. He doesnt deserve any type of greetings or salutations. So I found myself thinking what did I do to attract that type of person, someone cruel, abusive and downright arrogant and then have the audacity to call it love. I did some research on the term narcissist.
To be a narcissist is to act selfishly and to have no remorse or moral conscience regarding your behavior. That's a simplistic definition. However the more easier one to remember is that narcissists are takers. I am and probably always be predominantly a giver. That is essentially how my spirit operates. It has always been my downfall in relationships as I will keep giving without expectation of reciprocity. So here's the interesting thing for those of you who are pre op if you are similar in thinking to me. Once you give this to yourself you will find that you have a different mindset about giving to others. Its an epiphany. You realize that the best thing you could possibly do for yourself is to give to yourself. It starts with making your bed in the morning (yes very basic-but it fulfils the criteria of making your environment comfortable). It also means that the needs of a partner are secondary and not primary to your needs. In other words you come first. It was a big shift in thinking for me. I was like whoa. Am I gonna get hit with a bolt of lightening for this? But I realized that I needed to change. When you constantly give with no returns, or you invest emotionally, sexually or financially in people, be they men or women and they are not truly grateful for what you have done for them; you start to feel resentful. It causes a lot of wear and tear on your spirit and your love of others.
The interesting thing is that when you stop giving, there is major movement amongst the takers. They become belligerent or make up a lot of noise for stuff that they dont deserve and could quite easily get for themselves, but expect you to give them. It changes the whole dynamic between you and them. People are interdependent on each other. That is normal. But when someone becomes dependent upon you for everything and they are not your child, or elderly parent, then you are not only making a cross for yourself to bear, but more importantly you are robbing the taker of a very important growth process. The ability to become responsible and accountable for things that they need in their life. This arrests their development. When I think back to men that I have given to. Initially I thought I was helping but as time went on, it was not seen by the taker as a random favor, it was seen as a necessity and all the things that I wanted or needed became lost. Ladies if researched appropriately and your surgeon knows his craft, then this will be one of the most life-affirming things that you can do for yourself. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty or uncomfortable for giving to yourself. Life is a divine experience and anything that you can do to make yourself beautiful for life is OK. Give to yourself and surround yourself with giving people. The more you give to yourself, the more positive your life becomes.
The takers realizing that they have to take care of their own issues either move on to the next giver or they start to stand up for themselves. Initially as people start to fall away from you, it is lonely, but it is also a rebirth as you can finally assume your rightful place in society and be around people that do actually value you. And to make this painfully obvious I invite any of you who do give repeatedly to others without return to STOP giving and see what happens!! I enclosed some two month post operative pictures. I still have a way to go to making my stomach perfectly flat but I am so happy with my new figure. My dimensions are 38-29-39. I still wear a Faja. I love the women at the Pink Room, 249 Broad Street, Elizabeth, NJ. Maria and Marisol are the best. So until the next update I wish you all a Happy Thanksgiving. God bless and stay focused on giving to yourself.

Its wierd. My butt looks so different in all my clothes. I am planning to spend time trying on lots of different outfits. I work in a professional setting, so I can't always look have my ass looking, how shall we say "pronounced." Some things make the buns look huge, others dont. If you look at the two previous pictures posted this week, you would not believe that boosky is hiding in there. But she is. Anyway my RS darlings, have a fabulous weekend.

My booty is not huge but it is rounded and perky. I love the way my clothes fit. Such a difference. I still sitting on my Gia pillow.I have not sat on my boosky. I still sleep on my tummy and I will be wearing my garment for the forseeable future.