30 Years Old, No Kids, Having Second Thoughts - Denver, CO

Hi!
From what I've been reading on here loss of sensation has been (in the odd case) due to work around the clitoral area and when the clitoras is messed with too much? But there are plenty of ladies on here who have had hood reductions and their sensation has been fine, if not better because they are less self concious. In terms of men, yeah I suppose some men like big ones and some like small ones. But I don't know about extra friction during sex for them? Mine if anything used to flap out to the side haha or get pushed in and then we'd have to stop and reposition my lips! Even my boyfriend of 3 years I barely let him look and ALWAYS cringed when he touched me as I felt like he was getting a handful of extra skin?!?! I had bad dreams too, that I had it done and everytime I moved it was opening up, I did have second thoughts about it thinking that I should just live with what I've got. But I'm so so so glad I went ahead with it. There is always going to be horror stories, generally they are the ones you hear about! And with EVERY surgical procedure there is risk. I've just had my six week check up and got to go back in two weeks for the all clear and the bans to lift haha! Only cus one area of the Incision appears quite thick still and therefore weaker so I don't mind waiting a bit longer. During my recovery I had bleeding, swelling, even a stitch pOp and a little split appear. But these things happen and we heal in the end. I Really don't think a man would lose sensation from it, and I think if you have chosen carefully and express your concerns to an experienced surgeon about sensation then you should be ok? In my case I've had a lot trimmed off! I've pretty much got no labia left and I can still feeling everything. Although I've not had sex yet I can tell everything is as it was. And I do think sex will be better as I can just forget about being self conscious?! Can't wait! So I guess you could say that I would highly advocate this procedure. And it's completely normal to have second thoughts, doubts, bad dreams!! It has been a complete emotional roller coaster for myself, going from pure elation to oh my god what have I done etc etc. hope you are ok. Give it time think it through some more. There's no rush!! X

I had the same thoughts before my surgery. I have never had anyone say anything negative about them (that I am aware of)... Sometimes I was even complimented!! But at the end of the day, you have to go with what YOU want to do. There are just as many people who prefer small lips than those who prefer larger lips. There are also those with no preference, just as long as they get anything! You aren't going to please everyone, but you do have the power to make yourself happy and confident.
For me, the risks were worth it and I couldn't be happier with the results. I am lucky to have a long term boyfriend who understood that this is something I've wanted for a long time for various reasons and he was extremely supportive.
Just take some time to think it over, but make sure that you are doing it, or not doing it, for the right reasons. You will be just fine!

I am from denver as well. I had the same problem as you. Now? I am so happy and comfortable with my self. Sex to me now is much enjoyable then it was before -:) I am so much better. This surgery was a great choice.

From my little bit of research and from listening to your concerns, you're a great candidate for the surgery and you're in good hands. I have found that sexual functioning is improved in patients after this surgery, partly due to improved self-confidence, and partly due to better exposure of the clitoris and less traction and pulling on the labia minora during intercourse. Just make sure that your concerns are directly addressed by your doctor before surgery, and you will feel much better.

Don't do it!!!! I'm still recovering from my operation three weeks later and it looks horrendous. I completely regret doing this. My labia were just like yours, in fact mine were bigger. Surgery has completely ruined the appearance of my vagina. I'm so ashamed and embarrassed. They completely sliced off one of the labia and left only a little bit of the other side. My clitoris in comparison looks enormous and theres lots of loose skin left around the area. The surgeon told me that he could remove the skin but it may result in permanent damage to the clitoral nerve which could be disastrous I'm so glad they didn't touch that even though I absolutely hate the appearance of it. I was also very shy and embarrassed but my boyfriend always said how much he loved it. We used to have amazing sex every time now I fear I will never have good sex again. The wound still hasn't healed around my vagina, it'll be 3 weeks on Thursday I had this done. If I could turn back time I would have been so grateful for the vagina I had, instead of this butchered monstrosity. Please think twice, once it's gone it's gone and there's no guarantee it'll be for the best!! I really hope this helps you to make the right decision. My consultant tried to talk me out of it and I wish I had listened to her. Good luck