35 yr old had Vaginoplasty today, hoping to improve sex!

Ok so I had sex. Today was the first day I could get the full penis in since surgery. Not because it's too tight, but because it is too painful. And it's not painful on the inside, it's only painful on a small tiny area right at the opening. I mean veryyyy painful. The first couple weeks I tried to have sex, it hurt too bad to get it in at all. At first I thought it was scar tissue, so I called? the Dr to ask if this was normal to not to be able to have sex after several attempts and she said to give it another week before I come in to be seen, because some people heal slower at the opening. She told me to use the estrogen cream and do stretching exercises. I've only used the cream 3 time because I've read estrogen cream can stretch out the vagina. My unsuccessful sex attempts have nothing to do with being overly tight, it's pain on this one little spot at the opening. And I paid a lot of money to get tighter, therefore I'm not doing any stretching exercises. Lol Anyhow, so today we finally got it in. And it hurt too bad to be enjoyable, but it didn't hurt as bad as it did the other times we attempted to do it. So I'm praying it's a process and it gets better. But getting fingered with one finger feels great and doesn't hurt at all. It's only when too much pressure and when something a lot larger tries to go in. It does feel like it gets less painful every week maybe I'm just a slow healer. So as for tightness, its definitely tighter. Not overly tight, but it's smaller in the inside and the opening is smaller than it was before too. How much tighter, I really can't say at this point because it's hard to judge when I can have sex without pain yet. So I will update again after I can comfortably have sex. As far as appearance, it's 100% better than before surgery. I'll post a picture tomorrow

I'm 8 weeks and 4 days today. I started my period Monday night, which is why I still have not had sex. I did have my post op appt on Monday. It was supposed to be @ 6 weeks, but I had to reschedule the first appt. She said I was fully healed. She went to check measurements put two fingers in there really fast. It hurt so bad I almost flipped off the table. She was like "yes, you are tight, all the way back. It was a success. That was the first time 2 fingers hurt since 2002 when I had my first child! Great feeling. So she gave me some estrogen cream to work on stretching exercises. Haven't decided if I wanna use it yet. So just in case anyone was waiting for me to report having sex, the monthly visitor decided to come. I'll probably be good by Sunday!

So last night I decided to feel inside there and check it out. First I tried one finger (lubricated) not aroused and it went in ok and didnt hurt, but it was snug around my finger. So then I tried it aroused to see if it was gonna balloon out like it used to, and it DID NOT! YAYYY. it got a little less snug on my finger, but not enough to put two fingers in. I feel like I probably could have put two fingers in, but I would have had to like work on it or force it. I didn't feel like doing all that yet, so I just left it alone after that. So to me this is good news so far, but I am not going to get excited until I start having sex and see that it stays like this. I plan to have sex next week, and then I will update again.