Tummy tuck for back pain, issues with seroma and wound separation, scar revision, 47 years old

Well, always busy putting my family first, dealing with my daughter's surgery but that is done and this week my son has his wisdom teeth out and then that one is done and I can go back to me... so today I called my insurance and explained the situation to them and asked if I can see a general surgeon, they said yes. So tomorrow I will see if I can get an appointment. I found one with good reviews who went to a good school, given that I might not get an appointment right away... but I wrote up notes and have all my photos and hope he might be able to do something for me. He has experience with wound care according to his biography, worst case I get more feedback and can take things from there. Feeling hopeful!

Maybe I will go do it at my moms if I can find a good doctor down there? Anyone have a suggestion?

Well, I listen and trust in the feedback that all of you have given me here. Most of you have made me feel that I was not treated well, should have had better care, and if in the hands of another doctor, would not have gone through all this. I do respect that complications can happen to anyone but I also believe a doctor should stay on top of things and really take care of patients with complications. They are rare, so it shouldn't be too much effort to make time for the few who need more time.

Anyway, here is the latest on my story. My PS agreed to set up appointments with other doctors for me to see. He then calls me and says that the first won't see me because he is afraid I might put a negative review out there if I don't like the results since I did write an honest review of my current ps (on the urging of many here) to explain what I went through. I did not make the review all negative but focused on the lack of care I got after complications and although I gave him 5 stars for bedside manner, he was not happy with the 1 star overall which reflected the fact that i wasn't taken care, didn't look good, doctor couldn't remember things between visits, I went through a revision and I was worse off, I was in pain, my pain was usually ignored, and I looked terrible. The one star wasn't because I had a complications. However, I feel like this is how I was portrayed to this doctor. Dr. S. Called me out on the review and I explained the above and why I lost confidence n him as a surgeon. He said, I understand but nothing followed suggested he did understand. So, he scheduled me with a,different doctor,,whom, I am sure he said some of the same to. I met with him today. The first thing he said was, "with full disclosure, I am a fan of Dr. Stockell." OR, in other words, I won't say anything against my colleague even if it will help you. That was my take. It was like sides were being picked before I could plead my case. I hoped I was wrong and said nothing negative about Dr.S and just showed him my pictures. He said, "I am a medical mystery". Really? He said, "I don't think I want to be the next surgeon to operate because I don't know right now how to fix you." Not sure I am buying it or if he thinks my reviews are just based on IF I have a complication, not how a, doctor handles the complication. I am a doctor myself (not a medical one, but a ph.d. With lots of schooling and critical thinking), using just my intellectual skills I offered some hypothetical explanations that I thought this doctor would be able to respond to... he seemed clueless...

Here was one thought... my wound was 6 inches deep, it closed partly but closed on top before fully closing inside, leaving a hole (perhaps filled with fluid or air). This was seen on my ultrasound. Now, in 6 more months, does,this space grow scare tissue or does it remain an open space? Let's assume, open space. So, when he cuts my skin for the revision, he maybe closes the skin over an area that just healed or is still open and hence the skin cannot stay closed and it opens back up. Seems like the optimal solution is that when you open that area, if it doesn't look closed, healththy and strong a wound vac should be used to make sure that entire area is fully closed and healthy before stitching back together. I think I should have had a wound vac to begin with for a wound as deep as mine, these are areas where I feel he failed.

My other areas of tenderness are areas with scar tissue, I wonder if all the scar tissue was fully removed.

Any other thoughts and ideas, I would appreciate, anyone with a really cool ps who would talk to via email with ideas, that would be great.

Thanks everyone!!!