This post is partly driven out my boredom, but also by the fact that RealSelf has been such an emblem of advice and support to me on this journey. After my rhinoplasty journey is finished (which to me is Day 7, the day I travel home) I don't plan to log on a lot as I can sometimes become a little obsessive over things. As I found myself, there are not a lot of Dr Noorman Van Der Dussen reviews on here, and purely for that reason, I know that people will come across this review when researching him and I feel that I should give all the advice I have to those people after my experience. Apart from my cast-off photos, and a goodbye, this will be one of my last posts on this website. I'm going to address the problems I've been through during this journey, in the hope that it will help others make their decision when they come across it.
The first battle I faced was the idea that I knew I was generally attractive, and when mentioning a rhinoplasty surgery, my friends and family would continually repeat that it was 'unnecessary' and that I am 'already pretty'. I had my first rhinoplasty consultations at age 18, and these types of comments were the exact statements that when it first came to booking my procedure, I changed my mind last minute, thinking I was over-doing it or over-reacting about an insecurity that didn't really exist. Yet here I am, doing the exact same thing I wanted to do 3 years ago. I believe that in reality, if the insecurity exists to you: it exists. It doesn't matter whether people think 'your nose isn't that big' or that 'you're already attractive' - if you want to change something and it's within your power to do so, do it. I remember when I got braces (purely for cosmetic reasons, not health) and no-one ever questioned me on having cosmetic braces to make my teeth straight. Yet isn't this the exact same thing? Yes, one might require going under anaesthetic but having my braces put in, taken out, and tightened over three years was incredibly more painful than this rhinoplasty experience. For some reason, people seem to divide what they approve to be acceptable procedures and what aren't. I would say if the only thing stopping you is other people, continue on your own path. If I did, I would have done this years ago. Moreover, by ignoring your own wants because of temporary comments by others, your want will inevitably pop up again later in your life when those people aren't there to express their views anymore.
Another problem I faced was justifying the large sum of money required. Is it really worth it? I would ask myself. After consulting some London surgeons and being quoted around £8000 I was seriously doubting this operation: that cost is almost one year of university fees. Was it necessary? Was it worth it? That’s what led to my search outside of the UK. Even flying all the way to California from London and having surgery with a surgeon in Los Angeles was cheaper than staying in my own country. That’s when I truly realised UK prices were ridiculous because there is simply no need for UK surgeons to price themselves so high when top-rated US surgeons do not do this. It’s not a question of standards, I consulted two top US surgeons whose before-and-afters trounced UK surgeons I saw: yet they were almost $3000 cheaper. As long as you research properly and are prepared for the journey ahead, I would completely recommend travelling out of your own country for rhinoplasty, and that’s how I led to finally deciding on Dr Noorman Van Der Dussen.
The thing that has plagued me most during this journey is lying. I have only told my mum about this surgery and a couple of close friends. The only reason I can tell my mum is because she has similar insecurities and totally understands me. I feel extremely bad and guilty about lying to other close relatives and close friends. I cannot write the lie I told here as that would give it away if they ever happen to come across this review, but lets just say, when you’re going to ‘disappear’ for 8 days abroad, you can’t just make any old story up. I felt deeply deeply guilty. But, the more I think about this the more I think there is nothing I can do. Why do I feel guilty? Because I know they would disapprove. I don’t want to spend my life justifying why I spent this money, why I decided to do this and why I wanted to do this. They key thing is that it is my money and my body, and if I knew they would be supportive, I would not have any qualms in telling them, but why would I tell someone something I know they will give me hell about? It is not my responsibility to persuade them that it is a good idea: essentially, this is my body and my choice, and it is their responsibility to respect that. Unfortunately, in reality, people are will always disapprove and have no problem of telling you, and others. Thus, I’ve kept it a secret from many people and will continue to do so. Cosmetic surgery is blasted and vilified so much in the media that I know many of my friends and family will have negative views on it despite having done no research, knowing any statistics or really knowing anything about it at all other than the horror stories presented in the media. When the public perception changes, maybe then I would feel I can be more open, but today is not that day, and so this will remain a secret.
I hope this review, and my story helps anyone deciding in the future. I will come back to post my cast-off photos but then, I will have to say goodbye to RealSelf