Upcoming TT Scheduled for 6/26 and Overcome with Fear - Fort Worth, TX
Greetings to all. I am a 43 year old mom of 2...
Greetings to all. I am a 43 year old mom of 2 precious little boys, ages 2 and almost 4. After giving birth to my first son, my body went right back to normal, no problem. However, after the birth of my second son, things were very different. It seemed as though I would never lose the baby weight. Eventually, the weight began to come off, but the tummy remained. I really didn't understand what was happening to my mid-section, or why it continued to look the way it did. I had never thought about plastic surgery, of any sort, but my hubby mentioned a tummy tuck.
I began to research alternatives to a tummy tuck once I saw what one entailed. I didn't want to have any part of something that seemed so traumatic, so I was sold on Lipotherme. In May, I went to a PS for a consult, and found out that my muscles had completely separated!!! No amount of Lipotherme would ever give me the flat stomach that I once had. I told myself to forget it. No one would ever cut on me, no way, completely out of the question!!! I had both of my boys come through the v, so why would I subject myself to unnessary cutting, pain, worry, etc.?? Well, here's the thing, my belly is not as big when I wake in the mornings, however, when I eat or drink anything, it is quite ridiculous to look at. By bedtime, I simply want to cry because my stomach looks like i'm 5 months pregnant.
Now I have found myself being so nervous, and scared. I have two small boys, and a husband that I love so very much, and I want, and need to be here to take care of them. I don't want anything to happen to me. This is just for cosmetic reasons. I want to feel much better about myself and not continue to be totally embarrassed about my mid-section. Ladies, please, please, please send me some encouraging words. Please let me know that everything will be alright. My hubby totally supports this, however, he has told me that he doesn't want to lose me, and he would rather have me here, than to lose me over something so unnecessary. I'm ready, but I'm not. Help!!!
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This is definitely a big surgery, but I'm telling you the absolute truth when I say that in the hands of an experienced and board-certified surgeon, it's not the awful experience of your nightmares. TALK to your PS and ask him questions. Let him know what your concerns are. You're paying a lot of money and putting your health and well-being into his hands, and as a result, you can and should feel free to bring him any concerns you've got. I'm pretty sure most of these doctors have heard anything you could possibly imagine saying many, many times before you showed up :-)
I so can't believe that you were at a baseball game only five days post-op, especially after having had everything done!!! Well, you're my hero, and it makes me feel a lot better about my own situation. Thanks so much again for the encouraging words, as well as the advice. I will be calling my PS tomorrow to let him know my concerns. He's got such a wonderful bedside manner. I'm sure I'll feel much better after speaking with him. Happy continued successful healing to you!!!
I thought about getting a lift myself, but I decided to wait to see how this first procedure would go. Keep me informed . In the meantime, Victoria's Seceret will have to do the work for me in that department!!! LOL!!! You are going to look so amazing, I just know it! Time is ticking away for us...before you know it, the big day will be here!!! No worries about the pictures. Trust me, I totally understand. Thanks a bunch for confirming that you can't make out my face. I would have been so embarrassed, and immediately deleted the photos!!!
You deserve this. We moms give everything to everyone else in our lives, and save so very little for ourselves. You can see what the "worth it" rating on this operation is, and any surgeon will tell you that his or her tummy tuck patients are the most grateful patients of all. It's life-altering. Do it once, do it right, and live the rest of your life being proud of how you walk through the world!
Thanks so much for the encouraging words!!! I really needed to hear exactly what you said. My ps is absolutely fantastic at what he does, and I have heard nothing but awesome things aboout him, as well as his work. With that in mind, along with your encouragement, I will try to focus on the positive of it all, as opposed to the fear. Thanks so much!!!