Late 40s with deep laugh lines and small jowls

I am in my late 40s and after several months of research I decided to have a mini lift. I though I had done enough research- I had not. In my opinion you can not trust doctor ratings from a website. I have ugly scars around my ear lobes and webbing behind my ears. The surgeon told me to just put make up on it- I am not a make up artist. I will not wear my hair up in public or around my children and I haven't gone on a date since before the procedure (April 2016). My advice is to ask the surgeon exactly where the incisions will be made and choose someone who is committed to minimal scarring techniques. If I had known that I could look like this afterwards I would never have consented to having it done. I haven't seen any photos online that look like this. My jowls are slightly improved but I see no improvement at all in the laugh line grooves around my mouth. The neck lift was included although it was not an area of concern to me at this time.

I have a consult for a scar revision tomorrow - hoping for good news!