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Pretty Nervous - Mississauga, ON

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I don't do well with anesthesia; I tend to throw...

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Katymary
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I don't do well with anesthesia; I tend to throw up a lot, I've had two c sections and my stomach is a road map of scars, separated muscles, flab, and a lovely uneven apron hanging over. My mother in law thinks I am just fat and is horrified that I still look pregnant. Even when I tell her I am only seven pounds over my pre-pregnancy weight (and I am 44 years old) she tells me I look awful.

I need and want this surgery so that I can get strength in my abs to help my back (which has three ruptured discs). I can barely lift my son. I want to see my vagina again!

With my first two kids, even though I had the flap of skin, I was able to tighten my abs and get strong.

Did anyone feel an improvement in their abdominal strength and back pain post abdominoplasty?
I am still breast feeding my seven month old, do I have to quit by September?

I am not looking for a dream body, but a body that doesn't repulse me or disappoint me (strengthwise) would be nice. Since giving birth, I feel like an old, old woman.

I really hope this helps and doesn't create more problems.

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July 17, 2013
First of all...you look great for being 44 years old and having a 7 month old! And I honestly mean that...I know you see room for improvement and only want to be comfortable In your own skin, but you are NOT repulsive in any sense of the word! Secondly...I am sorry you have a mother in law who feels it is appropriate to bully you about how you appear to her, honestly I would only let that go so far because she sounds like a poisonous wretch who will only thrive on negative...of course she only sees the ugly...she seems to be pretty ugly on the inside! I hope the best for you :)
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July 17, 2013
Well said Slvr!! You are beautiful! What a horrible thing to say to any other human being! Even though everyone here wants to change something about themselves on the outside, I think we know more than anyone that true beauty comes from within. And I think that is because we have probably all been teased or been the brunt of a small boob or fat joke or a flat butt comment. I know I have!! But, I don't say mean things about how people look. I don't need to. I already know my inner beauty shines through in everything I do. So does yours!! Never forget that! I'm assuming this procedure is about YOU and what makes you happy. You're already beautiful, you Always HAVE been!!
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July 17, 2013
             make sure you your doing this for you and not for anyone else! 
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July 17, 2013
Thanks everyone...and I see I should have posted under tummy tuck, but I am new to this. I really appreciate your comments. When my husband (second marriage) asked me to have a baby I knew it would chew up my body and he offered the tummy tuck as a 'push gift'. Thank GOD. The damage was worse than I expected and the recovery long and hard. I booked my surgery when my son was three months old and he'll be 9 when I have the surgery. I am doing this for me... my mother in law's comments on my weight are fresh...because she lost her baby weight after two months...blah blah and she never had a c-section and doesn't believe this is anything other than fat from being a lazy ass. Sometimes we women are not as nice to each other as we could be...you ladies are lovely!
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August 16, 2013
Hi Katymary! Thanks so much for sharing your story! I have been browsing this site for a couple of week now and it has helped me a lot in my preparation of my TT. I too have had two c sections and Im 45! My kids are in there late teens and I wish I had not waited so long to get the TT! Guess I wasn't ready for it! Im going for surgery in Barrie, ON on the 27th! Please dont worry about what others think! At the end of the day, you must do what makes you happy, regardless of others! You deserve to look good and FEEL good! c-sections can wreak havoc on one stomach! And it doesn't just stretch the skin, it stretches the muscle too! If certain people wont support you, then its best not to discuss it with them. We dont need people bringing us down! Surround yourself with those that can appreciate what you wish to do for yourself!! Like us ladies on RealSelf! :)
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September 2, 2013
Hi Linda. Your surgery was right before my birthday. How are you doing? I saw your day one photos and they look amazing. I am getting nervous...you must have been nervous too. How's your pain, can you stand up straight. My surgery was moved by the surgeon to September 17th so I have to wait longer, but it means I can breastfeed an extra week and work a little harder at losing some of those prepregnancy pounds.
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September 2, 2013
Hey katymary I'm doing good! Five days post op for me! Cans stand completely straight yet but today was better than yesterday! I was crazy nervous but as soon as the nurse came out to the waiting room to get me she put my mind at ease! All the nurses and doc and anesthesiologist were great and all put my mind at ease! Before you know it, your waking up with a new belly! Just like that! The tummy muscles are tender and sore but I was never in severe agony by any means! I have two 'before pics'that I will post as soon as I can take an 'after' pic! You WILL be just fine!! Today I was up walking around and making some lunch! It's uncomfortable but again I'm not in agony! So glad I went through with it and have no regrets at all!!!
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September 2, 2013
Wow. I'm so glad to hear this. You even looked great in your 1 DPO. You have a drain...how's that been?
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September 2, 2013
I have one drain but can't feel it at all. The garment is so tight that I guess it's got it pretty secure! I have been pretty faithful with the meds and taking them on time to stay on top of the pain (I ain't looking to be a hero)! The recovery period has gone by pretty quick and when I go back to work I will probably go through dr Phil withdraws :)
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2 days pre

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My surgery was supposed to be on Wednesday, but was moved to September 17th. At first I was annoyed because I worked up to this, but now, I am working on losing a few more pounds and breastfeeding a little longer. I am worried about being able to hold (not lift) my 9 month old son. Will I be able to cuddle him? Anyone know?

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September 2, 2013
Good luck! I'm just a few days after you. And good for your mother in law for getting back to perfect so quickly!
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September 19, 2013
R u ready? I had my TT on Tuesday and so I'm interested to know your healing process. Good luck!
September 2, 2013
Glad I'm not alone, my surgery is booked September 16th it's not long now. I just spent the day in hospital with my 5year old having ent surgery, made me realise what's in store for me in 2weeks time! Looking forward with slight apprehension but excitement, good luck we'll be great ★
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September 19, 2013
How did your surgery go? We're just a day apart. Was it a full TT?
September 19, 2013
Hi katymary, I'm going home today Friday, the surgeon removed 1 foot of skin! And repaired a muscle divide of 9cm he also liposuctioned all the area. My pain has been well controlled and he said I'm as flat as a board now! Once the swelling has gone! I can't move very much yet but the abdominal repair was pretty big so I'm being careful not to undo any of the good work. How are u?
September 19, 2013
P.s never said what my weight loss was prior to surgery I had 4 Caesars, my biggest baby was 10lb 4 and I'd lost 30 kgs so I had a fair bit of sag on the belly! Not anymore! I'm just looking ahead now to 6 weeks time when I'll be back in my skinny jeans! :-)
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September 19, 2013
Holy cow that's a big divide! Isn't it amazing? I am sore as I imagine you are too. I think its a good idea to take it slow (not my forte). The doc said some of my abs were severed during my emergency c-section - I didn't know that but it explains a lot. My bandaids are gone and the most weird thing is this - I used to have a small brown birthmark under my belly button...not anymore :)
September 20, 2013
Well I'm home now and feeling stiff and sore but that's okay no pain no gain! I'm very comfortable sat, feel tight when I stand but what do I expect I've had a foot of skin removed. The pain is more focused on my back muscle's so it's not bad and my surgery pain is well controlled I feel like this is all gonna be worth it :-) just hope my 5year old doesn't climb in mummies bed tonight while we sleep!! I've yet to check out which little mark's are no longer there! Take it easy katymary :-)
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Katymary
Hi Everyone.

I like keeping it together, everything except my abdominal muscles I guess! I am very nervous for Tuesday. Mostly I must know - does anyone else have a young baby? My son is 9 months old. When will I be able to hold him (not LIFT) just cuddle? Can I do it with a pillow between us, in bed? Those of you who are in recovery...I need to know this as its giving me so much anxiety. I already quit nursing for the surgery and that was a big sacrifice and I won't be able to lift him for a while, but a coordinator at the clinic said my son couldn't sit in my lap for weeks and that's just not OK.

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