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Can't Tell my Family Am Having a Tummy Tuck - Fairfax, VA
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I am 40 yrs. with twins girls who are 10, am...
Washington653January 27, 2011
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I am 40 yrs. with twins girls who are 10, am married and have scheduled my tummy tuck for the first week of March. My husband is on board...but am unable to tell the rest of my family which doesnt live in the same state which I live in. Has anyone not told their family members....? Am so confused why I dont want to tell the rest of my family.
thanks
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January 28, 2011
You're doing a good thing for your body and your self-esteem. Please please please don't let anyone get you down about it!
Honestly, if you don't want to tell someone then you shouldn't, and they don't need to know. Sometimes it's not even that they'll react badly, but that it gets tiring to explain the same thing over and over again. No need to put any pressure on yourself if you don't want to talk about it in that sort of situation. That's normal!
If they live in a different state that seems like it works out perfectly anyway. When you do see them on holidays or something, you can always tell them you found a great fitness program or that you've been eating healthier. :)
January 28, 2011
I, too, didn't want very many people to know. But my mom & husband thought it was crazy to keep it a secret from people, like my brother. I had a problem telling him because his wife has had 4 kids ad is one of those very fortunate people who still has a flat tummy, which she has braged about. They guilted me in to telling my brother, and i felt bad about keeping things from him and now its not a secret. He has my back no matter what, but it was my sister in law that I had the problem with. You stay strong and only tell who you want. I caved under pressure.
February 2, 2011
I've been debating the procedure since the birth of my second son and I know if I have it, I won't want to tell anybody except my mom, so you are definitely not alone!
February 2, 2011
I keep hearing that is elective surgery and why put yourself through such a hardship....it's my personal choice....I am not asking anyone to fund this procedure. Why do people feel they can opinionate regarding such a discreet and personal procedure.
On another note, I go in for my pre op appointment the 15th of February.
This website has been great and especially the do's and dont's before and after surgery.
Has anyone taken any holistic treatments before and after the surgery?
On another note, I go in for my pre op appointment the 15th of February.
This website has been great and especially the do's and dont's before and after surgery.
Has anyone taken any holistic treatments before and after the surgery?
February 2, 2011
Oh people like to throw their opinion in where it is not welcome. Some people just like to pass judgment on others...ignore it! Not worth the stress and energy of even thinking about it. True friends support you..
You are doing a good thing for yourself so just hold strong.
The only "Natural" thing I did before surgery was take large doses of vitamin C. But then I have always done that for years.
UPDATED FROM Washington653
3 days post
The best experience considering it was elective...
Washington653March 5, 2011
The best experience considering it was elective surgery. The ride home was foggy. I woke up happy knowing that I could already see the results. There has been hardly NO swelling. I do recommend the PAIN PUMP. This has helped significantly. And do not stop taking the pain medication and the muscle relaxer...this is a MUST. I was trying to be brave but all it got me was almost an anxiety attack because of the pain. I've already gone to see the doctor for my first check up and he was surprised to see NO bruising and no swelling. I was happy with my results thus far. Getting up and out of bed has been a struggle.....and of course the constipation...YUCK! But other than that...I would highly recommend, if you are on the fence about your decision. I have one drain that doesnt hurt too much. I have been drinking 1 liter of water everyday, NO Caffein and hardly any sugar drinks. I think of the reason why I am healing so well, is because I've kept my foods real easy to digest and they are helping me heal at the same time.
Keep sanitary napkins for your lipo incisions, cut them in half and tape them from the outside with gauze tape. THis has helped keep infection from happening. I've been eating organic fruits such as papaya, pineapple, and a whole banana with each set of pills i've been taking. I also keep a cotton ball of peppermint in my bra to keep me from getting nauseaus and this has helped ALOT. I also put some on my forehead and behing my ears, the tingling feeling has helped overcome my initial dizziness and nausea.
My husband has been nervous around me because of the pain I've experienced and he is not used to seeing me like this. So, prepare whom ever is going to take care of you.....have lots of water around you, phone, remote control, computer, clean panties, long sweat pants, and tank tops and a beautiful pic of YOU
WHAT would I not DO? dont' be so tough...give in to the pain and listen to the doctor when he says...it's every 4 hour and dont let a minute go by. it's not worth the pain or aggrevation.
CONS: initial cost to looking GOOD...and the recovery is not a quick fix as you would like it to be....kids got scared when they saw I coldnt get out of bed without tears strolling down my cheeks.
Keep sanitary napkins for your lipo incisions, cut them in half and tape them from the outside with gauze tape. THis has helped keep infection from happening. I've been eating organic fruits such as papaya, pineapple, and a whole banana with each set of pills i've been taking. I also keep a cotton ball of peppermint in my bra to keep me from getting nauseaus and this has helped ALOT. I also put some on my forehead and behing my ears, the tingling feeling has helped overcome my initial dizziness and nausea.
My husband has been nervous around me because of the pain I've experienced and he is not used to seeing me like this. So, prepare whom ever is going to take care of you.....have lots of water around you, phone, remote control, computer, clean panties, long sweat pants, and tank tops and a beautiful pic of YOU
WHAT would I not DO? dont' be so tough...give in to the pain and listen to the doctor when he says...it's every 4 hour and dont let a minute go by. it's not worth the pain or aggrevation.
CONS: initial cost to looking GOOD...and the recovery is not a quick fix as you would like it to be....kids got scared when they saw I coldnt get out of bed without tears strolling down my cheeks.
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UPDATED FROM Washington653
7 days post
I am a week out of surgery. I feel horribly...
Washington653March 9, 2011
I am a week out of surgery. I feel horribly depressed today. I am not sure why, but my level of activity has been minimal. I get easily stressed out and easily irrirated.
Spoke to the doctor about it and he said that it's the pain medication effects.......okay!!!
I also got my period, that could be it as well.
I havent taken a shower yet, hair is getting smelly and oily. I am not sure what else to do other than wait. I see the doctor again on Friday to hoepfully take out the drain.
My belly button has been hurting ALOT. I am not sure if this is normal or not but I feel it hurting alot...maybe that's why babies cry so much when they are borth....OUCH!!!
Spoke to the doctor about it and he said that it's the pain medication effects.......okay!!!
I also got my period, that could be it as well.
I havent taken a shower yet, hair is getting smelly and oily. I am not sure what else to do other than wait. I see the doctor again on Friday to hoepfully take out the drain.
My belly button has been hurting ALOT. I am not sure if this is normal or not but I feel it hurting alot...maybe that's why babies cry so much when they are borth....OUCH!!!
Welcome to RealSelf!
How exciting! You should only tell those you are comfortable telling. This is a private thing and not everyone needs to know. Your hubby is on board so that is most important. Don't feel guilty about that at all. Just stick with the women on the site and we will all be your support. The site is great for that and we all share and cheer each other on through the process.
People all react differently and it is the unknown of how or what they will say that is unsettling. If they are out of state then that will make it easier. You won't have to worry about them dropping in on you.
Just put it out of your mind about telling others. You will know when and if it is right. You do not need anyone's permission. As women we have that little thing called guilt hanging over our heads. When we do something for ourselves it feels strange. But it is ok and you deserve this so you go girl!!