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Ready and Waiting Without the Husbands Support - Leawood, KS
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So I'm a little nervous about writing here. I...
flataskansasAugust 30, 2013
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So I'm a little nervous about writing here. I have been reading everyone's journeys for the past few weeks and have learned a lot. You all are inspiring and supportive, just what I need at this point in my life. So here I go....
I am 33, a mother of two a 6 year old and a 2year old. I have wanted a TT since my first kid wrecked my body. I am finally at a point in my life where I can finacially and time wise make it happen. When I was younger I would have bet money that I would never have plastic surgery, how time changes us. I am 5'2 and weigh 150. After I had my second child I joined weight watchers and lost 45lbs almost getting down to pre-kid weight. I work out with a personal trainer 3 days a week. I run, not as much or as long as I like because of a knee injury several times a week and have started trying to go to spin once or twice a week. I know I need more cardio to lose weight. I also know I will never loose this belly. And while I'm under the knife I'm going to have lip of inner and outer thighs, knees, abdominal flanks, arms and bra fat. Wow sounds like a lot when I type it out.
My surgery is Sept 12th. Just two weeks away! I went for my pre-op this week and am now in the process of trying to finish up household projects, plan for my recovery and cut back on my sodium intake (not going so well). My mom is coming in the day before the surgery to help take care of me and the kids.
My husband is unfortunately completely against the idea. When I first started this process I thought it was kinda sweet. He comes from a place of love, he thinks I'm beautiful as I am and is so worried about the risks and I'm sure the pain I'll be in. It is no longer sweet or endearing and the environment around the house has gotten more hostile the closer it has gotten to the surgery. Luckily I have a great support system otherwise. I have a dear friend and neighbor who just had a tt and then my mom has been there more than I ever expected as I have started down this path. However, not having my partner/best friend to talk to about my hopes and fears has made this more challenging. I know I'm not the first who's husband has been unsportive and I'm hoping to get some guidence on how to deal with it.
I will try to get my before pics up this weekend. I lookforward to sharing my storie and following everyone elses.
I am 33, a mother of two a 6 year old and a 2year old. I have wanted a TT since my first kid wrecked my body. I am finally at a point in my life where I can finacially and time wise make it happen. When I was younger I would have bet money that I would never have plastic surgery, how time changes us. I am 5'2 and weigh 150. After I had my second child I joined weight watchers and lost 45lbs almost getting down to pre-kid weight. I work out with a personal trainer 3 days a week. I run, not as much or as long as I like because of a knee injury several times a week and have started trying to go to spin once or twice a week. I know I need more cardio to lose weight. I also know I will never loose this belly. And while I'm under the knife I'm going to have lip of inner and outer thighs, knees, abdominal flanks, arms and bra fat. Wow sounds like a lot when I type it out.
My surgery is Sept 12th. Just two weeks away! I went for my pre-op this week and am now in the process of trying to finish up household projects, plan for my recovery and cut back on my sodium intake (not going so well). My mom is coming in the day before the surgery to help take care of me and the kids.
My husband is unfortunately completely against the idea. When I first started this process I thought it was kinda sweet. He comes from a place of love, he thinks I'm beautiful as I am and is so worried about the risks and I'm sure the pain I'll be in. It is no longer sweet or endearing and the environment around the house has gotten more hostile the closer it has gotten to the surgery. Luckily I have a great support system otherwise. I have a dear friend and neighbor who just had a tt and then my mom has been there more than I ever expected as I have started down this path. However, not having my partner/best friend to talk to about my hopes and fears has made this more challenging. I know I'm not the first who's husband has been unsportive and I'm hoping to get some guidence on how to deal with it.
I will try to get my before pics up this weekend. I lookforward to sharing my storie and following everyone elses.
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10 days pre
10 Days Stocking up...
flataskansasSeptember 2, 2013
So my friends are making fun of me for being ready for the zombie apocalypse. I picked up my pain meds and antibotics today. I have my miralax, acidophilus, arnica, extra strength tylenol and gauze. Based on a strong recomendation from a friend who had a tt, I have my hospital bed rented and shower seat bought. What am I forgetting? What do you recommend for scar treatment?
So aside from cg that the dr send me home in, I'm going to need something to transition into right?
I am getting sooooo excited. I grab the flab at least once a day now and tell it bye! I'm posting a picture of one of my favorite shirts but that I don't wear because of how it pulls on my fat. I can't wait to wear it once I'm flat. Still haven't done before pics. Probably because I don't want to see what I look like.
So aside from cg that the dr send me home in, I'm going to need something to transition into right?
I am getting sooooo excited. I grab the flab at least once a day now and tell it bye! I'm posting a picture of one of my favorite shirts but that I don't wear because of how it pulls on my fat. I can't wait to wear it once I'm flat. Still haven't done before pics. Probably because I don't want to see what I look like.
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September 2, 2013
Change can scare anyone. Even big strong men!! Just don't forget to include him in the process. Let him know that he is still needed. That is prob his biggest fear. After my Surg, my hubby had some issues, but they worked themselves out. Sexy outfits always help!! Good luck!!
September 3, 2013
I know how you feel! Unfortunately I am a widow so no husband to comment, but my I get that from my 12 year old son! He is of course worried something bad will happen to me, and I understand cause he lost his dad, so he is not supportive! Surprisingly, my mom and friends are, so that is helpful! At the end of the day we have to have faith that aside from recovery, we are in good hands, and in gods hands, and this is for us! So that we can feel better about ourselves! I am also 5'2 150 pounds so we are similar! I can't wait to see your results. Yours is approaching fast and I wish you all the luck! I still have two months to prepare and I hope I am as prepared as you are, only I can not find the energy to go get all that stuff! I assume I'll be sending my mom out everyday for stuff! Haha
September 6, 2013
Some men truly just don't get it, they have not gone through the trauma of weight gain + baby belly mixed together. He may have his own insecurities about how life will be when you are "all fixed up and have a banging body", my husband supports me but has said how he sometimes has thoughts about the amount of attention I will receive now. I think he will come around after when he sees the results and sees the change in your confidence in yourself.
September 6, 2013
My husband is not super supportive either. His comment was "no one better think I made you do this" :P I'm doing this for me. Good luck, you go the day before me, so fingers crossed for both of us!
September 13, 2013
Good luck deedee! I know you will do great today. Can't wait to hear how you are doing.
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4 days pre
Pre-Op Pics
flataskansasSeptember 8, 2013
Finally pre-op pics! Wow I knew it was bad but these put it in perspective. Oh and surgery is only 4 days away!!!!!!!!!! I'm so excited and not really to nervous, that's probably because my husband and I finally talked and he has agreed to support me. I was going to say I can't tell you how much that means to me to have him on board but I know you all understand.
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September 8, 2013
I wish you all the best with your surgery and recovery [RS bleep]
September 12, 2013
Thanks weelaura, You look amazing! I can't believe how mobile you are! Happy Healing.
September 12, 2013
Good luck tomorrow! I hated to see that you don't have the support from your husband! I have yet to schedule my TT due to fears of it all. I don't have the support of actually doing the surgery from my husband but said he will help afterwards. He said he believes that women do these procedures not just for themselves but to grab the attention from others, which may be true in some instances but not many. I plan to do it for myself so I don't cry nightly when picking clothes out for work. Best of luck on your journey! I can't wait to see this pics!
September 12, 2013
Thanks jeepgirl. Schedule your surgery! I am totally doing this for myself and soooo excited. Its funny I'm not really even nervous or scared about tomorrow and that is truly because I feel so prepared from reading everyone's stories and I know what to expect. Also about two weekes ago I finally melted down on my husband and told him how much his lack of support hurt and how out of character it was for him and in our marriage. He came around. Although tonight he's back to being stand offish but I know it's nerves. I wish you the best.
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