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Discreet TT: BB concerns 2+ wks post-op

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I’m 50 yrs old, 5’6”, 170 lbs,...

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I’m 50 yrs old, 5’6”, 170 lbs, married. I have never had children. I am in the midst of menopause and am having an increasingly difficult time shedding the pounds I’ve gained over the past year. I have always had a belly pooch, even in my more slender days of running, weight training, and bicycle adventuring. It is a genetic trait evident on my mom and sisters. The weight gain makes it all the more pronounced. A couple years ago, someone asked me when the baby is due. (I’m actually surprised that hasn’t happened more often.)

I have a high-profile, demanding, public sector job and very busy schedule. My husband also has a high-profile job and fully supports my decision to have a TT. I no longer fit in my size 12 clothes and the clothes I can fit are not flattering. Shopping for new clothes is torture. I feel awkward and self-conscious. It negatively affects my self-esteem and confidence. I am hopeful that the other parts of my body will more directly benefit from any weight loss I can achieve after the TT.

I live in a close community where most folks know everyone and I work in a small office with other women. Given the recovery time involved, there is no way I will be able to hide the fact that I will be having some serious surgery. And, given the nature of my job and workload, I expect I will need to be back on the job after 2 wks and will still be dealing with post-op issues. People will be concerned about and interested in my well-being and will ask questions.

I do not want ANYONE , including my mom, sisters, and in-laws (all of whom live in another state), to know I am having this procedure done. I hope I will be able to accomplish that by simply not mentioning it to them when we talk on the phone. But how do I go through the TT process without letting all the other folks around me know the truth? I cannot let it slip to even one person. What alternative explanation can I provide? I don’t want to fabricate some story that I could get tripped up on. I don’t expect my outward appearance will be shockingly different when I return to work because of the post-op swelling. As the swelling subsides, I expect I will be able to explain the apparent weight loss as the result of successful dieting, summer activities, and effects from the “whatever” surgery I had—all of which I hope will be true.

I am grateful so many people have shared their experiences on this Web site. In all the posts I have read, I have not seen anyone mention this dilemma. I will appreciate any advice.

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May 7, 2012
Hello. I live in Northern NH, so not that far from you and I hope to have my TT done in Lebanon, NH in December. I too want to be discreet b/c of work. I plan on telling people "I have to have surgery in December. I am not terminally ill, it is just something I need to have done." I hope it works but you know how office [RS bleep] goes.
May 7, 2012
Thank you, Taylor in NH. I feel some comfort knowing I am not alone in trying to do this discreetly. I am also glad to learn--at 50 yrs old--the difference between discrete and discreet!! Duh.
May 9, 2012
Hello,
I have a somewhat mid-profile job and I didn't want my surgery to become known as well. I have not told anyone- no family members or friends other than the one who has helped me out during my recover. I simply went in for the surgery, came back and rested. To anyone that called during that time I just didn't answer. The emails I answered in time. My recovery to be able to do basic work has taken less than two weeks (i'm 10 days out). I have seen people I know since my surgery and they didn't know at all- and I didn't mention it. Walked a little slower, maybe... but no one has commented.
To one person who insisted on a meeting the day after my surgery and wanted to know why I couldn't make it I said that I was having my tubes tied. That shut him up.
Someone asked him where I'd been (fallen off the face of the earth) and he said I'd had my tubes tied.
Without having to tell any people other than the one, every assumes that's what happened..... I had my tubes tied. (I have two children)

I'm guessing "tubes tied" might not work for you, but you could simply say hysterectomy or ovarian surgery.... or say a female surgery and mention your ovaries. usually shuts people up.
Good luck!
May 10, 2012
Thank you, abbydude, for sharing your experience and your recommendations.
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May 10, 2012
I completely understand. I haven't told any family but told two friends with opposite reactions. Regretted telling them both. One friend was happy for me and offered to help. The other one said I was being shallow and superficial! Bottom line....you have to do what's best for you :) good luck
May 28, 2012
Thanks, rcady!
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The day of transformation is more than two months...

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The day of transformation is more than two months away--ugh!. Now that I am committed and it's no longer just an idea, I wish it could happen right away. I am so ready to be rid of this frontloaded protrusion.

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May 15, 2012
You could say that you're having a hernia repair. That should be good enough. I can understand not wanting anyone to know. Rcady, I'm glad you didn't let that other friend make you question your decision. Certainly, everyone is entitled to their own opinion but no one has a right to try and make you feel badly about a decision you've made for yourself. Good luck ladies. I'll be checking in on you.
May 16, 2012
Thank you so much rcady and CarJen. I thought about hernia. I wonder what the risk is that I could get tripped up by not knowing some basic thing that someone who went through a hernia repair would know. Regarding tubes tied (abbydude): that could work well for someone, though the recovery process is far less involved (small BB incision and a gut full of gas). Some folks know I've already had that done (hence, the no kids). I must say, thinking about laying the groundwork for my explanation is causing me more stress than thoughts of the procedure itself which, BTW, I absolutely cannot wait for. Two months away and I wish it could be tomorrow!
May 17, 2012
Hi lady I'm having my tummy tuck done on July 12. I'm 41 years old and tryi g to figure out what I'm going to be telling people. I'm a teacher so I won't be seeing anyone from work but we usually go to a pool during summer where my 9 year old does swim team. They are probably going to be wondering why I don't go. I was thinking telling them I had an hernia repaired lol . I don't know. The other problem is how to keep my daughter from saying anything ... Yes is a big dilemma
May 28, 2012
Hi nena6. Thank you for your post. Time out in summer and a return to work with lost weight can perhaps be simply explained by your having enjoyed a lot of summer activities: gardening, hiking, swimming, or whatever. And perhaps with a little hernia repair surgery thrown in. Does your daughter already know what it will be about? Do you have someone in the house (spouse?) who will be helping you with day-to-day stuff?
May 28, 2012
Hi GreenGal. My daughter doesn't know yet, but she is into everything, very smart girl. She has seen me searching about it (sneaky her lol) so she suspects I'm intending to do it. My husband doesn't support me in all this. He says I don't need it and I think he doesn't believe I'm really doing it, but I'm sure when the day comes he will be of a lot of help. He can do a lot around the house (wash, cooks
, etc) So we will see how everything goes :) I know what you mean about shopping for new clothes, is really a torture. I fit on a size 8 but some of my muffin top comes out and really depresses me because I have to look for tops that hide that ...I never had much of a waist , It is so frustrating. I'm not expecting for a miracle or to have an hour glass figure but at least to get rid of all that. :)