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6 months post op update!

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I am 20, and have a rhinoplasty scheduled in May...

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kelly14
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I am 20, and have a rhinoplasty scheduled in May 2013. I'm a pretty private person, but seeing all of these reviews and people having the same feelings as me has helped me so much! Like most other people on here, I've hated my nose for as long as I can remember. I've been a gymnast and cheerleader most of my life and would bonk my nose all the time... there was never one definite moment where I broke it, but I think over the years I must have done something to it because I haven't always had the bump I have today. From the profile is the worst because of the dreaded hump, and from the front it's just slightly curved.


I've wanted a rhinoplasty for years and years... I would (and am) always be googling information and pictures, and have dreamed of it, but never actually spoke about it to anyone. I never really even told my parents my feelings, because I feel like if I didn't talk about it it wouldn't be that bad. Does anyone know what I mean? I'm also just kind of private in general, so I never really brought it up. Never talking about it is weird too, because it's what i am thinking about so much of the time. Until this site, i thought i was the only one who hated talking to people from the side, or always standing on a certain side on pictures, and immediately deleting pictures of my profile. It's obsessive and awful.
So, what really made me bring it up to my parents was after a year in college just feeling bad and obsessing over my nose. A few of my friends from school want nose jobs too, and none of my friends from home ever spoke about it, so I think that made me more open as well. So i asked my mom and she surprisingly said we could start research. We went to 2 consultations and I have chosen one doctor who is great here in McLean. He's honest and blunt, which I like. I'm going to have it done in May after this next semester is over, and get it done in the beginning of the summer.


So here's the biggest thing, which is another main reason i wanted to use this site. Like I said, I'm private and haven't really discussed that I'm having the rhinoplasty- or even that I hate my nose in the first place- with anyone except for my immediate family and a few friends in college. I have an amazing boyfriend of 2 years and have never even brought it up to him. It seems so weird, but I never discussed that I hated my nose, and then I brought it up to my mom and then all of a sudden we decided on a date for the surgery. I just dont know what to say... it's weird because we have a great honest relationship and he knows everything about me..... except this. And a lot of my friends at home don't know either. Was anyone else in a similar situation?
But I HAVE to do this. I find myself avoiding looking in the mirror sometimes, it's all I think that people are looking at when we're talking, ugh. But it makes me feel a lot better that I'm not the only crazy one with those thoughts :)
So.... here I am, with a date scheduled, I couldnt be more ready, but some of the most important people in my life dont know yet because im too embarrassed or ashamed to say it. who should i tell before and who should i just wait to tell? the more i think about it the more people there are... extended fam, neighbors, etc? crazy to think about.
ill keep you posted and post some pics.

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January 16, 2013

Thanks so much for starting your story on RealSelf! Welcome!

I would tell your boyfriend straight away. The longer you keep it from him the more of a "thing" it will become. I know where of I speak. :)

Good luck and I hope you'll keep us posted throughout your journey.

UPDATED FROM kelly14
18 days pre

I'm adding some photos now! Sorry for the weird...

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kelly14
I'm adding some photos now! Sorry for the weird crop job, I'm still remaining somewhat anonymous :) I'm 3 weeks away from the surgery... does anyone have any prep suggestions? I've gotten mixed feedback on vitamins before surgery... some say take vitamin c, some say don't. not sure what to do?

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May 3, 2013
You sound a lot like me. I was a gymnast too. I didn't talk about my nose to anyone until just last year as I started doing research ( this included my husband who didn't know until I finally decided to just do it). I have been with him about 7 years and married three. Never told him about how I felt about my nose. Now I have surgery coming up in July. July 2nd. Can't wait! I've only told two friends (one who wants her nose done too and one who lives out of state), my parents, husband, in laws and brother and his wife. Only the people I feel really need to know. Nobody else is gonna know until after and that's only if they notice or ask. I'm not volunteering that info to them. Anyway...I think if you and your bf have been together for a long time and are serious then you should most definitely tell him asap. My husband didn't like the idea at all! And it took him months to finally warm up to it. I hope the best for you girl! Good luck and I will be following your journey. Oh and by the way your imaging looks amazing! I hope it comes out like that! Gorgeous!
May 3, 2013
Oh and I have 5 brothers. I only told one because I'm closest to him and he guessed I was getting it done....Apparently I used to complain about my nose to him all the time as kids. But none of my other brothers know...it's weird but I just don't care what they think about it. haha
UPDATED FROM kelly14
15 days pre

So, I have some good news!! I told my boyfriend...

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So, I have some good news!! I told my boyfriend and it was so easy, I don't know why I had been putting that off for so long. He said it looks fine to him, but if I want to do it (which I am :)) then he will support me! Phew! It wasn't even that I didn't want to tell him about the surgery, more that I don't even like talking about my nose in the first place. I am slowly easing him into it so I'll tell him all the details later :). I still have several good friends to tell.. I honestly am more nervous about telling people than I am about the actual surgery!!

There is this awesome free app called "Aesthetica" that you can play around with digital imaging. I've been obsessing over it, so use at your own will :). I don't want to get too set on one image though because I know the computer's results are completely different than real life. But it's nice to know what it looks like without the bump. I'll post some more before and after pics here from the app.

I am starting my 'no alcohol, vitamins, etc' diet soon... it's getting more and more real, and I can't explain how amazing this site has been for me!

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May 5, 2013
Hi hi! So excited for you :) I am 10 days post-op and the whole thing is still quite surreal. I had some similar experience with keeping the decision private... In my case, I waited until I felt I absolutely had to tell certain people, and even then it was only a select few. Some people get it, others just can't understand it at all. I actually am in between jobs right now, so I lucked out with not having to share the news with a boss and co-workers. Most of my family lives out of state. I only told my parents and two best friends after I had already booked the surgery! I didn't tell my roommates until I absolutely had to, days before the surgery. I just didn't know how people would respond. But, having the support from your close friends and family is a really nice feeling. I'm from Michigan, but now I live in LA. I really wanted to avoid people saying "oh, it's living in LA, LA got to her head," when really I've wanted rhinoplasty since I was a little kid. (That was actually the first thing my best friend said, "You need to get out of LA!") I'm really not embarrassed about it. I do feel a little vain at times when I realize I finally feel quite happy with the way I look! Anyway, I would definitely tell your boyfriend sooner rather than later. I was prepared for the worst when I told my mom, and she actually took it quite well. So you never know. Anyway, at the end of the day it is YOUR decision, and it is something will make YOU happier being YOU. Good luck with everything! Also, I would just trust your doc on whatever he says regarding vitamins & supplements pre and post op. I had some arnica montana tablets right after surgery (to help with bruising) but I'm really not sure if they helped the bruising dissipate faster or not. I drink a lot of orange juice as is it, and I started eating pineapple like crazy before and just after the surgery. My doctor recommended pineapple juice after the surgery. So, hey, it can't hurt!
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May 6, 2013
hey! thank you so much! i read your story too and we really do seem similar, im glad im not the only one going through this!! just like you, i have been/still am waiting for the right moment to tell people. ill post an update, but good news-- i recently told my boyfriend, and he was super supportive! he said 'it looks fine to me but if you want to, etc' so that was a relief! that must have made it easier avoiding the whole work thing. im in a similar situation with the work thing, im starting a summer job in june, so it's perfect timing as well. i 100% understand and agree, im doing this for myself, if i lived on an isolated island by myself it would probably still bother me... maybe not as much :) haha. but i want this more than anything!! xoxo i cant wait to see your updates!!