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46 Yo, Mother of Two Teenage Boys, BL and TT - Hyannis, MA
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After having 2 boys by c-section and losing over...
WORTH IT$13,000
After having 2 boys by c-section and losing over 35lbs, at 120lbs and fitter and healthier than I've been since my early 20's, I am stuck with a belly of loose skin that no amount of diet and exercise can fix.
I've thought about this for years and now finally, I've booked the appointment. Only one problem... Fear!
I'm not afraid of the surgery itself, I trust my doctor. I'm not afraid of the recovery, I'll manage, I'm not afraid of the scars or how long it will take me to get back in the gym, I am however, petrified I will chicken out at the last minute. Why? Because I have a real although irrational fear of sitting with my boys in my recliner and dying from a DVt!!! Rationally I know it's a possibility, but highly unlikely. However, rational thought seems to escape me when it comes to this issue. I just don't want to die in front of my kids and die knowing the surgery is elective.
Anyone else out there share the same feelings? If so, I'd love to hear from you. I'm 110% sure I want the result, 99% sure I will go through with it, and at the same time, about 50% sure I may chicken out at the last minute.
Help!
I've thought about this for years and now finally, I've booked the appointment. Only one problem... Fear!
I'm not afraid of the surgery itself, I trust my doctor. I'm not afraid of the recovery, I'll manage, I'm not afraid of the scars or how long it will take me to get back in the gym, I am however, petrified I will chicken out at the last minute. Why? Because I have a real although irrational fear of sitting with my boys in my recliner and dying from a DVt!!! Rationally I know it's a possibility, but highly unlikely. However, rational thought seems to escape me when it comes to this issue. I just don't want to die in front of my kids and die knowing the surgery is elective.
Anyone else out there share the same feelings? If so, I'd love to hear from you. I'm 110% sure I want the result, 99% sure I will go through with it, and at the same time, about 50% sure I may chicken out at the last minute.
Help!
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Replies (24)
October 19, 2016
You do have valid apprehension. I'm sure those thoughts have crossed our minds. We should not let fear control our lives. You have made a decision to better your life.
October 19, 2016
Thank you for sharing your story ,I'm as same position as you, actually our life story is the same. I'm 46 and have 2 teenage boys,I dreamed to have a perfect body for long time, I exercise I eat healthy I weight 62kg but I couldn't fix that sugy tommy and boob. These past 3 years I relise my body my confidence went south.
So I'm willing to go and get every me back. I understand your fear incase anything goes wrong, the boys!ah me too.think positive girl so go for it,please keep posting your process as I'm going after you.good luck
November 7, 2016
Thanks for your support ladies! I'm still on for 12/13! Salah salah, do you have a surgery booked yet?
November 14, 2016
Hey sis I just wanted to say thank you for reaching out to me and please keep me in prayer.I will lay you know how everything works out.
November 15, 2016
Hi! I know you're going to be ok although I'm sure it's scary. Just know have support here. Reach out anytime..
December 5, 2016
Still thinking of you and praying you're on the mend. Please let me know how you're doing.
UPDATED FROM Livesforsummer
2 months pre
Before pictures
Posting some before pictures so I can keep reminding myself why I'm doing this. I can't wait for the results!
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UPDATED FROM Livesforsummer
1 month pre
What do you tell your co-workers?
I'm curious what you all told your co-workers. I have told only close family and friends about my MM. I've told my boss I need surgery and gave her no further info, but I'm wondering how to field questions about my absence once I'm gone.
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December 5, 2016
I told a few people the truth. The ones who I could trust and who were helping me. The others - I said that doctors made the recommendation to remove an umbilical hernia that was causing me some pain and that I took the opportunity to fix my stomach muscles. How long are you taking off work? You may be still be walking hunched over by the time you get back. Other issues are that you may not be able to reach for things. The truth is really none of their business but it may be hard to hide the fact that you had some sort of surgery.
December 5, 2016
Thank you for the good advice. I was planning on just saying I was taking time off for "personal reasons". I have exactly 3 weeks off. I'm having a TT with no muscle repair. My doctor has said that without the MR the recovery is "a little" easier. I guess we'll see. I work in a close knit group of 50 it's going to be really hard to pass this off as non-medical. I hate to lie, but I do kinda like the hernia idea...
December 5, 2016
I would suggest only telling people if they ask you.. but I'm sure the word will spread, mostly because they will want to make sure you're okay and want to help you out. As long as you're not dressing provocatively and you're not increasing your bust size by that much, I don't think they will notice implants. Nobody has said anything to me because I cover up at the appropriate times. People did ask me if I was okay when I started picking my kids up from school because I was a little hunched over and walking slowly. They were used to me walking straight and very quickly. I don't consider it lying. It's just bending the truth a little for something that is very personal. I also did not want people gossiping or judging me... Look into the hernia idea.. it's surprisingly very common! the recovery time for the hernia is about the same for mommy makeover I think.
December 11, 2016
I said that i have a separation in my abdomen im having repaired. Which isnt a lie. Most ppl dont put it together tho that its a TT
December 17, 2016
I told my work that I'm having surgery and need three weeks off. One knows I had back problems and asked if that was why. I was caught a little off guard...not expecting the "why ". So I just said I really didn't want to talk about it. I go back for in a week and a half. Hernia repair sounds pretty good. I'll read up on it a to understand what that is really. Only about 4 people knew I would be out so I know there willl be lots of "where have you been " questions from others
December 20, 2016
Hey girls!! This was exactly my thing! What do I tell boss, coworkers and nosy family..... only 2 close coworkers and some family know the truth. Everyone else I said hernia and muscle repair... I have been off work since the 8th and don't go back until the 28th. Today is my work Christmas dinner and my boss has texted me asking me to please come. I don't want to be asked a million questions on what I had done, how they did it, do I have a scar, how big etc.. any suggestions on how to divert the conversation would be greatly appreciated!!! One nosy young coworker found out about hernia repair and started asking all these questions; at the time I told her I was really nervous about surgery and didn't want to talk about it... but now that it's over???
December 20, 2016
Hi! Fortunately, I haven't had to face my coworkers yet. However, I googled all about hernia repair so I could talk about it better if necessary. I think the good thing we have going for us is that it is Christmas time. If anyone asks you about it tonight, I would simply say it's the last thing you want to be thinking about. I wouldn't hesitate letting people know that you want to focus on the holiday not your surgery. Diversion will be the key! Hope you have a great time tonight! Enjoy getting your mind off it for a while!
December 20, 2016
I have tried reading up on hernia repair too but it doesn't seem like quite that long of a recovery... which hernia type did you read into? I did have a small hernia repaired so not technically lying. Lol
December 20, 2016
I just seen open umbilical hernia surgery would require usually 1-2 week recovery so that would probably be the closest :) lol plus it's Christmas season and who doesn't want extra days off haha
December 20, 2016
Exactly! There was muscle repair so not technically lying. I looked up "open inguinal hernia repair" on web MD because it involves an actual incision and muscle repair. According to web md the recovery is about 3 weeks!
Thank you for sharing your story. Fear before surgery is completely normal, so don't stress. I hope you find supportive feedback from this community. Hang in there!