Jury is Still out on my SMAS Face and Neck Lift, Early Days!

I have been reading reviews on this site for well over a year. After chickening out several times I decided to just go for it. I had only been reviewing MACS lifts so I don't quite know how I agreed to having a full face and neck lift performed. I'm in my mid forties and it was my double chin and jowels bothering me more than wrinkles.
I had sent off my photos to several plastic surgeons in the past year and all gave conflicting advice. Liposuction to double chin and macs lift was what I thought I needed as that was the general advice I received from many surgeons. I was going to see my dentist in Budapest as I had some implants done last year so I thought why not visits a plastic surgeon or two in Budapest whilst I was going anyway! So I researched plastic surgeons and I came across Dr Vincente Rodrigo. After sending several photos his assistant Joanna got back to me within a day. She explained that the surgeon could perform a macs lift but that it would not address my neck area sufficiently enough and that a full SMAS face and neck lift was more suitable for my needs. I agreed to go with whatever the surgeon thought best when he saw me in person. So on the 26th of October I found myself agreeing to have a full SMAS facelift and neck lift under general anesthetic that very same day.
After the facelift I was kept in the hospital overnight. At around 2am I awoke in extreme discomfort as my face was swelling; I can only describe it like a pulsating feeling which was quite uncomfortable and aching. The nurse on duty gave my an injection which eased the pain. She also called in the surgeon who came about an hour later and was unconcerned with the swelling and said it was quite normal.
At 5pm later that day Dr Rodrigo came again to see me and said that I could return to my hotel but to come back the next day. Day two post op and my face looked even more swollen. I was unable to open my eyes and my lips were swollen to three times their normal size. After visiting the consultant his nurse gave me a calcium injection into my buttock to take down the facial swelling.

31st of October, five days since my face and neck lift and the swelling continues. I also have some bleeding behind my right ear and from what I can see it looks like I have a small haematoma. I am due to return to see the surgeon on Monday so I will let him decide if it is a haematoma or just severe bruising. My lips Are still very swollen but not to the extent they where on post op day three. My face has taken on a deformed look and if I was going out for Halloween (which I'm not) I would blend in well with the Zombies. Joanna, Dr Rodrigo's assistant gave me a powder to dab around my scars the name is in Hungarian but I find it very soothing to use and have been putting it mainly behind the bleeding ear. She said you cannot buy it in the UK. It's called RESEPTYL-UREA. I cannot really find out what it is but I'm just going with her advice for now. What I have noted is that my face and neck are rock hard and numb to the touch. I think this is normal after such extensive surgery. Anyway, I'm off the pain medication now and I honestly don't feel any pain at all just pressure from the swelling. I find that keeping the compression on for most of the day supports my neck and reduces any pressure I feel.

getting worried about my ears, behind the right ear is worst. I go to see the surgeon in the morning to get the stitches out in front of the ears so i will be intrigued as to his advice.