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50 Year Old Woman Wanting This Surgery Badly. Arkansas, AR
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I'm a 50 year old woman adopted from Korea &...
hollyshackFebruary 18, 2016
$3,500
I'm a 50 year old woman adopted from Korea & raised in a small town pop/7000. I was the only person of a diff race. I was made fun of thru school & my parents added to my humiliation. I have wanted this surgery from the moment I heard of it. I don't have access to surgeons w experience. I'm still in AR.
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Me today
hollyshackFebruary 21, 2016
I faked I needed glasses at 12,years old thinking it would help hide my eyes & in the pictures you will see it def helps. I wear my hair BIG & in layers to take away from my Asian look. I don't have the financial means to travel to the best cosmetic surgeons that I would love to go to. I'm on disability b/c of severe depression & PTSD. My ins approved me 12 years ago to have the excess skin removed but I couldn't even find anyone to do that. I look mad all the time when I'm not. B/c of my disability I rarely leave the house. LONG STORY....
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February 21, 2016
I've had a crappy life & I'm ready to do something for me! Something to make me feel better about myself. I've lived for others my whole life & it didn't get me anywhere. Husband #1 left me for another man, the only child I had came from that marriage & he followed his bio's lifestyle, husband #2 left me for drugs, hanging out with friends & to sleep w what he called a "[RS bleep]." It's my turn, forget everyone else, I want something good for me! I just don't have the financial resources to go to the best cosmetic surgeons w the best experience or else I'd be on the plane ASAP! This sucks living in the redneck hillbilly woods where if you graduate high school without getting pregnant that deserves an award!! I wish I had never been adopted!!!
February 23, 2016
hey girl, keep your head up. i grew up half korean half american and that sucked the first part of my life. i grew up in LA and still live here and even though its more common to see asians heres but you still feel the pressure. now that gravity has taken it's toll (and age) my eyelids have gotten droopier and fattier so i am too looking for monolid surgery. i think you should take all your money and move to california or some metropolis and do it for YOU! i dont think AR is the right place for someone like you. there are other options and you know youre not stuck in that place unless you choose to do so.
February 21, 2016
I am asian myself with similar eyes but live near Vancouver in Canada where there is a very large asian presence that is well accepted. I am so saddened that you live in a community which has made you feel unaccepted due to your ethnicity. I think you have a pretty face and do not need to hide under big hair and glasses but I understand that we do not live in a perfect world.
I am a physician and so hope that you are getting the help that you need. Optimal anti-depressant therapy will not make your environment better but will allow you to cope at your best by optimizing the brain neurochemicals. I wish you all the very best.
I am a physician and so hope that you are getting the help that you need. Optimal anti-depressant therapy will not make your environment better but will allow you to cope at your best by optimizing the brain neurochemicals. I wish you all the very best.
February 22, 2016
I have been in counseling & seeing a psychiatrist for 25 years now & of course on anti-depressants. As a child, all I wanted was to look like all the other kids. When my son started kindergarten it was so hard for me to even go to any of his school functions b/c all I heard was Chinese, Chinese...& I felt like I was 5 years old all over again. I didn't want to be a source of embarrassment for my son.
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Strongly leaning towards a decision
hollyshackMarch 8, 2016
I just saw a review of an Asian blepharoplasty upper & lower. The after pictures scare me because of all the bruising, swelling, etc., but the end results look GREAT!!! It DEFINITELY made me want to pursue the surgery. As I stated before there aren't any skilled surgeons in my area. I'm in the heart of hillbilly world. That's why I grew up with no self esteem & thought being Asian was a bad thing. Nobody (including my adoptive parents) told me to be proud of my heritage. In fact, I at one point in my teenage years thought about trying contacts & my "mother" said to me "they might help you keep your eyes open farther" what kind of support is that? The person who's review I loved had it done in Dallas, that's about 350 miles away from where I live. I can't just hop in the car with every little concern I have! Then I think to myself, what's the point, you're 50 years old, you're married, that's just wasted money. I don't know....that goes back to the cycle I can't seem to get off of. You don't deserve anything good, you have no value, that would be a waste of money.....
Please keep us posted on what you decide to do.
I used our Find A Doctor feature to see if any RealSelf doctors in Arkansas performed Asian Eyelid Surgery and a few results populated. You can see that here:
https://www.realself.com/drsearch?keyword=Asian%20...
I would recommend looking to see if any of them have reviews for Asian Eyelid surgery. The other option is to travel to an experienced doctor, you can read reviews in the community to see which doctors you like best. Finding the right doctor definitely takes some time, but it is worth doing the research and being comfortable with your choices.