In 2014 I had a Brazilian Butt Lift with Dr. Aslani in Spain.
I have been extremely disappointed with my results and was concerned that my 6-months worth of ‘glass is half full’ ramblings contained within this overly positive journal misrepresented my honest results, and more importantly the skill of my surgeon. I worried that if fellow RealSelf members only read the first 90% of my writings below they would assume I was over the moon with the results (a fallacy I kept repeating to myself) and worse, that it might encourage others to book surgery with this particular clinic. There are reasons why I was overly positive about Dr. Aslani and the Cirumed clinic, some of them innocent and some of them I’m not too proud of, but I will get to that. The understanding team at RealSelf have been kind enough to allow me to replace my original post with this text, in a hope I will better represent my story.
Self-denial is a very powerful tool and for the longest time I convinced myself and anyone who would listen that things were going to ‘drop’, ‘fluff’ or there must still be swelling on my back or my tummy preventing the full results from being seen. I was told I should be patient, I was told by the doctor and clinic staff that my results would continue to change. Even with swelling, the results were mediocre to begin with but I continued to have blind faith in a doctor and clinic who had been so kind to me. As my results looked less and less impressive, my common sense was put to one side and in it’s place, a panicked gratitude. We had built a relationship after all. The day after surgery, the doctor asked me to put a review on RealSelf. He explained to me that many people left his clinic looking ‘a million dollars’ but never followed up with photos or feedback. That although he disliked internet and social media, he begrudgingly accepted
he needed to represent these amazing results more, and could I put something on RealSelf? I said I had planned to, and charmed by his honesty, I was eager to help him. We had built a relationship after all…
Glorious ‘before and after’ pictures on websites and friendly staff can charm you and before you know it, you have paid your deposit for surgery. In my case, being based in the UK and convinced I had found one of the only competent BBL surgeons in Europe, in Spain was what lulled me into a false sense of confidence with this clinic. What I should of relied on was not cleverly lit photos or small-talk with staff, but the hundreds of truthful and honest reviews on RealSelf. If looking at someones results in a good, honest amateur photo impresses you, and they say it’s of them 12 months post-op, call their surgeon now! But if they’re still swollen, or using fancy camera angles, or pushing their behind out to make it look bigger, then move on. What’s worse is, at the time there was very little reviews for Dr. Aslani here. But as they say, ignorance is bliss.
I invested over a year into this journal. Charting my recovery and results with glee. But not being entirely honest with myself, and I’m ashamed to say, with you, the people who would read it. For the first few months I convinced myself that the swelling in my buttocks was fat, it wasn’t. My excitement was misplaced. (If only the fat had been).
After my 5 month update, it FINALLY dawned on me. I wasn’t being truthful and I started to feel more and more uncomfortable with my writings here. Although Dr. Aslani had done a fantastic job with the aggressive lipo to my flanks, and moderate lipo to my stomach, now that the swelling had gone - my buttocks were the exact same size as before. Exactly the same.
But here I was on RealSelf, still trying to stay positive, still feeling indebted to the doctor. And once they had thanked me for my glowing review online, I suddenly felt stuck in a habit of continually praising them in fear of loosing that support. After the 3-month mark, I was offered a most generous invitation for a second round. He told me if I waited 6 months and still wanted “more” he would be happy to operate again. I knew deep down I was unhappy with my results, but did that matter now the doctor was granting me a second chance? He liked me. It was an incredible opportunity. So do I want to jeopardise that relationship with them, the rapport, the support, the second round… All for the sake of some silly online review? So was I dishonest on RealSelf when I knew I was really unhappy with my results? I don’t honestly know how to answer that. I think I was somewhat in denial. I was given legitimate reasons as to why the doctor felt he could
only put a certain amount of fat into my buttocks, tight skin apparently. But over time, more and more Cirumed patients have given their honest reviews on this site and suddenly I realised that it wasn’t just ‘me’ but that perhaps the procedure at this particular clinic, with this particular doctor wasn’t all that good. Unless of course we all have "tight skin". He hadn’t touched my back fat at all the first time. If I had a Round 2 with him, would he waste that remaining virgin back fat too? You can’t keep having BBLs. Fat or thin, you only have so many virgin fat cells.
As the months passed, more Cirumed patients appeared on RealSelf sharing their lack-lustre results. Conservative amounts of fat transferred to the buttocks, wide boxish shape to the hips and generally unimpressive, flaccid results. The only patient who has had good results is someone who has had two rounds, and started off with a large rump, and in fairness still pushes her butt out in the photos to make it look bigger. There was a pattern and I realised that perhaps my glowing review for Dr. Aslani on This site was in some small way helping continue that pattern. I didn’t want to be an advertisement for something I had no faith in. This doctor performs glorified body-sculpting, NOT BBL. I can’t explain the impressive photos on his website, but the photos shared on RealSelf from fellow Cirumed patients speak for themselves – however cruel this might come across – all our results are unimpressive.
So here I am. Trying to explain. The lovely people at the RealSelf office have been kind enough to let me change my first post. But if you continue to read on you will get an insight into how I was lying to myself, and ashamed as I am to admit it, to you all too.
Back in 2013, Cirumed held a party in London to try and drum up trade. Although I was working that night and unable to attend (two jobs for one year to save the money!) they were kind enough to still enter my name into the raffle. And would you believe it? Having never won anything in my life… I was sent an email telling me I had won a few hundred Euros worth of Cirumed vouchers! This meant my procedure was considerably cheaper than it otherwise would have been. Both the Dr, and his wonderful PA Jenny made me feel very special and to top it all off, I was offered the insanely generous offer regarding a Round 2 if I wanted one. My relationship with the clinic from the get-go has felt extremely friendly and I didn’t want to spoil that with a bad review – or come across as ungrateful for the kindness, gifts and support shared with me. So I kept lying to myself when all the while unhappy with my results, hoping they would change. It’s complicated and
doesn’t paint me in a particularly honest light. But this is the truth and I’m not prepared, anymore, to be an advertisement for a clinic that seems to consistently deliver sub-standard results.
I’m nervous they’ll read this. I’m nervous other Cirumed patients will think I am insulting their results. All I ask is… If you are making a decision based on geography, build up the courage to travel where ever the hell the best results you have seen are. The fact someone is close to you shouldn’t even factor in. An 8 hour flight? Alone in a foreign country? Just DO IT. Find the courage and set yourself apart from the disappointed people like me. And if the decision is based on money… the difference of a few thousand, is not much if you are already faced with saving thousands in the first place! Working two jobs and saving up was not easy, and I regret not investing that money with a surgeon with a better visual track record on RealSelf. Photos taken a year after surgery are rare but worth their weight in gold. If you can find someone coherent and who shares honest pictures on RealSelf, that is the only voice you should put your faith into.
RealSelf exists for good reason, use it!
Years ago, I first started reading about ‘micro-fat augmentation’ as BBL was called then, and got excited. When I discovered RealSelf, I saw ‘Brazilian Butt Lift’ photos and was always astounded by amateur photos from Salama and Jimerson patients in particular. Amateur photos that looked even more stunning than what featured on these two doctors’ official sites. I refuse to loose that excitement and promised myself that if I had to work two jobs a day for TWO more years I would do it, to fulfil my big booty dream.
RealSelf is an amazing tool. Not only for research and making friendships. But for transparency.
To the people who have followed my journey, one golden girl in particular. Thank you. I wish you everything your heart desires and that we’ll all continue to be unapologetic about our dreams.
You can follow the next step in my journey here:
This review has been edited at the request of the reviewer 09/16/15